TTC at 39 years old. Anyone else?

[Rain11]

Hi ladies.

It's my third month trying to get pregnant. I'm 39 years old, my partner is 40, and I've never been pregnant before. I'm dpo11 and starting to get nervous.

Is there anybody else in a similar situation? I'm just trying to find somebody who's going through this as well.

Good luck to all of you.

Suggest that at this age all of the tests are done sooner rather than later to get a sense of where you're at, as receptivity to conception begins to vary wildly and particular action may be needed if your heart is set on it.

@Joleyjojo I can definitely see a line. Wait a couple of days and test again. So exciting 😁

these we’re from yesterday. Still in a lot of shock and can’t let myself enjoy it quite yet. X

Congrats @Joleyjojo !!

I agree with @sirensong - my situation is slightly different as I'm in a same-sex couple so we had IVF and were lucky enough to have two babies in our late 30s and early 40s. But the first step was to have a fertility assessment to estimate our ovarian reserve and likely chances of success. If you have a spare £500ish, you and your partner could do this privately and then you'll know how likely it is that you'll conceive naturally, or if you might need fertility treatment (in which case, the sooner you get started, the better your chance of success).

Aww 😊 congratulations 🎊 @Joleyjojo . Enjoy the moment. Everything will be OK.

@BarnacleBeasley kind of off topic but I was wondering just now whether same-sex couples have far better success rates with IVF than average, including at higher ages. Because the reason for seeking treatment isn't necessarily years of trying other things.

Congratulations on your double success btw - how lovely. And to @Joleyjojo too.

@sirensong I wouldn't be surprised, but I don't know really. I do remember that we were quite naive about it the first time and just assumed we'd be successful because we both had a high ovarian reserve. But there are all sorts of reasons why IVF might not work work, including chance, and the second time we did fully realise how lucky we were.

The other reason lesbian couples might have a higher chance of success is that if you use donor sperm from a sperm bank it will be on average higher quality than if you're a heterosexual couple who have had difficulty conceiving already. I think I read somewhere that about a third of fertility issues in straight couples are due to issues with the woman, a third with the man, and a third where both partners have fertility issues.

How's everyone doing? I'm 12 dpo today. I tested negative 2 days ago... I think I might be out this month as well, I don't feel anything out of the ordinary. I'm currently just waiting to see if my period starts. I'm due on Monday. 😑

If you tested 2 days ago you was only 10dpo so maybe a little early 🤞🏼
I got my 2-3 on digi today which I never got with my chemical pregnancy last month.

hope everyone is doing ok xxx

I'm 5 days past ovulation today, my boobs are sore but surely too early for that?!
According to flo boobs can be tender at this time in a normal cycle
I hate waiting!

Hurt boobs are such a funny one. I don’t tend to get them with AF. I have had them since about 8dpo and got my BFP at 9/10dpo. And that is the only symptom I have had and I am. Now 16/17 DPO.
Do you usually get sore boobs with AF? Fingers crossed 🤞🏼 for you xxx

Thank you ☺️
I have never really thought about it but your probably right tbh. When you think why heterosexual couples have IVF compared to same sex it would make sense xx

Hey im 37.5

We had a miscarriage last yr.

We are actively trying but i have pcos

Goodluck to all

@Joleyjojo I'm not sure! Abit maybe but this does feel abit different but I could just be being hopeful.
They aren't sore just abit sensitive especially the nipples

Caved in today 5 days til period due but negative.
I have sore nipples still and sore head but I get that with pmt, still hoping there might be a chance

6dpo here. Had the same twinges in boobs but i do get that along with mild cramps from ovulation these days so I'm not expecting success this month. ... But still hoping of course.

Have many of you had your ovarian reserve ( amh ) tested ?

I had that tested today

Nope what is it? I haven't had any tests

A blood test thats important for those over 35 looking to conceive

If you havent had any tests - are u uk based ? - if so - i highly recommend hertility health - they test many important things including amh

Haven't had that test either actually.

I'm 9dpo today and have line eyes. BBT dropped but too early for it to be AF.

Anyone else testing?

Hello All, I’m really glad I found this thread.

I’m 42, been TTC for about 9 months I guess. Periods are regular as clockwork. Never been fussed re having children but one of those now or never feelings came along and here we are. Due to various life factors I’m not always with my husband on my most fertile days, but we were on hols through it last month.

I’m 20dpo (I’m not great on the lingo), and got a faint positive on a Waitrose cheapy test this morning. I’m not sure how I feel about it as yet, not told my husband….

I had that, my gp has been absolutely fantastic tbf.

Wow @ConfusedCrab that's exciting. Congratulations.

Its very rare for gp to test amh

NHS gp dont offer it in primary care

I got it done @ a private clinic