Original first time frolickers - Dawn, Summer, MAF, Crunchynutter, Pistachio....

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Flirty ... I could go on for ages you knoe who you all are.

I have been off line for a little bit and I seem to have lost you I miss you all we seem to have been through so much together.

Pop in, say hi and let me know how you all are!!!!

Hi all!
Hope you have got the three lines by now Pistach!
How is everybody? I am feeling the strain of working... Ended up in hospital yesterday after a suspected leakage of amniotic fluid. Not sure yet, although I have a slight suspicion my bladder is not what it was and am slightly scared it may have been that . Anyway, all is OK now, it seems, although yesterday was not v nice.
Am off work until Monday, when the hospital should be able to tell me the source of the leak!

Hey Ladies

Just wanted to say a quick hello

PL the first month i used the CB monitor i had about 8 high days before i got a peak and then after that never got a high just straight to Peak so hang on in there and fingers crossed for that egg

Eth get lots of rest and good luck for monday

Hi girls

Hope you?re all well. It?s been quiet on here, hasn?t it?

Pistachio are you definitely out for this month? Keep us posted!

Eth I am due 19th October so pretty much exactly a month apart! Re: boys names, some of our favourites are Adam, Daniel, Harry, James, Lewis, Nicholas. Not sure if you like any of these or whether they go with your surname? Sorry you had a scare yesterday ? glad to hear all appears to be OK though. Let us know when you?ve had the results from the hospital. You take it easy over the next few days. Is there any chance you could start your mat leave a bit earlier than you?d planned to?

Dawn have you had a date through for Ellie?s appointment with the consultant yet? How is Ellie? I bet she?s grown loads!!

Hever I hope Chloe isn?t suffering too badly with her teething, poor little thing!

How are you and your bean MAF? What?s your EDD? I might start a new list!

I finished work 2 weeks ago (at around 35 weeks) and I?m glad I finished when I did. I?m feeling increasingly uncomfortable and sleeping really badly by now ? good practice for when the baby arrives! The baby has been breech for the last couple of months and I?m off for a scan this afternoon at the hospital to confirm whether or not the baby is still breech or has turned at the last minute! At least we?ll know by the end of today whether I?m going to be midwife-led or consultant-led. I?m keeping everything crossed that the baby has turned!

Apart from that we?ve been busy finishing off the work in the nursery and the house more generally, and I?m planning on packing my hospital bag this weekend. (I?ll be 37 weeks on Monday). Three of my friends from parenting classes have already had their babies; 2 girls and a boy so far! Another friend was induced last night so there?ll be more baby news soon!

Big hellos to everyone else, and big hugs to you all xxxxxxx

Hello all!!

Sorry I haven't been on for a while, been having a tough time with Ellie unfortunately... As a baby, she's perfect, she sleeps for 12 hours a night, uninterrupted but she's not been well and I'm frantic with worry if I'm honest...

You may remember that I mentioned some time ago that we noticed that her tongue didn't look good, from about a week old. Well after misdiagnosis before 8 weeks, it was finally diagnosed as thrush at 8 weeks and treated. Unfortuantely it didn't work and we were given different medication. It finally worked, but it meant that poor Ellie was having to get used to her tongue feeling completely different and her milk tasting strange. So she stopped feeding as much and would just play with her feed.

The last time we got her weighed, she'd dropped to the 9th centile from the 25th and that was 2 weeks ago. They wanted to weigh her again after a month (so in two weeks time) and the GP saw her yesterday and said that she looked really well.

But DH made a boob last night and decided to weigh her ourselves. We were so shocked as our scales said that she was 9lb!! Which was the weight she was at 5 weeks and she's 16 weeks on Monday!!!

I've cried bucket loads since last night and finally went to see DH's Stepmum today who is a nurse. She said that Ellie looks absolutely fine, is happy, smiley, developing really well, alert, having loads of dirty and wet nappies and looks very healthy. So that's made me feel better but I'm still terrified that when they weigh her in two weeks, she's still going to be way way underweight. DH's StepMum did warn me that if they decide to refer her to a paediatrician, they will investigate her homelife. Obviously we and all our friends and family know there's no problem here, so we shouldn't worry, but it's horrible to think that someone may look at you like that...

But hopefully they'll see how happy she is and take all that into account. She's feeding much better now as we've got different bottles and teats that she can't play with in her mouth as much so I'm hoping that she'll improve before her next weigh-in.

