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[VJay]

A new home ladies! Tis the season for mini eggs , time for baby neeko to arrive, and more BFP's, oh and mls joining the bigpant bench

Just checking if "BabyNeeko" is showing any signs of coming out - but not yet - boo, hiss, I can't waiti untill "Cupcake" is to of the list and we get to meet "BabyNeeko"!

Will lurk whilst kids at school - in baking mode today - cakes and biscuits for scholl easter fair and cheese straws for 80's night at school tomorrow. And then it will be onto the curtains - blinds are now up and I will try and add a photo!

Back for personals later

Quick translation for us Southerners on Blue's behalf:

Messages = shopping

Welcome QuestionsAnswered so good to see you here.

I am feeling really poorly today so I won't stay long.

Hope you are all doing ok, big hugs to everyone.

XXX

Thanks mls it does get confusing I'm a southerner living up North and I get well confused

blue dh wants me to stop bf because he doesn't want Ajay to be getting stuff through my milk that he shouldn't, he's confused with the doctors because one said it's ok to take this and another said it's ok to take that but not the other and so on. I'm in a right old pickle over it all, I feel it's a waste as I've got the goods, but if I stop then I can be pain free, happy muumy = happy baby/family and all that. I have just done a 7oz bottle for Ajay and he's had 2ox so far, I think I will rewards myself by taking 2 cocodamol .

Hi pfj whats up sweetie

Hello new thread where does the time go? The totally gorgeous curlygirl is kind of wearing me down at the moment and much as I adore her I just need tsleptep so bad!!! Writing this on phone as she feeds and she is so making me laugh when she latches off and tries to suck milk out of her hand instead

sad welcome and massive hugs to our new joiners and it's lovely to see thePFJ still here. Massive hugs to moon mermaid Jools and our smallpantets too xxx

Neeko hope you are not going crazy waiting. Ver excited for you

lots of love to all. Sorry for lack of personals. Someday I can get back on laptop to catch up properly!!!

Thankyou all for the lovely welcome. Having a rough day today which I guess is to be expected. DTs are playing up too which is not helping at all. Still it takes my mind off things a bit. My NCT group are coming over later on for a mini-tea party for DTs birthday (which incidentally was on Neeko's due date). I am hoping not to descend into floods of tears. We only have 5 mums in our group, so its more manageable in our houses but hopefully we will be out in the garden if it stays dry.

I was going to plump for 1st April but I see Lion's got there first. So I'm going for 31st March, but I hope for your sake Neeko that you don't have to wait that long.

Littlebells sounds like you've got a busy day

Vjay back pain is a killer. I had similar problems when DTs were about 9 months and it was linked to carrying them on one side of my body. I had physio (although I had to pay privately, NHS were useless) and it has gone now but it took a while. I hope you get some pain relief soon. Try not to worry about the BFing too much - you've got to 6 months which is fantastic. Most people don't get to 6 weeks. If you need to switch Ajay onto formula so you can get some pain relief then please do.

QA I'm sorry that your MC turned into such a long process but I'm glad you are feeling a bit more normal. Gives me hope!

Right, I'm off for a lie-down before the masses arrive.

PS love Greys Anatomy

vjay and if you stop bf'ing, DH could do some night feeds and you could get some much needed sleep? Your back counds just horrible - not what you need with two active boys at home

hi all
sorry not been on jd has been on a feeding frenzy the last few says . i need to catch up talk soon xxxxx

Thank you all for the warm welcome

Cupcake, thank you for the tip I should imagine that the anniversaries are difficult to deal with, I know I have got what would have been my due date etched in my memory. 32 weeks is so very nearly there and you will have some positive anniversaries once your baby is born, birthday, 1st smile, 1st steps

vjay thank you for adding me to the list, sadly is is the only time I will get to wear small pants. In RL they are slightly more roomy Have you tried an osteopath or chiropractor before, they can often work wonders in a shorter space of time. BF is such an emotional issue so I can understand what a difficult decision it is to make.

blue It is a lovely age, both the pfj and I have been talking about how much it has helped to have a funny little one around, they do make you laugh, even against the odds.

louey hope the NCT meet up went well and you managed ok, it is so difficult having to just carry on as normal at times isn't it. I hope you are managing some time for yourself and that having friends over has helped. Wish I could say more to you

MLS You're right, people really don't know what to say in RL. The very few people we have told have found it difficult and seem to prefer not to refer to it now, almost as if it hasn't happened. I am glad we didn't tell more people because of this.

littlebellesmum and curlypants, sounds like you have both had tour hands full today in different ways.

Pfj really hope you are ok, let us know how are you if you are up to it

Wow, that wa shard work, hope it gets easier to hget my brain in to gear, otherwise future posts will just say 'hello'

Right have done, way too much cleaning and sorting today so deserve a bottle glass of wine this evening. Going to try and relax more this weekend as I'm aware that I am on edge and finding it difficult to unwind. the wine may help

Sorry to bang on, but those of you that have breast fed before and then stopped, how did you do it? Did you just stop one day or stop gradually, dropping a feed every day or so? When I stopped with ds1 he was under 2 weeks old so I just stopped one day and didn't suffer any problems, the milk went quite quick, but Ajay is 7 months old next week so I'm worried about mastitis and painful boobies.

QA you enjoy that wine tonight, you so deserve it

pfj hope you are ok, thinking of you xxx

neeks how are you doing?

blue how did you get with the bf councillor?

