Twenties TTC - Join Me Pleeeease!

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I'm 23 and hoping to try for a baby from next month.

Anyone else?

Hi Joy, men just don't think the same way women do. It's us women that have to put our bodies through all the trials and tribulations of ttc and actual pregnancy. Your partner is probably just as frustrated as you are but just doesn't know how to let it out without making you more upset.

you will get there in the end. I know thats a really stupid thing to say and I would feel like slapping anyone who said it to me, but it really is true when you think about it.

I know the wait is unbearable and the differing emotions just leaves you feeling deflated and exhasted. it only took us 5 months with ds to conceive (he is now 18 mths), but already it has been double this and for some reason it is so upsetting this time around when every month it doesn't happen,as we really want ds to have someone close in age.

I really really hope you get your wish soon. I have decided that if it doesn't happen for us this month i am going to go to my doctor and get it checked out ( i am going to lie and say we have been ttc for a year as they wont do anything knowing its really been 10 months).

I haven't been temping or anything, have you?

No seany I haven't been temping. I just don't think it's the right way for me to go about things- it helps a lot of people but would drive me up the wall with worry.
I just make sure we bd regularly and extra on days when I have EWCM.

Thanks for your understanding words btw sniff I do hope all of us get our bfps soon.

joy im so sorry. i really thought u were pg. i know i cant say anything to make you feel any better but dont feel self indulgant. your intittled to feel like this. 10 months is a long time and it is a big deal. im thinking of you and sending you hugs xxx

bubble, so did I! Actually felt quite affronted when the second line didn't appear, like "this was not how the script was supposed to go!".

Have just spoken to lovely nurse at doc's surgery, who is going to send off a sample for me on Monday just to confirm I'm not pg, after which they'll book me in for an appt to check all is well with plumbing.

In the mean time, I have a work do tonight, and goddamit I'm going to get pissed.

Thanks so much for being so nice everyone. I am a brazen thread-hogger today, but after building it up for so long (yeah, sorry about that btw), I've come crashing down, and I don't have anyone in RL apart from Mr. Que Sera Sera (dp) to talk to about this. I so appreciate your support.

aw Joy so sorry, i dont think i can say anything to make you feel better, but you are right to think you can come on here for support x

joy i too am getting pissed tonight. DH/ps dont really know how it feels to us as the women who are ttc. Have you explained further than just your upset at not being pg. i found that confiding in dh that i felt like a failure etc made him more understanding to how i felt.

do you take agnus castus? after speaking to a medical herbalist she reccomended it. i started taking it in jan and my cycles went back to norm and i fell pg but lost it.

temping and using opks can help, i know you dont want to go down the slippery slope of obsessing but i look at it as being pro active. (i think ive said this before) by temping you could confirm ovulation and would prob find out that you have been mis timing intercourse or something like that.

suzi have u tested yet?

hey bubble i tested this morning and it was bfn... so dont think i am pregnant as i am now on CD39 and im sure it would show if i were. so i have decided to try something different. i have always just relied on ewcm, but thinking of trying opk or something. not quite sure where to start!!
how are u getting on??

Suzi i thought u were pg too. its shit isnt it. you still could be. it isnt over til AF shows im keeping my fingers crossed for you and Joy

im good. on cd5 and wishing the month away. my fertile days this month are my birthday and the few days after!! im keeping my fingers crossed that it means this is my lucky month

im gonna use opks from cd8 and follow deannas plan it says that it works for couples who have had a mc.

have you tried it before?

no bubble ive never tried deannas plan but im going on google rite now to research it... ive heard its hard

i hope you have an eventful birthday then

Woo bubble, prepare yourself for some hot birthday lovin'!

suzi, goddam, I thought we were both going to be triumphant this month. Bollocks.

I know what you mean re temping etc bubble. It does seem like a proactive option rather than wailing and gnashing my teeth every month.

I suppose it ain't over til af sings, as you say.... this is the twisted logic in getting merry tonight. I think if I carry on as though I'm definitely not pg, it might somehow, er, fool fate into making me pg.
Or something. It makes sense in my head.

(Never fear tho, I'm not going to drink to liver-pickling levels- just in case).

Suzi, so sorry yours was a BFN too this is not good but like Bubble said it isnt over until AF arrives so you never know.

Am out for an indian in a min and am going to have a few drinks, i know all the signs are pointing to be being UTD but i realy dont want to put my life on hold 'just in case' as if i am not i shall me bloody pissed off so will carry on as normal.

I realy hope we get some BFPS soon ALL OF US would be good.

Just to fill you all in i too did a test and got a BFN but still no AF.... Couple of days late now, and my cycle has never been this long...

If only things were soo much easier for everyone!!!

I'm also off to get pissed tonight, sounds like drunken nights all round!!

hmmm i have a bottle of wine in the fridge.... thanks girls for reminding me... ama gettin pissed aswell

So the general concensus for many of us is:

Where the hell is af? And why aren't I pregnant? Never mind, let's get trollied!

Perhaps all our afs are off getting pissed together.

Have fun ladies!

Hi ladies, i'm going to be 30 in june so thought i'd join this group whilst i still can :-)

We got the all clear today via an internal scan after a miscarriage at 9 weeks so now waiting for AF so we can start trying for our 2nd, already have a 20month DS.

Hi millie

So sorry to hear about ur mc. good luck for this month+a bfp!

