Vasectomy reversal success??

[terrier141]

Does anyone have experience of this? Hubby has just had it done and we are nervously awaiting the outcome!

Hi all,
Hope you're well, after having the week from hell it seems that things are looking up for us. We had originally gone down the sperm donor route before the reversal was booked because of dh's fear of surgery however family weren't happy with us opting for a donor and the pressure was then put on us to go with the reversal which as you know was unsuceessful.
we spoke this week about going back to IVF wales but now being £3000 down we really don't have that extra money to be starting all over again.
Thankfully dh's brother has stepped in and offered to help us to make our dreams come true. He already has three children and has no desire at all to have any more and having spoken about it at lenghth we have decided that this is the best option for us.
I know we will probably face some critisism for this especially from my family but dh family fully supportive and to us at least we will be fully aware of medical/family history.
Now reading up on AI!! Gonna be an expert on all of this stuff by the time that we are blessed with a baby!(wink)
So as one door closes another opens! Here we begin the next chapter!!.....

Sorry if \I've got the wrong end of the stick pixiejazz so is DH's brother paying for IVF or donating sperm?

Either way, thats fantastic, I really do wish you the best of luck xx

DH's brother will be donating sperm, hopefully will start next month now needing to start monitoring cycle and get the turkey baster at the ready!

How fantastic pixiejazz - if only I could get my DH (and his brother) to agree to that! would save us a small fortune, and me all the hassle and stress of IVF! Fantastic news! Much respect to your Dh/his brother!

If you look on the gay parents threads on here I am sure there are old threads explaining how people have done this as lesbiam couples have wondered onto conception before look for advice nd been directed there - nd me being a nosey bugger, Ive followed links and read how its done before.

Keep coming back and updating us how you do xxxxxx

Hi Everyone,

Myself and partner were at the hospital on Friday for results of 3 month sperm check. Not good news though as the consultant advised us there was no sperm at all. I was absolutely gutted so didn't ask her any questions about next steps etc! I was very quiet towards my partner and feel terrible as it's not his fault. She has asked us to come back in another 3 months for another test. Don't think I can wait that long!

Anyone had a similar experience? Is this the end of the road or am I giving up too soon?

Go for ICSI, this is the reason we skipped the reversal altogether it doesn't have great success rates and it's so heartbreaking all the waiting and hoping.
Good luck.

I'm sick of waiting too! another failed month for me. We've only been properly trying since January though.

[background: DH vas 2001, reversal May 07; motility ok but morphology poor]

You might be interested to hear that my partner was referred to an endocrinologist by our fertility doctor, and was told that his sperm tests were probably reporting worse than is really the case, as even though he had been carrying jars in his armpit and getting them to the hospital within an hour, once there they probably were lying around for 24 hours or so before lab testing. So he is probably better off than the offical test results.

I got BFN yesterday but the result was a bit strange. The line showing the test was done ok was very dark and obvious, but the negative line was really really faint. I wonder if I got a dud test or something, does anybody know? I did it really early too, only about 11 dpo [I know...]

I guess I should just redo the test, but I am resisting that so much - I don't WANT to be sure, I want to deceive myself, I guess.

I have never done a test until the day after I was due, then you know and there's no doubt.
Hold off retesting for a bit if you can is my advice.

Sorry, in my previous message I made a mistake about the date of the reversal - was May 2008, not 2007. [just feels like a long time ago!]

The endocrinologist is a specialist in hormones etc. I think. But I don't know if it was DH being uncommunicative, or if that appointment really was as useless as it seemed. I thought he would be tested for antibodies, or given meds or supplements advice, but nada. He wasn't even asked for another sample, and the last one he did was before Christmas. And, we never get detailed results like those Dr. Pink was discussing a few weeks ago - we just get something like "motility 30%, abnormal forms 90%"

Thanks Sorrento - I will try to wait.....so hard though!

LOL at dr pink! :-) ms pink will see you now ;-D

Hi girls, well where to start - i,ve been gone a little while and missed so much!! Have read through all your posts - theres so much going on!
Nothing to report here though - we have been ttc for 1 year now since VR - much more chilled now though!
Hope things are starting to look up for you all - big hugs to those who have had disappointing news - hang on in there xx

Hey Terrier - really good to see you back xx

Hi - My DH and I are looking for a good vasectomy reversal surgeon. Can anyone recommend a surgeon? Ideally near London however we'd travel anywhere to increase our success rates ... thanks!! :-)

Hi, gosh, there are loads of new names on here, welcome all

Jellyfish09, I would recommend our surgeon for obvious reasons but I'm guessing that it depends more on the original vasectomy with how much time has passed, damage to tubes etc.. rather than how skilled the surgeon is. If you are willing to travel though, he is based in North Wales and his name is Mr DeBolla. Think he has a success rate of over 90% or something along those lines.

shm, what test did you use ? Is it one where you get 2 lines for pregnant and 1 line for negative ? The most reliable test I found was the clearblue digital which gave me a BFP a week before AF was due but the cheap ebay tests were hit and miss really.