Sorry to be me me me, but I've been frantic and the last 24 hours as been horrendous!!

Bubba, How are you hun and how did the scan go? I hope that the little monkey has moved for you (assuming that's what you want!!) Ellie's appointment is on the 5th October, just something else to stress about!!

Eth, hope you're feeling Ok now hun. Keep doing your Pelvic Floor Exercises and you'll be fine!!

Pistachio, any news from you hun? Definitely out or still a possibility? Just following on from MAF's situation, I never got a positive OV and still conceived Ellie!!

MAF, how are you doing hun? Hope your PG is going well and you're feeling Ok!!

xxx

Oh Dawn, I'm so so sorry you've been having such a hard time of it, I really really feel for you. I know you know this already but I'm absolutely sure the doctor (and a paediatrician she might be referred to) will recognise straight away that she's a happy, healthy baby and that you're doing everything right. My father-in-law is a retired paediatrician and he has advised a lot of my friends over the past few years for similar problems to you. He always says something similar to what your DHs stepmum said to you... as long as you're getting dirty and wet nappies, and as long as the baby is contented and happy don't worry too much. Easier said than done, I know.

And you never know, now that you've sorted out the thrush and Ellie is on different bottles and teats she may start putting weight on again quickly. Huge hugs.

Thanks everyone for asking about me, well I got lots and lots of two bar days on the CBFM but by CD26 I just gave up peeing on sticks (those sticks are soooo expensive!) and taking my temps so I think I'm definitely out. CD31 today (I think) and I'm feeling a little bloated so I reckon my period will come in the next day or two.

DH is going for his re-scheduled sperm test on Wednesday and then once my period arrives, we're going to go with every three days for the rest of the month. A friend said she'd had a lot of trouble conceiving and that the fertility specialist said not to trust your cycle, even if you are temping and using OV sticks. Just have sex every three days throughout the entire cycle and at some point you'll get pregnant... and she did after three years of trying! So that's the plan for now.

Oh Dawn I feel for you I really do!!! It is a horrible feeling when everytime you go to the clinic you realise that your little one STILL isnt putting on the right ammount of weight! Up until around 16 weeks every time I went to get Chloe weighed she would be on a lower centile line. I ended up feeling sick when I went I even had to take my mum with me once. There was no good reason for chloe's slow weight gain and I felt like I was force feeding her. It has now settled out and she is now sticking to one centile line (Well the same line the last 3 times I went so lets hope that continues).

Ellie has a good reason for not putting on weight. That reason has now been sorted so there is no reason to think it wont get better. Remember your scales are not even close to the same accuracy as the ones they use to weigh babies so there is a good chance there is a good variation.

I hate those clinics! You wake up in the morning feeling like the best mum in the world and by the time you leave you feel like the worst! (Must remember bad mums dont get their DCs weighed obsessively regularly)
How is everyone else - ETH oohhh its THE month now so excited for you!

Hi all!

Oh Dawn, I am so sorry, you must be in a right state. I am sure though, as everyone else has said, that she will be absolutely FINE, especially now the cause of her initial problem has been resolved. When is your next visit for her to be weighed? My friend's little boy, who is 11 months, is in the bottom 2 percentile but is absolutely fine - happy and healthy, just relatively small. I hope you're feeling better in yourself though, and managing to stay calm.

Heverhoney how are you and how is Chloe?

Well, I am nearly 34 weeks now.... Getting a bit scared. Am trying hypnobirthing every night, but to be honest, the thought of the birth makes me nearly cry! I really can't think of the baby/time afterwards because I still can't imagine actually getting through the birth... Hmmmm!!

BubbaP not long for you now, eeeek! Are you all ready?

PL I hope your DH's test goes well on Wednesday. Are you having any blood tests taken at the same time?

Hi all,

Eth, please try not to worry about the birth (easy for me to say I know, I've already been through mine!!). It is really really hard at the time and if you ever read my birth story (probably not a good idea right now... ), you will think that I would never get over it. But now, when I look at Ellie, I know that ALL of it was worth it. I actually wasn't at all worried about it before hand, so was probably a bit blase (sp?), because you're imagining the worst, it won't be as bad as you're thinking. Sorry if that really doesn't help and is just complete drival!! I can't believe you're nearly there, how fab!!!

