Emmsy's Weebles -let theTTC to new arrivals support continue onwards and upwards!

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Let our journey together continue apace

I'll put a new picture of Jack on my profile....

Aw thanks! You are probably like me & have nothing but pics of your lo on your computer!

Wow look at his hair! It looks like my dd's & he looks so different than his other pics! I bet he's never had a haircut either. All of my dd's friends get their hair cut every few weeks but dd's hair has never grown, it just gets more curly & wild!

Yeap, plus a few pics of me and my big bearded lovely DH... hehe

New picture of Jack now on the photos section.. not sure if I should be brave and add a proper pic of me and DH for you all to see...

I can't bear to cut little Jack's hair.. its so beautiful.. but yes, its getting so long at the back now...

And tangled as well I bet. I have to wet dd's every morning otherwise she looks like an absolute frizz-head.

Jack's little ringlets get very very tangled, I have to be so gentle with him when I brush it. His first word was Hexagon.. said as Heg-ga-gon... blew me away. That was in January, (he's 2 in April) he's a slow talker but very very clever at puzzles and working things out. He's very well behaved, I am such a lucky mummy. When he was a wee little baby he hardly ever cried at all... only when he had a full nappy or the hospital were poking needles into his spine. I hope one day to have another little baby just like him!

You WILL, I have no doubt about it. Right I'm off to bed as I have a 6.30 start .

Night night.

Night night,

since I have been fiddling about with photos I have finally gotten around to updating my mumsnet page to explain that I am no longer pregnant. However, the good news is that this thread has made it to 'my favourite thread' section on my profile. Mini eggs for everyone.

Much Love All, ThePFJ xxx

Evening girls,
Moon I'm so so sorry lovely it's really really shit and I so hope the same happens for you as MLS and next month is the one. Huge hugs to you.

4ever how lovely that your little girl is getting all active now too I love it

iggy YAY for your dh feeling lo! It is so special. My dh likes to 'hold the baby' every morning now as that's when it moves the most

I didn't make blue's choccies in the end but went for MIL's sticky toffee rice krispie squares..they have gone rock hard though don't think I'll be winning the NCT cake baking competition

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend. Thinking of Kate especially- how lovely that you get a bonus Mothers Day

Morning lovely moon I'm so sorry that yestetday didn't bring better news . Are you using ovulation predictors. I know that not everone is as stupid as I am but when I finally used them after 8 months of trying I got pregnant first month!! We were getting to focussed on doing it at the right time and it turned out that the right time was earlier than we thought! Sorry if I asked before. I just know how hard waiting is so wish I could find you the solution

thepfj that's one of my favourite films. Fantastic name pls don't be hard on yourself for feeling low. It will be really hard for a while but we are here when you need us and it will get better.

Dear mermaid stop that procrastinating and get yourself to the golfcourse xxx

hope your SPD is better 4ever the only real solution I found was to stop when it hurts. Also clrching all the muscles down there when you walk helps ease the pain when walking and also creates a natural support belt for you!!

Lots of love to vj cupcake neeko mls iggy blue annie Buddha barbie and everyone I've missed xxx

I meant clenching not clrching!!!!

Morning.

Moon Really sorry lovely. It does sound like you've had a CP. It was me who had one the month before my BFP so fingers crossed for you. I know that's no consolation now though so sending heaps of chocolate your way.

PFJ Your son is gorgeous. I'm interested in his kidney problems as the lo I'm carrying has mild renal pelvic dilation which was picked up at the 20wk scan and cofirmed at the 32wk one. I've been told the baby will probably need low dose antibiotics at bith until either the problem sorts itself or they fix it.

Mermaid I know you're scared lovely but please take a deep breath, a big glug of wine and make that call.

4ever Hope scan goes ok. Can't wait to see pics.

annie Huge hug from me for tomorrow too. Sorry it'll be a bitter sweet day for you.

MLS Enjoy your weekend. Is this the SIL you get on well with?

Big waves to Curly Cupcake and everyone else.

Pains got worse yesterday and then stopped Still niggling today but think this one is going to be trouble!

How are you today Moon? Cuddles and mini-eggs. Listen to CurlyBigPants, the exact same happened to me while I was trying for this last lost little one. We needed to do it earlier. 10 days after the first day of your period onwards, every 2 days is what did it for me in the end.