Glad to hear your feeling more chilled out terrier, can't believe its been a year already !!

Pink, anything more to report on the IVF ??

Hi all,

Just been cathcing up on the messages....it has me all confused. My oldest son has just had his 8th birthday and I just feel so upset at the fact that life is ticking by so quickly. I cried on his birthday....my youngest is due to have his birthday in a few weeks and that will make him 5yrs old. I really want another baby soon or the age gap will be huge. After reading the logs I feel that maybe the reversal isn't going to be that successful. I really need to discuss it with DH again but I think he is sick of hearing about it now..he just gets annoyed when I talk about it. I haven't mentioned it for about 2 weeks now so I feel its soon to be the time again. I am sick of struggleing with these thoughts and feelings on my own.
Any advise on how to keep from getting hysterical about it? I know alot of people think having 3 is far hader than having 2 (I have been doing my research) but feel that my family just isn;t complete.....sorry I'm rambleing now......I have been trying not to think about it for a while and now I am letting myself again the feelings seem to be more powerful than before.

Hope everyone is ok.

I think you have to share your feelings with your DH otherwise it'll drive a wedge between you, all I can say is it took 5 years to get the message thorough to mine so I hope you don't have to wait that long but I really would go straight for ICSI because the reversals have a limited amount of success and time is of the essence.

Well glad to see everyone is doing ok, hopeforamiracle sorry to hear your news. Try and keep going and stay positive - easier said than done I know!
Well received all the insemination kit including syringes (not turkey baster!) ha ha, now just have to wait....I know dh is doing a very honourable thing with his brother being a donor and this isn't an easy choice for any man I guess. It's hsrd trying to remember that although I am excited he's still recovering and probably feeling really rubbish inside.
He's got everything in hand and is more aware of when I'm ovulating than I am well will keep you posted I'm sure it'll be interesting!!

Ok - where is everyone? Where are you all hiding?! My excuse for not being on here lately is that I just havent got anything to add - nothings happening, but thats fine - I have now (finally) accepted that nothing is likely to happen so Im far more relaxed about it!

Pixie - your news sounds very exciting - we need an update - hows it going? How does everyone feel about things now?

Hey terrier - same reason as you - nothings happened. I am due to go back to the clinic on thursday for our counselling so hopefully things will move after that. Where are you sorrento???? Did you decide to egg share after all? Or have you gone for the full cost ivf?

Hello
I have literally filled out my egg sharing form today, you get a green form to fill out and tell the egg when it's 18 all about you and your family and give it a good luck message, so that's done.
I should be pregnant on 12th June, with a due date of the 5th March 2010, isn't it all so romantic
So I've been having acupuncture and bought a hypno IVF cd and am popping folic acid, finger crossed it's enough.
I know it's a bit daft but I am trying to visualise myself with this baby, to make it real.

Hey sorrento! I just got the exact same form today from the counsellor! I will fill it out tomorrow - its all a bit exciting!

The counsellor put the fear of god up me, I hope yours is more helpful.
Have you had the blood tests for CF yet ? That's what held us up for weeks and annoyed the hell out of me.

our consellor was really good, just asked us about if we'd thought about the issues, i.e. did we want to agree to 1 live birth per gamete donation or more, do we agree to lesbian/single/women up to age of 50 - if not we just have to specify this on our forms, no necessity to agree to any of above just makes finding a potential donor a bit longer process as all of those people would then not be able to be matched with you.

Asked if we would be finding out if recipient has any children...said we prob would and dshe reassured us we did not need to find out straight away as they keep the info on file for some years after, so say, we had been unsuccessfull we may not want to ask til a few years later. sked if we plan on telling our DS (or any dc's born from our ivf) said yes, she was positive about that. asked if we understood anonymity thing no longer in place and implications of that, obviously yes we do and also explained a bit further about what happens if you dont respond well to drugs and dont produce enough eggs to share and what our options are at that stage.

Was really informal friendly and helpful. reassured us a lot, offered us further assistance should we need it, only in there 30 mins as me and DH had discussed all the issues prior to appointment and were fairly relaxed about our answers/feelings about the process. Your counsellor sounds like a bt of a monster TBH!! What have you put on your donor form about you??? Im finding it really hard to fill in!! How do you get the essence of your personality down like that!

Oh and had all blood tests inc CF about 6 weeks ago and have to ring egg share co-ordinator on monday to check where its all up to. Have you got yours back yet?