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Anyone else not actively TTC, but not actively avoiding either?!

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Petalouda · 06/07/2010 20:05

Hello folks, I'm new to all this! Please forgive the hit-and-miss use of acronyms.

DH and I recently decided not to actively TTC but, as 30 is looming, have agreed to chuck the condoms out and 'see what happens'!

Slightly prompted by ever-so-helpful article in the guardian this weekend www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/jul/03/ivf-fertility-infertility-gedis-grudzinskas

I am bursting to blab to anyone who will listen, but really need to keep it to myself! Is anyone else in a similar situation?!

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Igglybuff · 06/07/2010 20:40

Hi petalouda. I have a baby already but DH and I are not using contraception but are not actively TTC... It's quite strange as every time we have sex I wonder if I'm pregnant. However in my case it's less likely as I'm breastfeeding and my periods haven't properly returned yet!

Scarlett175 · 08/07/2010 11:33

Hi there

this thread made me giggle as exactly this time last year me and my hubby said the same thing (I was 31) poor hubby thought we would have months of fun trying, as lots of my friends took months to concieve and a month later we were pregnant..... and I am writing this with my beautiful daughter in a sling!

Enjoy the 'trying' and relax......

x

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Petalouda · 08/07/2010 17:19

Hi Iggly, Hi Scarlett!

I'm not sure how to feel about your story Scarlett - on the one hand, we could really do with leaving it a few more months, but on the other - if it's a choice between now or never, then I guess it has to be now!

It took my little sis 8 months of 'not trying' to get pg, (now coming up to 20wks), so working on the principle that I'm older and therefore more decrepit, here's hoping we have a little 'fun' window

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NoMoreChocBiscuits · 08/07/2010 21:12

I'm with you Petalouda. We'll be officially TTC tomorrow night, but actually I'm quite looking forward to a few months of no pressure JSing for the fun of it. DS was unplanned, so I'm finding a planned DC rather daunting and am happy to not get sucked into the whole charting and timed shagging thing.

Mind you ask me about it in a couple of months and I'm sure it'll be different!

Does anyone else find the thought of contraceptive free sex rather illict and therefore a turn on?

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Petalouda · 08/07/2010 21:39

You're right, choc, the very fact that I'm on here, mere days after getting an agreement out of DH, suggests that I'll be obsessing within weeks!

Agree with the contraceptive free sex theory too, although I have to keep reminding myself we're not actually trying yet!

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Petalouda · 08/07/2010 21:49

Having said that - it's flipping ace being able to share all this nonsense with people. I'm the worlds worst blabber, can't keep my secrets to myself. So thank god these boards are here to satisfy the chatter-er in me!

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NoMoreChocBiscuits · 09/07/2010 09:06

I feel your pain. No way I could tell people in RL about TTC but I have to tell someone! Getting my IUD out this afternoon, so talking on here is also giving me the confidence to actually keep my appt!

Karstan · 09/07/2010 17:56

Turned 30 earlier this year. A day later I was at a hospital appointment told I had fibroids and polyps. Had the latter removed but the fibroids stay for now. Talk from the consultant about hysterectomy may be the solution further down the line has spurred me on.

Still not sure that I 100% sure want a baby (this is normal right ) but realising I might not have the luxury of time to decide.

After last AF we agreed we would not try to avoid, not actually done the deed since!

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Petalouda · 09/07/2010 18:49

Hi Karstan, sounds pretty rubbish. We're working on the principle that the 'right time' doesn't exist and if we waited till we were sure/could afford it etc., we'd be well beyond menopausal!

I'm sure it'll all come together. I suppose we wait and see what happens....!

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raspberrytipple · 17/07/2010 21:06

Hello, relative newbie here. I agreed with DP that we would be casually trying i.e not actually trying but not using anything to prevent it as of last month (we tried last year for 6 months but then had to take a break as my job was on the line and didn't think it was a good idea, all better now on that front) but I bought a book on fertility and conception today and just want to talk about ttc all the time now! I can't help it, it just pops out . It also doesn't help that, since coming off the pill my sex drives gone through the roof but DP thinks its just because i want a baby and its not just that, i genuinely am damn randy....honestly, what is a girl to do!

