TWW after miscarriage

[purplecolouroffunk]

Hi everyone,

Thought I’d start a thread here for anyone in a similar place.

I found out back in April that I was having a missed miscarriage (MMC). Basically nothing grew after about 5 weeks and we found out at about 6.5 weeks. It was gutting. I opted to go down the surgical route (totally happy to answer questions if anyone had any). That was on April 17th.

We had sort of intended to wait until after my first period to try again just to make dating easier if I caught. I was away for work last week and just kind of assumed I ovulated then as that would have been during the 2 weeks after the surgery.

BUT yesterday I had a bunch of EWCM and we also DTD with no pressure as we weren’t really ‘trying’. Lo and behold I’ve had a peak OPK reading today so looks like I’ll ovulate tomorrow. Didn’t expect that and thought maybe my EWCM was just messed up timing cause my cycle is weird after the MC.

I’m not sure how to feel! When we tried before the MC I fell pregnant the first time and we were so shocked and pleased. So this time I’m thinking like, are we lucky enough for that to happen again? Probably not, but it would be amazing.

I’m also worried that if I do fall again it’ll be a huge faff with dating and that we’ll get a row 😂 or be perpetually worried if timings are behind etc. That’s why I took an OPK today as I wasn’t intending to track this month to give myself a break.

Anyone else in a similar position? Or trying again after an MC? 💜

Hello there, firstly, so sorry for your loss. We are in a horrible club. I had an MMC in the Autumn, 12 week scan, measured 6 weeks. It was my first pregnancy and it was a first try pregnancy.
I have been trying to conceive again ever since but no success so far. I am hopeful it will happen eventually.
Personally, I wouldn't worry too much about dating. It will sort itself out eventually and you will know roughly when you ovulated so you will have a decent idea where you are in the pregnancy. Different thing if you fell pregnant and had no clue when you ovulated.
Good luck and I hope you do get your BFP x

Hello, may I join your thread? I'm 2dpo today and 3rd cycle TTC since my most recent loss before Xmas. I've had 4 losses and 5 chemicals losses, one of which was a MMC at 12 week scan finding out baby had stopped growing around 9 weeks, MMC hits harder and differently. I saw a heartbeat with 2 of my losses before they stopped growing, the other 2 were 6 weeks losses. I'm so scared to have a 10th loss and get into those double figures, pregnancy and TTC after loss is so bloody hard.
So sorry to hear about your loss, it is such an awful thing to go through xx

Gosh I’m so sorry to hear that. Finding that out at 12 weeks must have been so hard. I hope you’ve been able to heal okay 💜

I’m sorry to hear you’ve not been successful again yet but I have everything crossed for you! I been naively thinking I’ll catch again first time but I’m sure that won’t be the case. It would be very lucky! I’m at 1dpo now so will have to wait and see what happens I guess.

I think you’re right about timing, I think it’s a different story if you have no idea when you ovulated and at least I do.

Oh my goodness I am so sorry to hear about your losses. I can’t even imagine how difficult that must have been for you. Have you been able to have any investigations done? I’m sending you lots of love 💜

I’m very similar to you time wise - I’m 1dpo today and just waiting to see what happens. I have everything crossed for you this month and for a pregnancy that sticks for you. Maybe we can keep each other company 🙂

The TWW does feel different after a MC, doesn’t it? I imagine being pregnant after a MC will be pretty tough too.

Out of interest - did you ever fall pregnant after an MC but before your period had come back?

Goodness, so sorry about all your losses. That's is terrible. I hope you get a sticky and healthy one very soon. It is all pretty awful but we are all here holding each others hands virtually.

Thank you and I hope it happens quickly for you. I dont think I will entirely heal until I am pregnant again but then I am very likely to worry about it happening again. Just the way we all are with these things. It was a bit of a shock as I had never heard of an MMC!
Good luck for this cycle.

