Trying for a baby in 4 months and can't wait. Is anyone else waiting to start trying?

[MumofBaby]

That's it really. We're starting April 1st. I'm so excited. I need to talk about it!!! I'm even thinking about baby names already lol.

Anyone in a similar boat?

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Thanks Puzzle- maybe 2009 is a dry year for babies? Bastard credit crunch and all.

Why wait?! It can take a few months to get your system going... have fun

Well I'm getting married in the summer and I'd like to announce it at the reception. But I don't want to be so big that I can't fit in my dress/waddle down the aisle etc.

Hi MumofBaby - I was just about to start a thread about exactly this! I am so excited I could burst! God knows why - I've had 3 mc's in the past, two since May this year. We have had to wait after the last mc, but hopefully should get the all clear in late Jan to start ttc again. I know it may all go wrong again, but am so excited anyway... Think I should be a little more realistic about it really.

That's fab that you're getting married, congratulations! Let's hope that 2009 is your year in more ways than one! Have you got any other children? If everything goes to plan how many weeks would you be when you get married? Fingers crossed it works out for you.

So sorry to hear about your MCs. I think it's great that your positive about going for it again! You need to keep the great attitude and make sure you don't get stressed about it, easier said than done!

I'm a little worried as I had a womb infection after I gave birth to DS (7 mo- my only DC). I seemed to have one problem after another when I was pregnant, though nothing majorly serious, and I had a terrible labour so got lots of anxiety about those things- really just because I worry that it'll stop me conceiving this time IYSWIM.

Woo January! You're nearly there!! I'm even excited for you now!

If all went to plan I'd be sort of 12 weeks-ish when I got married, though even 3/4 weeks would do me! It'd be amazing to announce it and both our families are baby mad so they'd be over the moon.

Did you get pregnant quite quickly the previous times? We were 'careless' for a couple of months, and then tried 4 12 days before I got pregnant so pretty quick really!

Sorry to hear about your womb infection, that must've been horrible. And poor you re labour. How are you feeling about it now? A friend of mine had an awful first labour, and she was so scared when she fell pg with the second. Her second labour was so much better though, and she felt like it put to rest the ghosts from the first. I hope that's the case with you too.

I know what you mean about labour though - even if you have a positive experience (which I did with ds) it's still a terrifying prospect to think of doing it all again! I was absolutely terrified the first time round, from as soon as the sickness started to lessen at about 4/5 months. The midwives even laughed at me coz I was so scared! Made me wonder if they'd never seen a terrified woman in labour before

If it's weighing on your mind an awful lot, then maybe it would be good to talk it through with someone before you start ttc? Also, remember that every pregnancy is different - you may (and hopefully will ) sail through the next one with no problems at all! Btw, what really helped me was my acupuncturist - she managed to take away practically all my anxiety towards the end of the pregnancy. Don't know how she did it!

That's lovely that both your families are baby mad, what a wonderful thing to be able to announce to them on such a special day . Have you got your dress all sorted? Where are you getting married? How exciting!!!

Re ttc in January - we need to get the all clear yet. I have an appt with a new gynae on the 21st Jan, and he needs to do a scan and then we'll find out if we're good to go... The other thing is that we are booked to go on holiday at the end of Feb and I think that maybe we should be waiting until after that. The last three pregnancies I've got pg straightaway, so although that may not happen next time round we need to take it into account. Also, I've had hyperemisis in the past, so we would have to cancel the holiday if that happened again, and I really don't want to do that. It's so difficult knowing what to do!

Right, I have waffled on enough now, had better go out shopping! I have to get all the ingredients to make a lemon cheesecake for this evening, and it needs to be able to set too! Have a good day!

Oh you have a DS, too, lovely. How old?

I'm going to try reading all those books on positive birthing and stuff so that I can try and chill out a bit in labour as I was shaking ridiculously last time as I was so tense etc. That's probably normal, but I don't want to this time as apparently it makes contractions worse. I actually wasn't scared until I got induced last time, and when I went into labour, they sent my DP home and that was it, I went hysterical. I'm going to go and talk to the midwives on the labour ward about it, as if you request a meeting, they have to come and explain why they did the things they did, and how they will improve your experience next time. They totally refused to believe my waters had gone, which bothers me as it caused problems last time. I'd like to address that with them. I'm also allergic to the hormones you produce when you're pregnant which makes for a long, horrible 9 months

My wedding dress is all sorted, tiara and veil, bridesmaid dresses all sort- nothing else though!! We're getting married in Cyprus, and in all honesty, I don't know where to start! It's booked, and that's it! I am OTT excited though . I tell DP every day how many days it is until we fly

My sister had hyperemisis- it's the thing with the extra water when your tummy bloats up and stuff isn't it? What a shame, it's no fun is it? I'd wait until after the holiday if I was you, especially as you can't sunbathe if your pg!! But seriously, it would be awful to cancel- and holidays are great for baby making.