Hever, how's Chloe doing? I hope that she's thriving. Thanks for your comments about Chloe. It does make you feel crap doesn't it? I've got an appointment next Tuesday with a really nice HV who is going to go through all Ellie's measurements and spend some time with her to see how happy and healthy she is. She's such a happy baby and the woman told me on the phone today that generally, happy and healthy don't go hand in hand with babies that aren't thriving, so she's convinced that she's absolutely fine.

Pistachio, hey hun, how are you? Any news for us? How did your DH's test go? I hope things are Ok with you...

So, Ellie is still up and down with her feeding, although I'm now trying 4 hourly feeds instead of 3 hourly as she just doesn't seem interested. Tried it tonight and because I made her wait longer, she took her whole feed at bedtime and within 30 mins aswell which is unheard of.

She's got her first session with the CM tomorrow , but it does mean that I can go shopping and do some housework and it'll keep my mind off of it hopefully.

Also went to the hospital today about her eye. They think that she is coping with her eyelid problem really well so they don't want to do anything until she's a bit older. They will monitor her every 4 months and have agreed to do an operation to lift the eyelid before she starts school. The downside of the op though, is that it might mean that she may not be able to fully shut the eye to go to sleep!! Poor little cherub, if it's not one thing it's another!!

Anyway, we'll see what happens.

I hope that everyone else is Ok!!

xxx

Hi guys, thanks so much for asking about DHs tests. I'm afraid it's not particularly good news. The volume was less than 50% of what it should have been and the mobility wasn't very good either. We have to wait until this Friday to hear about the quality but I'm not particularly hopeful to be honest.

They haven't done any tests on me yet because I've only just turned 34 and so they won't test me until we've been trying for 12 full months (end of December) or I turn 35!

They agreed to test DH early only because (a) he's 41 and (b) he had an operation for a tortion on his testicles when he was in his early 20s (it's when the testicle twists round and cuts off the blood supply - painful to say the least apparently). At that time the surgeons told him that they'd caught it in time and that it should cause no lasting damage, and even if there was damage the other testicle would make up for it. Unfortunately it looks like they're wrong.

We'll probably see our doctor again on Friday but as he's already started talking about IVF etc it doesn't look good.

Bit depressing really.

oh Lemon I've been wandering where everyone got to the last month!

I am so sorry to hear your news have you been able to talk to anyone about it? Good that there looking at ivf though now rather than making you both wait a year or so.

I dont know what to say to make you feel better sweet!

take care xx

Oh Pistachio, I'm so sorry that the news isn't good hun... But don't lose hope yet.

It's a shame you were so honest with your GP really... Some people say that they've been trying for a year, even if they haven't.

Remember though hun that you only need one little critter to get through for you to have a baby, so don't lose hope. Keep on BDing at the right time and it could just happen. Keeping everything crossed for you anyway hun...

Iate, I wondered where you'd gone. How are you?

xxx

Dawn im very well thanks! Been around but no one else was!

All is great thanks hows everything with you? x

Hi girls

Dawn sorry to hear you?ve been having a hard time with Ellie?s feeding, but glad to hear that the underlying issue has now been resolved. It must be such a strain. I hope your visit from the HV goes well next week ? let us know. Hope all?s going well with the CM this week. Glad the eye appointment went well and it?s great that they?re happy with her progress but will also be monitoring her so frequently.

Pistachio sorry to hear about the test results, let us know how it goes if you see the Doc again tomorrow. I?m sure there must be loads of threads on MN that you can join that would give you a lot more hope. I?m keeping my fingers crossed for you, lovely.

Hever hope you and Chloe are doing well. Is she still suffering with teething?

Eth not long for you now either! What have you got left to do and when do you finish work?

Good to see you IATE, what?s your news? Are you TTCing or PG?!

Well our main news is that I was referred for a presentation scan at 36 +4 which confirmed that the baby had turned from breech to cephalic! Phew! So we?re back on track to have the baby in the midwifery led unit at the hospital. I?m considering a water birth depending on how everything goes.

My hands and feet have been quite swollen over the last couple of weeks and I had raised blood pressure earlier this week, but that seems to have come down again now. I had visions of being sent into hospital to be monitored, so I?m glad I?ve avoided that (for now, anyway!).

