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yellowflowers · 03/02/2009 18:41

Thought I'd take the plunge and begin new thread to follow on from this one thread

All welcome.
x

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Yellowflowers · 07/04/2009 08:34

Hope everything ok today iggy.

Yowzers! I have woken up with v heavy flow and very intense period pains. Just want to lie here crying in pain. At least no ambiguity now.

Hope symtoms still there jools

And c1ndy if you are reading this then please know thinking of you too. X

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iggypiggy · 07/04/2009 08:44

Thanks all - appointment is not till 5.30pm so am at work all day again - expect will be a long day

sorry to hear AF bad yellow

Joolsiam · 07/04/2009 08:56

OH what a pain - waiting all day Hope work provides some sort of distraction

iggypiggy · 07/04/2009 09:19

mumsnet Work will distract me most of the day I expect!

Any news jools any symptoms?

Joolsiam · 07/04/2009 09:32

One minute I think I've got symptoms, then I decide I'm imagining it !! Last time I was almost certain because I got things like fizzy nipples, and a definite poking sensation round the belly button - nothing definite like that but my abdomen does feel a little odd and I have had mild cramping / stitch like pain on and off. I also had mildly itchy nipples yesterday. I had the same in Jan / Feb and worked out in the end that the itching was them returning to a pre-MC state. I thought my sense of smell had ramped up a notch last night, but am unsure this morning. Boobs not sore ....

Sooo - nothing definitive but a feeling that something might be going on I wonder if it is because my PG hormones didn't actually disappear till late December - perhaps my body is still "used to" the hormones so is not reacting as violently ? Who knows ! I think Fertility Friend is telling me I can test on Saturday. Trying to ignore the temptation to test earlier - if it IS positive, the longer I leave it, the less time I have to wait for a scan ! I never saw my lost LO in a scan as the MC happened on the day of my dating scan, so I am ridiculously obsessed with getting an early scan next time.

Sorry, am rambling - will shut up and do some work

Broodzilla · 07/04/2009 09:50

iggy thinking of you today... hope the day goes quickly and that you have good news at the end.

yellow sorry you're feeling rubbish - but hey, you'll have a lovely new lining for next month if AF is having a spring clean this month!

jools all sounds very good... am getting excited for you.
Not long now and you'll be joining the retching choir

queenie1 · 07/04/2009 10:02

Hi all - just been catching up on all the posts.

yellow - so sorry AF got you. Here's hoping that April is your month. If not, at least you've got your appointment in May...So, just think, this time next month you'll either have a BFP to get excited about or the beginnings of help and support to get you there.

jools - huge congratulations on losing a stone! Moreover, so hoping this is your month. Sounding v promising...

iggy - goes without saying that I'm thinking of you and sooo hoping your scan is good today. If it's any kind of reassurance, I had a rubbish weekend as I had a bit of brown spotting on Saturday and Sunday. I was convinced it was all over again and was beginning to prepare myself for the worst. I then had a scan yesterday - as part of the recurrent miscarriage clinic I have been assigned to - and there was my little bean, now at 8 weeks and 4 days and with a good strong heartbeat. The doctors said spotting was very common and nothing to worry about. It's now cleared up and I'm feeling very reassured. Reason for saying this is that I don't want you to give up hope yet. Lots of love to you.
xxxx

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Yellowflowers · 07/04/2009 10:44

Thanks queenie fab way to look at it. So pleased you saw your bean and it's a strong one. Good advice too re springclean broodzilla.

TMI alert!
I just went to loo and passed onto loo paper two big clots totally unlike my normal clotting. Thick and long and very dark and slimey but tough too and one had white/green /blue area. Would I be wrong to think given this period started late even with bfn this might be early mc? Or is this normal and I've just not noticed before?

Was planning to read preparing your body for conception again today but dh has tidied up and I don't know where he's put it.

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Joolsiam · 07/04/2009 10:48

Yellow - have never heard of anything like the clots you describe - especially the colours.

I really don't know - it sounds like something may well have been going on. If you haven't already, I'd definitely note this all down in a diary to take to your appt.

queenie1 · 07/04/2009 11:03

yellow - i've not heard anything about what you describe either. When I had early MCs it was clotty but just a little bit more exaggerated than usual AF (which is always pretty clotty anyway). Suggest you mention it at your appointment next month (if you still need to go, that is )

funtimewincies · 07/04/2009 11:05

Broodzilla! I have been practising my scales all morning and feel another aria coming as I speak ( this is my face colour for most of the day at the mo).

Good luck for the weekend Jools.

Joolsiam · 07/04/2009 11:13

I'll actually be very happy if I end up in a retching choir !! All I had last time was mild nausea - full on hurling might at least make me feel as if bean was sticking

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Yellowflowers · 07/04/2009 11:18

yes sounds yuk doesn't it. The white/yellow/blue bit was small by the way - maybe about 5mm long as part of bigger clot. Will note it all down for my appt though. One more cycle before appt to see if we can do it by ourselves first.