Snap, I'm baking today, too. I'm making rock cakes and chocolate log. I was meant to make them xmas eve but the baby wasn't too good.

You have a good day, too.

Sounds like you have everything under control for the wedding! Lucky you getting married in Cyprus! How long before the wedding will you go over? Are you going to have a honeymoon there too? oooohhh it all sounds wonderful! What colour are the bridesmaids wearing? I remember getting so excited about my wedding, and spending the year before it thinking of absolutely nothing else . It's such a lovely time...

I think my friend did something like that with the midwives, or maybe it was that she wrote them a letter and they were obligated to explain that way. I think she found it quite helpful. She also read the birthing books, and it did help calm her down. I can ask her for any other suggestions if you'd like?

It must be horrible being allergic to the hormones, what happens? Is that definately going to happen again next time, or is there a chance that it might not?

Your poor sister, sounds horrible with the extra water. I had v v v bad sickness and with my last pregnancy ended up being hospitalised and put on a drip coz I couldn't keep anything down. I had the hyperemisis with DS too, but somehow managed to get through that without going into hospital. I ended up being about a stone lighter than I was when I first got pregnant just after giving birth coz I'd lost so much weight! This summer was horrific too, lost loads more weight and so am trying to put a bit on for when we start trying again.

Re the holiday if we started trying in Feb and I got pg straightaway it would mean that I would be around CD20 when we went. So I wouldn't know (although I might suspect) and am worried that maybe something I do on hols will affect the pregnancy inadvertently. I mean for example if I were to pick up food poisoning or something else. We're going to Morocco so it's possible that that could happen. Am so scared after my mc's that even carrying a heavy suitcase might cause a problem. It's silly isn't it. I'm just not sure whether to wait until after we get back. Help! What would you do?

Yum yum re your baking, sounds great! Having gone out this morning for all the stuff I'm now not making the cheesecake! One of the friends coming tonight is pg, and I was thinking I was all clever as I made sure it was pasteurised cheese for her. Got home and RE-read the recipe to find I need to use raw eggs . Nevermind. It's the thought that counts isn't it
DH is very pleased as it means I'll do it tomorrow instead and then he can eat more of it! Luckily we have a fab cake shop down the road, so will nip out and buy one

Happy Baking!

ps meant to ask about your baby! Is he okay? Hope so...

How are you finding motherhood? I'm loving it, hence the desperation for another! My ds is 22 months, and the time has just flown by. He's now starting to talk, and is really understanding things we say to him - he's a little boy now rather than a baby! Cherish every moment you have with your ds while he's still so young

We have to be in Cyprus 6 days before we get married, for legal reasons or something, so we're getting married on the 6th day- end of July. They can change that though! Hope they don't as one of my bridesmaids is only flying out for 2 days. The holiday is two weeks so that's pretty much our honeymoon, too. There's a few of my family, and lots of DP's family going, so they can mind DS if we want a couple of nights to ourselves. I'm in white and the bridesmaids are in aqua- sounds horrible, but it's lovely, honest

It would be great if you could get some suggestions for the whole positive birth experience thing off your friend, I kept askin the midwives and HV's about it after I'd had the baby and they kept telling me to stop thinking about future babies, and just focus on the one I've got for now

I went the opposite way when I was pregnant- because of being allergic to the hormones, I put on 5 stone!! And I was in like a haze for the whole pregnancy, I was paranoid, freaked out by little things, sick, and depressed. I can't even use contraception because of the hormones, so I think it will happen again this time but at least I'll be aware of what's happening so I won't feel like I'm going crazy. The sickness sounds awful. I was sick for the whole 9 months, but it wasn't absolutely awful sickness, it was just like car sickness all the time IYKWIM. Poor you, but then at least you haven't got baby weight to lose on the up side! I had to put on weight to get pregnant last time, and I loved it- I was really into health back then so I was eating loads of steak and things like that, which I love.

