Anyone else on CD1 who wants to join me?

[nelix2000]

Hi....cycle 2 just started so back to the begining....just wandered if anyone esle was back at the start of their cycle who wants to join me?

Heeby I think I'll leave it now, if I can! I'll wait for some defo signs eg Sore boobs etc before doing it again. Can't afford to keep testing every week!!!

Come on Makingafamily I'm on tenderhooks!

Aww ladies I'm so sorry for you both but never mind, we will keep going together! Next month is going to be the one, i can feel it!

Come on makingafamily we are all eager!

Oh girls.....! Martini / gin/ wine at the ready for this evening

Makingafamily what news?!!

Heeby - so glad nothing is actually wrong....and at least you got a good idea for timing!!

Hi,

Do any of you wish sometimes that you didn't include your partners at all in the whole 'are we?' topic of conversation?? My DH really couldn't be arsed (sorry!) either way and i wonder why i am getting so worked up when he clearly doesn't want to know either way.

If i have a symtpom he tells me 'be quiet and don't tell him' and when i said i had done a test he told me off for being stupid as i was only a few days late.

I am now at the point where i'm too scared to mention it because of fear of him huffing and puffing about it like i'm some obsessed carzy person.

Sorry to rant but if it wasn't for you guys i'd feel 100% alone.

Why are we bothering i ask myself? he huffs when i mention BDing and says 'it will happen when it happens' but if you don't do a bloody test you will never know!!!

Feeling totally delfated now, wish i hadn't mentioned it at all and waited till he noticed a bump then said 'oh yes sorry did i forget to tell you'

Don't worry hon - I think it's just so different for them - especially when our DHs have seen us fall apart after a mc, or are worried about their gorgeous wives and girlfriends being ill. The whole 'don't care either way' attitude is probably just the male defence mechanism (not that that helps us tho!)

My DH was the same - we weren't to say we were trying, and were just 'seeing if it happened' - which we all know is cr*p because with busy lives the chances of actually having sex are slim, let alone at the right time!!

The really annoying thing is, they're right....it will just happen when it happens (I know that's probably easier for me to say, and I jumped my DH like a crazed woman - "the stick says we have to do it....NOW!") but because I, at least, am a control freak very organised, I have to at least feel like some of these things are in my control (hence the testing obsession!) whereas really, what will be, will be.

The great joy is that we do all have mumsnet to vent, rage, whinge, celebrate and moan on - and your DH will be thrilled when you get that BFP in a matter of weeks!!

Yes absolutely thank goodness for MN!!!

It really hurts when he just doesn't want to know, it's like he just doesn't care. I should be able to share the whole 'ooh i'm late shall we do a test' thing with him but no, he banns the topic from our conversation so that i have to keep everything to myself, including how crap i'm feeling etc. So tonight although i have upset about the BFN and am concerned about my cycle etc i won't be able to mention it to him (god forbid) as it's not something HE wants to know about.

Selfish pig.

Ah that's better.

BTW what OV sticks did you use? might try some, it's been a while and what with my weird cycle now it might be a good option obviously hiding them from DH!)

[angy] grrrrrr

SO sorry for all the BFN's and Heeby - I have the same problems as you with DP so would have spontaneously combusted by now if it wasn't for Mumsnet

For my CP month, I told him I wasn't drinking because I thought I was PG - he just told me he didn't think I was and to snap out of it as he was worried what a BFN would do to me I tried to explain about the CP after the event, but all he got out of it was "not pregnant"

The nearest I've got to him showing interest was a question earlier this month about whereabouts in the cycle I was - I just mumbled something indistinct as I didn't want to put him off - it was OV day after all !!! I've spoken to others about this and it seems to be a familiar problem with men - they simply won't or can't understand what women go through and it only becomes real for them when the baby arrives.

You are not alone and I would guess your DP is a typical male !

TMI alert - I think I've discovered that my suspected implantation bleed was actually a spot where no spots should be allowed .

Once I realised that, I got quite despondent, then have had odd pullings in my tum today and, coming out of a meeting after a lunch where I'd stuffed my face full of food, I started feeling really faint and dizzy.

Who knows ! Trying not to symptom spot and failing. 7DPO and testing in a week.

