January 2025 ✨

[Emiily887]

Hi ladies, a new thread for us to continue the amazing support into the new year.
Praying this thread will hold the key to many positives🩷
I’m currently on CD4 today and looking forward to a fresh cycle. We have now hit the one year mark TTC no. 3 so hoping for a miracle soon xxx

Aww I’m really sorry to hear this! You have still done well to get two goes in so far.

keeping my fingers crossed for you and sending baby dust x

Hey @DaringlyDizzy , I know exactly how you’re feeling. My DH suffers from ED too, so it can sometimes be work for us as well, but ever since we decided to self inseminate, it has really taken the pressure off for him, and I know that he has 100% … well, you know ☺️ so stops the wondering for me.

I track my ovulation really closely, and am going for timing over number of times, as that’s just the cards we have been dealt.
I keep reminding myself that it only takes one successful little fella to get everything started ☺️

my fingers are crossed for you! ✨

I was reading the post and just wanted to say with my first I ovulated on a Saturday (I was only BBT at the time) we only DTD on the Weds & Saturday and I fell pregnant! 4 years later I’m currently lying on her bedroom floor wishing for her to go to sleep!

Might seem like everyone is doing it 4+ times but it only take 1 time for it to work!
Good luck 🤍

I read your message and had to respond. With my son we were TTC for months, and DTD every other day or more during the fertile window with no results. One month my husband was ill and we only DTD once… that was the month we fell pregnant! My son is now 5. So frequency isn’t always very important in my experience xx

Hello everyone. I thought I saw a vvvvfl last night at 7 Dpo (way outside the timeframe) so did another this morning and the line is there again but within 4 minutes more pronounced. I'm tentatively excited and just going to test each day to see if it gets darker. If not I will write it off as an indent. A lot of losses and complex history so it's always a battle between managing expectations and willing and believing that this time will be different. I turned up the sharpness on the image. Hope everyone is doing ok 🤗

@Summerrose24 I can see the line, tentative congratulations!

@Emiily887 Have you tested today as you intended? Or holding on until AF is due? Fingers crossed for you!

I can see the faint line too @Summerrose24 tentative congratulations 🤞 xx

Hey, I just wanted to say I’m thinking of everyone and sending love.

how is everyone doing?

so I’m CD31 and finally caved and took a test early Wednesday morning.

I feel awful to say it because I would just wish the same for everyone here. It was positive.

however I feel very strange and different to how I ever felt before my MC. I’m basically in denial. When I first looked at it I ran out of the room and thought shit what have I done. And now every thought I have there’s a voice in my head saying “but you’re not pregnant”.

has anyone else ever experienced this? I feel like I’m going insane.

xx

@Summerrose24 I see it, and if I were you I’d be getting excited 🙌

Thank you everyone, I went and got a clear blue 6 days early test and it's positive, but @dev86 I'm feeling exactly like you. I was even calculating the due date and it's only 1 day off my older daughters birthday but the voice in my head was saying it's not even real so forget about that. For me I think it's because of previous losses (getting to a 7 week scan and discovering no heart beat) and then a chemical where the tests just never progressed. So it must be my defences are up. I haven't even told my husband as he's been out, I've only told you guys 😅
@dev86 sending you tentative congratulations and just take each day at a time, I'm sure the feelings will change day to day 🤗

@Summerrose24 Thank you so much. Same goes to you of course - tentative congratulations. I totally know what you mean - dates etc. I’ve not updated my app or tried to think about any dates as I have the same thought interrupting me as you said. I have told DH - he guessed pretty quickly, then only other person is my friend whose daughter was stillborn (as I know she completely understands). Then of course you guys on here! It helps so much to know I’m not alone xx

that's been one of the things I’ve been worried about too - will I have to stop posting on here now? I love this space. Will I have to move to another thread? Xx

PS I’m so sorry for your losses, for everyone’s. I’ve not dared take any other tests in case it’s a chemical. Another very odd thing is I don’t feel like I have symptoms (usually I have raging sickness) which should be amazing but it just feels eerie and like something might be wrong. Goodness me! Talk about an emotional roller coaster.

In other news I did get this book which looks good

@dev86 @Summerrose24 im so so happy for you both that you got your positives. 💕💕I completely felt the same that i just couldn’t believe it and was convinced it wasn’t real. I also had this voice in my head telling myself it will be a chemical. Still doesn’t feel real tbh. Pregnancy after loss is a whole other ball game isn’t it. Summerrose same it took me well over a week to update my app as I just was so guarded and didn’t want to get too ahead of myself!
how are you both feeling? I’m so pleased for you both and also we can take comfort that we are all feeling similar in that it’s pregnancy after loss x

Aagghh! Congratulations @dev86 i’m so happy for you. Praying this one sticks and a happy and healthy pregnancy, baby & mum 🤞🤞✨✨✨ good luuuuckkk!!!! Xx

@HopeB Just wanted to say I am thinking of you . I think you said you were hoping to test today - wanted you to know that whatever the outcome, I feel like I can confidently say that everyone on this thread is here for you and you have our support. Same goes for everyone else too, of course 🩷

You’re right, the mental load of TTC is heavy on us as we are monitoring everything in our own bodies. One wants to take the stress away from our partners (if going the “traditional” route) and try to make it feel like the only “job” they have is to… well, you know! But even that ends up feeling pressurised. I can’t speak to AI as I’ve never tried it but FWIW I think it seems like a wonderful way to try to take some of this pressure away from the partner, particularly when life is happening (work, health, etc).

