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Ok, here we are, a new thread to see us into the next decade, and to celebrate more BFP's, growing bumps and new arrivals, and to enjoys those already here

Hi Moon dig in to the tea and toast and then have a huuuge Bailey's for me.

No hangover here - I abstained and went to bed instead - was feeling mega grotty and tired !

The more the merrier at the party though - same time, same place tonight ?

No change here - no AF, sore boobs, great cleavage, nausea, a small amount of brownish spotting. Not testing today. Have been distracting myself by getting addicted to Farmville on Facebook

Talking of Facebook - go look at Annie's pictures of Ellis - soooo beautiful, it made me cry

Good to hear from you Mermaid

Haven't left the house since getting home from work on Tuesday, so time to get out of PJ's , shower and investigate the fresh air, ice and snow drifts It is the first time in years I've been home on a Saturday and missed the gym - just too tired, cold lingering and too preoccupied with "what if" ....

See you all later

jools sounds like you need a good tonic of some sort. Your cold has been lingering around for blinking ages.

vjay not back yet

hope Vjay isn't buried in a snow drift...
I ventured out yesterday and it was so stressful navigating Cardiff's ice-rink pavements that I migh just stay put for the forseeable future!
Thanks for all your lovely words re scan.. monkey I think genetics does contribute to club foot yeah. My dh spent first 6 weeks of his life with both legs in plaster so didn't really want that for our lo!

4ever sorry to hear about all the job stresses...even if it is a 'good thing' to have that payoff etc it is still always stressful going through changes like that. Really keeping you in my thoughts and prayers for Sunday and Monday.

Neeko bless you having a little wobble at dd going to nursery... glad she seems to be enjoying it though

Jools very interesting update! As I know your af is always bang on time...hoping this ends in good news for you

Barbie I think you'll know when you see baby what he should be called (if it's a he) but actually I think Harry is my favourite from that list. (I probably said a different one last time you asked, haha!) Eek, your lift description made my stomach lurch..I hate going in lifts let alone the fastest one!!

mermaid more massive hugs for you. Glad you are feeling a calmness.

Hope you're all enjoying a lovely Saturday curled up nice and warm!

I'm here , it did snow last night I just hadn't realised when I looked out of the window this morning. On the way back from the shop I saw all his ginger cat hair and blood on the snow near our house, now my cat is the only ginger one around. I got home and checked him out and he seems ok, just a bit ruffled.

Hi girls,

Been offline for a couple of day while DH set up our new super fast PC . I was getting withdrawal symptoms!!

Have spent a good half hour catching up on everyone's news so here goes:

MLS - it is so so hard I'm feeling your pain . Last year I had two of the playgroup Mum's both due @ my first EDD (April) and watching their bumps grow just tortured me. I've also seen the other side as another playgroup Mum was due same tme as me this time and has had to watch my bump grown . I mentioned her before as she burst into tears after pg one morning and told me about her MMC... I know its been said before but its worth repeating, you have your DD, you can hold a baby to term, you fall pg very easily, it WILL happen, just believe and bd LOADS.

Monkey - so glad you gorgeous DS's op went OK and his speech has already picked up . It would have broken my heart watching him being taken away on the trolley - but you have to be strong for them don't you? Hope you're feeling better today and are more positivie about ttc...

Jools - as Buddha says it ain't over til the fat lady sings. Really admire your restraint in not testing. Its so bloody cruel that AF and BFP symptoms are the same.. Keep your positive head on, think how better you were feeling. We're all praying for a big fat P for you x

Barbie - Oliver would be my choice, its very traditional without being stuffy and classy too. It was on my shortlist! Don't like Milo or Hugo at all (sorry). Like Harry/Henry too. Saw your FB photos of the scary tall tower - yikes!

Mermaid - lovely to hear from you and that you've been ttc since 2005. I know its been mentioned before but could the fibroids be having an affect? You are so so stoic and I know you count your blessings to have your DS but if they could be contributing to your mc's then it could be worth looking into?

Neeko - how was your DD's first week at ante-pre? Its quite a moment when you see their wee tray with their name etc. All grown up It will be a good break for you when your o mat leave/first few months with new baby to have her away at nursery and good for her too as she isn't getting cabin fever as you feed DC2 for the upteenth time .