Sorry heebs been away for a while...am p*ssed off with you Men are rubbish...

I used Boots own - and test in the evening. I realised I'd wasted 3 days worth of tests by doing them first thing (the only time I get any peace), and actually got the positive on day 3 of testing at night.

Jools am trying not to think about where that spot could have been! Didn't that hurt? What symptoms are you spotting?

Any word from makingafamily?

Evening ladies, thank you jools and sparky for the support, i'm glad that it's not just my DH being a total pain, he rung me this afternoon and i ignored the call then when i finally spoke to him i let my emotions out and told him he just had to show his caring side more, he said 'but i thought you tested too early today' so i said 'who cares, you're not supposed to tell me that just tell me i'm lovely'! tee hee! poor him actually, i know he is concerned but like you it's the guys way of dealing with it!

I've been having the same tummy 'pulls' and cramps like you jools and i was at this sports day thing at work (don't ask) and i thought 'i wonder why i'm getting those' and then i thought, hang on i could still be PG just a bit behind when i thought, long shot i know (collapsed thing was Thurs, last Bding was Sat!) but no AF and why cramps??

I'm not too optomistic but hey ... it ain't over till the AF lady sings!

Just logged in to find out the news, sorry to hear about the BFNs . However, no AFs yet...

My dh was exactly the same until it became clear that making a small person wasn't going to be as straightforward as he thought. I also knew that I was pregnant with ds 5 days before my period. He huffed and puffed when I said I was testing the next day and was flabergasted when it was positive. Like he ever knew what it felt like!

He still pulls the face when I speculate each month though . If they had the babies we'd know about every twinge .

Glad you liked the rules girls, come join my cult .

Good morning everyone, sorry I never got on last night!..yes where ismakingafamily?I wanna know if tis good news lol!

Well tuesday is our test day, DP said I could do it today but I don't see the point, I will wait the two weeks exactly.

Though I did get AF twinges this morning, meaning the witch could be early! which NEVER happens! so lord knows!!!!

Jeso men!....sounds like my dad and my brother and once......yes once....many moons ago when I dated them!..Except my very last boyfrind who was lovely! He had great dress sense, always looked good, picked amazing gifts, complimented me etc....turned out he was gay too!!! (i found out many years later, but explains why he was such a good boyfreind)

Hey ladies

BFN here and lots of AF cramps

fingers crossed for you nelix

Morning all

MakingaFamily - so it wasn't your month

I've had a very industrious morning - vets, then took DP for a hospital appt, did the fortnightly shop and picked up some bits in Homebase - haircut this afternoon

Sparky - the spot is actually a sebaceous cyst that burst I get them quite a lot - have asked about them at smear test time but they seem to be nothing to worry about - gets a bit uncomfortable and swollen, but not too bad.

As for symptoms, I'm not sure I really have any at 3DPO, I suddenly had a streaming nose, just for a few minutes and was very very lethargic and incredibly tearful at the slightest soppy thing. 6DPO - very minor cramps / backache that could be something or nothing. Since then, slightly sore throat / snuffly nose that is probably just a cold lurking, and a couple of times I thought I've had faint cramps low down on my left side. Boobs are very swollen and tender, but then they often are at this time of the month anyway.

I haven't had the "fluttering" feelings that accompanied my CP. Don't feel like it has happened this month at all really and am trying to prepare myself for disappointment. 8DPO today, so maybe if symptoms are going to appear, it will be in the next few days ..

Have a good day all

Evening ladies, just a quickie as we have a bit of a hectic evening ahead, but wanted to log on and see how you all were. makingafamily i'm really sorry about AF, keep us informed of what happens.

Looks like most of us will be on the next thread huh, shame but nice in a way too!

jools well done for your busy morning! proper head on moment huh! Your symptoms could be good tho, i guess it's a case of waiting still tho huh.

nelix i'm very excited about tuesday for you! i have decided to test on friday if nothing happens by then. had a few spots of brown earlier today so it might just turn into AF later, i shall let you know. still having cramps but could be AF obviously.

