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An egg goes forth and multiplies.......................we hope.

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treedelivery · 22/05/2009 19:29

Hello.

I am going to be an egg donor. Lots of people in rl are interested in why I am, how I will be and when it will happen.

So I thought I would start a thread. I did a small test thread to make sure posting in the conception topic would not be insensitive to those who may have struggles, and recieved no negative feedback.

I really hope the thread is interesting [obviously] and I also hope to see some debate around the issue. I'd love those with experience to get involved too.

So here goes.......

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myjobismum · 14/10/2009 20:44

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treedelivery · 14/10/2009 20:47

Thank you for the compliments, but honestly, if I look at it as a few appointments to enable someone to be a mother.....well, what wouldn't I do? What a simple thing to open up an amazing world of exhaustion joy and financial ruin adventure.

Yes, this child will have my DNA. I can say that I honestly do not feel I will feel any sense of 'loss' though. I do not want that egg fertilising, that egg would result in a period in reality. This way that egg gets a chance to be a much wanted child.

It is so simple on so many levels. Very simple when viewed as a gift. Straight forward and total. One never asks for a gift back, or for the lend of it. One might be interested in how it worked out, offer insight or advice if asked.

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4andnotout · 14/10/2009 20:58

I'm definatley on your wavelength about it being just DNA, biology means nothing really it is the parenting and love that makes a family (dd1 is biologically only mine and the others are only half siblings but to us we are a 100% family)

I hope everything goes to plan and results in a beautiful baby

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VeryHungryLennipillar · 14/10/2009 21:00

So what has to be done now then Tree? do you inject hormones?I'm am unbearably intrigued by it all.

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liahgen · 14/10/2009 21:03

ooh, how exciting. Nearly didn't open this thread though cos thought it was another of our ttc threads.

Do let us know how you are getting on. Tis something I thought about alot, alas far too old now. Good luck to you.

Will you know if it results in a baby?

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VeryHungryLennipillar · 14/10/2009 21:04

Am also with you on the DNA thing. I have a half brother who is under no circumstance referred to as anything other than my brother. It is in the raising.

Do you have statistics btw? Will they freeze embryos/eggs so that you only have to do the donation once for multiple attempts at IVF if needed?

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treedelivery · 14/10/2009 21:21

Yes I have given permission for the eggs to be saved, to be used by this couple only. So siblings or repeat attempts are a possibility.
liahgen - I'll know as I know the couple. In fact we agreed we would let our children dictate how much they want to know about each other. iyswim? The couple [as far as I am aware and at this time] are planning on telling their child/children how they got this help - so I felt it would be healthiest for the child to be able to freely contact me and mine from the get-go.

I think we all hope that will go someway to arm against the idea this is a secret or a problem or [God forbid] something to be ashamed or frightened of. Also the idea of the unknown person turning up in 16 years. Any resulting children have the right to trace their donor, so I personally feel it is healthier to have the path in place for them.

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treedelivery · 15/10/2009 12:59

The meds are here!

Am a bit at the sheer quantities of needles and syringes and boxes. I have all the meds needed to go right up to egg collection. It's quite a box full.

Have had a play with a few syringes etc, and paired up the correct equipment to the drugs, looked at the dosages etc.

I'll ring the clinic though - I want to make sure doubly sure I am reading it all right!! Such an importnatn thing, I feel probably more so than if it was for me and dh [that sounds odd and I hope you know what I mean]. This is someone else's money, hopes and dreams I am being let loose on. Oh let it work!!! Please.

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VeryHungryLennipillar · 15/10/2009 15:56

Hi Tree - as an earlier poster hinted at I think a lot of people will miss this thread, could you maybe start a new one with 'egg donor' or something in the title. It is all so interesting, am sure I'm not the only one intrigued.