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In the Company of Pregnant Ladies (No1 Babies Detective Agency pt6)

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nomoremagnolia · 26/03/2008 19:19

Thought it was time we had a new home, seeing as we've almost outgrown the old one. So in honour to Scorpio, Sybil, BB and toomuch (hope I didn't forget anyone ) here we are - in the company of pregnant (and cheerful) ladies

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nomoremagnolia · 10/06/2008 11:53

hiya fifi Good to see you again.
How's life treating you? (apart from the pcos of course)

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PiggyPenguin · 10/06/2008 13:20

Scorpio, we are going with James Dominic I think. Jamie is our nickname of choice, although ds thinks we should call him Jam!

Mw has announced today that she is going on holiday on the 21st. That gives me 5 days after my due date to get a home birth with her. Everyone start thinking pushing thoughts please!

Ready · 10/06/2008 18:24

Nomore, how are you feeling chick. Fingers and toes crossed!!

Scorpio, did I miss that you are getting a bug?? Woo. What colour? Tell me more!

littleladylollipop, lovely to see you

Mistlethrush, good for you keeping up with the fantasy shopping while I have been away

Can?t believe I missed the DD chat. Tut.

Hope everyone is good?. When are you back Gilly??

scorpio1 · 10/06/2008 18:29

Ready Hi

a denim one, it comes on friday. I'm also getting the deep pink fabric set, search ebay for it, you;ll see which one. I sold the loola, i twas lovely but just not sexy enough. i have to use it every day, its my tool of my trade iyswim and i want it, lol! DH just luuuuuuurves me!

Do you like the denim? what colour wil lyours be?

mistlethrush · 10/06/2008 21:20

If we ever manage to get a 2nd they'll just have to put up with the mb. If they are lucky, they will get new covers, but not really that likely . Do have a really nice cosytoes thing - navy blue with paw print in white - lots of padding for back to compensate for lack of padding of mb!

Ready · 10/06/2008 22:11

What is wrong with this???
DH saw this and I like it... can't work out what is wrong with it... if anything! It's not the Bug, but that's all that seems to be wrong with it...

scorpio1 · 10/06/2008 22:22

my mate has one, another that has been on my list, very nice and colour is amazing in RL.

So, do you like denim bug?

hobnobs · 11/06/2008 12:59

Ready You're back. . Hope you had an excellent holiday and feel truly relaxed.

Well, we had our first appointment at UCH-ACU on Monday. For the benefit of Gilly who wanted to know whether it was any different from the NHS, I will bore you with the details. Everyone else, please feel free to ignore

I have to admit my day did not go quite according to plan. We were rung at 9am to say the doctor we were booked in with wouldn't be there so did we want to see another one or re-arrange. As DH had arranged to work from home, it made sense just to go ahead - wasn't particuarly bothered if we saw the Deputy Director or not (and the appointment letter had warned us we might not see him). I'd booked myself a facial in the morning as I was a bit nervous about the appointment but after the noise of drilling in the shop next door and having what felt like every one of my pores squeezed, I can't say I felt particularly relaxed. I then spent 45 minutes at the doctors, trying to get print outs of all the tests we've had done (despite having written to the doctor the week before with a list of all the things we needed, there was nothing ready, and still some tests missing). After a 10 minute discussion about whether they could give me DH's SA results, (they did in the end), by the time I got home, I was so fed up and walked in and burst into tears on DH. Complete over-reaction, I know.

We turned up 45 minutes early as they'd said that DH would need to do a SA sample. However, much to his relief, because he's had one in the last few months, they didn't insist. (I think he's quite happy with the results he's got so far and doesn't want to ruin that!) We were then kept waiting for ages - to be honest, I think the doctor they'd reallocated us to had gone AWOL (and there was I thinking that waiting times might be less than the NHS!) At least it was a nice waiting area with a better selection of magazines / papers than our hospital though DH was certainly getting itchy feet by the time the doctor finally saw us, 45 minutes or so after the appointment time!

We ran through the usual history - have to say I felt it was less thorough than when we'd seen the registrar at the fertility clinic at our local hospital, maybe because they assume you're there as a last-ditch attempt and they don't need to check you meet the NHS criteria for treatment. I also think he was a bit rushed - we didn't spent the full hour or so I'd expected. He said the clinic had a non-agressive approach to treatment so suggested that we start with IUI for three consecutive attempts and then review if that doesn't work. Have to admit this suits me although the statistics aren't great (I think DH was a bit disappointed) - for my agegroup (38-39) it was only 7-8% over 3 months, though the figures for the next agegroup up were slightly higher which doesn't quite follow, so I think it's not the largest sample! Gilly they are a lot higher for younger people - it is quite incredible how much the statistics change after 35 Am trying to fool console myself that there are no known problems so I should have a better rate.

I did persuade him to scan me (more as reassurance, partly as I still haven't seen the HSG results) and he could see which side I'd ovulated on, told me that I've got no cysts or fibroids and that the lining of my uterus was a good thickness. All very reassuring!