@purplecolouroffunk and @Objectiontime thankyou, it's a hard road but I'm not willing to give up yet, that scares me more than keeping on trying. Sorry for late reply, I've been knackered last couple of days after staying up far too late on Friday and chasing the northern lights in my car lol. I am pretty sure it turned into an Angel so I'm taking that as a sign, I'll add the pic below.
How is everyone doing? Any symptoms or niggles yet? I'm now 4dpo and my boobs have started aching but they do that often so this month I'm trying to not symptoms spot. I've spoken to GP about going onto oral progesterone but waiting to hear back from my OBGYN to give the go ahead which feels like it's taking forever 🥴

Hope you have all had a good weekend xx

@DarkCrystal85 omg that’s an incredible photo!! I can absolutely see an angel there and definitely think it’s a good omen too 😊

Oh we’re so similar! I’m 3dpo today so it’s nice to have a buddy. No signs for me yet I don’t think. In my pregnant cycle my boobs started to look huge and get a bit sore on 6dpo so waiting to see what happens.

Did you find any common symptoms between your pregnancies? I’m curious to see if I’d share any of the same symptoms as before. I had a terrible blocked nose for weeks 😂

I do believe it was a good omen, I'm keeping everything crossed for all of us.

Symptoms wise my boobs in most of the pregnancies were the first thing to make me want to test. In the pregnancy I lost in Feb last year I was sooooo sick, I started getting nausea and sickness from about 7dpo, I didn't get a clear positive until 14 dpo, just squinters and my wife couldn't see anything before then but strangely my boobs weren't too sore that time. The pregnancy I lost before Xmas my boobs have NEVER felt as sore as that but unfortunately at that time I had what I thought was flu but a few weeks into the pregnancy we had to take my daughter to hospital and she ended up needing to be on oxygen for a week, we had all been feeling rotten and it turned out she had rhinovirus, RSV, enterovirus and another bad virus, turns out we all had all the viruses and I'm still wondering whether the fact I conceived while I had these is why that baby has trisomy 15, but I'll never know and I try not to have guesses lol I've even wondered if I was stood too close to the microwave or cos I had my phone in my pocket etc 🙈. My lower back always gets more sore when I'm pregnant but annoyingly also sometimes happens when I'm due on and I'm sure my body has started tricking me with more intense pms. I do often feel a bit stuffy but again I don't know if that's just hayfever haha. So far this cycle it's just my boobs starting to ache again. So keeping fingers crossed cos this TTC is starting to get me down for some reason. I think it's because even once I'm pregnant I don't feel like mission accomplished X how are you feeling today?x

That is indeed a beautiful photo Darkcrystal85. Thank you for posting and yes, ladies, let's take it as a positive omen. Strangely, I am also 3 doo today! I have to say though that I am really trying not to symptom spot. I find i get different symptoms some months and definitely different twinges or cramps at different times between ovulation and A F arriving. I have learnt not to make assumptions as i have been disappointed more than once! I think the only two things that might make me test earlier than AF is due are very painful boobs or real bouts of nausia but watch this space!
Good luck to us all.

Thankyou, I've ordered a canvas print of that picture 😁 still feeling awesome struck by the whole thing.

It's annoying how our bodies like to try and play mind games with us with symptoms.
I'm a couple days ahead I think, now 7dpo, I did my first daft early test this morning. I tend to test from 7dpo onwards as it scratches that itch and I don't get overly disappointed when it's negative but one of my pregnancies tests was positive 7dpo and I like to know as early as possible so I can start taking the aspirin and stop taking the coq10. I hate how my eyes always try tricking me into seeing a line though haha. I have very sore boobs and lower back. And last night's chocolate tasted like I was eating a coin 🤔. I had these last cycle and all pregnancies but unfortunately had a chemical so my tests remained faint positive and then I got period but I was at least able to update Dr. I've had call from recurrent miscarriage clinic (finally) and they are sending forms out for extra testing they'd like to do. There's also another test but I need to not be on period, not be in tww and not be pregnant for it where they actually go into my uterus 🥴 thought of that one makes me feel a bit sick and must be quite hard to arrange with a window of about 6 days for me.
How are you both doing? I hope everyone gets their dreams this cycle, the omen of the Angel of the North-ern lights 😁

I meant awe... My phone likes to think it knows what I'm saying haha

I meant awe... My phone likes to think it knows what I'm saying haha

Hi All,

Hope it’s okay that I pop into this thread too.