About the holiday, if I were you, I'd wait. What you said about being scared isn't silly. My DP was exactly like that when I was pregnant. If the baby didn't move for 2 minutes, he'd have me up the hospital, he made me go to the hospital in the middle of the night for one drop of blood. I was never out of the place. He wouldn't even let me carry small bags of shopping or anything. But it's easy to get panicky, and you don't want to ruin your holiday worrying about every little thing. Also, God forbid, if anything did happen, you wouldn't want to have to go to hospital in Morocco would you? There is always that fear of food poisoning on holiday. But then on the other hand, it's totally your choice, and you might be desperate to get going! I'm getting that way Morocco should be lovely by the way, we were going to go there on our last holiday (but unfortunately we booked a building site and they got us to change it) and it's all been developed. It's meant to be beautiful, with fantastic restaurants.

Oh dear, I didn't even know cheesecake had raw eggs in it! More for your DH though, which is always good. You'll be even more broody after tonight if you're having a pregnant friend round

Little man's been coughing all night, but his cold is a little better. I've got sore tonsils so I'm guessing he has too, as he gave me it lol.
Absolutely loving motherhood. I was a livewire until I met DP and I got pregnant very quickly, so I was worried me and motherhood wouldn't mix, but it's been the making of me. He's such a happy baby, too, which makes it loads better. He's 7 months so he's trying his best to walk at the moment and he gets annoyed that I won't let him let go off my hands and waddle off I think he thinks he can just do it! Aww I can't wait til he's 22 months, does your DS just say words or is he starting to put sentences together? Our godson is 2 and he's just in so starting to say sentences, though I mostly can't work out what he says! It's so cute isn't it?

Hope you and your friends have a good night tonight

The aqua doesn't sound horrible at all, it sounds gorgeous! Especially with a beautiful sunny day (fingers crossed!). Can I ask why you chose Cyprus? I've never been but have heard it is stunning...

I shall defo ask my friend - she's away now until the 2nd of Jan so if I haven't mentioned it then please remind me and I shall ask her.

Oh poor you with the weight gain. The whole experience sounds as if it was dreadful, so well done you for even thinking about doing it again. I reckon it'll help that you'll know what to expect, and that you CAN get through it.
Your DP sounds lovely - and very protective of you! I suppose it's natural that their instincts to look after us kick in when we're pregnant. My DH was a bit like that too

Oh I just don't know what to do about the holiday! I think I'll see how I feel nearer the time. We have to get through the gynae appointment yet, and if he says no then we'll have to wait longer. I don't know what I'll do if he does say that - tear my hair out I suppose! We'll already have waited 6 months by then...

Your ds sounds v sweet! That's amazing that he's trying to walk already! Are you taking lots of video?

My ds is just starting to put 2 words together. He's been a little slow on the speaking front - we live in Belgium and he goes to a French speaking creche so he's had two languages to contend with! He said two 'words' for the first time yesterday. No-one else but DH and I know what he's saying though, it's v cute! He says 'dar' for bye, and 'oh fwour' for oh wow (I was saying it loads to him when we've seen Christmas lights recently )! He can say one of the dogs names almost perfectly, and was trying to get her to 'stay' (or should I say 'duh' ) y'day and that's when two words came out. We're slooooowly getting there!

Hello, I'm new here. My husband and I plan to start trying in 6 months. I've another 6 months of pills, and then I am coming off. We're waiting for a couple of reasons, the main one being a new position within my company that I am starting in Jan. I'd rather get a few months under my belt before getting pregnant.

Hey, Glad someone started this thread!! I've just come to the point where I am thinking about TTC again, and am excited as well as very nervous. Be good to have some other mummy's to share it with!

Oohh hello Medee and oneyummymummy!

Don't you think it's frustrating knowing you're going to start ttc, but not yet? It's driving me crazy! I need to try to stop thinking about it, and concentrate on ds!

Medde Congrats on the new position! Do you already have children? 6 months will fly by...

OYM Can completely relate to being nervous, I'm terrified! You've probably read the previous posts - after 3 mc's I'm trying so hard to think positively, but it is difficult.

MOB How are you today? I'm just off out shopping (again) as am going to cook a nice meal tonight and need to get some meat! Is so cold outside though - was -7 yesterday. Would much rather stay snug and warm at home . What are you up to?

MBM sorry to hear about your mc's

Let's all hope 2009 brings us good luck!
Last night DP was suggesting getting one of those ovulation kits....but then dd was up from 2AM for what seemed like the rest of the night! Which is really unusual for her as she normally sleeps through the night, and if she does wake up, she settles again. So not sure hes too keen now

Thanks OYM

LOL re your dp . Maybe DD's picked up on all the excitement of NY being just round the corner! How old is she?

