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Conception

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anyone else ttc baby 3?

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chosenone · 05/07/2009 21:16

If yes please join me?? I feel like a rollercoaster, one minute obsessed with an imaginary 3rd, one minute not sure as we're happy with 2??? Im approaching OV now and waiting for some OPK's I know we really want another (ok me really DH has been persuaded) but Im finding it scary. TTC baby 1 was exciting and depressing in equal measure baby 2 happened as soon as we tried and was a shock! This one has been 'ummed' and 'ahhed' over more than anything! Anyone get me?

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Kaylo · 23/07/2009 09:13

Hi mampam

I had ny 2 dc's at a similar age to you, dd when I'd just turned turned 20 and ds when I was 21 - close I know and bloody hard!!

Hence waiting till now to suggest a 3rd - ds is 3 and not in need of a pushchair - the double buggy was the hardest part for me, you cn't get anywhere with them!!

Although this will be my last pg - dh's conditions and he made it very clear he's getting fixed after. much to my [anger])
With this in mind I'm secretly hoping for twins and will risk the double buggy again to complete my family - practically impossible I know as we only have a few sets of twins the family but relatives so distant we barely know them. Tho closest is my cousing who had boy/girl twins.

Anyhow I've waffled for long enough...hope everyone is ok x

MrsDmamee · 26/07/2009 14:46

DH and I put all our ds's baby stuff, cot baby toys..etc into attic yesterday in the hopes he will forget about it all when #3 arrives and not get jealous that the new baby has all his stuff!!
He is only 3 but will be starting playschool soon so fingers crossed he will be ok with baby#3

ReneRusso · 31/07/2009 16:57

Well this thread did the trick for me. I posted on here for the first time last week and this week discovered I am pregnant! It was my 8th month trying. Wish you all lots of success with TTC #3.

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chosenone · 31/07/2009 21:25

WOW rene thats amazing news loads of luck with your pregnancy hope you feel ok

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CloudDragon · 02/08/2009 20:52

well done Rene!

Can I join in. I am trying ttc no.3.

DS1 is 3 and DS2 is 2.

Dh is a bit reluctant (he also has a 13 year old) but getting into the ttc bit!

I keep thinking I am a bit mad, not helped by the fact that my mum is really negative when ever I mention a third. She's upset me so much about it that I'm actually worried a bout telling her if I ever do I get pregnant.

Has anyone else had negative reactions about No.3?

tobago04 · 02/08/2009 21:44

Hi clouddragon,i know what you mean,i'll feel like a naughty child when/if i have to tell my parents,although my mum said they thought about a third so hopefully they would'nt be too negative.
Feeling a bit confused,only second month of trying but one minute i'm really excited and the next i think we are mad
Just come back from staying with friends and my youngest was a nightmare,everyone kind of said i'm too soft and need to nip it in the bud before she runs the house
Now i'm just questioning my parenting skills and whether my children are naughty or just being kids,i'm just so confused,it's so hard deciding whether to go for no.3

cloudydaze · 03/08/2009 08:00

Hi clouddragon, yep, both my mum & MIL are really anti us having a 3rd, esp my MIL. My mum at least is against it as I had a few health issues with both my pregnancies (she loves the idea of having another grandchild). Unsure about MIL's reasons & she comes out with some really horrible & negative comments so we've stopped mentioning our plans. Our DS's are 3 yrs & 21 months.
And guess what, found out yesterday that I'm pregnant with number 3! Based on both their well voiced opinions we def won't be telling the families until we're past the 12 week point as if it's not a viable pregnancy (my first resulted in a miscarriage) I really couldn't deal with the "for the best" type of comments I know we would get from the two grandma's.
Still recovering from finding out I'm pregnant to be honest as whilst it was planned we were still a bit unsure & really didn't expect it to happen so quickly! Excited, but also slightly daunted at the prospect of it all!!!

newpup · 03/08/2009 08:26

congratulations

ReneRusso · 03/08/2009 08:56

Congratulations cloudydaze
My MIL and mum will be so shocked. My youngest is 7 so it will be a bolt out of the blue. Hope they won't be negative. I would love to keep it a secret until 12 weeks but I'm staying with my Mum soon and she will be very puzzled that I'm not drinking.

crumbled · 03/08/2009 13:25

Wow, congratulations ReneRusso and cloudydaze! I hope this thread continues with good news. I'm on the 2WW and it's driving me round the twist, or maybe my kids are - summer holiday boredom (no playgroup). They want to be doing something 'special' all the time and the fact I can't be arsed all the time makes me question whether I even should be trying for no3!