Well nite nite ladies, will check in tomorrow, lol x

good morning everyone. I have been having cramps on and off so def think I am out! Also sore boobs synonamous with AF!
makingafamily so sorry to hear your news! looks like we will all start next month!
And out of all the people on here, I am very glad to be sharing it with you all!

Ditto to you nelix i too feel very pleased to be sharing it with you all.

I hope it's not AF for you Nelix, lets hope it's something else!

I'm out too, AF came this morning, but feel fine about it what with the cyst etc it would of been far too lucky to have been sucessful.

So what shall we call our next thread??

I think the next thread has to include the phrase "test destroyers"

Symptom spotting again yesterday afternoon, my boobs got really sore and the nipples got very hot - very very wierd sensation. This lasted most of the evening, and I spotted a little bit of yellowish CM just once yesterday night.

I slept for a whole 8 hours last night - haven't managed that in months !! Went to the gym this morning for my usual two classes and came back after one - no energy, worn out, wanting to crawl back into bed...

wonder what this is all about.

Sorry about that evil witch proliferating on this thread

jools ooh exciting! maybe you could be one of the lucky ones!?? gosh really hope so!

I agree about the Test Destroyers bit ... any ideas anyone?

Test destroyers it is!!!!....I am going to bleed I can feel it!!!.....not so dissapointed this month....its all good!!!

Back to being rational this afternoon - I've spotted no more symptoms, other than having a stinking headache and feeling really tired. Am starting to imagine whether I imagined the hot nipples thing yesterday, but am sure I didn't - it was just too wierd not to be real

If the witch is going to arrive on Thursday, I shall probably get early warning sometime tomorrow as I always get a spot of brown CM three days before the main event.

Not hopeful any more Will pig out on a roast dinner and try to forget about it for a while

The am I/aren't I is such a pig Jools, fingers crossed that the hag stays at bay. Enjoy your roast dinner!

In addition to test destroyers, I was thinking about all the others that nelix's little club has attracted...grapefruit-juice-addicts, EWCM-checkers, martini-quaffers.

We could apply for government funding for appealing to such a diverse community .

Hehe

The martini quaffing, EWCM obsessed test destroyers - grapefruit juice anyone ?

Roast dinner was yum - huge aswell but I think I could eat another one !

I think we should apply to the national lottery arts fund! I think we would qualify for some sort of grant as we are all avid pant checkers which IS an art form! wow from the outside looking in we are all a lil bit crazy but from the inside looking out, the rest of the world is lucky to have such witty and marvelous creatures such as ourselves!

Talking of weird...my sore boobs leaked!!!tmi I know but i have not breast fed my son in over a year.....how very very very odd!.. I dont see it as a sympton at all...infact I did a sneaky test today and got a neg...with my DP there of course....and it is early but i know AF has packed her bag and is coming to stay! boo!

Evening all! back from my very relaxing weekend away in good old Shepton Mallet. Went to a Caravan/campers show with the in-laws and was very good fun (suprisingly!)

sorry about all the AF's ladies, but at least we can all carry on with the neuroticism next month! still keeping my fingers crossed for you tho Jools as your symptoms sound very positive!! ooh exciting. Keep us posted.

the new name for the thread?
I agree it has to mention something about grapefruit juice, especially since we even gave it it's very own acronym! and something about "half hourly knicker checking" as i believe someone said to our newcomer queenie! very amusing!! otherwise im affraid im no help in this area.

I ordered a Clearblue fertility kit and it's arriving tomorrow, probably a waste of money but need to see if im ovulating at all to put my mind at ease, i've stressed myself out over it so much i need to know!

And Heeby about your DH, i know EXACTLY what you mean. Me and my DH had a massive row on Thursday when my AF arrived because he can't handle it. He told me he hated me being on MN as i didn't tell him anything anymore, BUT 5mins prior to this statement he told me it's all i talk about! now tell me how i can possibly win in that situation?
He made me so mad that i sobbed for hours (hormones not helping!) then he felt guilty and apologised. But i agree it's just their way, he doesn't want me to be so neurotic but also doesn't want me to not include him in everything. Any ideas how i do this?

Ahhh it's so good to be back to rant to you ladies. I must say if it wasn't for you all i would have gone mad by now as i would also have been feeling really alone. Thanks lovely ladies