Help BFP to AF to BFP to BFN to positive opk and BFP

[DarkCrystal85]

As per the title.
I am now cycle day 16. Currently have positive opk. Last cycle I got a faint BFP on day 28, 2 days late then day 29 AF came quite heavily for 7 days (usual is 4-5). Classed myself as out and possible CP. day 7 and 8 opk very dark and i had very heavy boobs and felt a bit sicky so did a pregnancy test and faint bfp. For 4 days they got fainter and then stark negatives and I no longer felt pregnant or had any symptoms I assumed hcg leaving from chemical. Tracking with opk has returned to normal, today being a very strong positive on opk. We dtd on day 12 and 14 hoping the myth of being more fertile after CP to be true. Today as I know I will be ovulating in next 12ish hours decided to do one last preg test and it has a visible but faint line. I was at a gynecology appointment as a follow up for a mmc I had in feb and mentioned this to them their urine test was a negative so it was left there. I've had some pains in my right side and lower back quite similar to my pains I got in early pregnancy yet no other symptoms and I also have disc disease which can flare when ovulating. Now the pee sample today was quite diluted. I didnt manage to grab the pot before my first pee. I stopped doing the preg tests once I had 3 days of negative and the opk sticks appeared to be following the usual cycle. Today's opk being darker than the control line showing that I'm still surging. Has anyone been through similar who can shed some light. If I was pregnant from last cycle I'd now be in week 5 to 6 as that cycle started 1st May. I had darkest opk on day 15 and dtd on day 12 and 14 (and 17). Can you ovulate if already pregnant. I'm concerned re ectopic but been told the sticks would be darker if that was the case. I'm sending myself into overdrive with worry and now concerned we maybe shouldn't have dtd this cycle but I had negatives and my opks were back to normal. I shall attach some pics of all the sticks (feel like I've got sticks coming out of my ears). I have had a couple of threads I've updated but felt to have all the ups and downs in one place be best. If you made it this far thankyou for reading 😊😳

The sticks that say hcg on the holdy but are from just before AF and the rest are in succession from cycle day 8 then continued to be as faint then negative and now today's at cycle day 16 (I did 2 to ensure it wasn't a random test) my other half is picking some others up after work. I know they are faint and this isn't good but I know they aren't all evaps either as they all appeared in time frame. They've all got fainter as time as has gone on though. I have bloods tomorrow and a gp appt so hopefully will know more then.

Hi, just wondered how many cycles you’ve been trying for? I’m aware some women get high LH readings throughout the cycle so might be related to that? I have the opposite problem and never get a positive OPK.
I don’t think you need to worry about dtd this cycle as if you were to be pregnant that won’t harm baby. It sounds like the urine test at the GP showed not pregnant though. Would a blood test be possible (as more sensitive?)

@CurlyWurly1991 hi, thankyou for taking time to read my essays haha. I started trying last september, started tracking in June. I had a chemical pregnancy in the September then I fell pregnant in November cycle however had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks mid February. I tracked the march cycle from my first period after the loss and then we tried the April cycle to no avail. The may cycle is the one that I am confused on as it after that cycle I had the faint positive then period (so put that down as another chemical) and then after period on this current June cycle I had dark opk and faint positive pregnancy tests. Due to the bleed and the pregnancy tests remaining very faint I can't hand on heart say if I am currently pregnant from the last cycle that it's good news as the sticks would be much darker by now. My opk stick was darkest this morning which would line in with my usual LH peak being between day 13 and 16 however with me still getting faint positives from the previous cycle I'm now paranoid I have had or am having an ectopic pregnancy from previous cycle and concerned that if I was to now conceive in this current cycle and was experiencing some kind of ectopic from previous if I would then lose both if any procedure was needed. I spoke to gp earlier and I have an appt with them tomorrow for hcg blood test at 11 to ascertain if I do in fact have hcg in me. I'm hoping they send me for a scan as if I did conceive last cycle I'd now be at 7 weeks 2 days according to last period starting on 1st May. It's all so confusing and I think I confused the receptionist. I've had my partner pick up a different brand preg test for me to try and just make sure it's not the sticks but I did get my wife to pee in a pot and her test was negative. I only tried again this cycle because the pregnancy faint lines had turned to negatives and I assumed it was a chemical pregnancy. Hope any of that makes sense haha

Hi sorry your going through this confusing time! Ttc and losses are just so exhausting and confusing

I had a ectopic in February I had a positive test then started to bleed the next day it wasn't heavy or painful but was enough to think I was having a miscarriage I done another test after the period had stopped and got a negative two weeks later I got a positive on a clear blue which dated me bk to the miscarriage I thought I had. I was 7 weeks went to epu for a scan coz of the spotting and really bad backache and was told I was having a ectopic they couldn't actually locate it but my levels where over 3000 but wasn't rising like a normal pregnancy. My symptoms was really bad backache and brown/pink cm only when I wiped now and again.