4ever - so glad your scan went well and excuse my manners as I fogrot to say how fantastic it is you're having a girl . Agree with LBM re: redundancy may just be the perfect option for you, especially if you weren't planning on going back - although don't tell them that!! Will be thinking about you on Monday, just take it slowly and enjoy the 'prengnant women alert' attention xx

LBM - love reading about how your DC's are spreading the word . How are you getting on with names?

Vjay - more snow here too! it was a bit warmer today as it was cloudy. I'm not leaving the house until it thaws! What delicacies has little Ajay been sampling this week?

Cupcake - so your scan went well. One of the things I'm looking forward to on this thread is helping the first time Mums when their lo's arrive as we old hands know it gets easier, what colic is like, how to swaddle them etc. etc. and I really hope we can help and give advice in the scary early days/weeks! you will be a fantastic Mum but understand how terrifying the thought of it can be.

Moon - so with you on the snow - just melt damn it!!! Sorry your meal was cancelled but its so the weather to be couried inside.

Gracie - lovely to hear your bf and his gf have come through the other side and have a lovely DS . Not long for you now!!

MM - if your lurking - Happy Birthday again!!

Buddha - big kisses to little Ewan xx And that goes for Ellis, Saara, Nieve Arlo and Alex xxx

Right, I'm knackered now, off back downstairs to kiss my boys xx

Hello ladies, hope everyone is having a good cosy weekend. As usual, I start posts but something happens to distract me and then by the time I get back to it, the threads moved along again! So take 65 or something!

jools how was your venture out? Sorry to hear about your BFN, but I'm crossing my fingers for you all the same

mls sorry to hear about the cp and then the low's of yesterday. Have a hairstroke from me and I hope you're feeling a bit better today - i missed quite a party yesterday!

monkey good to hear DS's operation went well. Have you got a lot of snow your way today?

cupcake sorry I didnt post in the week to wish you luck on your scan but good to hear it went well

iggy yay to your scan as well!

4ever also sorry its a bit late, but good to hear your scan went well and that you'll be having another scan again soon. Yay on another girl on this thread Talking of bra's I went to La Senza recently and asked if I could get measured, as I have no idea what my bra size is post-baby. I queued up like a good girl, only to be told by a manager (not the one who offered to measure me) that they dont actually do a fitting service during the sale period! I felt like shouting, I have a baby, my back's been really hurting me recently and I simply dont have time to just pop into shops to get myself measured at a time that suits them - but of course I didn't lol! I then went into Ann Summers who had no such policy! Also sorry to hear about work situation, but like others have said, it might be a good thing. I'm also waiting to hear this month whether my position will be made redundant. Again, not the best of timing, especially as DH is still only temping. Also as my company merged last year, I am still on the old company's maternity policy, which gave 18 weeks full pay, but the new company's policy gives 26 weeks full pay, which came out in November. So I'm waiting to hear from HR whether I can be transferred to the new policy. Btw at your manager - just remember to try to keep your stress levels low, remember what happened to me and my manager when I was pregnant, I totally broke down and was signed off work for 2 weeks as it just got so stressful for me.

moon congrats on your engagement!!

mermaid nice to hear from you. I know I've said this before, but you're so brave. Like moon said, I so wish there was something I could do to make it all better for you..

barbie saw the pics of the building on fb and can I also say I;m loving the pics of your bump on there too I also like Oliver and Harry.

neeko good to hear DD got on ok at nursery. I have wobble even now at the though of going back to work and leaving saara , even though its not for a while

lbm aw, your DC's sound so sweet, talking to the bump!

mrskate Nice to hear from you, you have been working way too hard! Hope you feel better soon

gracie You have been busy! Good news about your best friends baby. How is the DIY going? I also have a box of things from my mmc as memories - not that I think I will ever forget about it. We refer to my first pregnancy as bubba no1 and Saara is bubba no2.

mm I know ive posted on fb but happy birthday if you're lurking. Hope you're all nice and cosy and having lots of cuddles with nieve

curly where are you? Hope all is OK.

annie and blue loving the pics of your lo's on fb. Keep them coming

blue i'm glad you mentioned about providing advice to the first-time mums, and looking at the list of saggy-panters, I think i'm the only first-time mum so far. I wanted to ask all the mums on here, how they found their relationship with their DH/DP once their lo arrived and did they experience any problems? Since I came back home from my mums, at the start of Nov, I found DH and I bickering about silly little issues which came to head when he was at home over christmas with me ending up sleeping on the sofa I think that was a turning point for us though, and we seem to be getting along better now (touch wood!)

vjay I'll have to come to you for advice when I start weaning. I havent quite decided when we should start.

buddha and lionstar kisses to your lo's from me please! sabs waves to bakingqueen and gingermumi if you're lurking.

