Assisted conception and the bits inbetween Part Two!.......

[spook]

Hi everyone.
New thread starts here....

Spook, oh no, that sounds awful. Your poor DH, what on earth could it be?
I don't know about the EC, I hope he is well enough for the procedure.
I think sperm can be extracted, but not sure of the details. Don't think it would be the favourite option from your DH's POV.
Go and buy some brownies in Tesco on the way to school tomorrow and get some sleep.
Sending you a hug, hope everything is a lot better tomorrow.

Spook - really hope everything OK with your DH. Thinking of you xx

Haven't had chance to properly catch up on the thread as been in London for work, but will try tomorrow before I go away for weekend. Grandmother's funeral on Thursday and staying in Cotswolds until Sunday for some relaxing before consultation on Monday.

BTW, I'm 37 (+5m) and also ttc #1.

Thanks for your messages everyone. Managed to track DH down after 20 minutes and 5 different people. Bloody NHS!
Hes having an ultrasound this morning. They're now thinking it may be his appendix. Boys just gone to school and I'm suddenly getting upset.
Think I was on automatic pilot last night.
Am worried about DH, am devastated that IVF might be in jeopardy and I'm sad that DS's birthday was a bit of a damp squib.
(And my sports bra is chaffing like a bastard)

OAP-hope your aching ovaries aren't aching anymore sweetie
(My brownies were tremendous btw....)

hi spook sorry about your dh and hope he comes right soon.

On the morphine thing, i think what the men consume today affects the swimmers 3 months down the line. maybe some acupuncture to clean his system after this ordeal. keep us posted as to how he is.

my ovary doesnt seem to have calmed down this month since my scan cd11,any ideas anyone

spook how dreadful. Has your clinic got any bright ideas? Can you keep busy today to stop you from going mad with worry?

I think the thing with fever and sperm is that a raised temp doesn't do them any favours - like if a man has a low sperm count they will advise wearing loose underwear to reduce the body temp in the scrotum to increase sperm count.

Hey Spook. what a horrible shock and what terrible timing, you poor loves, both of you! I'd be upset if that happened even without the IVF thing thrown in. Your posts have been making me LOL the whole time since I joined, and you seem to be taking so much in your stride, you really didn't deserve this. Fingers xed for you DH to recover quickly and safely - and be able to do his bit for the EC too!

FSH test last night, if it hasn't come down from 15 then bye bye IVF for me...

SPOOK what a mare, talk about bad timing with DS1 birthday as well. I am sorry. This morning was your first chance to really process any of it, so I am not surprised you were a bit upset, it sounds very normal and very healthy to have a wobble when your poor DH is stuck in hospital. I pray it will be something simple but I think it would be a good idea to have a chat with the clinic as I think you can freeze the eggs even if they cannot collect the sperm.

I am sure DS1 will not be happy about missing out on DH today, but you can always have a special family day together once the current crisis has been diverted!

Good Luck and hoping for an improved situation.

Hi everyone. Thanks for thinking of me. I've just come from the hospital.
DH is in theatre now. I don't think they really know what they're looking for but suspect appendix.
There really isn't much hope for the ivf I'm afraid.
The only chance is if he can pri=oduce a sample in the morning before 8 and get it rushed somehow to the clinic. My EC booked for 8 and they won't budge because of the trigger shot.
I am beyond devastated.

Bumpless-hope your FSH comes down xx

Spook what a stressful time you are having. You never know though, your poor old DH might be able to produce something, it is an emergency for you both. I hope your DH is feeling better later, he will probably be a bit woozy with one of those morphine clicker things, but if he keeps well-hydrated hopefully he will be a bit more lucid by the morning. Finger crossed for you.
If it doesn't work out, it is a horrible situation, but you can come back from it as long as you are all healthy. You have a great attitude if anyone can deal with this, you can!
Big hugs to you all.
Pinkie not sure about the ovary, I'm having a few problems on that front myself. I came back from the GP this morning, she really couldn't say much, other than that I would really have to have another scan next month to see if my cyst was shrinking. I have an appointment with the gynae - the bloke I saw first for diagnosis and subsequently requested a second opinion over. Sure he'll be thrilled to see me.
Bump fingers crossed for the FSH test. I have just booked for a day three test for next week to see where mine is. That is if my cycle is behaving and day three is still where it used to be.
Even if the levels haven't improved, I think there are clinics which specialise in higher levels or you could still consider donor eggs. Not the ideal solution, but it's there.

nappyvalley cheers ha ha am 35 in May also getting married on 29th May so stressful time for me but not compared to spook i feel for you hope all works out well in the end am thinking of you all.....

