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Ok, here we are, a new thread to see us into the next decade, and to celebrate more BFP's, growing bumps and new arrivals, and to enjoys those already here

Morning. Was just checking that 4ever updated. I was asleep before her text came thru so didn't get it til the middle of the night and thought DH would kill me if I came down to post then, or you lot would if I started texting then.

4ever This baby is going to be soo worth it all. x

Hi ladies, pleased to say normality has returned to the barbie household....we are all in, unpacked and dh has returned to work, so its my first day of mat leave that i have been on my own

so much to catch up with so please bear with me if this is a long post.....

Firstly omg 4ever you must of been beside yourself yesterday, thank goodness it was very little to worry about. i think i last had a bleed about 24 weeks, and like you they couldnt really pin point the actual reason. Just take it easy for the next few days and remember call your midwife with any little niggles, its what they are there for!
With regards to the 4d scan, the best time is between 27 and 29 weeks. The baby will put on a little fat and weight by then and the pictures will be so much better. Any later that that the baby wont be so active and generally too big to fit on the screen. One tip though would be to cut out coffee, fizzy drinks etc a week before and drink only water...this makes the scan so much clearer due to the quality of liquids in the body.
Ps...the discharge will only get worse as your pregnancy progresses, the number of times i thought my waters have broken or i have wee'ed myself due to a rush of it makes me cringe....pantie liners all the way!

vjay lol at you being pleased to see rain...im the same when it rains over here glad the snow is finally starting to clear up for you and the children, although i did here that is going to come in cold again mid week and the cold snap due to last until april?? i hope not for all of your sakes! Lovely that you have booked a weekend away for your birthday and are taking the boys.

mls im so glad that the magnets and acupunture is giving you something to smile about, for what its worth im all for the alternitive methods...im still convinced that reflexology worked for me. When i did my beauty course we looked into all of the alterative therapys and i would of studied them further had i not moved away. Fingers crossed it works for you and anyone else who is trying them out.....

iggy has your cold gone? mine is still hanging around and i cant shift it at all just drink as much ornage juice as you can...wow @ being 13 weeks. Thats such great news, when is the next scan? forgive me i have forgotten also are you finding out the flavour??? Also give tiger balm a go for the headaches, it works a little like 4head but is stronger and safe to use in pregnancy, mine is constantly with me...look for the white version if you can or it looks like ear wax smeared across your forehead and temples
oh and i wore the chicken suit til week 17 too....no rush!

neeko i still cant get my head around that you are only a few weeks behind me for some reason it felt like ages that the next person got a bfp after me, seems your pregnancy is going faster than mine too loving the nursery talk, ours is all done and as requested by your lovely self the pics are up on my profile, although not very clear to see. As you know we went with the hodge podge range from mamas and papas and have stuck to the same colours.....my artistic side came out and i decorated the walls myself with a little help from dh mum. We went to get a few small tester pots of paints but they didnt have any and as we needed at leat 8 colours we ended up pinching borrowing the colour charts...you know the single colour cards you can get to pick your colours? we we took a few handfuls of the cards and came home and cut out leaves etc and then made a hedgehog and mushrooms for the wall...i will try to get a close up and post so it makes more sense.

lbm a girl!!! lovely news..... at you going to only 38 weeks, i wish i could. Ive developed the pregnancy wobble as i walk, im bored, the nursery is done and im just bloody impatient! Loved the fact your dh walked your baby around the house to show it around....to cute! I have caught dh in the nursery a few times, he seems so excited...oh and he loves playing with the baby monitor too he was in there making crying noises to test whether it worked or not. Mental man!

blue swoon at you just sat looking at Ben....i hope to take your's and the other mummies advice and just take it easy, forget about the house work and male the most of having a brand new baby....of course is reality ill be posting on here in a few weeks begging for coping tips!

jools i think taking delievery of the nursery stuff was a sign...to see how it suited your house! i bet soon you will be taking delievery of your own stuff and will be way too excited to leave the house until it arrives and it definaltly wont be taking in by a neighbour! hope the cold is clearing and you havent been pushing yourself too hard in the gym....
Might have to invest in the twighlight books, anything to keep me busy for the next few weeks...

monkey how was/ is your weekend in the uk....im counting down the weeks until i can next visit, although i do hope it will be slightly warmer by then!