Vjay, I stopped very gradually, but DS was older, You could try starting a thread on the breastfeeding section, they usually have some good advice on there. It must be stressful for you trying to work out what to do for the best.

I'm still connected

Surrounded by mess and sneezing from dust but lovely dh and one of his friends have taken most of our heavy stuff over already, yippee! Starting to feel a bit sad now even though I've wanted to leave this crummy flat for ages...

QA you definitely deserve that wine- drink up! Know just what you mean about RL friends not knowing what to say, and then it just makes you feel worse for making them feel awkward.
Surprisingly, two of my RL friends remembered today's anniversary & texted/emailed me with no prompting...I was quite touched, so I'm sure your friends mean well really, we British just never know what to say!

Hi Vjay sorry I can't give any advice on bfing but seems to me one would stop gradually...bit of a dilemma for you though if you want to take the painkillers hope docs can shed some light for you.

Hi MummyKate love the nn JD and well done for even popping in here!

Right, better make some tea get fish and chips for my hardworking dh.

Vjay, just thought, there is a good site that may be able to give you some info here

They also have a link to a site that gives you info about the safety of specific drugs, so if you felt that this was a bit rushed and you would prefer to stop in your own time then this is worth a read about the effects of here Sometimes it is good to look it up and decide for yourself and then make your decision.

Sorry 2nd link not working,

2nd try

Sorry Vjay, still not working...anyway just follow the link on Kellymom to the safe medication when breastfeeding link on the left side.

Thanks QA, it says that what I'm taking is moderatley safe, not sure what to make of that really.

cupcake glad you're still connected. Fish and chips sound good to me, yummy, hope you're not over doing things

just popping in to welcome QA to our thread, i'm so happy we have new recruits

tew is due any day, i actually had to go and count my cd, as this month i have tried to not think about stuff too much, cd 29, so an arrival is due any time, perfect timing would be at tomorrows party

your thoughts on a matter would be welcomed... df and i are setting a date very soon for the wedding, working out when we could afford to do it at the earliest, and i just casually said, 'well we can do it then, but just remember something else might crop up in the meantime' meaning a baby, and he said i ought to go back on the pill for 2 years cuz whatever we are doing now isnt working i just ignored him and sat quietly, he knows how much it means to me, is he being an arse/just does not get me/looking after me in his own way?? i feel so sad now

Enjoy your fish and chips cupcake and glad your day was remembered by two of your friends, bet that meant alot...

Vjay - I stopped bf DS1 at @ 12 weeks, literally overnight/cold turkey (long story - misdiagnosed reflux etc. etc. he refused to feed off me in the end.. ). It happened on a Friday and my boobs were sore and swollen that day and the day after (I expressed once on the Fridya evening) but started going down after that. DS1 was on @ 5 feeds a day at that point although it was all to pot for aformentioned reasons. The do advise to drop one feed at a time i.e. middle of days feeds first, then evening/middle of night then morning. HTH and big hand hold and hug for whatever you decide xxx

BF councilling went well thanks, I've been given new anti-colic drops to try but also going to stop my morning cereal as Ben's fretting is normally always at his either 1pm or 4pn feed which might be my breakfast milk working its way down and he may have a lactose intolerance . We'll see how it goes.

Questionsanswered - hope you're well and enjoying your large glass of wine xx You too louey and PFJ

Talking of which... I'm off for my one glass a week. I should have it in a glass box with mini hammer marked 'emergency use only'

later duuudes.

will we get a birth announcement over the weekend....

Thanks for translation MLS . Have you heard ofthis book? DS1 loved it and will be good for keeping your DD's Scottish heritage alive

Sorry moon - bloody x-posting again...

I think the third thing and your DF is looking after you in a way. Trying to give you something lovely to focus on rather than the permanent you feel just now. Only you know if having a baby is what you want ahead of anything else or if you can refocus your happiness to your wedding and having fun being a sexy fiasco (fiancee).

Just keep talking and working through all this as a couple x

Hi all,

Feeling a little better now, I had a terrible migraine and I was a bit sick
QA - I am so so glad you are chatting on here now.

I really need to get some sleep now, night night all. XXX

OMG Blue that book looks brilliant, so brilliant in fact that I've just bought a copy from Ebay! When is Fathers Day? Maybe I'll give it to dh then as I have no chance of being able to read it to dd without sounding like I have a mouthful of wingnuts!

Moon sorry but that was totally bloody insensitive of your df. The only thing I can say in his defense is that he's only saying something similar to what most of our silly-arse oh's would have said! Don't go back on the pill - unless you want to end up in the loony-bin. Sorry to be brutally honest but I think going back on the pill is the worst thing you can do. He is obviously trying to protect you & thinks that by going on the pill, you will forget about trying for a baby for a couple of years. Men just don't get how we work. All I can suggest is that you try not to let him see how disappointed you are every month when af comes. If he thinks you are handling it well then he's less likely to put pressure on you to do anything you don't want to do.

Vjay I think you are supposed to cut down gradually & if you feel discomfort try to manually express. They say in the shower is a good place!

dont worry mls i have no intention of going back on the pill, i just cant believe he said it. i was only trying to point out that if we decide on a wedding date sooner rather than later we may end up penniless for a while, which i dont mind and actually wish i'd kept my mouth shut now. darent tell him that i'd far rather have a baby than a wedding although obviously in a perfect world i would love it all.

Moon you will have it all. You just need to keep focused. Try & concentrate on the wedding for now & I bet your baby plans will fall into place.

thanks mls you always say the right thing