@JC084 yeah I'm fine. I'm glad really it's on time and not late or anything because that's worse.
I think for me I'd like to stop now, I'd love for it to happen but it's not going to and in my heart I just know that.
The thing is no one knows about our struggles. I've been a mum for 11 years next month and for those 11 years I've watched mums at school have 2nd, 3rd, 4th and 5th babies. I've happily watched people at work bring their lovely news in and welcomed babies into my family. When people say oh when will you have another I just smile and go 'oh one is enough' so people think it's a choice I have made.
I had someone close to me have news of their second baby in 2 years the other day, and the effort it took to hold the tears knowing it's another one to face is so hard.
I avoid certain social situations family parties etc with DH because someone will give me a baby to hold and it obviously a very nice thing babies are lovely but I see the way he looks at me, worrying if I'm OK and we walk past the baby clothes in supermarkets pretending they aren't there.
I'll be forever grateful having one child because I am wayyyy luckier than some people but I want some peace to grieve and move on.
Thanks for listening to that i don't have anyone else to tell it to in my life and I feel a bit sad today.