Ovulation 26th/27th April - let’s TWW together

[TTCing]

Hi ladies,

Month 10 of TTC #2. I had a chemical pregnancy last cycle.

I have a one year old daughter who took almost a year and a half to conceive. I previously had a chemical pregnancy not long before she was conceived.

Really hoping this cycle will bring good news ❤️

Please feel free to join if your ovulation is around 26th/27th April and/or AF due around 7th/8th/9th May.

Wishing luck to us all xx

@Bethpotter111 this looks super promising! I think I’d be cautiously optimistic if I were you! I hope it’s all good signs ❤️

@suz2285 I’m glad work is keeping you busy! I hope you manage to get your progesterone result back in time!

haha @Bethpotter111 i know the feeling, i'm 8DPO today and my app this morning was like "did your period start" eugh... NO AND I HOPE IT DOESNT!

I'm just waiting to see what happens now, no idea! Could be AF tomorrow, could be a week.... will you do a test at the weekend??

@Bethpotter111 I'm rooting for you! This all seems so positive.

@suz2285 so hope your bloods arrive in time. It's such a relief when you get the O confirmation. Also sounds really positive that you've been getting unusual for you symptoms!

It really is lovely to feel so much support and kindness.

This morning I finally messaged my SIL to ask how things are with her and her pregnancy. We don't have the best friendship and to be honest I feel I've been avoiding her since she announced. Probably sounds super immature but I guess it's just jealousy and sadness for myself selfishly.
I messaged her and then sobbed 😅 Am I a terrible person?!

@ar91 not at all! When I found out my SIL was pregnant I cried. Well done for messaging her, and you’re no doubt crying for how you feel rather than her specifically. You’re definitely not a bad person.

Does anyone else keep poking their boobs to figure out if they’re sore? 😂I think I’m making them sore by doing that too much!

@ar91 nope that sounds totally normal to me... I feel like everyone around me is announcing right now (lucky no one that close to me!) or talking about it! I'd totally be crying too... its hard

@Lilothblos i admit to a few jumping jacks sometimes to see if they're heavier than normal! 😂

@ar91 no that's complete normal! There is a baby boom here at the minute and I would of been due on the 3rd of April around the same time as my best friend and she had her baby on the 31st march so it's incredibly hard!

I should have been due in July and I just had new neighbours move in who JUST had a baby and honestly everytime I hear that baby cry my heartbreaks! So completely normal for you to feel sad and unsettled by your sil falling pregnant and all the baby talk. Being open about how you feel is probably for the best. I was recently at my partner's family's get together and none of them know about my 14 week miscarriage, we hadn't told them I was pregnant yet and so felt weird to announce a miscarriage. One of his cousins announced she was 13 weeks pregnant and the entire conversation for the next couple of hours was baby names, baby showers, baby clothes, baby everything. I've never been so silent in my life, I wanted to disappear. I'm sure if they knew how I felt they would have been more considerate but it was hard as it's not my family and they had no idea of what had happened.

Also if you all think you're crazy for testing early, I'm somewhere between 5 and 7dpo and gave in this morning 🤣. Not a chance of getting a positive I just had to do it 🤷🏼‍♀️. I've felt like my period is about to start since 1-3dpo and it's so strange. I'm trying to convince myself it's something wrong with my tummy but it's definitely very low down and just feels like AF is going to come any second. I'm only on cd20 and have fairly consistent 30 day cycles so I shouldn't be anywhere near due yet!

@Ttcmumma ah sure me too tested yest and today and today I'm 6dpo 🙈😂
Sorry to hear about your 14 week loss, it's very tough 😩

Thanks everyone, I feel much better knowing I'm not silly feeling the way I do.
Had a massive cry on the phone to husband this morning and I think we're going to take the next few months off from tracking anything as don't feel I'm coping with it very well.

@Ttcmumma I'm so very sorry about your loss. That must have been unbearable to listen to and manage to hold it together. Xx

@ar91 echoing what everyone else has said, it's defo normal! When my SIL announced I put on a brave face and then cried for like 2 days straight! I was a mess! It's hard to watch others have what you so desperately want. I just try to remind myself that you don't always know how hard their journey was.

@Ttcmumma I am so sorry for your loss, that must have been devastating for you. I hope we can be here to help you through the grief and also the continuation of ttc.

@ar91 also meant to ask, how long is your luteal phase normally? You said you normally get spotting 7 days before af? If we are both 9dpo, would it have normally started by now?

@missmoosh you're absolutely right. Everybody goes through their own battles. The logical part of me knows that but sometimes I forget it 😂

My LP is normally 14 days and the spotting is anything between 1-7days before AF. I'd say most often 4-5 days so wouldn't necessarily have started yet. X

@Ttcmumma I'm so sorry for your loss. It must have been incredibly difficult. I had a loss at 18+ weeks and found it very hard being around pregnant colleagues discussing their scans and baby clothes etc. They were aware of my recent loss though and continued to talk to me about all this which I found a bit inconsiderate. People just tend to get wrapped up in their own news and excitement and don't always think about what others are going through.

My SIL who we're actually NC with announced the birth of her 4th baby not long ago and I must admit I did cry about it too. It doesn't help that DH keeps changing his mind about TTC so I feel that if this cycle doesn't work out then we may not even try again (which is a bit silly because we've only just started!). But we'll see.

I'm 8dpo today and stupidly tested. After numerous cups of tea and obviously not using FMU. I don't know what I was expecting really. The test was defective too so I'm none the wiser, but it does look like it's a negative (of course it is!).

