Is this the end? :(

[tollyfeeder]

I genuinely can’t help but worry that this is going to be the end of life as we know it.

I’m petrified that we’re heading into the next apocalypse.

I’m picturing food shortages, water shortages, no gas or electricity, crime, pretty much scenes from the walking dead.

I have a 4 week old baby I’m just so heartbroken that this is what her future could be.

I’m on maternity so I have the option to stay at home, but my husband has to go to work.

I’m asthmatic and I’m so worried I’m going to catch this and leave my baby without her mum :( :( :(

No. The world didn’t end after the Black Death, it didn’t end after The Spanish Flu, it didn’t end after the polio and smallpox pandemics of the 1950’s.

OP - I get what you are saying. I am a naturally anxiety-ridden person and this has sent my worrying through the roof. I laid awake most of last night with this thing going round and round my head. I am so frightened - I am 65, although fit and healthy with no underlying health problems - and am scaring myself silly about it. I am still shaking this morning and can't get rid of this horrid, sad, impotent feeling.

Is this the end?

No, but there COULD be a major change in how we live our lives, and many could die.
Climate breakdown will make COVID-19 look like a drop in the ocean. You should be much more fearful of climate breakdown.
Not sure I'd have kids now what with the state of the world.

People...please stop with the disaster stuff! It’s this stuff that fuels anxiety and it’s not helpful on this thread.

OP, I totally get this. I am a lifelong sufferer of anxiety but the fear I had when my babies were tiny was way off the scale. In my case the apocalypse was coming in the form of swine flu (DS1) and a combination of a Donald Trump presidency and ISIS. (DS2). I remember being ill with worry.
CBT can work really well, it helps to reframe situations to allow you to take a more balanced view of the risk. It worked well for me - I can now view the Donald as a big, orange twat rather than the harbinger of the end of humanity

OP it is so normal to feel this way and the chances are that if it wasn't COVID19 you would worry about something else. When I had my first, early 70s, I knew mums who were frantic that there was going to be a nuclear attack, I'm sure there were many who felt the same for things like SARS, MERS etc. I lived in a very multi cultural area in the 60s and can remember the smallpox panics and the local GP was working a 15 hour day with queues down the street outside his surgery. I'm not saying everyone will feel the same, even a majority, but lots of new mums are anxious for all sorts of reasons.

I hope the CBT helps.

There are some rotten bastards on this thread.

And would you invoke climate change to add another layer of worry to the OP, who is clearly really struggling.

Have a bloody look at yourselves.

OP. This too shall pass.

Right with you, MadamePewter. I've worked in specialties linked to infectious diseases all my life and my impression is the media like to stoke fears to sell their wares. A prof of mine used to call it 'MRSA ate my hamster'
It is frightening but humans are, in general, pretty decent, clever and caring and on a local level pull together.

Every century has believed the end of the world is nigh. It isn't. There's a new flu virus.

For perspective, ordinary flu that employers encourage employees to crawl into work on their hands and knees and keep going when they catch kills around 13-17000 people a year in UK. So far Coronavirus has killed a few dozen.

Chill. It makes sense ot wash our hands and stay home if we are ill. It makes no sense to join the hysterical media about this.

@IDontLikeZombies - I love your Prof. Exactly!

I have a 4 week old baby I’m just so heartbroken that this is what her future could be

The world was ballsed way before Coronavirus came along. I don’t think it’s kind to have children these days.

Should add by the way that I’m also naturally anxious, it’s a rough time but we’ll get through it.

As usual some people just can’t resist sticking the fucking boot in, even to a new mother who admits she is suffering with severe anxiety. What the fuck is wrong with you? Be kind my arse.

@tollyfeeder health anxiety and paranoia that I would leave my babies motherless was one of my symptoms of PND. If I went out for a walk I would have visions of being hit by a car and dying...I read a book about a mother with breast cancer and couldn’t get it out of my head... Starting treatment for PND, including anti-depressants, really helped me. Xx

I think it’s quite normal to be excessively anxious with a four week old, even if there is nothing in particular to be anxious about. And a lot of people are aren’t normally worriers are anxious at the minute. It’s important that you accept that your fear is normal and then try to rationalise it. The country is going to have a very bad time for the next six months, but it is not the zombie apocalypse. Many people will die, but the vast vast majority will survive. There will be a massive global recession but not complete economic breakdown.

@DingleberryRose did you seriously join a board called MUMSnet tell new mothers it’s unkind to have children? Do you have any redeeming features?

You need,and this can't be stressed enough, to calm the fuck down.

Aren't there some absolute utter twats on this thread? Wow.

OP - you run a risk when you post on here of bumping into absolute idiots who just want to make you feel worse by forcing their uninformed and moronic opinion on you. And kind and normal thinking person would not be on the post of a new mother who's panicking, making her feel worse with their poisonous words. Aren't there enough threads already for you to do that, you toss pots? Shame on you

OP, you'll be fine and all will be well. Don't ruin these weeks and months with your new baby with fear. Ignore those who are trying to provoke you into further worry and instead read the words on this post of those who are seeking to calm you down with measured FACTS

Yes it takes a special kind of lack of insight to respond to a post like this that people shouldn’t be having children anyway. You really have to not realise what kind of a dickhead you appear to be.

No. Ffa

tollyfeeder! Stop bloody worrying and enjoy that little babe you have please!

There i've asked nicely!.

Just posted on another thread the infection rate in China is 80.9K that hasnt gone up at all to speak of, the recovered rate is 68.3K thats better then yesterday which was just 67K which was better than the day before:)

I feel similar to you OP. I have a 4 month old. I woke up this morning with her smiling at me and felt so happy, then remembered the world is in turmoil. She could lose her grandparents and her parents. We are likely to be in a situation where I can't take her to her little classes. I don't know what to do from one day to the next. Stay in? Or go out and be careful? When she was about 8 weeks (before corona) I kept thinking about what happens when we die. Maybe when you have a baby you just worry more about death?

I hope your worries ease soon. You are not alone.

Those posting negative things should be ashamed of yourselves.

Tbh i think it will calm down when it gets warmer. It will spread less just like the flu and other viruses. But i do think it wont go away fully anymore and increase again in the cold months. Eventually we will just adapt and live with it.
I do understand your worry though. Im asthmatic too and worry more than i would like :(

Yeah, it’s really not. I’m worried for the world economy but it’s hardly Captain Trips, is it?