The Grapefruit drinking knicker checking ttc brigade

[yellowflowers]

Hello,

As Nelix has a bfp (yay!) and she started the last one I thought I'd start this one as a continuation of this thread

Here's hoping we all get BFPs this month but if not then let's continue the thread until we all graduate

Pinkie, great that you're getting scans done; they'll set your mind at rest. Remember that even with frequent BDing and everything else being done right, pg doesn't always result - but your chances ARE excellent if you just carry on maximising the opportunities and getting the info you need. Statistically, your time is bound to come! ((Big hugs))

Pinkie sending you big big hugs, sounds like you having very down day.

I know exactly what you mean beaches, I too seek solace in my ds who is 3. We ttc for 2 years and had pretty much given up, had received our first information pack from a local fertility clinic and was about to make our appointment when I found out I was pregnant, so feel blessed that I have ds. Was hoping it would be easier this time (how daft can you be!).

Thank you all so much your support and encouraging words have made me cry.

I think its exactly what i needed I know what you mean whitebeaches i had 3 miscarriages before i had my dd and we do everything together. She was my life line when i got divorced cos she was so young (6months) i knew that i couldnt crumble as she needed me and that kept me going. I am sure that when she comes home from school and i get some mummy hugs all will be fine. You def. learn to appreciate it when it is sooo hard to get, nothing taken for granted.

One of my closest friends gets pg straight away, smokes and drinks through them and has big bouncy boys. I guess its just the way the dice falls. The only difference is that she takes it all for granted and i really dont.

Big hugs back to you all and thank you all so much you are like a life line.

XX

elliegant i know it's kind of like cos you have given birth that it will have miraculously have made you'ok' ifyswim
i dunno i have to make a very conscious effort to not get too down by it all cos as i said i just count my stars every time i see my lo.
he did his first day at pre-school yesterday and starts 'properly' tomorrow i will miss him and he will only be gon for 2.5 hrs twice a week.
he just seems to have grown so quickly.

Pinkie {{{{{{x x }}}}}}
have a lovely afternoon with your daughter [smile

pinkie i had a crappy month last month and this month i feel fine about it all. if af comes next week it does if not i will try next week. Thats whats good about mumsnet, if you are feeling ok you can cheer up the people who are down in the dumps and then next time it will probably be you needing virtual hugs and words of wisdom

i am adding myself to the list but due to late ov i am not sure when af is due

Smileycat AF due 5th-8th Nov cheapy test on 6th/clearblue on 8th
Pinkie08 AF due 7th Nov
Wasabi AF 12th Nov
Mylittlebubble AF due 10th - 15th Nov
Becky AF due 11th November
Wanabemum AF due 17th Nov DP
VillageMum AF due 19th/20th Nov (DP after this AF!)
Whitebeaches AF due 17th - 21st
Yellowflowers AF due 23rd Nov
Pezzina AF due 24th Nov DP
Elligant AF due 27th Nov DP
JClaire AF due 28th Nov
BoosieBoo AF due 30th Nov DP
Cindy AF due 1 December DP
spats due 7th-? nov

Heebychick BFP

whitebeaches Can really understand where you are coming from my ds started nursery in September 2.5 hours each morning, I don't know where the time has gone ha has grown so quick. It was half term last week and a training day yesterday so he started back this morning and I didn't know what to do with myself til he got home. Also thought I had gone deaf (lol)

Pinkie bless your dd waiting for bro/sis, it is amazing how much they pick up on things. We were sat in Mcdonalds last week when ds asked very loudly if I had a baby in my tummy yet, it was all I could do not to burst into tears.

Hello all. Another day with no time to go online then loads of messages when I do finally check. Sorry some of you having bad day. I am soo tired but want to stay up for some American election results. Also day 10 so need to bd according to Deanna plan - not in mood but will force self to be.
x

dont you hate it when your not in the mood but have to BD!!!! i have tingling boobs today. don't want to sypmton spot as i will be jinxed but they usually hurt not tingle?? but on about 3dpo so bit early for any signs?? x

Good evening all,

I'm really pooped this evening too - thankfully BD'ed this morning so can collapse tonight without feeling bad. phew!