No doubt ive missed someone and also missed some major news please dont hold it against me! Also its taken me so long to write this, no doubt ive cross-posted wih someone as well.

Saara and I are starting a baby massage class on 20th Jan, which is a 4 week course, which should be interesting and it also gets us out of the house and a good place to meet new people. Hopefully the snow and ice will have melted by then!

I've also been working on the wii fit plus every day which arrived last week - love the rhythm boxing the best!

Love the talk about eastenders - I'm an addict lol! They're going to do a live episode in February to make 25th anniversary and that when they're going to reveal who did it. I thought it was Sam but not so sure now.

I hope she doesnt mind me providing an update, but I got talking to hoping last month on facebook and I updated here with whats going on. She was especially happy to hear about your good news 4ever I sent her the pic of saara in her hat and told her all the lovely comments about the hat. She's thinking of maybe coming back on here especially as she might be ttc again, I told her we would love to have her back.

phew what a post!

Hello Sabs - what a mega post

My venture out was short and sweet as I was worn out within minutes - slid along to M&S for food supplies and to change some Christmas PJ's that I love, but are a little big - bought some new ones and mentioned to the sales assistant that I really liked the top from the set I was returning. She said the whole set was £3 in the sale, so I bought it back (maybe they'll be maternity pj's someday)

Funny you mentioned Hoping -I was talking about cats on here the other day and remembered I think that she had a litter of kittens - set me wondering how she was ....

Good to see you too Blue We have a new laptop to set up, but I haven't got the energy to do it today!!

No change in symptoms / absence of AF

Hello lovely Sabs, the thing that is going on with you & dh is COMPLETELY normal let me assure you. Since having dd I've always said I don't understand people who say they are trying for a baby to help cement/repair their relationship because in my opinion when you have a baby exactly the opposite happens! A combination of extreme tiredness, conflicting expectations & short tempers can put a massive strain on even the strongest of relationships. I'm speaking from personal experience here as my dh was so lovely to me all through my pregnancy & suddenly when this little screaming bundle made our twosome a threesome the dynamics of our household changed overnight. I know that my dh found the fact that I was home all day with dd difficult to handle when he would have given his right arm to spend more time with her. There was also a power struggle going on (& still is!) & even now he says "You always think you know best when it comes to dd".... but yes I think I do because she is my job now! It will get better but you are like all of us in thinking that having a baby will make our lives a fluffy & glowy but when it happens it is bloody hard work & there are lots of tears - quite often ours!

As for 'Enders, what about Roxy???!

Jools don't M&S sell hpt's???

Thanks for the reassurance mls. DH and I have been married for over 5 years now, where we were able to go out when we wanted, where we wanted. Obviously I wouldnt change anything but I guess it does take time to make adjustments in our lives. I guess we need to make more couple time but I dont like to take advantage of my mum, sister and MIL too much. Plus I have issues with leaving her with my MIL, as the in-laws dont always do ask I ask when it comes to Saara, another issue which has caused arguments between DH and I. Again, is this normal or am I being overprotective?

What did you get up to today mls?

Hi to jools too. £3 for a whole pyjama's set - thats good! . I didnt buy myself anything at all in the sales - everything was for Saara. I got my credit card bill today not good, especially as we're meant to be on a budget

MLS-I completely forgot to get any today However, I did find a Tescos test in the back of the cupboard, along with a ClearBlue Digi, so I'll try one of those tomorrow if necessary

*Barbie - agree with most others on the names - Oliver, Harry or Henry for me - not keen on the others personally

Evening all, hope everyone ok and not snowed in. We took Oli sledging today, we managed to borrow one as you cant buy them for love nor money at the moment. We had a lot of fun even though i could only spectate as had Ellis in the sling, all cosy snuggled in.

Ive had a read through and catch up, but apologies if i miss anyone.

Sabs- I echo completely what MLSthewise says, having a baby puts a massive strain on the strongest of relationships, all completely normal, just remember to pull together and not apart.