cupcake i dont want to put you off but i would move as soon as you can, its exhusting! I hope you can get a good removal company to pack and then unpack at the other end for you. It really was a god send. I still worked hard though, cleaning the old villa, helping to unpack here and generally organising everything, im trying to keep as mobile as possible to ensure an easy labour
My back has been playing up lately too, it feels i have been run over buy and steamroller who then reversed and did it again! I find a nice warm bath helps and then either walking through the pain or sitting on the gym ball helps to soften the muscles.
As for the comments ignore, ignore, ignore! I have had loads over the past few days, some saying im so big i must be due to drop early others saying what a weird shap bump i have, it looks like this... ] a bit square just smile and let your mind wonder else where and block them out!

mermaid are you ok love??? where are you hiding?

gg im stalking you on fb for any news of updates....are you off somewhere with mermaid?? sabs Saara is one beautiful little girl...loving the pics on fb.

buddha how is E? Also loving the new pics that you have posted

mm are you still just sat gazing at your new princess? i would love to see a pic if you have time to post one..hopefully cath up with you soon

curly surely you must be on mat leave by now? how are you...any thoughs on your birthing plan?

moon how are you and df hope you are enjoying the new year and chilling out a bit.....

Who have a missed sorry if i have missed anybody

Ok..super long post me thinks
As i said we are all in and ready for lo to arrive, im going to be speading this week just finishing off a few bits in the villa and then ill start to relax. I got as far as getting out my hospital bag last night so will make an effort to get that packed some time soon.

Can i ask a few silly questions?

Looking at the clothes we have, they all seem very big 0-3 months...is it worth being some new born sizes?

Do you have to wash everything is a certain thing, ie non bio? Can i add softener?

Do i pack bottles for the hospital in case i cant breast feed for whatever reason...

Any idea why my bump is square????

Thanks.

Stupidly i opened a thread about labour just now and it had a very sad outcome (wont go into details as im freaked out enough without worrying you other girls) now i cant get it out of me head and im sat prodding my tummy for some kind of reassurance Will there ever be a day when we can all relax???

Anyway im going to keep busy and try not to dwell on it, im around for the next 5 weeks doing nothing so come and keep me company!

Love B xx

how long?????

Good morning mls and neeko

Morning Barbie. You must be exhausted after that post. Glad you're in and sorted.
Don't have definitive answers for your questions but here's what I think.

1. I'd buy a couple of newborn sleepsuits but not much else a unless your baby turns out to be smallish, they won't last beyond week 2 or 3.

1. I washed everything in non-bio and used sensitive fabric softener - and still do!

1. IF you can't breast feed the hospital will probably provide ready-mixed disposable formula bottles for you. They can hardly let your baby starve!

Barbie good morning:

Yes 0-3 months are big unless you give birth to a massive baby. I made the same mistake & as dd was only 6lb 13 she had to spend the first couple of days of her life in massively baggy baby-grows until dh could go out & get her some newborn size clothes.

Yes to washing everything in a mild detergent with softener - I always used Fairy. Also they say that you should wash everything before the first wear. That lasted about 2 weeks for me then I decided that it was too much hassle & she never had a problem wearing new things that hadn't been washed first.

No don't pack bottles, they will have them at the hospital but DO buy some (plus formula & steriliser for at home). I used a cheap microwave steriliser. At a lot of hospitals over here, if you are having problems breastfeeding they give the baby a cup rather than a bottle as they try to encourage the baby to lap the milk up like a kitten.

Square bump??? You didn't have a close liason with Sponge Bob Square pants a few months ago did you?!

Interested to know what thread you were looking at?

SHhhhhh i didnt want anyone to find out about me and spongebob ha ha

The thread is on the labour forum but now i think its moved to bereavment ....

I think ill wait until 36 week checkup in 3 days time to see if they can tell me rough size of baby and then will invest in newborn sizes if needed.....

We have the sterilizer, bottle warmer, formula all ready and waiting....ill take the bottles out of my hospital bag then !

Im off to the supermarket to get some detergent and stuff, thanks girls for your swift replies!

barbie I agree with mls and neeko, but also remember dh can nip out and get some things once baby is here and you're still in hospital, that's what we decided to do this time round.

4ever I have ordered a special consignment of extra sparkly and irridisent stars to be delivered to you and several for your dh especially.

barbie the sticking on of leaves must have taken you ages it all looks lovely

I also use non bio and have always washed everything new cos of the nasty chemicals they use. I do have eczema myself though so have always been uber careful with ds and his skin.

