The Grapefruit drinking knicker checking ttc brigade

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Hello,

As Nelix has a bfp (yay!) and she started the last one I thought I'd start this one as a continuation of this thread

Here's hoping we all get BFPs this month but if not then let's continue the thread until we all graduate

Congratualtions Heeby!!!!!!!!!!!! must say i had a feeling
Positive vibes for everyone patiently waiting to test, and everyone still in the middle of BD-ing!!!!!!!!

Congratulations Heeby, I had a spokky feeling that you'd be next . The sober Christmas will be worth it!

Good luck to everyone else.

Spooky even . Maybe I need to lay off the booze for bit too!

Heeby Huge congratulations, so pleased for you!

Spats Very interesting to hear about the effects of anti-histimines which I had to take this summer as got the worst hayfever I have ever had - thought it was a really bad cold at first but then it just didn't shift, was having lemsips etc to no effect at all!! I also use a nasal spray (pollenase) at night as otherwise snore like a fat pig, but I'm think I may need to stop this too, although DH will definitely not be happy about this!

I have updated this list (again!) as although I did it yesterday I seem to have been put back to the top? . Fingers crossed more of us will gradually joine Heeby at the bottom with some BFPs!!

Smileycat AF due 5th-8th Nov cheapy test on 6th/clearblue on 8th
Pinkie08 AF due 7th Nov
Wasabi AF 12th Nov
Mylittlebubble AF due 10th - 15th Nov
Becky AF due 11th November
Wanabemum AF due 17th Nov DP
VillageMum AF due 17th Nov
Whitebeaches AF due 17th - 21st
Yellowflowers AF due 23rd Nov
Pezzina AF due 24th Nov DP
Elligant AF due 27th Nov DP
JClaire AF due 28th Nov
BoosieBoo AF due 30th Nov DP
Cindy AF due 1 December DP

Heebychick BFP

Hi all,

heeby amazing congrats lets hope there are lots more joining you soon.

in the mean time i am due on Friday but had a splodge on red when wiping just before so am sure no good news for me.

Will let you know when it comes properly but really depressed about the whole thing.

I really dont know what else to do.

I drink grapefruit juice, do acupuncture, am on clomid and follow the deanna plan. what more is a grild to do

sorry to moan will stop now.

Baby dust to all

** meant girl

Hi pinkie don't dispair yet - its only spotting at the mo which doesn't count as the dreaded AF.

How long have you been TTC and will this be your first child?

Hi Pezzina thank you for answering its so nice when someone else is on line at the same time.

I know what your saying but just dont "feel" pg either.

I am ttc#2 (first with my husband) my dd is 8 and from a previous marriage. Around the conception of her was recurrent miscarriages beforehand. and then blessed with her.

I think i just hoped that it would be easier this time foolish girl i am.

Been ttcing since beginning of the year and am on clomid due to no ovulation. Just a bit despondent with it today sorry dont mean to put a downer on anyone

XX

pinkie thats what we are here for, rant as much as you like we all do it. If you are not due till Friday it could be an implantation bleed? don't want to get your hopes up but AF doesn't arrive it could be a positive sign ((big hugggg))

pinkie I've just seen your post on another thread.

I know its hard not to feel despondent some days. Especially when you're doing everything you possibly can to conceive.

I am ttc #1 and stupidly thought I would fall pregnant as soon as I came off the pill. So you're not the only one to feel foolish

Thanks smileycat and pezzina

Its so nice to have people who dont judge you for wanting to scream and shout about this whole trip we are all on.

Dont feel foolish i think that there is always the thought in the back of our minds that we might be one of those who gets pg staright away.

When i went on the clomid i thought i would be a lucky one and get pg in the first cycle, no such luck.

