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Over 40 conception, pregnancies and big age gaps…

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Wingingitlife · 12/06/2025 12:38

Hi I’m just wondering what people’s experiences are of being 40+ and getting pregnant naturally, also having older kids and then starting all over again?

I’ve already got 3 kids and I separated from their dad around 8 years ago. I had never thought about having any more children however I have a new partner of 6 years and we would like to have a baby together. He doesn’t have any children of his own. While I am excited at the prospect, I have to admit I am also absolutely terrified! Partly at the thought of starting all over again and party at the thought of getting pregnant again (my last pregnancy was a twin one and I was ill all the way through, the thought of having another set of twins is also a bit scary!). Any advice and encouragement would be great 😂

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Riverofhope · 07/04/2026 06:32

RooneyRu · 05/04/2026 22:16

Hi @Riverofhope! There is hope. After the post above, i did go on to have another miscarriage. We went through some pre-testing ahead of starting IVF, that, due to recurrent miscarriages, did a bit of a deeper dive on my husbands sperm. Turns out, we had issues on his side that needed treatment and didn’t come up in standard fertility testing. We weren’t really even candidates for IVF until this was sorted. We had to wait 6 months before starting ivf, make lifestyle changes, see more specialists, take more supplements and then finally in October I got pregnant naturally. I am now 25 weeks. I was over 40 so everyone just assumed the issues we were having were because I was older, and whilst this probably played a role - it wasn’t THE role. I’m grateful to the one Dr who suggested that it might be something else and insisted we test my husband further. Miscarriages and infertility are 50/50 - don’t forget this! I hope this gives you and others hope - do your research and don’t settle for it being down to the “quality of your eggs” - it just might not be.

Wow congratulations!!! That’s amazing… that’s a great encouragement and so happy you got your little one on the way! 🙏🏼

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