Have a couple of newborn size, you will always treasure and remember the first one that you, dh and 2 other helpful people help cram your dc into

and someone I can't remember who reminded me of the one most amazing and useful baby item ever on here the other day a grow bag. They are fantastic get one. The brill thing about them is you can feed, change, put to bed with least disturbance and not worry about blankets, sheets etc. They do lightweight ones for warmer temperatures too.
I also found that as ds got older as soon as he saw his growbag he knew it was time for bed and even better it hampers them moving around when they get to that rug rat stage!

lbm hope your curtain making has gone ok, its horrible what triggers these sad memories. Glad you got some exciting post.

neeko you are sounding well and nice to think of you brandishing lists

cupcake its the pits, I expect you are doing a good impression of a flamingo? hope it feels a wee bit better, live in the bath if you can.

On a personal note I have a very sore bottom after getting a little bit too confident whilst ice skating yesterday Love burning off lots of calories and then eating chips mayonaise and gallons of hot chocolate

ah yes he will have to nip out when he accidentally boil washes them aka mrmermaid

Hi mermaid very at your chips and mayonaise, I bought some scales yesterday as I'd thrown out the old ones ages ago cos they kept telling me I was too heavy , anyway I'm even heavier now so am trying to be good. So much for bf helping me lose weight, but I have been told the weight will come off once bf stops.

4ever forgot to say well done on not having the scan, but hope you are ok now after your scare. So glad you have the doppler and can feel some flutters, it's very reassuring for you.

barbie love the nursey

vjay I think our bones just get denser? and its cold and we need insulating and your body is doing a very important job atm.
Plus it is about time to buy mini eggs

lol at vjay scales....i must be due new ones too cos mine say im too heavy

mermaid also @ chips....yummy

Thanks for liking the nursery...it was hard work but worth it....

My ( . ) ( . ) have started to leak!

Mini eggs????? im going to put them on the list of things i want my mum to bring over....

barbie did you hear a baby crying?

um??? i dont think so...although the house backs on to a play area and there are lots of screaming children out playing right now, might be a baby in there somewhere?

Oh and we have a growbag thingy...they look wierd dont they?

Mmmmmm mini eggs, tis coming up to that time of year isn't it

Ajay has 2 grobags, one in the wash and one to wear, he's in the 0-6 month size but he is filling it now so we need to get the next size already

oh and one final silly question...

When do you buy nursing bra's? do you get fitted after you give birth? or before....but then surely you will expand somewhat?

Hello all, I've finally turned a corner and feel a bit better fromt he cold of doom that I have been properly grumpy and miserable with

barbie I can't answer your baby related questions but am glad you asking them cos I have no idea either - also you are 100% right on the orange juice - its the only thing that has made me feel better. Thanks for tip about tiger balm - I will hunt for some - We've decided not to find out the flavour - so we going to have a surprise. Next scan is on 10th Feb at 17 weeks.

4ever so sorry to read about your scare - but so relieved it is ok. Also well done about the waiting for the scan, can't believe you going to be 22 weeks so soon!

mermaid I love ice skating, but am rubbish at it My dad used to take us when we were really little (Streatham Ice rink - for any Londoners that remember that!) - in hindsight, probably to get us out of my mum's way for a few hours

lbm there are 5 years between me and one of my sisters - but we also have one in between - we all get on amazingly well.

cupcake sorry to hear about sciatica one of my friends saw an osteopath for hers when she was pregnant and it made it much better. Maybe you could try that if you have any locally? She went to a university and was a 'guinea pig' for the lecturer - so she got it really cheap, and got someone excellent to do it.

Hope everyone else is well? Haven't heard from curly for a while? Am also hoping that some small panters will come and join me on the mediums pants bench soon!

Will catch up again soon. xxx

Evening ladies..
yes mermaid I'm definitely doing an impression of a flamingo, dh has to keep putting on/removing one shoe for me as I can't stand on my left leg and bend over at the same time

barbie so pleased move went well and your nursery is GORGEOUS! Love the one of your doggy lying in there Have you read Marley & Me? There's such a sweet bit in it about Marley (who's usually a mental dog) being so placid around their newborn baby and then letting baby crawl all over him later on Thanks for advice re move..don't worry we are planning it v soon! And hopefully lots of willing friends to help as I am not allowed to lift a single thing
I'm glad you asked those questions too as I'm also clueless!! I was told at M&S to get nursing bra fitting at around 36-38 weeks.

iggy so glad your cold is easing! We all want small panters to join you too! You must be getting lonely!

4ever so sorry about the scare just rubbish that you will never be able to relax you poor love.