tobago04 I'm with you on the one minute it seems like the best idea in the world and then the next like the worst! But if we did conceive, then we've still got 9 months to get used to the idea, right?!! And having spent half of the weekend in the loft finding loads of old baby stuff, I figure that we won't have to spend a penny on no3 if it should happen!

cloudydaze · 03/08/2009 14:14

Thanks ReneRusso, congrats to you too!!
Crumbled, we were still a bit unsure about having a 3rd but hey, the decision has been taken out of our hands now! And this DC, esp if a boy, won't need anything new esp as it is due around DS1's 4th birthday so I know I have all the right clothes for the seasons whereas with DS2 who is a Nov baby I found I had to actually buy a bit as was totally opposite seasons to DS1. I just plan to enjoy this pregnancy as much as possible as we plan this one to be the last!!

crumbled · 03/08/2009 18:07

and if it's a girl...you'll just have to go out and buy pink pink pink!!!

tobago04 · 03/08/2009 19:29

Thanks crumbled nice to know others feel the same
Feel quite happy about ttc today,kids have been really good even with my niece over so,gives me an idea what 3 would be like!
Also my dh is the best so i quite like the idea of having more love in the house[god i'm going to make myself sick!]
Congratulations to those not havin to ttc no.3!

CloudDragon · 04/08/2009 19:55

cloudydaze, congratulations!! how exciting.

God how annoying have both MIL and mum being a pita. It is really upsetting and the comment 'for the best' is my worst dread.

I think if I get pregnant that I will tell them in a letter.

tobago - I know that indecision i am right in the middle of it. One day it seems like the best idea in the world and then when I feel like a rubbish mum (or when they are waking up a 6am yet again) I take it all back!

mumandlovingit · 05/08/2009 09:01

we are starting to try for baby no 3 after my next period around 20th august.im nervous but excited at the same time. our children are 8 and 7.

im not up to date on the abbreviations used on here but will keep people updated.

any advice regarding falling pregnant or having another child with two at my childrens age is appreciated.

im wondering how i will fit three carseats in the back of my car so that we can all go out together. they are in high back boosters with side impact head bits round their heads.there doesn't look a lot of room between them for a baby seat but i'll have to see what i can sort once i'm pregnant. i really dont want to get another car but i want them to be safe. some people have said take the biggest one out and put him in the middle with just a seatbelt but im really not happy doing that.

good luck everyone xxx

tobago04 · 05/08/2009 10:04

Welcome mumandlovingit,
if/when it happens i'm just going to put the baby in the front seat and turn the air bag off,DH only comes in car at weekends usually so i will just squeeze in the back with the other two when he does x

mumandlovingit · 05/08/2009 13:56

there's only me that drives so i'd have to try and fit dp in the back with the two biggest if necessary. i might have a go at some point and see how well that goes.

the buggy i want is the silver cross linear freeway and i know the carseat that goes with is is quite big and the handle has to face the back seat so im not sure if that would take up more space than a normal one maybe.will see nearer the time. i will probably change my mind by then but its the buggy i've always wanted. didnt have the money with first child and there's only 13 months between our two so we had a double buggy the second time.treating myself this time to whatever one i want as it will probably be our last child. this pregancy is more planned than the other two.

i had sciatica and kept having labour pains early with my first and then a complicated 23.5hour labour with him and him going into distress and then our second kept trying to come out from 27 weeks but thankfully i didnt dilate enough. he eventually came at 39 weeks really quickly in our loung at home, not planned at all and thankfully the midwife had arrived as his shoulders got stuck and she had to try numerous positions before manually turning him to get him out. it was a frantic effort to revive him but thankfully she managed to.

that's why i'm trying to plan alot this time so that i'm well prepared. i want a planned cesarean so that i havent got to worry about the shoulder dystocia again and the child going into distress like both other times. i dont know whether they will let me have one though. i will be a wreck the whole pregnancy if i know ive got to go through it all again. id prefer to have it all planned cesarean so that the babys fine and its just me that's got to recover. i couldn't bear going through labour for the baby to get stuck again and then them not be able to revive it. i dont know what my notes say about him being stuck though as my sheet given in my red book states he needed oxygen and stimulation etc but nothing about him being stuck. have to ask when i see the midwife i suppose.

good luck to everyone. i hope there's more of you pregnant by the time we start trying.
xx

CloudDragon · 06/08/2009 20:36

mumandlovingit - ask them early on about the c-section to put your mind at rest. Also I had terribel sciatica for years and the best thing for it was relflexology sessions

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