I?m 38 +3 today, so just playing the waiting game now! All of the friends we made at parenting classes have had their babies ? 5 girls and 1 boy! And both my colleagues have also had their babies ? 1 girl and 1 boy. A couple more of my friends are also due this month, so I?m just constantly checking my mobile!

I just can?t believe how quickly the time goes and that it?ll be my time to meet my baby very soon! I?m dreading the birth, but trying to focus on the end result!

I?ll let you know as soon as there?s any news.

Big hugs to you all xxxxxxxx

BUMP

I know, being past that point now, telling you guys not to worry about the birth seems a little stupid. Neither Dawn or I had the best birth experience in the world so:

1. Odds are that you guys will have plain sailing births! we cant all have it go a bit wrong on this thread!

2. We can both say with honest conviction that: You WILL get through it and that the baby is SOOOOOO worth it!

Thanks Hever. I've been really good up until yesterday, but had a marathon session with the midwife to discuss our birth plan and all possible eventualities and I just felt totally emotionally drained by the end of it.

None of the friends we've made through parenting classes have had straightforward births either, or certainly not the births they'd planned, so am really hoping ours goes smoothly. Fingers crossed.

38+6 today and the messages from people checking if there's any news yet are pretty constant!

Hope everyone's well? Big hugs to our TTCers, those with bumps and those with babbas! xxxxxxx

Hey all,

Sorry Bubbap, I'm sure that I'd posted back to you, in fact I'd definitely written my response in my head, obviously didn't make it to the keyboard!! But I totally second Hever's post, in particular part 2. Ellie is worth it and believe it or not, I know now that I would like to have another baby. I definitely wouldn't have said that before so you do absolutely get over it!! But because of all the horror stories you have heard, yours will undoubtedly go smoothly, so please don't panic. Just don't be a martyr, if you're in pain, let them help you with whatever you need. Don't feel like you have to do it without anything, because you don't have to. Great if you can of course!!

My situation was different because I had to be induced because of the diabetes, so they recommend painrelief because induction means that things happen much quicker and stronger!! But just go with your heart at the time and your LO will be worth it.

Hever, hey hun, how are you doing at the moment? How's little Chloe?

Big waves and kisses to all!!

xxx

oh dear ladies!!! I go away for a few sayys thinking I have left the thread in your capable hands and you all dissapear on me!

DAWN - How is Ellie?

Any other news on here? How ya doing pistachio?

So who's next to pop?

I'm 23 weeks now. Woohoo and she's moving about

ah Maf you are coming up to the loveliest stage! You can feel them moving, they are potentially viable so the worry starts to decrease, you are not too worried about the birth or too huge to move and people are starting to be able to tell that its def a baby in there. I am sooo pleased for you xxxxx

Hi girls

I'm still here and haven't popped yet! Today's my EDD so am going out for a couple of hours later to distract myself!!!!

Hope you're all well. Great to hear from you Dawn, Hever and MAF. Are you all OK? Hope Chloe and Ellie are doing well too.

Is there anyone else out there???

Big hugs - will let you know when we've got any news xxxxxxxxxx

BubbaP (40 wks today!)

WOOHOO Bubba Will be thinking of you today. Cant believe you are 40 weeks, where does the time go. Good luck lady xxx

Thanks MAF!!! Just come home now after a couple of hours out of the house. No sign of anything happening here! So how are you doing? xxxx

Ooooh Bubbap, good luck honey!! I never got to your stage but I'm sure you're desperate to meet your LO now!! I really hope that something happens soon, the waiting is horrible!! Good luck again!! xx

Hever, Ellie still causing me grief with her feeds, but I started back at work today so it's a bit easier to let go and let someone else worry about getting her bottles down her. It's actually quite a relief!

MAF, ahhh how lovely that you're feeling your little girl move about - that's such a lovely feeling!!

So, we've had a traumatic start to the week. Our gorgeous Bengal cat, Lana, collapsed last night with no warning. We called the vet at about 10pm and she came straight out. She was concerned about her chest and we had to take her to the local surgery.

DH got a call this morning to say that she'd died in the night. She was only 6 years old and DH's first little girl. We are both absolutely devestated and it's been really hard to concentrate. Tilly, our labrador, has been wandering around looking lost all day. I've got Lana's picture printed on my mouse-mat so she's close to me. But it's still so sad.

xxx