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iggypiggy · 07/04/2009 14:48

If is any comfort funtime and broodzilla - i have had pretty much no nausea at all after the first week or two of finding out that I was PG - and you know where I am with this - so it must be a good thing that you have I have no sympathy only joking - I do xx

queenie sorry to hear you had a weekend of worry, but fab news about scan - am so pleased for you. thanks for your thoughts too.

yellow that doesn't sound nice - but i did read someone in one of my internet self torturing sessions that in MCs you can pass greyish stuff? Agree with everyone else - just tell them at your appt.

can i just say a huge huge thanks to all of you on this thread - you have all helped me so much over the last week. Sorry you've kind of had to live through the week with me. xx

funtimewincies · 07/04/2009 15:45

So much for a bloody early scan , got a date and it's at 11 weeks! Phoned and asked for something earlier but not a chance. I'm too sick and tired to argue.

Yellow - good that you're recording it all for your appointment.

Jools - unfortunately I had bad MS with the missed mc BUT I'm sure that this is closer to how it was with ds, who was a (disappearing) twin, eeek !

iggypiggy · 07/04/2009 19:25

ok - just back now. Bad news - but was expected

have to decide what to do as have been given two options - either wait for it to happen - or take pills.

Anyway girls - will be back with you sometime soon, back ttc I guess xx

ray81 · 07/04/2009 20:00

Oh Iggy i am so so sorry for you and DH my thoughts are with you at this awful time.
Be sure to grieve, you have every right to and take as much time as you need. And keep in touch just because this has happened doesnt mean you cannot come here and vent to us all.

Joolsiam · 07/04/2009 20:01

Sorry Iggy

At least the waiting is over now and you can start to move on. I can't advise you on choices as I didn't get any - lots of info in the mc forum about the pros and cons of each approach though, and what to expect - well worth a read if you need help deciding.

The Emmsys angels thread in there was a lifesaver to me back in Nov - lots of support from people going through exactly the same thing x x x

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Yellowflowers · 07/04/2009 20:06

So sorry iggy. Thinking of you at this horrible time.
xx

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Broodzilla · 07/04/2009 21:08

iggy oh no... I'm so, so sorry. I don't know what else to say, apart from that we're all here for you.

Look after yourself.

queenie1 · 08/04/2009 08:06

iggy - so very sorry to hear this. Even though it's what you expected, it must still have been really hard to have been told this yesterday. I remember when this happened to me and how heart broken I felt.

As for next steps, only you can decide what feels right for you. I never had to make that decision as I bled pretty much straight away but a good friend of mine who was in a similar situation to you said she just wanted it over with asap so she could move on so opted for a D and C (she wasn't given option of pills).

I'm so sad for you, and as everyone else has said, we're all here for you. Take good care of yourself. xxx

iggypiggy · 08/04/2009 09:23

Thanks all xx

I did know really - so was sort of a relief as well as a shock - if that makes any sense. Have not been given ERPC option as Dr says is too small - so not worth it.

Anyway - am going to buy some cheese and some wine for tonight and just hope that the MC happens sometime soon - otherwise will take pills after easter weekend (have them in my bag, so can use them whenever).

You have all helped me loads over the last week - so am very very grateful. Is just all a bit shite - but as soon as everything sorts itself out I'll def be back ttc. But either way I'll still post here

Joolsiam · 08/04/2009 09:32

Hi Iggy

Am glad you are going to stay around

I think I am the last MC'er from my postnatal thread not to have another BFP, and some are really far along now - you could be back here moaning about MS sooner than you think

My natural MC was quite shocking and scary - like you, I knew something wasn't right and, if I'm honest, had suspected for a while. I am sure yours won't be nearly so bad as it is earlier.

Best I can suggest is what I said before - if you are out and about over the weekend, take a bag with you holding a dark towel, heavy duty pads, some wipes, paracetamol and ibuprofen (or stuff with codeine is recommended too) and a change of bottom half. Try to drink lots of water to replace what may be lost if the bleeding happens quickly.

Mine started off with brown blood and mucusy bits one day, a smear of red the next night, then by lunchtime next day, I had a gush (waters I guess) and then it all happened really quickly. So, I think you will get some warning.

iggypiggy · 08/04/2009 10:55

Thanks for that Jools - good tips re: stuff to take - am going to shops at lunchtime as have no painkillers or pads at all

so any more news from you jools ?

Joolsiam · 08/04/2009 11:00

hmm - well I convinced myself yesterday that my symptoms were all in my head, then went to the gym and really felt quite odd in the abdominal area - situps were painful (very unusual) so I stopped doing them, and I had cramps for a while after.

Other than a tender abdomen, no symptoms really and am thinking today that this is probably nothing - gaaaaaahhhhhhhh !!

Should know by Sat