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Here we are ladies!

Morning all

Never mind the smilies look here

I've had enough of today already, and it isn't even 7.30 yet....!

Nat have posted our very used excuse

Morning all,

Nat, what have you done?

I remember my mum forgot to do that. I was so upset I refused to go to school and screamed all day. It was mainly because it was a tooth I had to have taken out which meant injections!!

Dh keeps asking me if I have done a test yet!!

OK my day just got better

I just got asked out, on a DATE, a proper real one LOL With a MAN, and he wasn't too bad looking either (I seem to always attract the blardy ugly ones....)

Wait till I tell DH!!!!!!!

Have you tested yet Kay?!!!

Kay have they arrived? Your will power is far superior to mine

Yep, she got 'em yesterday!!!!! HOW can she WAIT???????

I'd have used them all by now!

Me too Nat!!!!

PMSL at your date

Oooh Nat. Lucky you!!

Someone I used to practicly(sp) worship said "hi gorgeous" to me in the shop this morning. Even though I work with him and he is one of my best friends oh and Im married I felt like a teenager!!

I have been to the toilet today so I cant do a test now.
I was sooo tempted this morning though.

Morning! can see this getting addictive! Playingthewaitinggame - you sound in a similar situation to me. I am 28, have been married for 2 and a half years. We are bored of waiting for the "right time" and have decided to just go for it! I think we are crazy though as we have a 1 bedroom house and no money . . . would be interested in what made others decide to have their first baby. oo sorry for long post.
good luck Kaz!

Hello Christobel,

Im not sure what made us decide. We just knew we wanted a baby and went for it.

Thanks, hopefully I'll get a positive!

Oh and for Nat all you symptom spotters I feel like my tummy is in a washing machine.

Morning all,

Nat, you must feel awful about the tooth fairy thing! Never mind there were loads of good ideas on that thread of how to make it up to him!

Kay, you are being so good, stick with it though before you know it it will be tomorrow!

Christobel, Yes we do sound in similar situations. I am 25 been with DH for nearly 10 years, married for 3 1/2, wanted kids for years!! Despite being together for that length of time I ended up leaving uni aged 20 due to ill health and couldn't work again till I was 23 and that was part time to start with. That basically means I have only been working full time for 18 months so we have not been in any financial position to have kids.

We have also missed the boat when it comes to house buying, our neighbours bought the house next door (identical to the one we rent) for 165k 4 years ago, they have just had it valued for 320k. When we were surviving on one salary we just couldn't get a big enough mortgage and now we can, we cant buy anything worth having for >200k, oh and there is the small matter of finding a deposit.

We wanted to do things the "proper" way. Get married, buy house, have kids. We have come to realise that if we do wait to buy first it will be years till we have kids and we are not prepared to wait that long!

So, we have decided to go for it this year but we do have a couple of loans we have to finish paying (one for my car, another for our wedding/honeymoon/consolodation of a few things) before I can afford to be on maternity leave. They finish in March and April next year, so can't afford to be on maternity leave till May 09.

If the worst/best happened a bit earlier than Sept I am sure we would survive but I would have to sell my car and possibly move to a cheaper house. As we bought my car new (so we could keep it forever and run it into the ground) and it is useful to have, I really don't want to sell it and we live in the perfect house for kids, which is hard to find when you rent (3 beds, in town, garden, nice area, good decor,large kitchen/dinner etc)so for the sake of a waiting few more months i would rather wait ttc till Sept than do it now and risk everything we have worked hard for, not that that makes waiting any easier .

I dont think there is ever a 'perfect' time to have kids. I do sometimes think I wish we'd saved up some money or learned to drive before but I wouldn't change my ds for the world!!

Playing, I have no idea how Im holding out until tomorrow. I really want to test now even though it says only use your first morning wee!!

Well Kay I think you are being very strong not to test now. You know if you do it will be a BFN because its later on in the day and still so very early. You stand a better chance of getting a BFP if you wait till tomorrow morning.

I think I'll get a BFN tomorrow too as its so early. But I'll drive myself insane and I cant wait until next Friday.

Hello, well I have started on DS1's room, took me all morning just to put all his papers in the bin, there are still toys/board games/books/pens and pencils/computer games/CD's/DVD's/junk everywhere, but at least I have got the rubbish bit out of the way, it is just clearing up now!

I don't know what it is with him, most of the time he makes a bit of mess, but put's it away by the end of the day, which I don't mind, then he'll have a weekend where he just completely trash's it, to the point of him not being to put it all away, it all needs re-organising etc. which he just isn't capable of doing, so it falls to me to do it.