Neeko - Any questions you have I would be really glad to answer. The birth of my LO was an awful awful event, with heart thumping drama and worry featuring right up until he was finally put onto his antibiotics to keep his bladder sterile. My Jack was very very poorly until they worked out what was wrong with him.

xxx

I was told by the hospital a few moments ago that my pregnancy hormone levels have dropped to just 3. Thats good news, because I can now wait for my cycle to return after the ectopic and ttc again next month....

XXX

PFJ It's always bittersweet news to know your HCG is down but at leaset you know the next time you have a BFP, it's a real one and not left-over hormone. Do you temp? It really helped me to feel in control after my MC and Cupcake and MLS are experts at it. I know your cycle can be all over the place after a loss but if you're thinking about temping now's a pretty good time to start so that you know what you're doing when it matters. I hope you get your OPKs from Babymad.com or somewhere like it. High St chemists are so expensive.

Was it renal pelvic dilation with your DS? I've found that docs and MWs are unwilling to say much until the Lo is here.

Very quiet on here today

How was the scan 4ever?

Hi Neeko - quickie from me whilst DH it out for walk with boys... Any more twinges??

PFJ - hope you have some sort of 'closure' today, physically at least. Emotionally it takes time but hope we can all help with that and the poems brought some comfort too. I know the film you mean ("he's not the messiah, he's a naughty, naughty boy") . My name is from a film too but opposite end of genres - Sound of Music! Can you guess from which part .

Moon - oh honey . Leaset you know now. I would highly recommend OPK sticks too..

Annie - wil be thinking about you tomorrow honey.

Sabs, Scamper, Buddha, Barbie, Gracie, Kate and Curly - Happy FRST Mother's Day to you all .

barbie - they don't really taste of coconut just give a crunchiness but then I LOVE cocnut so maybe they reek of it and I just don't notice . C-section scars can be odd looking/feeling at first but trust me it will fade and shrink and be hardly noticable... I need to start doing sit ups to get rid of leftover tummy. Had a at your FB status re: losing weight when breastfeeding its so true in that its down to having no hands to eat

4ever - glad you had another good appointment with consultant and hb strong as ever

Vjay hope you and yours are enjoying Edinburgh, I'm through there tonight for friend's 39th b'day. First night out since B's birth, feeling nervous and knackered, have expressed 10oz for 10pm feed which he somtimes doesn't needuntil midnight so may not be required. Looking forward to having some girlie chats but at the same time just want to lie on couch with DH!

MLS - how's the gold widowing going ?

Sorry for lack of more personals, need to start vajazzle my vajayjay getting ready its a military operation these days!

Bluesatinsah - Never watched the Sound Of Music... although I am told I really ought to before I die...!

Neeko - Although our babies conditions are not exactly the same, the fact that your baby will be on anti-biotics for a very long time means that we will be in virtually the same boat if you see what I mean. They will probably give a prophylactic antibiotic to keep your babys bladder and renal area sterile, which you will need to give daily. You'll also need to remember to poke the children's doctors into working out a new dose for your baby as weight/height increases as they can tend to forget and babies grow so very fast!! This is really important!!

Jack caught MRSA, and later ECOLI septacemia from the hospital and nearly died twice at 2 weeks old and onwards before they conducted a test of his urethra function which showed it was severely dilated. So the tiny tube that should have just let urine travel in small drops from his kidney to his bladder is actually so enlarged it allows urine to pass back up the tube and has caused his kidney function to decrease and the kidney to shrink in size. His other kidney picks up the slack well, and is at 69% function whereas the smaller one is at 31% now. This all basically means that bacteria can fester in the bladder and cause little infections that a normal child could deal with into a bit of a nightmare! They might do an operation on Jack in the next year or so, or they may have to give him antib's for life... there is a small change the disfunction will get better as Jack grows, but since its severe the chances are low. Your baby may have to endure a number of tests and canulas if the doctors decide they need to know more about whats going on, so be prepared for that. It's painful watching your baby being poked about with
Always bring a magazine and a drink/snacks with you to the hospital for tests. They can keep you waiting around for ages. The childrens wards usually have loads of toys and mobiles though, so baby will be happy enough I expect.

I asked several times what could have caused such a thing to happen to my baby, all the answers I ever get are that it is congenital, as in it just happened as Jack developed in my womb... I am not sure if that is my fault or not, or whether these thigns just happen... but I have moved past that now. Feeling guilty about it really doesn't help.