That makes me think of our night last night - we were woken by a monster rat in the attic going hell for leather at the rafters/wall/electric cables . War has been declared and I am off to buy rat poison too! I don't normally like killing things, but it sounds so destructive up there, I dread to think what it's doing! By the way, I don't live in a hovel , we are in the middle of the countryside, so rat invasion is probably to be expected... Urgh.

Wrt OV kits, did you conceive dd easily? I've never tried them but they do work for some people. I rely on CM myself! (Sorry if TMI )

DD is 18 months.

Ewwww to the rat, I hate anything like that, especially if it is in a dark loft too!

I was on the pill when we fell pregnant with DD, so wasn't trying at all! She just kinda can along!

CM?? (sorry i'm not very good at all the 'MN words'!)

The main reason for trying them, is so that we can try to concieve a boy this time! Although I really don't mind either way, we thought it might be nice to try!

Sorry didn't expain that last bit properly! Not that that the OV kit can tell us, but there are certian times when your more likely to concieve a boy, and certain things you can do (APPARENTLY!!!!)

Hello ladies, fantastic thread hope you don't mind if I join you.

Quick history had 3 mc's in the last 12 months so been advised by the obstetrician to wait until Feb before ttc again, blood tests ongoing so wanted to wait till all results were back before ttc anyway. So frustrating tntc atm. Thankfully already have DD (5) but so want to give her a sibling.

I know monkeybumsmum from the mc threads but big hellos to everyone I haven't spoke to yet.

Just a quicky as need to unpack the shopping...

Hi mm Lovely to see you here, but yes it must be v frustrating for you having to wait. Is Barbie still waiting till Feb too? How are you feeling about possibly getting pg again? I am going from one extreme to the other - feeling soooo excited I could burst, and then absolute terror at the thought of it all going wrong again.

OYM I know what you mean re trying for a boy - although a healthy baby at all would be a dream come true for us, I can't help but think that I would love a girl next time. I think for a girl you are supposed to bd before OV, and for a boy after? Is that right? CM is cervical mucus . Am quite lucky in that I can just about tell when I'm OV'ing...

What's everyone doing for New Year? We're having a quiet one with a bottle of champagne! Hooray! Hope you have a lovely night whatever you do, and here's to 2009 bringing us all we could wish for!

Hi MonkeyBumsMum

No children yet, this is us taking the big plunge. I think my friends and family will be surprised as we've been career types for so many years and always said we weren't interested, but I've totally come round in the last couple of years, to the point where I am itching to get going.

medee my SIL was like you too, and it was a BIG sghock when she announced her PGnancy.

MBM Yeah I think thats right as 'boy' sperm 'swim' faster however 'girl' sperm live longer. so if you BD after OV the boys will get there first as the egg is closer, whereas if you Bd before the 'girlies' will still be around for when you do OV. Also temperature makes a difference so hot temp for girls and cold for boys!! So they say anyway!

We were supposed to be going to a 'disco' for new years for the kids, but DD has flu since xmas eve and still bad, so going to keep her in the warm at home, maybe DC2 could be concieved tonight and

Ooo I'm so glad this thread is taking off! It's great to chat about the excitement and the fear!

Hi to everyone who's joined. Let's hope 2009 is our year!

OYM- I can relate, DS has stopped sleeping through so I think DP is thinking oh no to the prospect of getting up with 2 babies a night

MBM- we chose Cyprus because DP proposed to me there. We were going to get married in Mexico or Dominican Republic, but then we found out I was pregnant so we didn't want to face a 14 or 9 hour flight with a baby. Glad we considered that now. A 14 hour flight with a toddler and morning sickness would not be a great combo We stayed in Paphos last time and it was gorgeous. 47 degrees in July and apparently they never get rain in July, so lets hope they don't decide to start getting it July 09
Aww bless your DS having to contend with 2 languages! I'd quite like DS to learn a second language from young as I think it's harder learning it when they're older.
I've spent the whole day cleaning and shopping as I couldn't bear to start 09 with a messy house and empty cupboards! We're doing the same tonight- staying in with champers. the Wii, and some DVDs. We're making our own pizzas and nibbly bits- should be fun!

Happy New Year to you all!!

MBM good to chat again, I am not sure exactly when barbie will be ttc, she is pretty busy atm and moving to Dubai in the NY. Know what you mean about the excitement and terror but think I am closer to the terror tbh, we will see what 2009 has in store I guess.

Will be sitting in with DH tonight with a bottle of champers, I know I will be an absolute basket case come midnight, I always am but especially dreading this year.

Anyway here's to 2009 a busy year for us all, have a good one ladies!!!