(dh is lying on bed behind me trying to have a conversation and just said "give me some attention, not vjay and milkyway"...haha! who on earth's milkyway?? Strange man.) (and now he's saying he's going to join the thread under a secret name )

neeko no birthing ball yet but have told dh I want one

Where's moon? Hope you're ok if you're lurking, thinking of you. You too, Curly hope you're off work now and just resting big cups of tea on your bump

Today two people said I had a small and neat bump so hooray, the universe is balanced again! I may even put the pic of it up now...

Cupcake Re nursing fittings - I was given the same advice and yet when I went to mothercare for the fitting at 38 weeks, they wouldn't do it as they said it was better after the birth. How you are supposed to get to the shop then I don't know - best advice is to buy a couple of cheapies based on your size then and the NCT will always come round and measure you at home after you've had the baby
Also - birthing ball , I got my first from Argos ( regular excercise ball), second from Tescos ( even cheaper and first got left at hospital after dd born) Probably get next one from a friend!

barbie don't think the NCT can measure you where you are! So suggest you ask for some advice at about 38 weeks. Also don't buy many newborn babygros - I think I only had 3 or 4, at that size, they don't last long ( maybe a month) and I just kept washing them but they are so cute. Don't think you'll need vests in Dubai though or socks which are even cuter but a bugger to keep on!
Two other things for your mum to bring out - a box or two of Napisan ( great for getting stains out, still use it now and she can get it from Sainsburys) and Infacol (a couple of bottles), not sure if you can get it in Dubai and it seemed to really help DD when tiny.
Re you sad labour thread - very occasionally things go wrong, far less often than MC's, so focus on all the people you know who have healthy babies, rather than the one rare one who very sadly doesn't
I'm not sure that I'm happy at the 38 week plan - you see, it could really impact where I have the baby. If it needs more than a sweep, then I will need to go into the hospital rather than the nice birthing unit and I also don't fancy being induced if I can avoid it.

very about the iceskating talk - my dd loves it and keeps asking to go again but funnily enough, I'm not too keen at the moment!

4ever So pleased that everything is OK. How many of the months milestones have passed now? I know two of the really hard ones are passed...

Got to go - friend has given me a whole sack of maternity clothes and whilst I don't intend to wear them for a while, I do plan to iron them tonight ( I still have no bump to speak of, just look as if I have eaten all the pies!)

Morning all.. Weeble here.. Thanks for all being lovely.. Im a right old state after saturday night, it was so traumatic scary & horrible, its taken me right back after daring to feel nearly brave last week.. Of course most importantly thank god little baby hopeful is ok, but that fear of phoning the number in the maternity notes for 'bleeding over 20 weeks - contact delivery suite immediately' & hearing the midwife say 'oh you had better come in right away so we can check you over' left me a sobbing mess expecting the worse, not knowing whether to pack a bag, digging out sanitary towels that Id hoped not to see again for a long time, knowing that just 3 weeks would make all the difference.. Not knowing when we'd be back home & worrying that the bedding was still in the wash if DH had to come home on his own, the thoughts that go through your head are crazy.. Mainly I just kept thinking if only I was 23/24 weeks..

Anyway we got a cab there & it was so eerie being there so late at night, I felt sick walking through the doors to the delivery suite & could hear little newborn crys, the waiting room had a few happy looking men in watching match of the day & when I walked to the desk all the lovely midwifes looked really concerned & were like 'oh this is the 20 weeker'. I kept saying to DH please let this be like a trial run & let us be able to come back in a few months time for real! Poor wonderful DH was trying to be brave but was s*ing himself like I was, he was amazing as always.. Anyway it was all very quick & they got me in an assesment room & had a feel & listened to a nice strong heartbeat & told me the funny doof sounds were kicks, I was sobbing my eyes out by then after holding it together in the cab & the lovely midwife grabbed my hand & said 'Daddy come over here' where he was sitting in the chair head in hands and he grabbed my other hand & we just cried with relief, she said fundus was perfect for dates, but then obviously they needed to do an internal to see what caused the little bleed, a registrar under my consultant came in & they had to do a speculum thing, poor DH was a bit freaked as they used one with my 1st horrific mc, thats when they said about it being Cervical erosion, which is apparently when the cells grow differently and are inflammed, rough & red, (cue more freaking as had pre cancerous cells removed a few years ago) they assured me its pregnancy related triggered by hormone changes & can affect 1 in 5 pregnancies with no direct harm to baby. They said my cervix was closed & cervix was still nice & long about 4cm thank god. I did have a clear smear just before we fell preg so they said should be ok, but did say there was alot of discharge, which can be a symptom of cervical erosion, but could be just thrush, or an infection, so they took swabs to send to lab.. After the relief of heartbeat, this all freaked me out again, they did say that small bleeds (mainly just when wiping) are triggered by sex or a knock, or straining (lifting etc). DH & I were told to avoid sex for first 12 wks & didnt dare til about 16/17wks after cons convinced us it would be ok, even then, when we have done it (tmi but..) he doesnt go in all the way & pulls out at the crucial time . We did do it on sat morning though so they reckoned that could be it & told us to avoid it for about 3 weeks.. They said its like having a cut on your finger, it wont affect the baby, but obvioulsy its so close to that area so it will be a worry, due to history they could keep me in overnight for obs, but as so anxious maybe a good sleep in own bed would be better as in her words 'theres nothing we could do at 20 wks anyway' . As the panic filled my face she did reassure again that there was no sign of mc or threatened mc, but didnt need to hear that! They did say go home as only 10 mins away, stay in bed for a few days, take it very easy, dont go to work etc, call in or come back if bleeding gets worse.. All the while thankfully, baby has been fluttering away so although reassuring, Im also jumping a little as freaked & very conscious of any feelings in my tummy.. They also said that the speculum could cause more spotting & have felt a bit sore from it as well, so thats been wierd... We got home just after midnight & I must say they were brilliant & so reassuring to know they are on hand like that, however it has left me a freaked out vulnerable feeling mess..