Hope this information was of some use to you, I would be happy to help you through things as you meet them head on.

end of middle paragraph - change=chance... argh sorry. Someone kill me.

Hello my lovelies....

Have had a busy weekend with Devons first day trip out to the beach and we have also made 2 more sets of friends, one with 8 month old little girl and the other couple due in june. Both live opposite us, so finally not feeling so lonely in the friends stake ....things are finally looking up.

Its nearly 1am here and i decided rather than sit and fall asleep while feeding at night and taken hours i would come and mn, kept myself alert and hopefully manage tp put lo back tp bed and get more sleep myself

moon i was so gutted for you when i read what had happened, pls dont disappear on us we are here to hold you upright during these wobbly times. It will be your turn soon i just know it will

pfj its so nice to have new face around here your jack is sooo gorgeous, sorry to hear of all the problems you have had with him....Roll on next month for you so you can ttc...liking the positivity. Oh and im a weatcountry girl too...not too far from cornwall, do you miss it???

neeko has baby arrived yet

Oh dear i have to pay more attention to what is happening on my boob....no point in trying to stay awake if she is slipping while im typing! I will be back...hope you all have a good weekend xxx

Hi everyone,

Barbie - I am originally from the St. Austell area, and yes I miss it ALOT. My mummy is still down there and she is poorly at the moment, and I wish I had a car/cash/drivers licence/limo/private batplane to go see her!
Derbyshire is very pretty though, and there aren't any sprawling tourists and stupid celebritie calmouring for somewhere to settle up here, sio I think I might prefer it here?? (DO NOT TELL MY MOTHER I SAID THAT)

Now, since you all think my DS is cute, I btw I have been to see all your photos, and yours are SO CUTE TOO!... I have decided to show off a wee bit by posting a few more extra cute pics of my lovely little boy for you all. If recovering from an ectopic isn't the time to be able to cover your LO in love and adoration I don't know when is...?

Last night I was given some sympathy on your loss of your baby cards from some friends... I didn't know how to feel. It got me thinking about who my lost little one would have been... and I had to stop myself imagining... I'll end up missing something that doesn't exist.. silly really. Keep thinking I should be absolutely distraught. Does 5 minutes of weakness and crying count as grief? Should I just hut up? Argh, I hope this makes sense to you all... because I don't think I am making sense to me!

Totally forgot its Mothers Day, I might go poke DH into getting up and helping me. XXX

vjay happy birthday sparkly girl. Hope you have had a lovely weekend.

4ever I am so hoping that you are now square eyed from watching your 3d dvd come and tell us all about it.x

Masses of thoughts sending out to moon bakingqueen and jools as ever.

pfj just go with your feelings you will almost certainly get a horrible crash as your hormones sort themselves out. The crash is always the bit I dread the most. Nothing you are feeling is silly, you are saying goodbye to hopes and dreams and of what would have beens. I think that it is really important and healthy to mourn, just as we would for anyone or anything else.

It sounds as though you have some really kind and thoughtful people around who understand. Go gently on yourself, don't do too much and enjoy lots of cuddles.

right I am going to deep clean ds room. It is beyond grim. I don't even remember what colour the carpet is because it is covered in lego and other boy detritus.
He has got a whole mixture of small boy stuff still and suddenly wants to be cool, 8 and have sleep-overs (shudder)
Think if I borrowed neeko to assist it might help vjay win the sweepstake

Moon I'm so sorry!

PFJ how lovely of your friends to send cards, its nice when others recognise that you've lost a baby rather than just had some medical mishap. I kept mine in a little box with my hospital wrist band and other stuff that helps me to remember I didn't imagine the whole thing.

We made our first trip to church this morning with Isabelle, I've put in a word with Him upstairs for Mermaid, Moon and PFJ. Isabelle slept through the whole service like a model baby.

MLS I hope your weekend isn't going too badly.

Neeko getting excited now, any more twinges?

This is taking forever, typing one handed with a squeaky baby on my knee.

Has anyone heard from Hoping?

Hey ladies - Happy Mothers day!

Happy Birthday to Vjay too!

Sorry not more personals, will catch up with you all in the week!

Real quickie - am about to eat dinner, but had amazing 4D scan yesterday! Bubs is growing brilliantly, now 3lb! She is a chubby cheeked cheeky lil beauty & I have posted a couple of pics on profile! DH got me a mothers day card from her today which made me cry when I read the words 'To Mummy!'