Anyone else not actively TTC, but not actively avoiding either?!

[Petalouda]

Hello folks, I'm new to all this! Please forgive the hit-and-miss use of acronyms.

DH and I recently decided not to actively TTC but, as 30 is looming, have agreed to chuck the condoms out and 'see what happens'!

Slightly prompted by ever-so-helpful article in the guardian this weekend www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/jul/03/ivf-fertility-infertility-gedis-grudzinskas

I am bursting to blab to anyone who will listen, but really need to keep it to myself! Is anyone else in a similar situation?!

20?? you're brave beckie!!

yea was 17 when i found out i was pregnant with my little boy, with my first ever boyfriend, but luckily 3 year later were still together lol
thank you, dont feel very brave at the mo

Part of me think's its not actually a bad idea to do this earlier in life. I feel like I'm desperately trying to tick boxes in order to reach the 'right' point for 'TTC'.

Hence the panic about potentially jumping the gun!

(have calmed down a lot now, had a good chat with DH which boiled down to "sensible brain says bad, rest says great!")

haha, yep thats like me, i always but things into postive and negative thoughts, but i want to do it all while im young and not leave a 2 big age gap in my kids.

have you still not had no period yet

Peta - I'm panicking too and not even late yet! I was hoping for a couple of years maybe, before DP went a bit mad and took a risk - I just was a bit taken by surprise but fleetingly thought 'Oh, it's alright, I like babies!' and then it was over in about 5 seconds.

So I understand how you feel! It's a huge mixture between excitement and terror, for me anyway.

Turns out I was right to panic - amazon cheapo pee sticks arrived today. Just got home & wee'd on one, it said you have to leave them for 5 minutes.

No word of a lie, in 4 seconds, 2 red lines showed up. B.F.P.

Holy sh*t.

So within 6 hours of deciding to 'stop being careful' we've gone and done it.

Can't believe it. I might be 30, but my mum is going to freak out!

Congratulations Petalouda!!! I know it's scarey, but it is so absolutely worth it.

Oh wow

Pet, that's brilliant - amazing - wonderful!

Congratulations!! April baby!

Petalouda, just popping in to say congratulations! Very, very happy for you!

Thanks all,
I'm all over the place tbh, it's ace, I'm excited about having a baby, but how will we cope financially? Work are going to hate me for this.

I knew I shouldn't have bought 15 pg tests.

Peta - any news ? Have you calmed yourself yet? I think I'll feel exactly the same as you if/when I get pg.

I'm so bored of this waiting now.... :-(. I know I'm supposed to be all casual but I can't help it and get the feeling it isn't going to be my month so am just setting myself up for a disappointment.

Dp has hurt his chest at the gym too so can hardly move..... I've banned him from any silly future exploits after this in case next month is clashes with ovulation!!!!

Stupid iPhone only displayed have the board- congratulations!!!! So so pleased for you, I actually just cried :-) well done you!!!

So nearly a week later, how is everyone going? Any more news? Or have you all given up being casual and just busy shagging?