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Is this the end? :(

129 replies

tollyfeeder · 13/03/2020 03:09

I genuinely can’t help but worry that this is going to be the end of life as we know it.

I’m petrified that we’re heading into the next apocalypse.

I’m picturing food shortages, water shortages, no gas or electricity, crime, pretty much scenes from the walking dead.

I have a 4 week old baby I’m just so heartbroken that this is what her future could be.

I’m on maternity so I have the option to stay at home, but my husband has to go to work.

I’m asthmatic and I’m so worried I’m going to catch this and leave my baby without her mum :( :( :(

OP posts:
BabyLlamaZem · 13/03/2020 07:20

You will be ok. It might feel awful, but honestly- as long as you are not one of those people who think everything is hunky dory, you are being sensible. Your baby needs a happy and healthy mum (they won't remember any of this!) but they'll need you when it's over.

thedancingbear · 13/03/2020 07:21

This isn’t a couple of days in bed drinking Lemsip we’re talking about.

For most people this is exactly what it'll be. The Chief Exec from BT has described his symptoms as 'relatively mild' and is working from home. news.sky.com/story/bt-chief-executive-tests-positive-for-coronavirus-11956601

BalloonSlayer · 13/03/2020 07:22

OP your fears are you being a good Mum, aided by hormones.

The human race survives because new mothers see threat to their newborns EVERYWHERE, and have all their nerves on red alert. When there actually is a global threat this can send you into overdrive (I was heavily pg when 911 happened, I thought it was going to be World War 3.)

It's horrible that your baby is tiny at this difficult time, but should you be unlucky enough to catch it, as a young Mum with a new baby, you will be at a priority for the very best treatment, should you need it.

Flowers I do feel for you, but hang on in there.

Alwaysreadyforbed · 13/03/2020 07:23

Complete overreaction

NotQuiteUsual · 13/03/2020 07:23

It was a lot scarier a few weeks ago when we didn't really know what the mortality rate would be. It can take a few weeks to get over it so we didn't have clear mortality vs recovery rates. We have a better picture now and it's not as bad as it could have been.

I was super anxious about it all until yesterday, now I'm feeling pretty confident it's going to be OK. People are resilient buggers. As long as we follow the advice properly and don't go spreading things, it's up to us who don't have underlying health conditions to keep things ticking over, so those who do can keep themselves safe.

thedancingbear · 13/03/2020 07:23

^Because China actually took early and aggressive action to contain the virus, whereas our government says our population simply can't be trusted to do that as we would get bored 🤔*
Pretty much. It’s treasonous is what it is.^

Don't be silly. It's probably accurate.

I'm as anti-Johnson as they come but (based on an inside line I have) he is quietly being praised on all corners of parliament for his measured approach to the thing, which has consisted principally of listening to experts. Gove should take a leaf out of his fucking book.

everythingbackbutyou · 13/03/2020 07:24

@tollyfeeder, sending you a massive hug. I always struggled with anxiety (and have taken paroxetine for years), but in the postpartum few months with each of my 3 children my anxiety soared through the roof. Looking back I can see clearly that it was postpartum anxiety/depression but the fears were so real - in my case, for each baby, I was utterly convinced (for no sane reason) that they would have a rare genetic disease and that I would lose them. No amount of reasoning or talk could convince me otherwise. For me, the best thing was to 'get out of my own head' and interact with other people just to quiet the anxious chatter in my mind. Those post partum hormones are brutal, especially in this situation with coronavirus when it seems like media, other people etc. are reflecting back that you should be worried. Please pm me if you want to chat.

UsernameUnknownn · 13/03/2020 07:24

It's a scary time isn't it! You're not alone in how you feel. My DS is 8 months and I worry too. I'm on maternity until July so lucky I can stay at home for a bit. DP works but as soon as he comes back washes his hands, clothes in the wash, shower. Just make sure your DP Is taking the steps needed aswell.

Homkaismycat · 13/03/2020 07:29

Yes I understand you OP.
I feel exactly the same.
It’s nice weather outside, everything is blooming and we got this shitty deadly black cloud hanging above us.
I feel like life is on the hold, I’m not interested in anything..
I am high risk with small child so how I’m suppose to feel?
Bojo ‘s wording was shocking yesterday- prepare that many of your loved one might die.. I mean that’s shocking..