I then went to see the nurse so she could give me clomid - we decided that it was easiest to pick it up whilst I was there although we won't be able to start next cycle as we'll be on holiday for the relevant bits. Procedure sounds similar to yours, Gilly - 5 days of Clomid and a scan on day 9/10. I need to use OPKs and ring them the first day I get a positive and they'll do the IUI the same day or following morning. (My biggest concern here is that DH isn't miles away at a meeting which could make it impossible. He's aware it's an issue so planning to make sure he doesn't book any meetings on his own). If they find more than 3 or 4 follicles, they either cancel it or carry out follicular reduction.

I've come away feeling positive that we've got a plan of action. Have to admit the doctor made me laugh gesticulating with his liberal use of "quotation marks", particularly when he said they encouraged us to "make love" the day after the IUI . Also had a good chat with DH on Monday evening about future plans - if it doesn't work, IVF and then adoption (wasn't sure what the agelimits were for this but just found there isn't one which is a relief).

Anyway, enough of me. Nomore & Gilly Am keeping lots of fingers crossed for you both at the moment.

Sybil Tell Jamie to get a move on.

Mistlethrush Glad the weather was good in Scotland. We're off to Ireland at the end of next week. I full expect it to rain so can't be disappointed

Hello to everyone else. Just previewed this - sorry it's so long

mistlethrush · 11/06/2008 16:51

Hobnobs - we'd got to the IVF then adoption route - with the 'if mp comes back, skip straight to adoption' snake...

mistlethrush · 11/06/2008 16:51

.. or perhaps ladder?

nomoremagnolia · 11/06/2008 19:16

Ok girls - I know this is a big leap of faith but I have been looking at double (twin) buggies! MT I know you are a big fam of the MB - have you any experience of the double?

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nomoremagnolia · 11/06/2008 19:16

Ok girls - I know this is a big leap of faith but I have been looking at double (twin) buggies! MT I know you are a big fam of the MB - have you any experience of the double?

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nomoremagnolia · 11/06/2008 19:17

sorry for double post!

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Ready · 11/06/2008 22:59

That's more like it, kitten!!

nomoremagnolia · 12/06/2008 08:46

I'm afraid it was totally misguided though - AF arrived this morning which along with the BFN (also this morning - to remove any 'wishful thinking' that it wasn't really AF) spells GAME OVER for me Don't know what we're gonig to do next, at the moment I can't stop crying

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mistlethrush · 12/06/2008 09:03

Oh Nomore I'm so sorry...

I would try to claim back your A/L though - and have some time off in the summer even if its only for pootling at home or gardening or going out for the day or long weekends.

I don't want to sound callous, and I hope that you don't take it that way because it certainly isn't meant that way, but will you be trying again?

Lots of positive thoughts coming your way.

nomoremagnolia · 12/06/2008 09:06

We'll have a follow up appointment at the clinic so will talk then about what to do next. I'm all for trying again asap but £4000 isn't that easy to find....

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scorpio1 · 12/06/2008 09:22

oh crap. Nomore i'm so sorry

you tried, sweetheart.

scorpio1 · 12/06/2008 09:22

£4000, really?

can you get it cheaper if you egg donate?

mistlethrush · 12/06/2008 09:26

Its horrendous the cost isn't it. When we were going down that route we would have got one free go on the NHS, but then would have had to fund after that. Price wasn't quite as high - but then we are talking some years ago, so undoubtedly it will have gone up.

Have you talked about an 'end stop' with dp? We hadn't determined the number of cycles at the stage we stopped as wanted to have one to see how it affected me (we have a friend who stopped in the middle of her first cycle as it made her feel so awful - they now have a lovely young boy, adopted when he was only 8mo).

It's so unfair isn't it - when you see a teenager out with a pram, often with a cigarette in one hand, with toddler eating a packet of crisps (sorry, generalising here) - it makes you think 'why not me'.

Lots of hugs coming your way xxx

scorpio1 · 12/06/2008 09:37

that really is so unfair, the amount of money. as if it isnt shit enough already.

(ahem, teenage parent here )i do know what you mean, though.

Ready · 12/06/2008 10:24

(((Nomore))), thinking of you sweets. Take real good care of yourself. I am so sorry. Gutted for you both.
I am with MT, make sure you claim back your A/L, even if it is just to take some time for yourselves independent of a holiday or treatment or anything.
I know it sounds mental, and obvious, but make sure you keep trying naturally - because you never know.

PiggyPenguin · 12/06/2008 10:46

Oh Nomore, I am so sorry. I feel really awful for you particularly as I was coming on to post about the arrival of Jamie.

He was born at 6.10 yesterday afternoon in the birthing pool at home and weighed 8lbs and 2 oz. I so wanted for us all to have good news and having to post this on the same morning that you learned you hadn't been successful is just crappy. Sending huge hugs your way.

scorpio1 · 12/06/2008 11:24

sybil congrats that is a good weight, nearly the same as my Jamie (8lbs 1oz). Hope you are well & rest

mistlethrush · 12/06/2008 11:30

Sybil - congratulations!