Hello everyone, nice to see you OAP. It seems as if everyone is busy at the moment. I am still in a quandary about whether I should go for another cycle of IVF. I think if I did it would be in London, now we have moved and I would like to try IVM if poss at the Oxford Clinic, but I have to make the appointment. does anyone know if you need to be referred or can I rock up there with my notes (I have a copy, which is pretty complete).

OAP I am so hoping, cramping is a good sign esp if it is a little early.

Spook they are all right it takes 3 months to affect sperm so don't panic and I am sure that the EC will be ok. If not they can always freeze the eggs. So keep calm.

sending love to Sooty and everyone else hope you all had a good christmas and New Year.

S x

Hi Soosy, lovely to hear from you. I wondered how you were getting along these days. All settled into your new house? DS settled too?

Re your new clinic choice, when I was phoning around northern clinics last year they all seemed pretty cool about self referrals, though one did say they would like my last consultant to refer me if possible. If you have a complete set of notes then maybe just call them and find out? How do you feel about trying a new clinic, as you must feel pretty attached to your last one?

Spook how are things now? Any good news from the hospital? Can't believe the unfortunateness of the timing of this.

Self diagnosis and google are bad things! I think now I have mild OHSS (happens a lot seemingly) given the ovarian pain and darker-than-normal wee over the past 3 days. Shall follow the advice and drink fluids and rest - I have done nothing but rest since EC, hence can't tell if I have abdominal bloating due to OHSS or am just lardy due to no exercise at all for 10 days. Wish I had Mowmi's ability to step away from google.

SPOOK - you poor, poor love and your poor DH. What a horrible thing to happen to you both. Sending you some major hugs.I hope DH is ok? what an f'ing mare for you.I am lost for words at how shite life can be sometimes!

OAP Step away from the devil that is google. Are you on any drugs that could also be causing the bloating, other than OHSS or implantation?

RB hope youe ar doing ok??

Soosy good to hear from you. Good luck with your decisions

LL hope you are ok

mowmi thinking of you for tomorrow

Hi everyone, I just wanted to send you more hugs Spook and hope that everything works out.
OAP, I'm excited too now, because I read that OHSS after the transfer can occur if you are pg. Ooo!
Do enjoy the pg feeling, it's lovely. Are you all rose-tinted and looking at children as if they are angels (even though they are hitting each other with bats)?
I don't really know what to do about the IVF with the cyst. Have any of you guys had IVF with a known cyst? I mean not one that appeared after.
Think I will contact the two clinics with the information I have and see what they say.
Mowmi, hope it all goes well tomorrow and you get to see your baby.

Just on the blackberry on the way home from work (I am such a knob head to work so late!) Just popping in to say spook I can't believe the shite timing (not that there is ever a good time to get rushed to hospital - poor DP - hope he's ok) surely worst case scenario is a bit of a delay? They can freeze the eggs and fertilise a bit later? They can probably keep you ticking over with progesterone? What a headf?jk! Hope you get a good solution to it all! Try and stay calm!

Update you all tomorrow x

Hi everyone,
Thanks for all your kind messages.
Unfortunately my clinic don't freeze eggs, so its 8am or abandon the cycle.
DH came out of surgery quite late last night (was delayed for hours)
Our only chance is if he can produce a sample within the next hour. Mmm. Somehow can't see that happening.
I feel truly awful for him because he's absolutely devastated. We've not exactly had much luck DH and I. Shit things happen to good people eh.

DOn't know when we'll be able to afford another 4 grand tbh. How long do you have to wait between cycles?

Mowmi-thinking about you today
OAP-hope you're not in too much pain and it is infact a little OAP growing in there.

Hi Lottie,
I'm just sat here wasting time really. It didn't happen. I went to the clinic this morning and stood outside till ten past eight waiting for a miracle, but it didn't happen.
DH had a very nasty appendicitis apparently. His blood pressure is low and he's badly dehydrated so obviously couldn't produce the goods.
I just turned around and came home.
I'm feeling indescribably sad and having very bad cramps. (the clinic warned me this would happen)

I have to pick myself up and get on with things. Going to visit DH at 2. He's very very upset and I must be strong for him.

Spook I am so sorry this has happened. Odd how it is the things that you don't worry about that actually happen. Any other day you'd have been sat there just pleased your DH is OK and has come through the op OK, but just not today. What a very unfortunate thing to happen.

Good luck with your DH this afternoon, he must be feeling really shitty despite it being no-one's fault.

Thankyou. Your support means so much.
The clinic have been lovely and have just told me they won't be charging us for this round. So we just take the hit for the drugs and leave the money for next time which is fantastic. Softens the blow a bit.
I think we will cry together. We did yesterday but when your DP/H is so upset it really hits you hard. He's always the strong one iyswim.
He's already texting saying he promises to make it better

My cramping is becoming really painful now. What a bloody pair we make!

The clinic want to give DH 4-6 weeks to get over this and for me to have a proper period and then we can talk about going again.