Recurrent miscarriage and genetic findings- any success stories?

[vix_85]

We have just found out at 9+5 that our 5th consecutive pregnancy (no children) has been another missed miscarriage. D&C is booked for next week and after private fertility testing (because GP didn't seem to care), genetic issues is becoming the mostly likely cause. This will be tested next week with the removed materials.

Has anyone had this finding and had a successful pregnancy? How did you do it? How long was the process?

I am nearly 38, my heart is breaking and we are preparing for the worst next week, with being parents maybe off the schedule for us.

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Many thanks @Patchworksack 😊

@Unicorn2023 I hope you had a good weekend and you managed some outside time x

@vix_85 I did thank you 🤗 I went out for a wee while on Saturday it was good to get some fresh air ♥️ how are you? Did you have a good weekend? Xx

I know it sounds very easy to say but please don’t give up hope. It took us 10 years to have our DC! To have DC2 it has taken 6 years to get this far (currently 12 weeks) and it’s not a given in my mind until I actually have hold of the baby. Sending you lots of love and positivity.

Hope you're keeping well @Unicorn2023. The last few weeks have been a blur of work travel for me. The hospital call got rescheduled to next week, but the hardest thing at the moment is still testing positive on pregnancy tests. What a head spin 🫨😔 x

@vix_85 I'm doing ok thank you ♥️ I’ve still not heard anything from the hospital about my results it’s a joke 😢 Aww babe that is a head spin have you contacted the hospital to tell them this? Xx

Ah @Unicorn2023 that is so hard that you've had nothing at all. Did you get a consultant number or a secretary contact you could try?

I haven't told the hospital as from reading online it could take a few months. My HCG at surgery was over 40,000 so it's got to come down a lot to reach 0.

Hope you're OK x

@vix_85 No they gave me nothing at all I phoned my doctor to see if they had received anything but nothing so far it’s just annoying being left on limbo with no one to phone to chase things up 😢 how have you been finding work? I haven’t went back yet not really left the house which isn’t good but I just can’t face anyone it was my birthday yesterday and the last thing I wanted to do was celebrate it, it just made me feel worse being 39 and feeling hopeless 😞 xx

Hi OP, we TTC for 8 years with recurrent MC. We had the fetus tested on MC number 4 and from that genetic translocation was identified. We were then tested and turns out DH is the carrier of the translocation, in turn his mum and dad were tested and turns out his mum is a carrier. His sisters were then also tested and fortunately they are not carriers.
Anyway, I had another couple of MC and then hit my forties and we chose to come to terms with being childless.
BUT... Obviously MIL was also a carrier and she had 3 live healthy children, she did also have 3 MC in between.

The moral of the story is that the same issue will have different results for different people! I did feel much better just knowing a reason for my infertility though.

Good luck... fingers crossed you'll be in the same group as MIL!

Thanks @thedogisstaring for your story. So sorry for your losses. As you say, there are positive stories out there!

@Unicorn2023 work has been a total distraction and avoidance mechanism for me. I've cried and got angry but just got on with it mostly, behaving like nothing happened.

It sounds like you really need some support. Depending on your location, petals counselling is recommended. Unfortunately my region isn't covered but yours may well be. Do try and get outside and do those little things each day, otherwise this will occur consume you xx

@vix_85 I should just have went back to work too I think like you it would definitely have been a distraction ♥️ I will have a look into it today thank you 😊 and thank you for being there for me talking to you has got me through this ♥️ it’s the shittiest thing in the world to happen but it helps when someone knows how you feel. Take care of yourself and try not to do to much take time for yourself xx

Hi @Unicorn2023 how are you doing? Have you managed to achieve some small goals and get some normality back in to your days?x

Hi @vix_85 I am doing good thank you 🤗 I have been going out a lot of walks and went some shopping too so getting there it was good to get out. how are you getting on? ♥️ x

@Unicorn2023 so glad to hear you're out and about again 🌞 Yes I'm ok thank you. Back to the normality of life without pregnancy. It seems genetics takes a long time so we have a callback being scheduled 8 weeks from now and we should have test results before then. We've been told to pause trying until they know the results. Have you had anything back?xx

@vix_85 No not not a thing 🥲I phoned to follow up the results and was told it would be 6 weeks until I got them babe it taking to long 🥲 I’ve been told the same to stop till the results come in which is so difficult ♥️ feel like we are wasting time xx