MintyMabel · 13/03/2020 07:29

Im just struggling so much to see an alternate outcome to the one I’m currently imagining

Not a whole lot of point posting here then, is there?

Of course it isn’t the end of the world but if you refuse to believe that, posting is a complete waste of your time.

MadamePewter · 13/03/2020 07:31

I really don’t think this is the thread to be saying these things @Cam77. There are loads of others to discuss that on.

This is a nasty time, but it will be ok, and the OP is worried enough because of anxiety and hormones and the desire to protect her Lo.

Winterlife · 13/03/2020 07:32

SARS had a higher mortality rate than does Coronavirus. So no, I don’t think we’re at the end, at least, not from a pandemic.

lastburritos · 13/03/2020 07:32

@cam77 You are totally on the wrong thread. The OP is looking for reassurance. Take your scaremongering somewhere else.

MrsLangOnionsMcWeetabix · 13/03/2020 07:32

It really takes a special kind of arsehole to come on a thread like this and terrify the OP further.

OP, try to stay calm. It’s your anxiety and hormones talking. You can’t change events but you can change your reaction to them. Get some fresh air (I walked miles when DS was tiny and I was very anxious) and be kind to yourself. Take whatever help for your mental health you can get. The ‘positive corona’ thread is brilliant.

This will pass Flowers

MintyMabel · 13/03/2020 07:34

Because China actually took early and aggressive action to contain the virus

China kept quiet about it until they couldn’t any longer.

would literally be the end for 1.8 million people in this country

Which isn’t the point OP was making, when talking about the end of life as we know it.

LambriniSocialist · 13/03/2020 07:34

Cam77

You honestly look at the use of WeChat by the government to track people's moments (with swift consequences for anyone who isn't following the rules), and 'hang your head in shame' that we are not doing the same?

LambriniSocialist · 13/03/2020 07:36

China kept quiet about it until they couldn’t any longer.

Yes, people who were speaking out about it were 'quarantined' in the early stages. There would be no endless talking about it on public forums for you if you lived in China Cam!

thedancingbear · 13/03/2020 07:36

Cam77's posts are wilfully cruel to someone who is clearly struggling. Unfortunately you see far too much of it on here.

I think that, in terms of people's anxieties, part of the problem is that it's hard to see how this finishes. But if you look at Korea and China, the thing is already on the ebb, and life in Huban province is returning to normal. I don't fully understand how the arc of the thing works but it is well-recognised that these outbreaks do die down.

thedancingbear · 13/03/2020 07:38

It really takes a special kind of arsehole to come on a thread like this and terrify the OP further

Yep.

PIPinghell · 13/03/2020 07:38

It would literally be the end for 1.8 million people in this country, assuming the CMO's forecast of 80% of the population contracting the infection is true. And would feel like the end for those people's partners, children, parents.

Can people please stop bandying this figure about as a forecast, especially on threads where the OP is worried. 80% is NOT a forecast, it is a worst case scenario that the government is preparing (we hope!) for.

tempester28 · 13/03/2020 07:41

I think as you have a 4 week old baby you are probably feeling very different than you normally would about this and you are at a very sensitive time in your life. This is very serious, but we will get through it. I won't be an apocalypse.

WhatWouldYouDoWhatWouldJesusDo · 13/03/2020 07:41

It really isn't. We're lucky her we have the resources to help ourselves.........my concern is for the poor souls trapped in Syria and those crowded into refugee camps around the world. And for the homeless people, the elderly and those with health problems already.

A fit, healthy person has very little to worry about.

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 13/03/2020 07:41

OP with the best will in the world if something is going to happen it will...nothing any of us can do will stop it this could be anything at all ..it could be putting the bin out and gettin grun over by the bin lorry ..it could snow all summer,anything ..it could.you get my drift! Life is for living and you have a lot to be happy about ..you are a new mum and how wonderful is that It is amazing and I am sure your little one is amazing too.My top tip to get through all this chaos is easy...turn of the tv! Turn off social media and just enjoy your new baby. Stay safe,wash your hands and leave it at that! Worrying yourself as you are will more harm than anything else.You have a lifetime of happiness and fun with your new baby to look forward to..try instead to concentrate on that.

Standrewsschool · 13/03/2020 07:43

If you can,listen to Jeremy Vine show on radio 2 yesterday. A doctor explained clearly the symptoms, infectious rates etc. It was clear and reassuring, and the best information I have heard about the whole situation. It was well worth listening to.