Im back to doing everything in slow motion snails pace, Im scared to blow my nose/cough/poo for fear of straining. Im walking on tip toes, spent sat night scared to go loo for fear of what I may see.. All pinkish stuff now stopped but realised that this discharge is actually very thick & thrush like so am now worried about results of swabs (should be by tomorrow). Spent yesterday very teary & scared to move, DH as usual just wonderful, was gutted as was FIL & nieces birthday & was meant to on big family meal to TGI & couldnt go, MIL was understandably worried & cried on her shoulder when the popped in. My poor mum was worried for us but so glad my sis is still there (who's all matter of fact & oh you'll be fine, just doesnt get the trauma & 10 steps back feeling, which is what my mum & MIL are sad for me for, we know baby is ok & thanking god for it, but doesnt take away how bloody shook up its made me). Was enjoying being back at work, was meant to get hair done today, & not even sure if gonna go to Auntys funeral now as its 10am weds & about an hour away so an early start . TBH I just want to stay in bed til June, or at least til Im 24 28wks..

Anyway, sorry for the waffle, just needed to share.. Im now paranoid have sat upright for too long so going to lie down, I keep feeling all dizzy..

Ill catch up with you individually ASAP - love to everyone xxxxx

Also meant to say - first thing that came up on google for Cervical Erosion was an MN thread from 2006, good old MN.. Am gonna get signed off for next 2weeks as next tues is my scan & next thurs ante natal, so will get them out the way before I think about going back to work & hopefully build a little confidence back up

Bless DH just phoned from superdrug on his lunch, asking in a whispered voice which carefree liners I need.. I love him so much I could start crying, again...

Oh 4ever I just had to de-lurk and send you lots and lots of hugs. Such a stressful situation for you . However on a brighter note it sounds like LO is still totally safe and tucked up all warm and snug in there.

You need that cotton-wool suit back on, hope you can get some rest and some reassurance that this is all going to be well. Thinking of you.

4everweeble that sounds like an emotional rollercoaster but so glad the staff were nice and that you got to hear heartbeat and kicks.

The last thing you need right now is more stress isn't it? I hope you manage to chill out a bit - and 2 weeks signed off sounds good.

4ever you have just made me cry. The thought of you in the scan room & dh with head in hands followed by a massive rush of relief & followed again by uncertainty. Your baby is going to be absolutely fine, I'm so sure of it but now you have to take teeny tiny steps & take it easy for the sake of your sanity. I like the idea of you staying in bed until June. In our mothers age that what they used to do, my mum had to spend the last two months of her pregnancies with both of my sisters in bed in hospital due to high blood pressure/asthma.

Well I'm 2dpo & this morning had a tiny bit of blood in my cm. What is that all about??

4ever I have had to go and have a little cry cos you had been getting so brave and it was so lovely to see you all confident.
I wish we could have all rushed to the hospital to hold hands and mop faces, manly brows and make you both cups of tea oh and dry your duvet for when you staggered home.

We will get you through these weeks just like we have wobbled and weebled our way through these first 20.

Biggest gold tipped star for both of you. Love you heaps and just hang on xxxxx