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Two week wait madness!

81 replies

Maybebaby76 · 06/08/2009 14:38

I know all we can do is wait but isn't it just the hardest thing!!!

We have been ttc for 18 months, in that time we've had 2 mc and an ectopic, so I know we can do the first bit!

Just finding it realy hard to be patient and wait for that ever hopeful BFP (even though that in intself will bring a whole new load of worries with it)!!

Just wanting to rant and to see if anybody else is going through the same thing right now??

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paddington21 · 10/08/2009 19:50

hi all do you mind if i hop on? am due in next couple of days and feel well fine physically. mentally however am dying to know if i am! Though have not got hopes up too many cycles of convincing myself i am.

anybody got any good news?

am also quite jealous a girl i went to college with announced her new arrival today!

crackpotdog · 10/08/2009 21:19

Can i hop on??
ttc number2 on day 22 today, not really spotted any symptoms?
usually approx 28day cycle, but last month only 26, then month previous had BFP from day 25 to 32 (kept testing!!) but effin AF arrived late day 32!! MARE!!
Waiting to hear every1's news......

Lulubee · 10/08/2009 22:01

I'm joining in too please - due on in the next day or so, going to test in the morning if no AF I think.. although maybe not... feel normal, so convinced that I'm not pg, but a little voice in my head keeps saying but WHAT IF...?

LeeWT · 10/08/2009 22:05

hi girls hope its ok to post here, i got bfp last week but before that had the most obsessive 2ww ever!!

here's what i learned:
-ebay cheapy dip tests are very accurate
-ebay cheapy midstream tests are crap and even when i was getting strong bfp on clearblue etc they were still very faint..
-first response and clearblue early indicators are good (albeit faint early on) but even at that, i was getting BFN 3-4 days before AF as i implanted quite late (got bad cramps but af never showed up) so you can only lose hope once your af due date has been and gone!
-boots tests are one of the least sensitive (50 miu as opposed to 25miu)

hope that helps a little - i know i was haunting mn and couldnt sleep for thinking about it. am still lurking on conception boards as recently had mmc and am bit skeptical..

wishing the best for you all..

Meita · 11/08/2009 09:48

Hello to all you newbies! :-)

Thanks LeeWT for sharing your valuable experience! Fingers crossed for you, I hope all goes well this time.

I cracked and tested today (AF is due sometime between tomorrow and Friday) - sadly, all I got was a BFN. And that was ClearBlue, so not much scope for error. But then, my temp-chart is looking better and better, so I have resolved to not give up hope until AF arrives.

I hope everyone else will have better news!

zayja · 11/08/2009 15:33

Hey scarlett, lol about your "secret vice" under the bed.
I've POAS Sat, yesterday and this morn and got BFNs Oh well, AF isn't really due 'til Th or Fri but I get so impatient!

Maybebaby76 · 11/08/2009 18:34

Still no sign of AF but another BFN today, grrr

Think I will reside myself to what I suspect.

Sending lots of positives your way though!

Oh, for you OCP's (obsessive compulsive pee on stickers), may I recommend pregnancy tests from ebay...picked up a bundle of 10 for £2.50, marvellous!

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WorrisomeHeart · 11/08/2009 19:27

This thread is getting nice and busy now!

Well I have managed to keep my resolve about not testing until Sat am.. but I am now basically telling myself that the test will be to 'confirm what I know already' ie that it will be a BFP! Crazy I know, but this month has been completely different to normal - I've been peeing twice at least during the night, have major hunger pangs, boobs are mega tender and were actually throbbing yesterday and I've had nausea for the last three days too. Am really excited and worried all at the same time. AF due today but temp shot up even higher this morning, so don't think she'll be turning up! Hope this isn't just my body playing the worst practical joke imaginable on me... Good luck everyone!

paddington21 · 11/08/2009 19:49

hi all, im rather enjoying reading all these bargain tips. will be popping on to ebay shortly.
a rather odd and perhaps dumb question how high should your temp be if your pregnant? im going to starting temping this month and not sure whats normal, good, bad.

hope everyone is ok.

congrats to leeWT and good luck to worrisomeHeart and anyone else testing.
I am holding off til the latest ive ever come on had couple of twinges in the last 24/48 hours so not getting my hopes up.

x

Lulubee · 11/08/2009 19:56

Ok, still no AF, got bad cramps though and I never get cramps... either this is going to be the AF to end all AFs or its implantation... what do we reckon? Tested this morning and it's a BFN, but am not giving up hope just yet... feeling tired, and ravenous almost all the time...