Hope we get some BFPs in this thread soon!

Thank you all, really appreciate the support

@StressyErica I'm in the completely same situation as you with the partner changing his mind, not always being 100% on board type thing and also my son is about to turn 5 and I already feel

The age gap is so big! But it just puts me under so much pressure to concieve NOW. Sometimes I feel like I'm trying to steal my partner's sperm before he changes his mind again 🤣 i felt so much relief when I was pregnant before, like oh finally I've done it. I can relax. Then to find out baby had passed was horrendous. Oh and my son puts pressure on me too 🤦🏼‍♀️ 'mummy have you made me a new brother or sister yet, I really want a baby brother or sister' I want to scream I'm trying!! Lol

Sorry for the two messages I pressed send by accident xx

Sadly I think af is here at the moment only Pink and when I wipe but it's quite a bit 😌💀 it's all good always next time hey! Off to buy a nice bottle of wine for tonight if it continues and off to centre parcs Monday so can just enjoy myself I guess :)

Hi ladies, I’d love to join you all :)

I had a MC on 5th March on 8th April was the start of my first period since, so 5 weeks later. My cycles were normally regular 28-30 days but I’ve no idea how the MC will have affected things. I started tracking LH but forgot to take them with us 21-23rd April however I did get some cramps and very light pink discharge although we DTD a lot that weekend so could have been too much of that haha. I gave up with the LH tests anyway. If my cycle was regular this month, I’d be due on the next few days but have been doing some early boots tests and they’re completely negative.

Any advice welcome :)

@ar91 i experience pangs of jealousy and resentment towards friends/family who have conceived quickly or who have loads of kids and have had them all super easily etc. it is a perfectly normal human emotion - please don’t feel guilty or selfish or terrible about this. I think a lot of us resonate with this!

@Daniki that must be so hard for you 😔

@Ttcmumma oh, that sounds absolutely heartbreaking and terrible for you. What a horrible environment to be in when you’d just experience such loss and heartache. Sending you lots of love.

@StressyErica so sorry about your 18 week loss and about how inconsiderate your work colleagues work. That must have been so hard. Sending ❤️

@Bethpotter111 sorry to hear AF might be on her way! A bottle of wine sounds like a plan though! Well done for keeping positive xx

welcome @DHB , sorry to hear about your mc. Sorry, I think when you’ve had an mc, all you can do is wait/see/observe your next few cycles to watch how things pan out and whether they return to ‘normal’ or a change becomes the new normal. Sending you love xx

@ar91 that's frustrating that it doesn't always start on the same day! But good it hasn't started yet regardless, means you defo aren't out!

@Bethpotter111 sorry to hear it sounds like af has arrived, wine o'clock for you! What cycle was this? There has been so many messages I don't know how far back I would have to scroll to find if you have mentioned it previously!

@DHB welcome! Sorry I can't offer any advice on cycle length post mc, and I am sorry for your loss.

I am starting to think my uterus is just for show tbh...

@missmoosh this is my 14 month of trying! But am now confused the bleeding has basically stopped and all I had since 9am was this and slight pink when I wiped so now what do i drink wine tonight or not 🫠💀🙃

@StressyErica I'm sorry you had to go through that, and with insensitive colleagues. It's so frustrating.

What is it that makes your partners change their minds? Like is it the thought of having more children or the dread of ttc longer?

@Bethpotter111 has this continued throughout the day? I really hope it's stopped! You're being so positive through which is amazing and centre parcs will be a great distraction. Which one are you off to?

@DHB I'm really sorry for your loss. I can't offer any knowledge on length of cycle after mc either but I hope you get your rainbow soon. X

@missmoosh it did tickle me when you said about your uterus being just for show! That's exactly how I feel 😂 just an additional bit of decoration that drives you mad each month haha.

@TTCing thank you so much. I do feel less like an awful person knowing it's not just me who feels like this sometimes.
My cousin just messaged me about 30 mins ago sending a 12 week scan picture.. him and his gf are expecting in November 😅 you can't make this shit up really.. how many more?!
Thankfully I'd just walked out of sainsburys with a bottle of pino! Hahah.

@ar91 it started at 9am this morning and seems to have stopped and that's the only blood it's left on the pad could it be implantation? Who knows! Thank you I'm less positive in really life but all you guys have helped so much! So nice to have people to talk too! We are off to centre parcs longleat :) can't wait although weather doesn't look great 😂😂

Welcome @DHB I'm pretty sure we've been on other threads together, sorry about the MC, hope you're doing ok?

@Bethpotter111 yeah that def doesn't look like a full period, wait and see I guess! 😂

I'm so crampy again tonight, I'm pretty sure AF is on her way again tomorrow early again... I really hope not but god knows!!

@Bethpotter111 I've just seen the pic of your pad! Missed it before hahah. Definitely seems promising for implantation to me!
Longest will be fab, Enjoy! X

Morning ladies, AF due tomorrow or Monday. I’ve literally had no symptoms at all (not even PMS type symtopms. I’ve usually had some mild cramping by now in the run up to AF. I wonder if my chemical last cycle means that my cycles/period arrival etc will all be different. My cycles are usually 28/29 days. Occasionally 30.

I did an FRER (again) this morning and swore I saw a vvvvv faint life but OH said no there was nothing. I guess it was an indent.

not feeling particularly hopeful. No symptoms at all (of pregnancy/period) doesn’t fill me with hope.

I’ll test again tomorrow and if still nothing, I’ll just wait for AF to arrive.