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@Jadeypie aww love I'm so sorry you went through that. Yes this ttc and losses is such a roller coaster of emotions. So you had positive then a bleed then negative before further positives. It's very similar to me and I'd be around the 7 week mark now too. I don't think my bloods would be as high as that as my test sticks are so faint it's like it's picking up the smallest amount it's just strange that the hcg trailed off then I was negative for a good few days and now they have faint lines again. I think my paranoia is as above I'm so scared something has or is happening in a tube. My back and pain in right side is really reminding me of not only when I was pregnant but also the pain I had after the mmc. Was your test a strong line? I'm just hoping they don't tell me all must be fine if bloods are really low cos I had a full on heavy period surely if there was anything in my uterus at the time it will have gone with the lining... leading me to believe it was never in the uterus but the tube. What happened in the end for you? I just want answers re my body asap as said above we have tried this cycle and within the right timeframe for ovulation today. I can't even put this pain down to ovulation cos I've had the pain for about a week now. Wish I had my own ct scanner lol. Thankyou for your message xx

That's why I posted because yours sounds familiar. So I had spotting like a week before was due on and I never ever had that before and we had been trying. anyway a week later I done a test was a faint positive the next day I started to bleed which led me to believe I was having a miscarriage that lasted for five days like a normal period for two weeks I had pregnancy symptoms but a horrible back pain in the middle of my back and it felt worse when I was doing stuff and period pains on and off I done another test which was a clear blue it came back 2-3 which put me back to the miscarriage for the next week I continued to have very strong positives with back ache and pains and something just wasn't sitting right I felt like something was wrong so I rang the epu and because of dates and bleeding they got me in. They never seen where it was and I had two scans but my bloods was saying they should of seen something 100% they monitored my bloods which carried on rising but not the way a pregnancy should so I had to have a injection and then three weeks of bloods till the hormone level became below five.

It was the biggest head boggle ever but I was glad I went to get checked because it could of turned out very seriously and I would defo advise to get bloods done you will no by your levels

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@DarkCrystal85 also I must add I'm fully recovered and back to ttc this month for our little rainbow I already have a two year old Ds xx

Aww I am glad to hear you are on the ttc road again, May we both get our positives soon 💕. It does feel so much scarier and harder after a loss 😪
Thankyou for sharing your story with me. I'll update in here the outcome of bloods... I don't know how long it takes to get results back and if all is OK and it was a normal chemical pregnancy from previous cycle and im not pregnant I'll know within this now tww if I am pregnant from THIS cycle. It's the not knowing that is the hardest. I just hope everything is OK but we won't dtd anymore this cycle, if anything happens it will be from day 12 and 14. About to do a different brand pregnancy test as well a same brand pregnancy test and my PM ovulation stick. Been holding a pee for about 7 hours haha. I hope this first cycle back at trying is good to you 😊 and so sorry again for your loss xxx

@DarkCrystal85 I totally get the scarier feeling a loss robs the enjoyment and excitement in a way because it's filled with worry but we will get our BFP 🥰 and hopefully you've already got yours ❤️

I got mw bloods done back the day of please update us Al be thinking of you

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Thankyou, having this thread to come to has eased some anxiety I think... I don't want to worry friends and family and have felt quite lost and alone since the loss and having to tell everyone I'd told I was pregnant that after 3 months I wasn't anymore... found that possibly harder than being told there was no heartbeat.
I've had bloods done, the nurse said she will tell me on Friday what the results are when I go back for next blood test unless results are 0 in which case she will message me and cancel appt on Friday. She said I can check the app but I don't have an app so going to see how I go about getting myself registered with that too. I explained to the nurse what has been going on and she thought as equally as me that it was strange and very unlikely to have that amount of evap lines appear within the time frame, showed her some of the pics of faint positives and she agreed they looked faint but there. It's so strange as they are more noticable than my first faint positive but that was at 12 dpo in december and they kept progressing so I know in my heart that if there is any hcg it will just probably be trace amounts. I'm 1 dpo now which she said shouldn't make any difference to hcg results if I was to conceive this cycle unless I had to continue having bloods next week and into the following week. I'm keeping fingers crossed it was a chemical and hormones are just lingering a bit and that somehow they help me conceive this cycle and I get bfp properly in 12 to 14 days time.
When is your ovulation due or are you in the dreaded 2ww yet. Be nice to all get our rainbow babies soon. Will update with any updates I get xx