Jools-Im still holding out hope for you this month, possibly a faulty hpt?? Thanks for lovely comment re recent photos of Ellis.
Have your cats been wanting to stay in more in this snowy weather? Mine go out for 10 mins max then are straight back in to find a cosy spot, my big tom cat likes to lie on the back of the tv.

MLS-Big hugs lovely lady, so sorry to hear you being so upset about your friends news about her pregnancy, but totally understandable.

barbie-Hope you enjoying the peace now that the family have left.
Re boys names-well Oliver is my favorite for obvious reasons, but like Harry as well.

cupcake-So happy for you that your scan went well

MrsKate-Sorry to hear you have been poorly, still, not long till maternity leave.

Gracie-Glad your bf and his gf have had their baby and seem to be working through their problems. Not long for you now, is that bag packed yet?

Neeko-Hope your DD settling well at nursery, i think it does them the world of good and really brings them on.

VJay-Hope you enjoyed your walk today, ive been walking everywhere as am so scared to drive in the snow.

Buddha-Hope you and Ewan are well, hows the sleeping going? My little monkey is still waking every 2 and half to 3hrs for food, im sooo tired, Oli was going 5-6 hrs at this age and sleeping 7-7 by 10 weeks.

MM-Hope you and Nieve are well. Happy birthday too! X

Blue-Hows the lovely Ben? Its fab having two boys isnt it?

4ever-Sorry to hear about the redundancy but sounds like you are in a win-win situation, redundancy package will beat stautory mat pay any day. Cant remember if ive congratulated you on finding out you are having a girl or not, if i havent please excuse my rudeness, it wasnt intentional, so pleased for you.

monkey-Glad your DS operation went well, bless him.

mermaid-Hello lovely, thinking of you.

Big waves to LBMLionCurlyMoonBQ hope i havent missed anyone out?

Sabs if you weren't overprotective there would be something wrong with you! Think of yourself as a lioness looking after your little cub, right now she is your number one priority & everything else naturally takes step back. I've had a great day thanks, dh has been unusually considerate & chilled-out & we have booked our holiday - two weeks in Florida in July!

Jools it sounds like you have a cupboard much like mine! Go with the Tesco test!

Annie congrats on such a long & coherent post for one as sleep depraved as you! Lovely image of you with Ellis all bundled up in his little sling in the snow.

Blue thanks for your faith in me. You all make me feel so positive & when you all keep telling me it's going to happen soon it really makes me believe it.

Hello lovelies. Sorry for not posting over the last few days. I finish up work next week and am desperately trying to finish stuff this weekend so that I can handover before then. I just wanted to let you know that I'm lurking and thinking of you all, especially our small panters.

jools moon mls and monkey I can only agree and say it is shite but please don't give up hope. You've all had a rubbish year, and January is depressing at the best of times. We will have a bfp, and a sticky one from all of you soon It will happen just hang in there xxx My curly prediction for the New Year is that we will have 3 more bfps before Barbie gracie and myself all pop so go ahead and dig into this tequila that's been lurking in my drinks cabinet since last year and get shagging girls

jools honey I am keeping everything crossed for you - desperately trying not to get excited xxx

mermaid my lovely it's great to see you posting and that you have found some calm in this storm though I welled up thinking of the blissful innocence of the mermaid on honeymoon It all seemed so easy then. I was the same a couple of years ago. But that was before your lovely DS too so I'm sure you wouldn't give the time in between back Hmmm probably none of that made any sense but here's a massive hug in case you need one anyway. I think about you all the time xxx

Anyway I need to get back to some work but will catch up properly very soon. Lots of love to our wonderful new mums and medium panters too

V quikc post as I've promised the dc's that I'll take them swimming today.