Anyway thank you - i've got a question for everyone, if we have a 25% chance per month then surely those odds should mean that in 4 months we are at 100% ??? any thoughts anyone. why is this not the case ?? anyone, anyone.

wow strange mood today.

hey pinkie i know waht you mean about being despondent.
as you will see fom another thread we missed bd yesterday and are supposed to be foollowing deanna plan but just sometimes life does get in the way.
it's mad cos today i feel so bad that we haven't bd and am kind of sying to myself well it's your own fault that you are not pregnant this month cos you have not exactly put in the effort [and the month is'nt even over]
but i do find that you judge yourself and your husband for every liitle thing wwhen trying ttc.
tis awful.

Hey pinkie im sorry to hear you are feeling down but know how you feel! I've been there (as i think most of us have been) and i know it's horrible. Don't give up on this month just yet because not everyone gets symptoms and each pg is different so maybe this time you wont feel pg?

Yes i totally agree that after 4 months we should be guaranteed pg according to those odds!!

I've had a total downer today too and i'm only 1 DPO but im convinced im out for this month so have another 2 weeks and my period to wait out until i get another go. Oh well, keep smiling.
I'm finding the whole secrecy thing very difficult too as im one of those who needs moral support. But DH doesn't want anyone else to know and i don't want the added pressure of people waiting for my AF to arrive. Me and DH waiting is enough!!

Wow we are all having a good old moan today,

hi whitebeaches

thats exactly how i feel.

i think that we put so much of ourselves into ttc that we then start to tell ourselves its not going to happen to lessen the blow and of course there is the other side of the brain that says but maybe it is possible for it to be my turn. it does only take one swimmer.

anyway thats what happens to me. i also know deep down its not implantation because i always think it might be and it never is. why cant we all just be one of those girls that bds once and gets pg.

Hi wannabe

our posts crossed. my dh is exactly the same.

and i find that those closest to us like parents and parents in law are so intense that i dont feel they give me space to breathe. my mums regular question is "when are you due" i know she means no harm but didnt i tell her yesterday and the day before and before that etc etc.

whereas everyone on here just holds your hand thru 2ww and then gives you the support you need when AF shows up.

For that i am grateful to you all

XX

hey i know pinks i stupidly told a couple of my freind and for their second children both of them conceived on 1st month of trying and are kind of stunned cos i did'nt 'catch' last month.
there is an awful lot of pressure we put on ourselves i think let alone other people.
i also think that cos we hear of stories like that it can kind of make you feel like you are a failuer which definately we are not they wer just vey very lucky imho.
well i dunno if i still have a chance this month i have put up a thread but as yet noone has answered me. i had a positive opk on sundya but only bd that night never did yesterday and if we do tonight its gonna be after midnight=is it worth it or will the blardy egg be dead and gone by then.

ah pinks i think maybe you and i had better go and hide for the rest of the day
wll i probably will anyway i hope all the rest of you are feeling more positive=maybe our mascot heeby can blow some of her baby dust and luck this way

sorry and wannabe x

Hi whitebeaches re: BDing - I think you will have nothing to lose and so much to gain by BDing tonight

whitebeaches

I think that i might give up we are meant to be moving next month and i dont think my emotions can take it.

I just want to cry or bury my head in the sand (sorry pardon the pun to your name) not intentional

My DH doesnt get the same sense of failure and i have to be brave for my dd who is soooo deperate for a little sis/bro that she asks me every few days if the red stuff has arrived mummy. can you believe she is only 8 but she knows that no red = baby. unbelievable i dont think i knew at that age.

Am going to put wine in fridge for the arrival of AF. even if its not today am sure will be by weekend and i always allow myself CD1 to have a drink, before i start the clomid on CD2 dont know if can face it again

HELPPPPP

XX

Hi all

Am on CD 26 of a 29 or 30 day cycle (AF arrived on CD29 last two months). EWCM on CD15 and due to Dh being away, BD'd on CD16 within 24hrs of EWCM and after that...

Had no symptoms with DS, except implantation bleeding on day AF was due. However, the last few days I've been absolutely knackered - a tiredness I've never known before. Now, whether this is purely psychological as I've read this as a pg symptom, the change in clocks or??

Have no other symptoms but I swear I've just seen the tiniest tiniest amount of brown colour when wiping...not there after that...so, either AF starting - am crampy and bloated or??