We had a loss last month. We found out at about 8 weeks that baby had stopped growing at 5.5 weeks. Heart was still flickering so we had to wait for that to stop, the limbo was horrible. I miscarried naturally the week after and had a negative hcg test the week after that. Took for granted after two successful pregnancies that that pregnancy would just be fine too. sigh

We weren’t planning on actively trying again anytime soon, just seeing what happens naturally, but we DTD and then I had a positive OPK the following day like yourself @purplecolouroffunk (which I didn’t expect and more just wanted to monitor so I’d know when my cycle was returning to normal), but now that it seems possible I’m realising how much I really want it. My mind still feels like I should be pregnant. Currently approx 5 dpo, have had a bit of back pain, light cramps and today I’m feeling a little dizzy. Hoping it’s a sign of something brewing as it’s too early for me for AF symptoms. 🤞🏻

Baby dust and best wishes to you all. 💕

Aww I'm so sorry for your loss, mmc are the worst experience ever and being in that limbo is just awful. It took me a while to get my head around not being pregnant anymore X I'm keeping everything crossed that you are successful this cycle xx

Hi @V1kster88, welcome! I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. That sounds so tough having to wait for no heartbeat like that, I’m so sorrry.

We actually have eerily similar timings and stories. I found out last month at 7.5 weeks that nothing had grown since 5 weeks. We never had a heartbeat and they basically never saw much of an embryo in there.

We also ended up DTD unprotected a bit sooner than I expected, which is the reason I took some OPKs and then yep, almost same as you, had a positive one 2 days later!

I’m 6dpo so also super similar to you there too. I’m already feeling unhopeful/disappointed as when I was pregnant I had sore boobs start at 6dpo and they looked huge, and no whiff off that yet. Although I know pregnancies can all be so different, but I’m just not feeling it this month. I really hope your signs mean a BFP for you!! I totally know what you mean about the mentally feeling pregnant thing. It sucks.

Was this your first pregnancy? And also, super early yet, but when do you think you’ll test? 😅

How are you getting on? We went on a last minute trip to Morocco as we had some time booked off but never ending up planning anything because the last month was mental.

God that sounds so stressful with your daughter being ill and losing a pregnancy at the same time. I’m sure there was nothing you could have done to prevent the Trisomy 15 but I completely understand that feeling 💜 I’m so sorry you went thought that.

It’s interesting to hear about your different symptoms with different pregnancies. My boobs aren’t sore at all and they were starting to get by 6dpo last time and looked huge. So I don’t have much hope 😔

Any more symptoms for you?

Well I currently literally feel like I'm on my period 🙈 which isn't very fair haha. My boobs are really sore like woke me up in the night sore. Tests showing nothing yet though I know it's still very early, I think the one pregnancy that was picked up at 7dpo has given me a false sense of security lol.

Wow I hope you had a lovely time away that sounds fab x I'm away at the end of the month camping and would like to know if I'm taking a few bottles of wine or taking hot chocolate haha

How are you getting on? Any more symptoms? When will you be testing?

@DarkCrystal85 oh I mean that’s a good sign?! That was my very first clue when I was pregnant, sore boobs. Ooh 7dpo is so early, I can totally see why you’d want to test from that early after seeing that in the past!

Thank you! It’s amazing here and such a needed break. Haha ahh I hope it’s hot chocolate for you! I love camping!

I’m at 7dpo now. No more symptoms for me so far I don’t think. I’m feeling a bit weepy/emotional but that’s not unusual in the week before my period is due. I watched a trailer for My Octopus Teacher yesterday and the little octopus kind of hugging the man’s hand with his tentacle made me cry 😂😂

I had the teeniest bit of spotting yesterday but then it immediately went away. I usually always spot from about 7dpo right until my period starts (no one can tell me why) and that even happened in my pregnant cycle. Anyway, if it doesn’t come back over the next day or so I’ll be suspicious!