This is the first time I've actually really commented and stuff and your right you feel like you crnt really speak to anyone that's why these threads are perfect because we all know exactly how each other feels. Wether it's with a loss or the crazy symptom spotting in the ttw 🤣

So Friday will be the day you get some answers? It so confusing u must be up that wall!

So I'm currently waiting for af it's five days late took a test today but it's negative I knew it would because we havnt been actively trying am planning on that after this cycle! So annoying the month I wanted to go ahead bloody af decides to go on a detour 🙈

I hope we get our babas soon too 🤞🏻
Xx

Aw no, I'm sure the month for us is just around the corner. Keep me posted... I'm invested now 💕
I called the gp to see if they had blood results but they weren't on the system yet, had real issues getting online and I need to go to the actual gp to sign something for them to open the app so I can actually see things so will do that when I go on Friday.

It's only this last month I actually decided to stop being a watcher of the threads on here and actually register so until now I've never commented. Had my cycle and ovulation last cycle been so confusing I may still not have made any threads lol.

Will update in here what results are and what happens going forward, for you but also get frustrated seeing people go through similar and never have an outcome though I understand things can be sensitive so typing up what going through can be hard I'd like anyone else with the same to see our correspondence to put themselves at ease. I just want to know one way or another what happened last cycle so I can get into tww or this cycle without the anxiety lol xx

Just dipped another preg test while doing ovulation test and I still have a faint line... I'd get that maybe it hasn't left my system had I not had negatives for a few days 🤷‍♀️ it's kinda driving me insane lol

Oh god over the years I have been back and forth reading these and sometimes not getting a outcome. Took me five years for my ds and I was obsessed looking at everyone's posts I havnt looked again since decided to have another and here I am haha.

And it's so hard to explain to others like family or friends coz they look at you like what are u going on about with cycles and stuff!

Oh I don't no how you haven't gone crazy I really do understand the torment that will be in your head right now! if it's left over hormones surly it would start to fade if not then every 48hrs it should get darker try leaving it for 48 hrs and see if there is a difference xx

@Jadeypie well the bloods are 1... she said negative and the sticks have been negative yesterday and today and now I am stepping away from the sticks until cycle day 26... so ik 1 week ill do a cheeky test lol. Not having the repeat done as also concerned if currently conceiving although early it may skew the result. I've never actually been happier to have a negative, it means I can mentally move onto this cycle without panicking about the last and she said it rules out ectopic. I have been told to watch out for sharper pains but after I said the pain reminds me of my chemical in Sept and how it felt after 12 week loss that it probably is down to the chemical loss and agreed that there is alot of women who go on to have a healthy pregnancy the cycle after a chemical loss. So I'm keeping everything crossed. I said it was maybe dud sticks but she asked if I used any other brands or batches which I said 3 different kinds and that the chances of all of them having faint positives is so low I most likely did have an early loss. So. Onwards and upwards with alot less anxiety.

Yes trying to explain any of this to family or friends is insane, after my 3 cycles before getting oregano last year I learned to just leave it and keep quiet. Half of them told me not to bother with the stress of tracking (me and my wife are both women and have to let our donor know when we need donations) and it just won't be an immaculate conception and the other half would be like no I don't see a line even when there was one cos they felt that unless the line was as dark as control line it isn't a positive 🤦‍♀️ so this website helped me along with so much. Especially after the mmc as I just felt so alone and lots of my friends gave birth to their full term healthy babies in the same week I lost mine, one of my best friends babies was born on the same day and we were both in the same building for 2 totally different things 💔 so I feel like alot of people just didn't and still don't know what to say to me so I've found this so refreshing. My family like to just say 'just don't stress about it' ... like... I also have adhd and it doesn't work just being told not to worry about something I'm going to obviously worry about lol. But yes I find the never knowing what the outcome was for some people really hard haha.

