that wagons getting roomy - a TTC and waiting TTC thread

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ha ha no names mentioned this time

sorry glak im nosy

Aww ll was it one of those silly spats or a row-row?

silly spat over nothing. We are just so tired at the moment.

yeah...ask me anything about the surrogacy and i'll happily talk about it!!

I started looking into it just as dd turned 3 mths old. I went online and googled it, found an organisation called Surrogacy UK who help support surrogates and couple who need a surrogate. We're not matched or anythign, it was entirely my choice to get to know people when i wanted to.

At my first social event (kinda like the mumsnet meet-ups, only for everyone who is involved with surrogacy in one way or another) i met my friend who i am helping. We got on fantastic from the first second we met... I've now known her for about 19/20mths.

We started chatting on msn to start with, then we began to meet up, me and DH and DC's, and her and her DH....it just felt right to offer them our help at xmas. we'd spent a long time making sure it was right for us, and that me and DH know we can gain something from this.... Our family's are very supportive and we cant help turn our friends into parents, and give them what the desire so much, that i got so easily!!

just gonna get the dc's into their pj's and into bed!!

aw thats really lovely glask! i think its dead brave too! what a wonderful gift!

Sorry bout spat LL im sure it'l blow over!

can anyone give me the low down on cod? s/he is everywehre and im not sure i get it!

I dont understand it either her spelling is worse than mine

yeah i know ive done a thread on her to ask!

glad you all think its a nice thing to do....i have been met with a few negative comments but i dont let it bother me!!

good for you! im not sure i cld do it, i think im a bit selfish

if you dnt mind me asking again were the couple infertile tht you are doing it for?

I can not believe people would be negative. It is amazing, I was told when I was younger that I may not be able to carry children (had a miscarriage late on in a pg and had to have a D&C which went wrong.) My sister said that she would be a surrogate for me (my eggs and dp sperm.) as it happened all was fine and dd will soon be 14 months.

its awful what you had to go through LL but good your sister offered, and that all was well in the end anyway!!

BB i'm very selfish too, but i have warned my friends!! The baby will be my eggs and her DP's sperm, she has a heart condition that means if she was to get pregnant herself it'd be too much of a strain and would seriously put her own and the baby's life at risk, she'd not carry more than 30wks without probably killing herself...so not worth the risk for her.

I had someone say to me (a friend in fact) 'i couldn't do that, i love kids too much'...WTF??? was she trying to imply i didn't?? its because i love my kids so much that i want to give my friend the chance to experience the same feeligns i have for my children!!!

Glaskham, perhaps she meant she wouldn't be able to let go of the baby once it's born?? I don't know, just a guess... I think it's amazing what you're doing, I'd never be able to, I hate being pregnant, and I think I'd find it really hard handing the baby over at the end of it all, although it would be nice to get a good night's sleep after labour

LL sorry to hear about your mc, I didn't realise that had happened, did you have difficulties conceiving with your DD or were you ok despite the d/c? Sorry if I'm prying, you don't have to answer [nosy]

Be back later, I have to go and play peek a boo with DD2, she's hiding in the kitchen cupboard, I can see toes poking out under the door!

Galskham, I was dying to ask about the surragacy too, so thanks BB . Really fascinating, and like LL I can't begin to think how anyone could start to think anything negative .
Sorry to hear about your late mc LL . It must haver made your pregnancy with dd very stressful too. Good that you have a sister like that too .
Arghh, dd2 is calling me from the top of the stairs..

Oh i know it takes acertain type of person to do surrogacy, and i know it will be hard to let them take their baby home after the birth, but i know i'll get over it and all the way throguh the hard times i'll just keep telling myself that i'll heal and i've done a good thing for my friends!!

its funny non of you didn't ask before now, i did expect all the Q's when i first came on this thread!! I dont mind asking any questions, i feel i'm 'educating' people on the real happenings around surrogacy, not the trashy mucked up surrogacy's that are spread all over the papers!!

I was told that because of the d&c my womb had been damaged and that there was scare tissue. This meant that I may not be able to carry children if the egg tried to implant there, I knew that I could conceive ok but the whole 9 months was very stressful and I was constantly worried about it. Thankfully I had a very nice midwife who let me go to her at the hospital anytime I was worried to check on baby.

I didn't have a problem conceiving dd at all but still worry that

oops pressed button to early

next time the egg may go to the scar tissue and I may not get pg again. With every month that goes by I worry that little bit more...

My first baby would be 12 now and its birthday would off been September 25th. I still kind of celebrate it but dp doesn't know as it was all before I met him and he doesn't really understand.

should say dp knows about mc but not about me celebrating the birthday.

i understood that.... men dont really understand too much when it comes to the female body etc do they?

right i'm off to finish my tub of ice cream.... ben & jerry's cookie dough....mmmmmmmmm i better had be pregnantso i can hide the extra pounds!!

night Glaskham have a good weekend.

aww LL poor you!

im just watching that abortion show...

I am off now too. Wont be on at the weekend so speak to you all monday... night Xxx

night LL! im off too x

Sorry I took so long to come back, now I feel very rude asking all those questions then not being here for the answers . I have spent the evenig taking up DH's new trousers, he is a shortarse not quite as tall as some .

LL that must have been awful for you, now I understand why you were so upset when AF arrived. But you've done it before, your DD is proof of that, so you can do it again! I wish you the very best of luck for tuesday, and I hope you and DH have a lovely weekend together making up