Hope everyone who has had a bad day feels better tomorrow.

Spats I wonder about the tingling boobs - hopefully a good sign

yellow do it! be brave, i felt like that (in fact we both did) on occasion and yet kept it up (scuse the pun!) and hey presto looks like it paid off ..... so it has to be worth it!

spats i had tingling boobs and still have, could be a sign, i wouldn't tell anyone, except you guys, any symptoms as in RL it felt like i might jinx it too.

(((hugs to all)))

Hi Heeby - Ooooh that does sound positive for Spats then - my fingers are crossed for you Spats. Looks like you, Pinkie and Smileycat will be testing this weekend? Baby dust all round

Morning ladies. Well no sign of AF yet was due this morn going by last month but not late till Sat as sometimes have a 28 day cycle. My temp dropped a tiny bit this morning but still high so feeling optimistic that it wont arrive today but this is my first month of temping so have only got other ladies charts to go by, fingers crossed baby dust to all~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Hi everyone

Spats Thank you i agree thats the great thing about MN we are all there for each other and dont judge and actually listen (well read) to what is happening to each other.

Yesterday a friend said "why dont you stop the clomid and see what happens if you bd like mad you are bound to get pg" this was after i had explained that i am on it cos dont ovulate. HELLOOOOOOO didnt you hear me.

Anyway i feel better today, and your sympton is very positive sign fingers crossed.

I dont think will be testing at weekend as not optimistic, would rather just expect AF and start afresh not month.

Am going to follow deanna plan and keep optimistic.

Smileycat Really hope AF stays away from you. XX

Elliegant ARent they all so similar and i agree yes it makes me want tocry too. In a gorgeous way bacause i know they will be so pleased when a sis/bro comes along but also because i cant control this and i know it hurts her when its "not our turn" this month

Big (((hugs))) to all

Smileycat fingers and toes crossed for you.

Pinkie your going to be next... so fingers and toes crossed for you too... :0)

Heeby so happY for you! Now that you have graduated, need to ask a question about the grapefruit.. did you have natural or concentrated? and do you think this helped? Did you follow the DP to the 'T'

I am planning next weeks attack hehehe! I start bding next week.... am so looking forward to having another go. It's like one of those funfair games... to see if you can hit the coconut but in our case its the egg... LOL. Roll up... Roll up...

Village how are you, are you in the full throttle of it all?

Now another daft question for you all... those who are doing the DP... I know she says to use the cough medicine after three trys.. but could I use it now? or should I wait.... (I hate waiting by the way) Does it make a difference?

Hi C1ndy

Its good that you are a girl with a plan the DP plan. I was very low yesterday but the girls got be back up (thank you girls hugging everyone)

I too feel that right i am going to dust myself off and start the DP plan again just as soon as.

The grapefruit needs to be freshly squeezed not concentrate. I saw a difference immediately, the clomid has really dried things up for me and it was back to normal sorry TMI

I dont think it matters to wait for the cough medicine but you could try the juice first and if you not happy add the cough medicine in.

Loving the funfair analogy it really made me smile.

pinkie, hahaha, love your friend's suggestion about stopping the Clomid (not!) What planet is she on? The Deanna Plan is great, though - that plus Clomid should do the trick, I'd have thought, if anything would! Good luck, I have a good feeling for you!

Cindy, though I'm now ov'ing we're sticking to our resolution not to ttc (or is that trying NOT to conceive? tNtc??) in this cycle so that I can get a bit stronger and less stressed after my recent mc. AF is due around 19 November and after that we will be going all out for pg, with the Deanna Plan! Plus grapefruit juice! Wishing you strength for next week!