But you are definitely right that raising children takes 2 (at least!) to tango! And generally communicating is better than not, even if it feels horrible x

In the meantime, the university applications have actually been progressing! Cripes knows what I’ll do about it all now… again, brain can’t even think that far ahead. I suppose I’ll go with the flow then if I do get offered a place then have a conversation about deferring. Luckily I’m not in a rush to do it! At least it occupied my mind slightly during the TWW is all I can say 😂 music therapy is ace, it’s sort of what I currently work in xx

I absolutely love the sound of your novel. That’s amazing. So it’s more Heathcliff/Bridgerton than mills & boon vibes? 🥰 If you ever need a proof reader - I’m right here ☺️

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Thanks so much @dev86 such a sweet message! I did test and sadly, it was negative.
i’m currently trying to get my head around having to try again. But we have our fertility tests already booked for Feb, and a short break next weekend, so outfit planning will occupy my mind for at least a few hours lol

My DH has been great. I was really sad (so was he), but we just talked through it and he is giving me the space to get my head back in the game (so to speak).

yeah, the pressure has really been reduce because of self insemination. I just hope that it works. If not, we have begun to discuss IVF. We’ll see.

i’m so happy for you though! All of the positives keep me going ✨
taking it day by day seems like the best thing to do. You can’t control the outcome, but as of right now, you ARE pregnant, so sitting in that knowledge for today is all you can do ☺️

This is my first ever online thread, so I don’t know if people never look back once they are pregnant, but it would be lovely to hear your updates as you progress! 😊

haha! Exactly that RE: book vibes 😂
You’ll be alright - like you say, you can always defer lol. Besides, it will be a great story to tell your little one, one day 😊 xx

currently on cd26 when my cycles usually don’t get past 23/24 days. I’ve not had one longer since having my third baby a year ago.

Scared to get my hopes up.

Ive had implantation bleeding with the last three and not this one and also we only dtd 3&6 days before ovulation and I didn’t notice any ewcm 3 days before so just feels very unlikely.

Congratulations @dev86! I completely understand your mixed feelings after loss but hope that you will feel more settled with every passing day. Wishing you a joyful easy pregnancy 💖

Thanks @dev86 that book looks so nice, I think I need to get a copy. Thanks for your lovely messages everyone, I find it so hard to remember and tag all the usernames properly - I'm on my phone maybe it's easier on a laptop. Im so sorry i always forget to tag someone who has sent a lovely message but I see all your kind messages and they mean so much.
A PhD in music therapy sounds so cool @dev86 ! My 2nd child has special needs and loves music, if you ever need volunteers for a case study just let me know 😊
@luxylocket I'm so happy things are progressing and you're starting to accept and enjoy it. I'm hoping I'll be there in a week or so. I told my husband as soon as he got home last night and he's delighted but also cautious like me.
@hopeb I'm sorry to hear your test was negative, it's such heartache and I'm glad both you and your partner could grieve a little today and also have a nice trip coming up which might be a distraction. We are all here to chat with you even when all at different stages. This thread is so nice.

Ahhhh @dev86 so happy for you!!
So many positives on this thread - how wonderful. I really do hope you all have happy and healthy pregnancies.
How is everyone today?
@Happibara I tested today, BFN at the moment. How are you? Xxx

@dev86 woops I missed your update, so happy for you!!

@Emiily887 Great to hear from you, been thinking of you lovely 💕thank you. I’m trying to stay mindful and humble and take a day at a time.
im sorry to hear it wasn’t a bfp today, been thinking of you lots as I know it marked the year point this month.

Hi just wanted some advice please…

AF is 3-4 days late. BFN on Friday morning, not first day urine but it was a boots early test so surely it would have been positive at 1-2 days after AF is due? I have sore boobs and v sore nipples but no other signs that AF is on the way. I’m usually pretty regular at 26-27day cycle. Not sure what’s happening?! After the BFN I was like ok that’s it I’m definitely not pregnant, but now 2 days later and AF still hasn’t arrived I’m starting to get hopeful again.

Hi, we started trying in February last year, I fell pregnant on the first try but it ended in a MC in April, we had a few months of trying again with no success then had a break for 3 months because we have a couple of holiday booked this year and tbh I needed a break. Since the MC my symptoms before AF are totally different, I don’t get really hungry and I do get really sore swollen boobs straight after I ovulate. I had a private blood test done and my prostaglandin was quite high so I think that’s why, I’m planning to go back to the doctor and see if they’ll test, has anyone had this? The treatment seems quite serious. I’m now 9 DPO and have started trying again, I’m really moody, have horrendous anxiety and extra sore boobs, I don’t want to test because I can’t handle seeing another negative and not sure if I’m just convincing myself I could be pregnant again. I’m not really sure what I’m asking, just struggling with it all.

Congratulations @dev86 and @Summerrose24 delighted for you both! Wishing you both happy and healthy pregnancies 💖💖