Sabs Overprotective not - doing what you want for for child yes.
It's very difficult with Saara being so small re the MIL situation ( doesn't have to be the MIL, could be any relative or friend) - now that mine are bigger, we have "grandma;'s house rules" and our rules. It was the same tbh when I was a kid - at Grandmas house, I'd get an orange with a sugar lump in to eat - life wouldn't have been worth living if I'd asked for that at home!
When mine were tiny, the main problem I had with my mil is that she has a keen advocate of letting them cry, even when days old ( despite never seeing her "babies " for about 2 weeks when they were born as that is what happened in hospital in those days). So, I'd get comments like "That babies getting spoilt already" etc. I dealt with that by claiming wind everytime I picked them up ( obviusly babies now me )
It was also funny when we did venture to the pub when dd was only a few days old - MIL insisted that we needed some time together, so we went. When we got back 2 hours later, MIL was in a bit of a state as DD hasn't stopped crying and she didn't know what to do!!
But as I said, Saara is so small that you probably just want to get her into your routine and so, if MIL won't play by your rules (and by that I mean does things that you are really uncomfortable with like trying to give her solid food or changing how you get her to sleep, or giving her a dummy when you don't want her to have one), then don't leave her in charge. To avoid arguements with your DH, this might mean that you can't leave your own mum in charge either but it is only for a few weeks ( hopefully!)
It could be worth leaving Saara with your mum, going out with DH and discussing with him why you don't want to leave Saara with his mum - if you discuss it calmly in a neutral place, he might just agree with you?
Good luck - these sort of things are never easy
BTW - as the others have said, it can take a while for DH to readjust. We went to visit friends for the weekend when DD was about 4 weeks old and my friend couldn't understand why DH wasn't doing more and asked him- his explaination was that it was the weekend and he needed a rest. Friend pointed out the obvious (ie where was my weekend) and from then on in, he's been fine! We do make the most of babysitters when we get them (which isn't often) - often I'd rather stay in, but we do go out as I know how much DH enjoys it.

Wow - that was more of a essay than I expected!
HI to everyone else

Looks like its is CD1 today

Had a big bleed this morning and (tmi I know) - was trapped on the loo for a while - a bleed of mc proportions and brought back some horrid memories

I was also dreaming of / reliving my mc's last night - first time since I've been on the antidepressants ...

Oh jools I am so sorry Is DP there to look after you? This is so unbelievably shit for you. I am sending you the most massive hug and some hairstrokes. I hope you are tucked up in bed or on the couch. I know there is nothing I can say to make you feel better but just try and get through the next few days and cry scream and shout all you need to and then we will come up with a PLAN. It will happen, and we'll be there as long as it takes but right now we need to look after you and get you through this horrible unfair time xxxx

Oh Jools I'm so sorry to hear you had to go through that It does sound like a cp doesn't it... Poor you. You've been through so much, I hope all this sh*t comes to an end soon and that things start looking up. God knows you deserve it x

jools I've just got a text from mrskate to say that she's in work so can't post but that she wanted to send you a big hug in the meantime. Hope you are okay honey. You are strong and you've done brilliantly in the last few months so just hang in there and you will come through this xxxx

jools so sorry af is here and a bad one to boot . Stay strong

mls like the sound of your holiday, I think you'll be flying out to Florida with a bump

sabs all normal re your relationship. Me and dh were like that 1st time round, this time round has been a lot different but that's because it's not been a big shock we know what an upheval (sp?) it is. As for weaning I know I've started early at 4 months rather than 6 but Ajay was so hungry and now he's a lot happier and more settled during the day. He's asleep right now I've only being giving him a lttle puree or rice at lunch times (sweet potato today and he loved it), and my Anabel Carmel bible suggests to start breakfasts too now but he's happy enough so am going to leave him on just lunches for now. First time round, like blue, I did it all to the book, this time I'm far more relaxed about it all .

annie I don't want to drive in the snow either but ds1 is back to school tomorrow so must dig the car out.

Big waves to you all and happy birthday mm and to barbie tomorrow, the big 30

Jools so for you. It sounds like exactly the same has happened to you as happened to me last cycle. I had loads of symptoms then a bfp which gradually got lighter - my boobs still hurt even when af was here & yes I had the mother of all af's too. Very gushy & clotty & it made me think 'this is like a mc'. Why don't you start taking aspirin now? If problems implanting are the cause of our cp's then maybe aspirin is the solution??

Vjay yes in my fantasy in my head I AM flying out to Florida with a bump!

Thanks everyone

I'm not doing too badly - once I got that BFN, I was pretty sure that, although something was happening, it probably wouldn't be viable - was prepared for this and just relieved the waiting is over I think

DP has gone out for chocolate whilst I wash the bedding, bathroom floor, the cat [oops]

Hopefully the extreme tiredness will go now (still have excruciatingly sore boobs) and I can finally get over this cold, back to the ygym and back to normality

Just a quick post from my phone to let jools know i'm thinking of her i'm so sorry hun. Here's my hand to hold too. This phone is rubbish for posting so will try to get on the laptop later on