I've never started on CD26 before though - always been CD28 and the last two cycles, CD29...

What do you think? No tests in the house as I am refusing to test until AF due as too many BFNs in the last months I get pissed off with it!

Hi ladies,

i have had boss here all morning so wasn't able to come on till now!

Thank you so much for all your congrats, i was so touched reading it, i have been grinning and welling up at all the kind words, this is such a lovely thread and i really feel like i've just told my 12 (or so)new friends! in fact some of you are old friends now it's taken so long!

So how do i feel.

Elated / scared / worried / speechless / over the moon all of the above.

We have decided not to tell RL until Christmas just in case, i should be around 11-12 weeks then. i am obviously worried about mc like last time but will take each day as it comes and try to practise what i've been preaching to the other ladies here about this pg is different to the last etc etc

As for symptoms, i had sore (.)(.) as normal for the first 2 weeks then peaked during OV then went away only to come back a few days ago, i thought it could be AF but guess not.

Feel bloated and have had nasty cold but nothing unusual there.

The only weird thing was i had sensitive teeth (!) right from after i ov'd. Also more CM for the last 2 weeks, don't normally have any but it kept on going.

Really i have felt less symptomy than other months, which led me to believe something was a foot, i am off my food a bit but no sickness yet.

I have to say i did kind of know this month, i managed to see EWCM which i totally 100% put down to no alcohol and less caffiene, and with all the BDing i was determined.

pinkie, here's a ((hug)) for you, sorry to hear you're feeling down...

I think Heeby has been my lucky mascot already; yesterday I was stressing about not ovulating yet and today I've had a positive OPK - phew. The relief is incredible. Cindy and Wanabe and all you other ladies, thanks for the tlc. We're still waiting this month out to recover properly from my mc but at least now I know that my cycles are more or less back to normal, not wildly out as I'd feared!

Have updated with new AF date:

Smileycat AF due 5th-8th Nov cheapy test on 6th/clearblue on 8th
Pinkie08 AF due 7th Nov
Wasabi AF 12th Nov
Mylittlebubble AF due 10th - 15th Nov
Becky AF due 11th November
Wanabemum AF due 17th Nov DP
VillageMum AF due 19th/20th Nov (DP after this AF!)
Whitebeaches AF due 17th - 21st
Yellowflowers AF due 23rd Nov
Pezzina AF due 24th Nov DP
Elligant AF due 27th Nov DP
JClaire AF due 28th Nov
BoosieBoo AF due 30th Nov DP
Cindy AF due 1 December DP

Heebychick BFP

Heeby, crossed posts, congrats again! Yes, it's a totally different pg to the last one, so stay positive: all will be fine!

villagemum thanks ((hugging)) you back.

I have left a message for consultant to ask about follicle tracking and uterus lining thickness they do this with scans half way through cycle as clomid can cause lining to go thin so even if you fertilise egg wont necessarily implant.

i just think am bit confused we did everything right and still bet no where dont normally get down from it guess its just caught up with me, sorry everyone.

Am sure will be back to cheerful self tomorrow.

Thank you everyone fir being so supportive.

ahhh pinkie just take this as a really crappy day.[by the way you can bury your head in my sand anytime- the reason i chose my username was so every time i saw it that is waht i would think of]
you know when i have days like this i just do something extra special with my lo [3] today we made cakes and made sparkly stars.it does'nt take away all the pain but it does remind you that we are lucky to have what we've got.
keep the wine in the fridge and just plan all the good things about moving home etc.
it is all very hard and i know it is said to us all the time. but many years ago i went thru ivf 6 times and i learnt then that what will be will be and learnt to take each day as another step to being whatever is meant to be.
by the way my lo was conceived naturally and also in the midst of moving house changing job and a champagne fuelled weekend.
listen i don't want to sound patronising i really don't cos i know exactl how deep in despair you feel right now but i am just trying to let you know that there is an end to the despair whether we acheive prgnancies or not.