I shall post in here what happens at the end of my tww from THIS cycle haha. We cancelled the last donation on day 17 of cycle but we saw donor on day 12 and 14 and the opk sticks appear to have been most positive on day 16 so I'm hoping the myth of the 'stuff' surviving for 5 or so days is correct. Good luck next cycle for you, hoping we get our rainbows soon 🙏 😊

Omg. Oregano = pregnancy (auto correct 😑) 😅

@DarkCrystal85 I keep checking on you! I actually feel relieved for you (don't take that the wrong way ) but as u say you can move on without all that worry you have been going through and start fresh! I would definitely stay away from the sticks and wait for af easier said than done but it really does add that extra pressure saying that Al prob be on ere in a few weeks going on about lines and sticks and symptoms hahaha! I'm currently still waiting for af am nearly a week late I done a text for the what if even tho I knew it was very unlikely and it's negative so I must of ovulated later but I defo feel like it will show in a few days!

Totally get people not understanding and saying it will happen when it happens and all that but people who aren't actually trying don't get what we do to try and make it happen it's a chore. My cousin and her wife are going down the ivf route to start their family soon so excited for them! But I also know the obsession that's about to come for them also. U actually don't realise how obsessed you get before trying do you?

And the myth is very true coz that's what happened for me on my last pregnancy so believe 🤣 definitely keep me updated and loads of baby dust to you both ❤️

Ps oregano cracked me up! Your gona have to call your little bean that when it sticks 🤣🤣 xx

Aw bless you thankyou for checking up, and I'll do a chant for your period. Have you by any chance synchonised with anyone else? My friend has always synchronised with me and last year when I found out I was pregnant she was the first friend to know as she said she's late but hadn't dtd for like 3 months so blamed me... i was like omg I'm pregnant, hers appeared the following week so I said her period was waiting for mine. Then when I had first period after the loss we literally synced back up again, she was 3 days late. Oddly over the last week she's been late again and as soon as I got the negative result she messaged me like I'm on now wtf was that about so told her I was negative. Its so strange how bodies work. So maybe somebody you sync with is quietly pregnant haha.

Aww I really hope your next cycle can start soon... maybe you are now waiting for me to start the next cycle 🤔 🤣

Baby dust to all of us and oooo hope the IVF goes well, as we found a donor whose over a certain age (but has stuff of an 18 year old) we weren't able to go through this route but also knowing I can actually conceive they said it shouldn't need to be an option. We do artificial insemination, the least romantic dtd possible lol. And yea all my family had babies they were never trying for and were all complete happy accidents so I feel like I either bore them or bother them when I'm talking about what day I ovulate etc. So will just keep things more on here for any queries or questions, it's good cos most people have been through so many things you can always just about find something similar.

Here's to bfp for both of us and sticky babas if that's the case. I think even when I am pregnant again I will be a nervous wreck until past maybe 26 weeks when i know modern technology can do alot for prem births. I just wish to have the end result ASAP as I'm getting older (37) and classed as geriatric pregnancy 🙈. Yes I think I will nick name next one oregano. Can't even believe it corrected to that haha oddly I hate the stuff. Have a lovely too hot sunny day and fingers crossed AF shows soon. I'm gonna add 3 days onto when mine is normally due as I used to ovulate on day 13/14 and have 26/27 day cycle but this month and last month it was day 16/17 so thinking of another 29/30 day cycle. Boo lol

@DarkCrystal85 please do haha! That's crazy u said that because I actually have with my friend in work but she's not long had the implant in! Maybe it's that haha unfortunately I don't think she will be getting that out 🤣 av got signs af is around the corner so will be soon no dout!

Well If that happens that's crazy hahaha

I was telling my mum today saying I have been posting on ere so she won't need to listen to me going on! I think I will be nervous till I find it's in the right place as soon as I get a positive am under the epu so they will give me a early scan so that's sort of a comfort going into the ttc again.

So what does that mean geriatric pregnancy? Will u get more scans ECT? I'm 30 and feel 50 🤣

Oh I'm ready for bed ha my son's had me harassed in the new swimming pool today in and out like a yoyo haha kept us cool tho xx

Ahh could well have been your body waiting for your friends haha. Hope it comes/has come for you so you can start next cycle.

