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To consider changing wedding date because of Coronavirus?

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Sapphire387 · 08/03/2020 15:00

Hello all,

Firstly I have health anxiety so hear me out. Coronavirus is stressing me. Also wedding planning is stressing me.

Due to get married end of April with about 70 guests coming from all over the country and various parts of the world. A few overseas guests have already told us that are either unable or likely to be unable to make it now.

I’m actually quite bothered at the thought of lots of mine and fiancé’s older relatives travelling (to London, which is where we live and are getting married). My dad has asthma and I worry especially for him, and for fiancé’s dad who has complex multiple health issues. A couple of other guests have travel plans to Japan about a week beforehand, and a few other European trips booked. Several guests are due to bring their babies and young children.

We have already given notice, before Christmas. I am quite tempted to say oh well, let’s just pull the date forwards and get married quietly and then have a very casual get-together on original wedding date if things are still working with the reception venue and everything, and we aren’t all quarantined and whatnot.

We’d lose some money but not a terrible amount as have only paid deposits that aren’t too big, etc.

Sorry if this is sounds like a first-world problem.

Fiancé thinks we don’t need to change anything yet but admits it looks increasingly likely that our plans will end up being disrupted one way or another and that a change may well end up being necessary.

Please let me know if I am totally overreacting - with my anxiety it’s hard for me to get a sense of what a ‘normal’ reaction would be. I can see that the news is full of places closing down, weddings have been banned in Italy, etc.

Cheers

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KindergartenKop · 08/03/2020 15:02

Can't you get married secretly now, then come the wedding date either have the original wedding but not sign the registers etc or cancel?

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sonjadog · 08/03/2020 15:05

I am not panicking about the Corona-virus at all. Even so, my take on this is that you idea might be good compromise. April is not far away and Corona virus is likely to still be in full swing at that time. If you are going to make the changes, do it now, so that the visitors from overseas have time to change their plans, if they can. I would definite still do something on the actual date so that those who can´t change or cancel flights haven't dated money.

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Sapphire387 · 08/03/2020 15:24

Thanks both!

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Glassmami · 08/03/2020 15:25

I'm getting married end of May(been planning for 2 years) and its starting to worry me that it'll get called off! Luckily I had wedding insurance so god forbid if something does goes wrong I will get my money back!

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Sapphire387 · 08/03/2020 15:26

@Glassmami I hear you, what a nightmare! I hope all goes well for you. Of all the things I thought I would have to worry about with a wedding, an epidemic/pandemic wasn’t one of them!!

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GinDrinker00 · 08/03/2020 15:33

YANBU. They are expecting the peak of this outbreak around Easter, so realistically we could all be in shut down by then. I would move it by a few months at least.

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GloriaMumsnet · 08/03/2020 15:44

Hi OP, we've moved this into our Coronavirus topic!

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YoursTunbridgeWells · 08/03/2020 15:47

I too would move it.

In Italy and I think in a certain area of Spain all weddings and funerals have been cancelled in any case. That might mean you get your money back but probably only if the venue is insured against things like this or you have wedding insurance.

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Purplequalitystreet · 10/03/2020 07:25

I'm getting married early June and this is starting to cause me sleepless nights. Would you lose any money by postponing? My concern is that so many people may have to postpone it will be impossible to get a new date.

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Jamjam1 · 17/03/2020 22:12

I’m due to get married in May and I’ve made the decision to move my wedding to later in this year. Luckily all the suppliers are fine with this apart from the photographer who is charging me the full amount. I would have been willing to pay a percentage but I just don’t know if the whole amount is fair. I don’t to risk my parents / partner’s parents getting sick!

Has anyone been able to change their insurance policy to cover them for a later date?

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