The miracle of speedy labours (No 1 Babies Detective Agency Part 7)

[nomoremagnolia]

Time for a new thread, here`s to speedy conceptions and speedy labours

thankyou nomore I know i can train whilst pg & afterwards, that part is fine, i think maybe im thinking of an excuse kind of? Have tried talkign to DH but he is tired at the mo and wasnt very approachable y'day.

I know if i said to him about not having one he would feel fine and i would worry he would 'ban' it if i did want one.....oh i don't know!

I think im having some sort of life change thing at mo and the mc has kinda caused it.

I think you are trying to think of excuses tbh, but that's ok, it's normal. After the EP DH and I talked about emigrating and starting a new life without children and without trying for them. Maybe it's a stage in the grieving process. I know it was fuelled by us both being scared by what had happened.

I guess I am. I don't think DH has been affected the same way, you see, and keeps saying 'oh it will be fine', when he can't say that anymore.

Think i will chat to him later.

I think having a heart-to-heart with DH will be a very good idea You need to work it out together, but don't make any rash decisions - if I had been in a position to do so I might be in Oz by now!

i think i see a dc4 in my life alot more than i don't, i think im just scared. I know im not ready to use contraception iyswim...will chat with DH later if he has got over himself yet LOL. Men are ridiculous aren't they!

Can't live with 'em, can't make babies without 'em
I think you know in your heart, don't you? You're scared and that's normal and totally ok. Hang on in there though, it'll get better I promise

hey scorp - so sorry to hear about your wobble.. i guess you have plenty of time to make a decision and if you're not ready to use contraception you can always just see what happens and not make a decision anyway..

nomore - thanks for welcoming me back

babytoomuch is in his bouncer and giggling so thought i'd quickly log on and say hi!

(((hugs))) for Scorpio

wave to toomuch and gilly and nomore- it's a Tuesday, I think we need it!!

waves back

How are you doing scorpio?

Nomore/Gilly - any cycle news?

Ready - how's the pregnancy hormones treating you?

I'm ok, a little upset last night but fine today, its odd. Period due soon you see and i guess its a weird time.

Sybil posted on the other thread - Jamie is 9 months already

OK what a numpty an I!!!! We have had another thread all this time and I completely missed it. I can't believe I have been watching the old thread and feeling really sad that we aren't all chatting any more and we were - just without me

Scorpio I therefore had no idea about your mc and I am so sorry. I hope that you are feeling better but second what others have said that it will take some getting over. I don't know if you remember but I had a mc before Jamie and I was really devestated. I stopped ttc to 6 months afterwards because I was unsure of whether I was really ready for that baby (even though I had been sure before hand) so I totally aware of where you are coming from now. Obviously I got over that as otherwise there would not be the gorgeous Jamie, but I think it is a natural part of the mc grieving process. It does pass with time.

Hobnobs and Ready - time is really flying, can't wait for the new arrivals!

Puree - hello fellow June 08-er!

Right, am off to read everyone's news more carefully and will come back. After hitting myself on the forehead a few times more...

Hi sybil Lovely to see you back too. Sorry I forgot to link to the new thread on the old one. Glad you found us though!
(((scorpio))) thinking of you

Nomore I have really missed you guys! I was wondering how you were doing after your ep and am amazed at how well you seem to doing. Fingers crossed that your IVF comes around quickly

Gilly - I have total respect for anyone who injects themself with such positivity, well done. I have to confess though that your description of the pin/butter slightly triggered my gag reflex . In my defence though I have never been particularly good with needles.

sybil thats really interesting what you say about stopping ttc....i kinda feel like that now, but not really sure why, even though i desperately wanted my fourth bean. Strange!

DH & I have been painting and we had a gloss fight, and now DH has said it wont come off, and i have a glossed bum

Scorpio hope you got cleaned up ok!
Sybil I@m waiting for L&D in 4 weeks before we start ttc again - I'm kind of in limbo at the mo! Glad you're back, I missed you

Hello all, voice from the past

Sorry I've not been around for congratulations, fingers crossed etc.

Scorpio. Know exactly what you mean. I think that we're probably not ttc anymore. 1/4 isn't great odds and there was too much medical intervention and general unhealthyness and angst with the 3/4 not to put myself through it again. At least, I think that's what dh thinks - which makes it very difficult to ttc doesn't it!

Still can't persuade myself to get rid of the buggy, cots and baby clothes though. Will have to do that at some stage - I mean, ds is 4 next month (where does the time go?) and we've still got all of his outgrown clothes in the loft.

Gilly - fingers crossed. I got so close to it but avoided it twice by the skin of my teeth - its amazing what we'll do to ourselves to get a child isn't it.

Bags of fairy dust to everyone that needs it............

Hi MT lovely to see you back too (sorry had to use the comic relief smilies!) All the old gang back together it's so lovely

Hi Nomore! How's it going?

Hi MT I'm good, 3 weeks away from a L&D (post-EP) before we carry on ttc - either naturally if the L&D unblocks things or through IVF in June if the L&D either can't unblock things or it shows nothing is blocked.
How are you anyway, apart from the not knowing what to do about ttc of course? How is your DS doing? Is he off to school in Sept? I've been thinking about you and hoping you were ok

Ds started school in September (gone private, he's in nursery, but stays for full school days now). He's settled in OK (and we've just got his first report ) although I think that he keeps his very experienced teacher on her toes due to general high spiritedness, general boundary pushing, and bundle of energy. He's currently eating for Britain and growing in proportion. I think he must have hollow legs - I don't know where else he puts it. He's 4 next month - where does the time go?!

Fingers crossed for the L&D - lets hope that it is sucessful - sorry to hear about the ectopic - the positives are that you know its possible - and its always meant to be easier once you have conceived...

I have my period back after mc now, but im a little confused about ttc still/again.

Hi Scorpio - its difficult isn't it. Hope Millie is well

Mimi is big huge git

No, she is loverrrrly and gorgeous and chubby and yummy and a little bit dribbly

DH will be away when im next fertile so get another month breathing space ,at which point i am hoping to have made a decision

sorry! [foot in mouth]!!!

Perhaps a bit of breathing space would be a good thing.

I've moved away from this thread and found somewhere that suits - last autumn had real problems getting my head round the fact that it seems almost certain that ds will be an only... He's not helping at th emoment by saying 'when we get a baby, we'll put up a new cot....' etc...