Anyway, what made us decide to have kids? I don't know, we must have been very drunk!! No, seriously, it just felt right. we'd just gotten married, we were renting, which wasn't ideal, because DH had a house that he jointly owned with his ex-partner, she was still living in it and put off buyer after buyer, to the point where they reduced the price to point of breaking even with it. She still refused to make it easy until she found her new DP, then someone put an offer in for £3000 below asking, she accepted it, so DH made a loss of £1500, but it was worth it, it meant we could buy our own house, which we did, finally, when DS1 was about 18 months old. DS2 followed and so, hopefully, will DC3 Now we are looking at possibly going back into rented.... we must be mad!

I do agree with Kay though, if you waited for the perfect time to have kids, most people wouldn't have any! There will always be something 'in the way' I suppose that is the sacrafice you take though when you agree to go ahead, and it is a small one!!

Kay, I am so excited for you, but, without putting a dampner on it, just brace yourself for a BFN, even if you are pregnant (everything crossed Though I think needlessly, it sounds to me like you are!!) it may still be way too early a BFP on the test. I am sure I've said but my period was 9 days late before I got a BFP, had pleanty of BFN's along the way though! I think if I were you I'd look at it as a BFN means nothing yet, so it is an experiment on more to see how quickly you can get a BFP (and put us all out of our misery!!! )

Spose I'd better do some lunch and get back to the room of doom...... I am picking everything up with finger tips incase a loofah comes to eat me!!

God sorry that was hugeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Oh Yeah Im fully expecting it to BFN, but until my af turns up I can still be pg!!

If its a BFN tomorrow then I'll leave it until Tuesday then if its still BFN I'll do one more next friday. Then I'll just give up and cry!!

Noooooo no giving up and crying, not allowed!

I really must do lunch, I am starving!

Be back later xxx

Enjoy your lunch.
xxx

Waitinggame, I think you are right to hang on if it means you will feel more secure financially by September - that is not far off anyway! I have convinced myself it will take ages for me to get preg so we might as well start trying now . . . we bought our house a year ago and I love it but it is tiny - if we moved we would have to buy in a less nice area as we couldn't afford anything bigger round here. I am thinking babies are small so we can fit one in this house for the first year!?
I am sure I am not going to get a BFP this month as I had such bad cramps they woke me up this morning (since I came off the pill they have been really bad for at least a week before I come on) - and also I don't know when I ovulate yet as my cycle has been all over the place since I stopped taking the pill. Hopefully will have better idea next cycle!

Right ladies this is my timming dilema, help please.

If i get pregnant this month the baby will be due about 7th Dec, excellent timming as he will be late and therefore be born just as the kids break up for the Xmas hols. If i dont then it may be next month and dh is due to be away for a9 month deployment from Jan 09, this is right when the baby would be due. He would get paternity leave but 2 weeks then gone for 9 months. I would be alone with 7 children and he would not see the baby hardly at all in his first year. They change so much during that time

So if i leave it till Xmas to get pregnant then he will be home just as the baby is born BUT my sister is getting married in August and i am Matron of Honour. I will be humungous and wont be able to have a pretty dress.

If i leave it till after the wedding then the gap is too big and god knows what the ship will be doing then. See my dilema????

Ooooo tough one...

I think you know what you have to do though?

Either:
A) Get pregnant this month.
B) Decide if you could handle being alone for all that time with the kids, and if DH/baby/you can handle him not being there very much at first.
C) Don't worry about the wedding, you can get/make a nice party frock even for huge pregnant belly!!
D) Risk waiting for deployment/wedding and then going for it, but as you say that brings it's own risk's.

What fills you with more dread? Coping almost alone, or waiting and maybe forever?

I don't envy you the choice, but it is something only you and DH can decide really. Sorry chick, not much help am I?

I think as much as i would like to throw caution to the wind and just go with whatever, i am pretty sure having him go away 2 weeks after i have had a baby would finish me off I mean what if it is a section? I have to drive the kids to school and wouldnt be able to do it.

I sat down and worked out my dates properly and was horrified at the dates it threw back. I think it is this month and then try again at Xmas I will just have to be fat for my lovely sis wedding. I wonder if she will be upset with me? Would you be? Would i be ruining her day? Oh bugger.

OOO LG&T what a dilema! I certainly wouldn't want to be alone with 7dc including a baby for 9 months, but then I wouldn't want to be alone just me for 9 months!

Personally I wouldn't worry about the matron of honour thing and being pg though, you sis asked you for you, not because of your physical apperance and there are always ways to alter dresses. If you really didn't feel up to the whole bridesmaid thing cos you were too pg you could still be matron of honour without actually wearing a bridesmaid dress and walking down the isle. You could still be there for her when she needs you, organise her hen night, help her organise the wedding, do a reading/speach etc etc. There are tons of ways to help and still be a special part of your sisters day.