Hello ladies,
Congats Heebie - we needed some good news this month - giving us all hope.
Everyone it'll be our turn at some point soon- I just know it will!
I've been moving house this weekend. Down from Manchester to Berkhamsted so has been quite a big move. I was trying not to lift anything too heavy! Am now surrounded by boxes - total chaos.
Am I the only one who sort of "hides" the effort involved in ttc from hubby. He's really desperate for a baby and to avoid either of us feeling like failures I try and make light of it. At the same time of course I am making sure we BD at the right time etc and hide my OPK's. He said yesterday - "when can we test?" I said - "end of next week" when really it's next Tuesday as I plan to test and either break the good news or just wait for AF. I don't want to see disapoointment on his face. I just think it might put more pressure on if we were both monitoring it......hmm, just don't know. Guess there's no right answer.

P.s. to all the girls feeling down - chins up. You're not unusual for struggling to conceive straight away - just look at us all on here for a starter! It will come to us - I just know it will. x

Have done my normal trick of not checking in for a few days so been having a good catch up.

Heeby - congratulations!! It sounded so positive for you at teh end of last week I had a feeling that you were going to be next! So happy for you.

Pinkie - I am sorry to read that you have been so down, not helped by sensetive comments from your friend about Clomid! It must be truly heartbeaking to have to field questions from your dd about whether or not she's on for a bro or sis! It will be your time soon I am sure - the DP appears to be popular and effective!

spats - fingers and toes crossed that tingly boobs are a positive sign and smileycat I hope the witch stays away from you too.

Well I am now according to my OPK 4 days po and am symptim spotting like mad which is quite an achievement at this stage. Keep feeling little pin pricks in lower abdomen which I am hoping is some teeny clump of cells heading down towards its home for the next 9 months! I hate this bit I truly do. Most months recently I have been quite matter of fact about not being pregnant because I just didn't think dh and I have bd'd enough but this month we did and I feel so positive that I will be more upset than usual if it hasn't happenned.

Oodles of babydust to all

Hi all,

Just having a quick catch up - work has been super busy this morning. Which is rubbish - keeping me away from you lovely ladies!

Pinkie glad you're sounding back to your cheerful self today. I do think we're all amazing in the way that we can pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and get back on with it - more determined then ever - we're all fabulous!

Becky I know what you mean about hiding all the effort from other half. I did that at the beginning but he told me that he really wanted to be a part of it all. Which was actually a huge relief because I was waiting till he got up and showered in the morning before I could take my temp - by which time I was absolutely bursting for the loo. Things have thankfully gotten a lot easier!

Wasabi

I so love your name it always makes me want sushi he he always up for food.

I am loving the DP, it made me feel empowered last month so am hoping for the same this month.

I really hope those niggles are a little bean burrowing in

xx

Hi Pinkie yes I explained the dp to my dh. He was ok but made a comment about feeling "like a baby making machine" which was a bit gutting. I got upset and he apologized but like many other dh's it seems he wishes it could be more "spontaneous" and "romantic".

I have to watch what I say carefully. I just feel like snapping back sometimes that if he wants another baby which he does, that given my age we don't have time to waste on his romantic sensibilities. I don't say that of course.

I think because ds was a honeymoon baby he just thought it could be like that again. He never took me seriously when I said it would prob take longer this time.

Wasabi

I know what you're saying. All the DH and DPs seem to like that whole spontaneous thing. I think its lack of understanding of the science of it all.

You know how it is bless them they struggle to multi task like us girls and it takes them a while to realise that we only really have afew days that it will work.

My DH said that if he had known it was this hard he would never have been so panicked about an accident before we got married.

Aww Wasabi!! sometimes our DH's are insensitive and yes we would all love it if we could have a romantic night in and POOF a pregnancy arrived, but unfortunately, as we all know, there is a lot more effort needed!
My DH was exactly the same until i told him that i was only getting stressed because it seemed that it was only me who realised how hard it was. He wasn't impressed initially but soon came around

Pinkie i'm hoping for the empowered feeling next month with the DP too. Hopefully it will make me feel like im being pro-active and hopefully i'll get rewarded for all my hard work at the end of the month too!