I can’t quite decide when to test. There’s always that battle for me on whether to wait until period is here/past due to test to avoid the disappointment of a negative test. Or whether just to test! DP votes just to test cause I think he’s a bit excited too.

Do you think you’ll keep testing or will you wait? 💜

Haha well... I'm a pee on a stick addict. So I will test daily now until I get period, I have to stop taking the coq10 and start taking aspirin as soon as I get a positive so I'd rather know asap. Also means I can update the obgyn if any more chemicals like last cycle. I don't get too disappointed with the negatives as I always feel a bit refreshed when I get the period like onto a new cycle but I think I'm just so used to testing so I started yesterday. I buy 50 tests at a time and have 2 proper tests for the clarification tests at the end of good line progression, I get the one step tests off Amazon. I am one of those people who will think they see something even when they don't though, and my wife is terrible for seeing a pretty visible line, I spent the first 3 days of her being pregnant both times (we lost our first boy) with me saying it's positive, her looking for 2 seconds and saying there's nothing there while I was like there really is it's the start of a line haha. So until I get an obvious positive I'm kind of on my own 🙈 this morning's doesn't look like much, I feel like I see a shadow but not a line so will keep fingers crossed something shows itself over the next few days. I felt like this last month and got faint positives but they never progressed and then I got my period and all the symptoms stopped so even getting symptoms and a positive doesn't make me overly giddy anymore. Wish I could get pregnant and then fast forward through it all to coming home with a baba.
I've had to change into a crop top cos the bra is actually feeling a bit tight 🙈
Aw glad you are having a lovely time x
I am hoping it's hot choc too, it's quite a distance away so I am concerned if I am that I'll be so far away from anywhere if anything bad was to happen but I'll try not to be so much of a worry wort lol.
Keeping everything crossed for everyone.
Today's negative 🧐

Slightly edited... But it's line eyes at its finest. If there's something there it will get darker over the coming days haha

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Almost the exact same situation happened to me! Had a miscarriage and was told to wait up to 3 months to try again (not really sure why... but anyway) ended up getting my ovulation dates wrong and 2 weeks later when I tested, it was positive! I was also worried about getting a scolding as well but the date of your miscarriage is counted as your date of last period, I never once mentioned it and no one asked! The date of last period is only relevant up until your 12 week scan anyway when you're then given an official due date to go off.

If you are pregnant (fingers crossed! You're very fertile after birth and miscarriage so it's possible but don't stress if you're not, as ovulation dates can also be different as well!) then try not to worry about dates! I ended up only DTD once in that time frame so I knew my dates anyway.

I'll not lie, I was fraught with worry during those 12 weeks after miscarrying before, convinced myself it would happen again. I really wish now I had enjoyed it as I now have a DD, and there was nothing to be done anyway so I might as well have relaxed, but easier said than done!

Fingers crossed for you x

@DarkCrystal85 that makes sense if you need to start taking aspirin - you’d defo want to know as soon as possible. Did you say you might be getting progesterone too? Ahh I so hope this month is your month.

Good sign about the bra swap! I definitely have a case of the line eyes with your pic too. Feel like I can maaybe see a shadow when I zoom in but it’s hard to tell! But yeah that’ll defo get darker if there’s anything there 😊

@itgirl404 oh thank you so much for sharing your story! That’s very comforting to hear. I’m sorry to hear about your loss but so happy to hear you went on to have a healthy pregnancy 💜

My worry about dating is that I ovulated 3 weeks after the D&C rather than 2 weeks like I would after a normal period. So if they’re taking the D&C as start of last period, I’d always be showing a week behind based on LMP.

Can you remember if your symptoms for both pregnancies were similar?

In the pregnancy I lost I had huge sore boobs and spotting (I’m a serial luteal spotter and it seemed to continue in preg!) but not much else. I have neither of those yet at 7dpo even though that’s still early. Means I’m not getting my hopes up! Although if the no spotting keeps going, I’ll definitely be suspicious cause I NEVER don’t spot.