1dpo, anyone else?

[Emiily887]

Back at the start of another TWW… anyone else at the same point and fancy being TWW buddies?
We have tried the SMEP method and conceive plus lubricant this month, time will tell if they have made a difference!🤞🏼

I’ve been stung by these tests a few times….however, these do look very convincing!!!

Just don't understand why no other brand is picking them up. I wonder have I had a chemical?

I've got lower back pain too and some cramps and bloating, but that's pre AF symptoms for me as well as pregnancy so that's cruel.

The only think I know from early pregnancy is a very distinct boob pain. I do not have that at all this cycle unfortunately.

Good luck to those testing in the morning. Fingers crossed for us all.

@Bb542 @boymumtoone i had lower back ache with previous pregnancies but it’s also a sign of af for me so I’m in two minds☹️

I also get this leading up to AF but my AF is still predicted 5 days away so that's early for AF symptoms for me! What is your AF due?

I would love to stay in touch with you all! You’ve become like friends over the last week!
I do have support from my friends but I try not to go on about it too much. It’s been so great to chat with people going through the exact same thing x

@boymumtoone due on my apps on 24th but I’m nearly always a day later than it predicts so going with 25th, so 4 days to go. Normally back ache starts a day or two, 3 at an absolute push before af so I suppose that’s different! And it’s usually a gradual build up, this came suddenly and was moderate straight away. I’d love to know🤣

Me too! I feel like I know everyone, it’s hard with friends because you’re always at different stages of your lives and don’t want it to be the front of every conversation, whereas here we’re all at similar stages of our cycle and all at the stage of crazy testing …. And empowering it🤣🩷

I'm the same. My friends know what I've been going through with miscarriages and TTC journey but it's hard for them to relate. So nice to have this group ❤️

AF due for me on Monday so it'll be interesting to see what happens 👀

Will you be texting in the morning? I defo think this is a sign for you. 🤞🏼

Does anyone else feel stuck in life sometimes? I feel like half of my friends are at the stage where they're getting married, having babies and the other half are still going out every weekend and partying. I feel like because I've no children yet I'm expected to want to be go out when all I want is my own little family. It's such a weird feeling - it's like I want to be in a different stage of my life but I can't get there 😫💔

@boymumtoone of course I’ll be testing in the morning🤦🏻‍♀️🤣 can’t help myself! I really hope so, thank you 🩷

Bless you, it's so hard when TTC isn't as quick as others have it and you feel like you're waiting for your life to start.

But I'd say you have started it, and you're on the way. It'll happen and be so worth the wait xx

@Bb542 Totally this and I’m with you here. have felt left behind sometimes. But my husband reminds me ‘they do them and we do us. We are on our own path’
I def feel that with my friends who have babies now the dynamics have changed. Especially since my mc. It’s not that they havnt been supportive it’s just its different and we are at different stages.

@Bb542 absolutely - I've watched all my friends and family have babies since I've been TTC, many have had a second or are pregnant with their second. Very few have had issues or had to wait as long as I have. It's a really hard place to be.

All the time!! I was one of the first to have a baby (mentioned earlier she was unplanned but never anything less than the best surprise and my mini bestie) amongst my friends and I always struggled to fit in with their lives! I just wanted to stay home with my baby but when I did go out (a rarity🤣) I felt out of place! Even now half are married and happy with kids and there’s some that are single, love to go to the pub still and aren’t interested in kids (which is fine but I never really see them anymore because I don’t think I could ever keep up now🤣) What I’m trying to say is whatever stage we’re at, there’s constant expectations of what we should be doing! I think 20s/30s are the hardest years because lots of people find themselves at a very strange cross road of what they should be doing, but in reality all we should be doing is what we want to do🩷

While it's awful that we all feel the same way, it gives me a little bit of comfort knowing I'm not the only one who feels like this. I am so ready to settle down and have been for a couple of years, but it just hasn't worked out yet.
I definitely agree that I feel left behind sometimes. I feel like my friends who have babies already have become closer because they have a commonality by all having babies of similar ages. I wish I could be on the same journey as them but it just hasn't worked out 💔 TTC can be so tough 💔

@Emiily887 you've hit the nail on the head with your last line there. That is so true.

On that same note, it’s partly why I love this thread so much! There’s not many people I would tell that I’ve sat, POAS, got my torch out, done a whole investigation on the test, put it in the bin, got it back out and repeated the same process countless times🤣 yet here we are, a group of strangers, at the same stage but with different stories and dynamics supporting eachother to ride the crazy testing train, supporting eachother after each negative, congratulating eachother on the positives and analysing each others tests with absolutely no judgement. So for that, thank you!

🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼 🥹🥹🥹 thank you for starting this thread!

@Emiily887 Hear hear!!! 👏👏👏

and @Bb542 it is so so tough and you grin and smile and be happy for them and a part of you is of course but it’s also like a hurt in your heart cos you know the friendship has changed and you’re watching them all get closer and do baby stuff together which naturally you can’t join in with. My friends do invite me to stuff and I’ve gone to farms/soft plays just so it feels like I’m seeing my friends but I always feel like a spare part and I don’t fit as I’m the one there without a child.

sorry that probably sounds poor me!!! I honestly love my life with my husband and we have a good life in lots of ways. I just have to accept friendships change and as @Emiily887 says the 20/30s are where paths divide and that’s just how it is

Sending you lots of love ❤️ I totally know how you're feeling. I have felt like a spare part too at times, even though my friends are the best and always invite me everywhere with them and the kids 🥰 they're also all so confident with babies and I get scared holding one 😂 I just have very little experience.

I feel like we'd all be friends in real life 🫶🏼

Aww I totally agree this has been such a lovely vibe on here. I ummed and ahhhd about joining Mumsnet for support ttc and it’s the best decision I made. 🩷
you’ve all been so nice and we’ve supported eachother. I didn’t know threads could be as nice as this.
and thank you @Bb542 one day that will be us at the farms and parks I know it 🤍🤍🤍

@LuxyLocket i was a thread ‘watcher’ for ages, then I joined a thread a few months ago but it tailed off and was nothing like this one! I was debating whether to make my own but I wanted to see if anyone else was with me in real time if that makes sense! So glad I did because the support on this thread is absolutely amazing from everyone! And not one judgemental person telling us to ‘just stop testing’🥲

I feel like we need to start a new one asap!

I think threads can only go to 22 pages maybe? Xx