Dear god girls did everyone just go and get pissed last nite?! lol Wish i couldve stayed awake long enough to do that-was too tired and out doing my food shopping at 7pm last nite (had to otherwise ds would have had to have stale bread for his breakfast lol)

Well seems i couldnt hold off until af is 1 day late and bought a cheap test out of boots. bfn as usual....

Don't you just get sick of looking at ONE line! WE WANT TO SEE 2

Seany so sorry you got a BFN what a painin the arse however hope is not lost it could still be a bfp in a few days. But know how you feel.

Still holding off on testing but because of all this i am forgetting things , ummmm like the fact it is mothers day tomorrow bugger need to get card and pressie DOH.

have you ever found yourself staring at the test that much that you actually start to see lines that arent there... i do all the time, then have to walk away and look at it l8r and see that there is actually only one pathetic line.... oh how frustrating

Hi Girls!

Welcome Millie, sorry to hear about mc. i hope you get lucky soon xxxx

Seany sorry it was a bfn... hopefully it was too early and it will still be a bfp in a few days x

Joy has that evil witch turned up yet? or have you tried another test and got urself a bfp??

Ray when are you going to test? im keeping everything crossed for you xx

Yesterday i was told the news that my bil and his gf are expecting their first baby. I am happy for them but feel like ive hit a brick wall. I keep thinking of my mc and that i should of been 10 wks by now. DH has been away working this weekend and i am too to admit to anyone im feeling like this. I need a slap hug. I know i need to think of other things but i think that not dealing with my feelings after the mc that ive made it worse somehow.

Happy Mothers day and Happy mum 2 b (in the near future) day xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

aw bubble im so sorry your feeling like this, it must be very hard for you.u shouldnt feel .sending u a bigggggggg hug X

pmsl at suzi i know exactly what u mean,i did that exact thing yest, even went so far as to take the bfn test out of the bin again just incase i missed the line lol

Joy how are u getting on?

Well af is now officially late! did not arrive yest as planned. I did do another test yest with fmu but it was bfn. it was a cheap boots test i used but im thinkin of getting a first response one later just incase

Well still no AF for me i am now 4/5 days late, did a Clear Blue test yesterday - BFN - so i'm now wondering where AF is???

I hate limbo land i'd rather just know one way or another... at least if AF was here i know i'd be able to start trying again soon...

How is everyone else getting on?

Hello ladies,

Just as I was about to give a urine sample at the doc's this morning, to double-triple check I'm not pregnant, literally as I was hovering elegantly over the plastic pot, I got my period. So my 42-day odyssey is at an end. Wtf was all that about? And how annoying is it going to be from now on- I'll have to wait for 42 DAYS each cycle before I allow myself to get excited. RRRRAARGH.

On the positive side, dp and I are off for an anniversary break next week, and this means our hotel-based bonkathon could make us a baby, which would be quite romantical.

Also, I actually feel quite relieved that af has arrived (for once) so I can stop fretting about my disappearing periods.

seany I must confess to actually fishing tests out of the bin hours later, just in case I didn't wait long enough for result to develop

Our hopes are now pinned on you, and on you rtuff and you ray (anyone else still in limbo?).

Bubble sorry you had a rough weekend. That news must have been hard to take. How are you feeling today?

Hi Millie- sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Sadly there are lots of us here who have walked in your shoes (my mc was last July) so hopefully we'll be able to offer support.

So, CD1 again for me. Onwards and upwards! (When am I gonna be able to stop saying that?!)

Hey everyone

Hey millie hope your lucky this month

joy sorry to hear the witch arrived, i was so sure you were pg but on the bright side af has appeared and you can start trying again..... still in limbo and im now on CD 42.. i bet it will arrive like yours did, when im peeing on a stick or something

seany I have actually had my dp check if he can see anything He's like "If you cant see anything.. then what makes you think I will"

Bubble, so sorry you felt so crap over the weekend, i know what you mean about thinking back over the Mc, i have a friend that is 6 weeks ahead of where i should have been which would make me 24 Weeks now and it still hits me like a ton of bricks everytime i think of it.
And it is so so hard when you hear of close friends that are Pg as you know you will have to hear about for the next 7-8 months.

Joy sorry Af got you i think 42days has got to be a record surely. Personally and i dont know how you feel about it but perhaps yopu should try temping as it pretty much tells you when you have Ovulated and therefore you know when to expect Af i think it takes alot of the guessing away.

Suzi i hope you get a BFP soon and Af doesnt get you.

Well temp is still high and 14DPO tomorrow so have brought test to do in morning not that i believe for a minute i will get BFP it would be all to perfect with the 7dpo spike and the doc giving me progesterone etc etc. Cant help but hope though !!!

Had call from haemotology on sat telling me had been referred to them by Gyni but wouldnt tell me why, sooooooooooooo major panic and worrying over the weekend. Called into docs this morn couldnt tell me anything so phone gyni and they have said that they want to investigate possible blood clotting disorder Ummmmmmmmmmmmm could be good news as if it is then they can fix it. Although do take asprin already so hopefully that will be helping.

Am very very tired and need to take DD to ice skating in a min will frezze my bottom of sat there for half an hr

Ooh good luck Ray! Fingers crossed for you! It does look promising, you must admit. How exciting, do keep us posted...

Yes, 42 days followed by a fully crampy, crappy period. Ain't that a kick in the head?
I may cave and start temping. Actually I have a question about temping. Do you have to, erm, take the temperature in your hoo-ha? It's called basal body temperature so I just assumed...

Please tell me it's not true!