Lulubee · 11/08/2009 19:57

LeeWt, the ebay cheapy dip tests - do they have a brand name? Want to do a search for them... thanks

crackpotdog · 11/08/2009 20:33

any1 able to point us in the direction of the cheapy tests on ebay - ta!!

WorrisomeHeart · 11/08/2009 21:03

Paddington - this was only my 2nd month temping and I honestly believe that if I hadn't then I would have spent months missing the egg as I seem to have a delayed thermal shift. You should hunt out a book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler, it's brilliant, explains everything about temping and what it means. I also find Fertility Friend a great website to run my chart on.. although the Early Pregnancy Indicator is a nasty thing - at the moment it's telling me I've got 96 points!!

WorrisomeHeart · 11/08/2009 21:04

Meant to say - Lulubee it's sounding promising!

Meita · 11/08/2009 21:21

Paddington, there is no "absolute" value. It just needs to be higher than it is pre-ovulation. But some people have generally low temps, say 36.2 pre-ov. and then post-ov. they go to 36.5; others start at 36.5 pre-ov. and go to 36.9 post-ov. IYSWIM. Usually post-ov it at least .2 higher than pre-ov but that's no fixed rule, and sometimes it's much higher.

What worrisome is talking about is a further temperature surge at about the time when AF would have been due, which is very common for pg women.

Thing is, as far as I understood: The remains of your follicular body, from which the egg emerged, produce this hormone which makes your temp go up - which is why temp usually rises shortly after ovulating. It keeps producing this hormone until the remains are all used up. If by this time the egg has reached the womb and has managed to implant, the womb takes over and produces this hormone all by itself, thus keeping the temp high and sometimes sending it even higher than it was already. If however the egg does not manage to implant, for example if it was not fertilised, then the hormone simply runs out, and temps go back to the lower level, usually around the time when AF arrives.

Last cycle, my temp also surged upwards, two days before AF was due - I tested immediately and sure enough, got a BFP! Unfortunatly I MCd a week later. This cycle, my temp is also going upwards, but HPT gave me BFN. So I'm expecting it to drop soon - if it stays high or goes even higher, I most certainly will test again!

Sorry for the monster-long post...

Meita · 11/08/2009 21:25

oh and worrisome, I would feel the same way you do - with all those symptoms, particularly the temp which can't be imagined, I'd be quite certain! And I for one would NOT wait for Saturday when AF was due today... any particular reason why you're waiting?

Elle01 · 11/08/2009 21:25

Hi guys just came this thread and it has been a huge relief ! Have been ttc for 13 months and have been finding the tww torture - thought I was the only one plotting and scheming about testing ! Sorry we are all going through this - but at least now I know it's not just me

WorrisomeHeart · 11/08/2009 21:34

Thanks Meita - it's nice to know I'm not going completely bonkers!! The temp surge this morning was a particularly good sign I thought, it's now looking very triphasic on my chart yay!!
Basically we're waiting until Sat because I have had erratic cycles with the longest being 29 days (which is Thurs this week) and got my hopes up which AF has cruelly dashed! However, as I said, this is only the 2nd cycle I've temped on, and I'm sure that if I'd been temping on the other, longer cycles then I would have been expecting Af and not got excited.. if that makes any sense?! Anyway, I decided that I would wait a good couple of days after the very latest that AF could show before I tested. I just want to make sure it's a definite 'late' month...

Welcome Elle01!

Scarlett175 · 12/08/2009 03:02

Hi all

well despite my early testing and BFN no AF yet or PMT-ish symptoms so I am trying to still be hopeful.... I am due Thursday like you Zayja so fingers crossed for us both...