I'm now 5/6days past ovulation And having what I can only describe as period pain in my lower back, I have disc disease anyway but its feeling like when I was 5 weeks pregnant and the hormones caused my back to get worse so unsure what that's all about. Have taken some paracetamol as it's rather sore and finding it hard to find a comfy position, my usual cushions aren't doing the job today lol.

Yes I told my mum (whose more like a bezzie mate not your usual mum) I'd come to her less with the ins and outs of ttc as I've got this group and thread etc. She then told me she wants to be involved but I think untill I know for sure this time round I won't be telling anyone I think I might be pregnant and will wait until I'm probably a week late with stronger tests. My tests last time were visible from 8dpo and I told them at that point but as my body seems to be enjoying giving me false hope I think if I know early I will still wait to tell me mam.

Geriatric pregnancy I think is over the age of 35, it was when she wrote it on my green notes but working in care we only ever used the term for clients over like 80 so I was like woahhh.

Haha I feel you with the pool, my daughter begged us to fill hers for her to dip her toes then decide to go back in the house then back in the pool then back in the house about 6 times, so many unnecessary changes of clothes. Today she's got me playing play dough while watching both the frozen films twice each so far. In being killed alive by hay fever so we are staying in today awaiting the storms xx

Morning @DarkCrystal85 still not AF! Seven days late and counting I actually feel like I'm on but no flow 🙄🙄 we go away Friday so no dout it will show then 🤣

Ooo backaches a early sign 🤞🏻🤞🏻 have u been feeling anything else? How u coping in the tww wait gone crazy yet?

When are you planning on testing? I've always waited till after flow I couldn't cope watching lines get darker with faints!

Aww she all excited? I understand tho I usually tell parents straight away but I won't be this time round we will just keep it too ourselves for a while we havnt actually told anyone we are going to try.

Aww how olds your DD? I'm glad for the cooler weather and hoping it gets just Abit warmer for our hols. We are only going to Wales for the week I couldn't think of anything worse on a plane for hours with a toddler 🤣🤣 going abroad will be left on hold untill our kids are older to understand and enjoy

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Yes this tww is making me feel crazy mainly cos it seems to have 9000 days 🙈 I'm day 6-7dpo now and apart from back ache and the odd twinge I'm not feeling much else. My cramps seem to be in left and right now rather than just the right which is odd but leads me to think I maybe ovulated from the left this cycle and the cp last cycle was from the right 🤷‍♀️ I woke up the other night and the way I described it to my wife was it felt like somebody was pulling a beaded necklace through my womb 🤔 felt like bubbly and popping but it didn't last long. My dreams are very vivid atm, I know that can be a sign but then I am very likely symptom spotting absolutely everything through desperation to just be pregnant again.

Where is you AF, I hope it doesn't come while you are on holiday as that would be annoying. Oo my friends just came back from Wales it looked lovely and they got some good storms. I hope you have a lovely time.

My daughter is 3 and was carried by my wife, we planned to have one child each, we had an unfortunate loss before daughter of our son who we lost at 14 weeks gestation and then had our daughter about 18 months later. Now it's my turn and obvs with my loss at 12 weeks we feel time is slipping away, terrified of the same thing happening again but also don't want to not try as also then feels like that little life was in vain in a way.

I wanted to hold off testing until due on... but I ordered 50 sticks and would rather know if I have another chemical as it seems to put my ovulation back the following cycle and would also like to inform gyno at my next follow up from mc. I got my first faint positive when pregnant in nov/Dec cycle at 8dpo, then negative 9 and 10 and then positive from 11dpo getting darker until a week late when the gp told me I can probably stop testing now 🙈

Here's to hoping your AF hurries up... have you done anymore tests?

I caved 🤣😭🤣😭 and have a very very faint possible positive. I'm not classing it as anything but will keep testing daily from now 🙈

I mean... I can see it faintly in real life but I don't think it's very noticable on here lol

@DarkCrystal85 yessss I can see a faint line it's a squinter but I defo think I can see something ohhh I really hope this is it for use I really do!

I don't blame you for caving with your symptoms I would of too!

Oh i think I would like a little girl for my son but then I can see myself as a boys mum haha he's actually started the potty yesterday and he's been amazing never thought I would get so excited over seeing wee in a potty 🤣🤣

It's lovely that you and your wife are both sharing the pregnancy journey and so sorry for the losses you have both been through it's been a hard road but hopefully little oregano is cooking as we speak 🥰🥰

And no more test since last wed and no af either 🙄🙄