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Petalouda · 19/07/2010 15:10

Hey Raspberry, nice to have someone else in the boat! And glad you're enjoying it so much!

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raspberrytipple · 20/07/2010 07:37

Well, im not doing very well in jsing for the fun of it. Body starts giving me signs yesterday but OH wasn't well last night so early night meant sleep and I was tbf a bit gutted. Nevermind. It's his 30th birthday today so I'll have another go tonight!!!

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Petalouda · 26/07/2010 19:28

Hey raspberry, did you get back on track?

I'm trying not to get excited - our first month of 'not being careful' and AF is now 2 days late. Which isn't actually unusual at all for me, but exciting, nonetheless!

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raspberrytipple · 27/07/2010 07:39

Hi Petulouda,

We certainly did thank you although according to pregnology (which I am now obessessed with) I dont actually ovulate until today anyway so that's kept me busy! I have a feeling that now we are trying my af will start playing nasty tricks as usually it is on a pretty steady 30/31 days. fingers crossed for you!!

Kartasan - i know people who have been in the same boat and are not sure but they both had babies and didnt regret it. I do sometimes think 'wow, this is a bit grown up' at 27 and 30 but we just feel that now is the right time.

Choc- how have your first few weeks gone. I must admit having unprotected sex for the first few weeks felt very naughty!!! haha, it's worn off now though!

happy casual trying all! xx

Flighttattendant · 28/07/2010 08:43

How is everyone getting on?

Flighttattendant · 28/07/2010 08:46

Oh sorry I didn't realise recent posts were so, erm recent!

Is it Ok if I join you?

LolaKnickers · 28/07/2010 17:57

Yes - currently pregnant on that basis!! It was a genuine not trying as I was drinking etc and was quite surprised when I found out. It came about mainly as I can't take the pill and find condoms a bit yucky. We didn't mind if it didn't happen, but are obviously delighted it did.

raspberrytipple · 28/07/2010 18:03

Lola congratulations on pg. I've no idea where I am on my cycle now...... i may be on the two week wait but my period isnt due for over another week but Im sure I ovulated last week so I dont know. Im enjoying the cruise though so Im staying put for now. Anyone else got any news? x

ReasonableDoubt · 28/07/2010 18:05

We did something similar. I was pregnant precisely one month later. Good luck!

NoMoreChocBiscuits · 28/07/2010 18:09

Congrats LolaK!

Well it took 3 attempts over about a week and a half to get my coil removed in the end, so thought I'd missed this months chance, but ov'd day after it was out, so am currently on the dreaded 2WW.

Am fairly sure I'm not pg though as had a classic not pg pig out day a few days back and now have a tummy bug that will probably flush out anything that might be there . So looking forward to next month. Shall be having me some drunken birthday shagging

How's everyone else?

LolaKnickers · 28/07/2010 18:59

reasonabledoubt - 1 month for me too (was also very quick when actively trying for number 1). I hope you too did not have to suffer the husband gloating about his obvious virility

ReasonableDoubt · 28/07/2010 19:13

lol!@Lola. No, there was no gloating. He was just very, very shocked as had presumed it would 'take a while'. Me too, to be honest!

MrsTicklemouse · 28/07/2010 19:23

We did that with DS2, 1 month too!

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Petalouda · 28/07/2010 19:35

I'm panicking now - AF's 5 days late and I'm starting to panic, was it really a good idea to be so cavalier about this?

Bought some of the Amazon wee-sticks on monday so hopefully I'll know either way by the end of the week.

I was hoping for a few more months of trying! Arghhh!!! Is it possible to want something so much but be quite so panic-stricken at the prospect of it happening?!

Mortgage app refused this morning too. Just when I thought everything was coming together. Although if I am pg maybe it's not an ideal time to take out a mortgage anyway.

Oh man, I'm going to quietly crumble in the corner!

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beckie90 · 28/07/2010 19:50

hiya petalouda.

im the same i come off the pill and recently thought oh ill just see what happens, i have a 20 month old boy, but had a bad birth and now im expieriencing symptoms like pregnancy, the thought of finding out im pregnant is terrifying me now, ive only just turned 20 arghh.
i undastand what your feeling