I feel really fed up as realised my next fertile window is while I am in Germany with work.... sucks

x x x x

Meita · 12/08/2009 09:31

Hi Elle glad you found your way here! I hope it all works out for you soon. 13 months is a long time. Have you had any check-ups to establish any possible causes? You know, about 80% of couples who are TTC get pg within a year. That means it is possible that nothing at all is wrong with you but that you're just one of those 20% - that's one in five! - unlucky ones. But on the other hand, specialists do recommend that after one year of TTC without success, you go have some checks. Anyway, perhaps you will collect some baby-dust on this thread

worrisome ah, I can understand that! At first we're all so carefree and enjoy the TTC experience, but then after disappointment on disappointment, don't we just turn more wary and worried.
Well here's to a positive test on Saturday!
I'm at a different stage at the moment - I'm all in the "testing early" phase. Because after several cycles of TTC without success, I started being paranoid about the idea that perhaps I actually was PG once, but never knew, because I just had a very early MC and mistook it for AF. IYSWIM. So when I did feel pg and temp was looking good, I tested immediately! (It was indeed BFP - but sadly, I indeed then did have an early MC - not quite as early as I had been imagining though... So here I am again :-( )

Scarlett that makes three of us - we'll know soon enough! Buggers about being away for your fertile window. Can't you take DH/DP with you?

Maybebaby76 · 12/08/2009 13:43

For those looking for cheap tests, I just typed in 'pregnancy tests' onto ebay and came across the sticks that you dip.

They have worked for me in the past (but sadly a BFP that ended with an ectopic).

Good luck to you all...AF is most certainly on her way for me now, grrr!

Hopefully, I won't see any of you next month (in the nicest possible way...BFP's for everyone)

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Spirael · 12/08/2009 14:50

Thanks for all the temperature information, everyone. It's been helpful for me too, in understanding what's going on with my body! I'm currently testing my temperature every morning and I'm apparently one of the cold blooded people as I started at 36.2 at the beginning of the cycle!

It jumped to 36.5 at around day 10, then dropped again a couple of days later, then jumped back up to 36.6. I think the two higher results might have been due to it being a weekend and me taking my temperature a touch later than normal, so I think the jump to 36.6 was actually me ovulating on day 14...bang on schedule!

Since then, it's slowly been creeping up and I've been at 36.8 for the last two days! I'm assuming this is a good sign, and that I'm hoping it stays up and doesn't start to drop??

Still symptom spotting here. I'm half convinced that my sense of smell is more sensitive than usual and I'm suspicious about some emotional swings I've experienced the last few days. I'm used to randomly crying over nothing (though it's very annoying!) on the day before AF is due, but she's not due until next week...

zayja · 12/08/2009 14:58

BFN this morn' (I POAS everyday)

Meita · 12/08/2009 17:26

Ladieeees, have I posted on here yet today? Oh. Yes indeed. Oh well, cannot hurt to post again...

Maybebaby if you were born in the year I'm thinking you were, we're of the same age! If AF arrives at my place soon, I'll definitely be looking out for cheepo tests on ebay next cycle, so thanks for your pointers. So far I just couldn't be bothered and picked up tests at Boots on my way home. But I've been very good, overall - TTC since February and only used up 6 tests in total so far... and one of those was to confirm an earlier BFP, and another was to confirm hormones had gone back to normal after MC, so actually it's only 4 that count - not bad, eh?
I'm really sorry that AF is catching up with you - I thought you might be able to outrun her... Take care and don't let it get you down - it's also a new beginning!

Spirael I agree with your interpretation of your temp chart! Yes, just keep it up there and you'll know before testing what the result is I've been meaning to symptom spot too, but unfortunately I'm totally devoid of symptoms to spot! Apart from being emotional but that's more likely got to do with the MC and the 2WW madness.

Zayja sorry to hear about that - I'm just about at the same place. But a BFN is not AF. For me, it's only AF that counts, and BFPs of course

paddington21 · 12/08/2009 18:28

hi all, thank you for all your great advice and support and ive only been on this thread what a day?? am not testing until the absolute latest i can possibly hang on for/dp can only badger me for so long.

thank you meita for your temping advice.

sorry cant stop long dinner is on the boil and my eyes are slowly starting to close with exhaustion!

hope and dust good luck to the testers xx