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Pull out while ovulating

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issyb8 · 10/04/2023 10:41

Hoping for some advice , my last period was on the 22nd of march. Lasted around 5-6 days . I went away with my partner for the weekend of the 31st march . Had unprotected sex that Saturday morning and night and used the pull out method. Stupid of us both but we were drinking and had no condoms . We are both fully aware of the risk he knows I’ve been off the pill ( we use condoms usually) for the last few months. My cycles are usually 27-28 days and now I’m panicking that I was in peak ovulation time ?! Has anyone been in this situation? Neither of us know what to think and if we are stressing for no reason .

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Whatisthisanyidea · 10/04/2023 10:43

You were 9 days - Sperm can live another 5 days

What you need is the morning after pill if you don’t want a baby - and maybe a longer term solution?

EmilyGilmoresSass · 10/04/2023 10:45

Whatisthisanyidea · 10/04/2023 10:43

You were 9 days - Sperm can live another 5 days

What you need is the morning after pill if you don’t want a baby - and maybe a longer term solution?

Well the morning after pill will be of no use whatsoever now to be fair, it was a week and a half ago!

MeMyBooksAndMyCats · 10/04/2023 10:47

Why didn't you get the morning after pill? It's to late for it now, it is what is it all you can do is test when your late.

Singapore4 · 10/04/2023 10:48

Track your periods with an app Flo is a good one. So many women get caught out with when they think they were ovulating.

If you don't want kids I would try and find a more reliable contraception too.

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issyb8 · 10/04/2023 10:49

Yh I think I figured out it was actually day 11 of my cycle we had sex and I’ve missed my chance to get the morning after pill . I was thinking more that because we pulled out in plenty of time chances would be low regardless . We now plan to figure something out thats going to protect us more . We have children so that’s not an issue I just don’t know if I’m ready to consider another and not sure if I’m over thinking it

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Pashy · 10/04/2023 10:50

I don’t understand how you accidentally had unprotected sex twice on the one day?

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issyb8 · 10/04/2023 10:51

It wasn’t an accident I said we had no condoms and used the pull out method

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issyb8 · 10/04/2023 10:54

Thankyou I had downloaded the app and thats what made me panic after putting my dates in we realised it was probably one of the worst times for us to do that . We have children so that’s not an issue , the issue is we hadn’t planned to do that and clearly made a silly mistake to gamble on it . It was only after being home and recovering from hangovers ect that we started to rethink what we did

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redbigbananafeet · 10/04/2023 10:56

You went away for the weekend but didn't pack any of your only method of contraception. Didn't protect yourself in the morning but didn't bother to buy any during the day and then again didn't protect yourself at night? Sounds like you're looking for some excitement in your life and have decided an 'accidental' pregnancy is the way forward.

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issyb8 · 10/04/2023 11:01

This is a page for advice not for your shitty opinions or comments ! I have children and don’t need anymore excitement thankyou hun , if you’re not going to be say anything positive perhaps you should take your opinions elsewhere . Under no circumstances does me asking for advice mean it’s ok for u to assume anything . The pure cheek of people on here thinking it’s okay to make accusations when majority of grown men and woman have been in the same situation where they have made a mistake

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Omgreally11 · 10/04/2023 11:04

We used the pull out method for 11 years and never got pregnant. Regularly had sex whilst I was ovulating. Good luck OP. I hope it turns out okay! But just a little reassurance that the pull out method can work for some.

namechange3388 · 10/04/2023 11:04

redbigbananafeet · 10/04/2023 10:56

You went away for the weekend but didn't pack any of your only method of contraception. Didn't protect yourself in the morning but didn't bother to buy any during the day and then again didn't protect yourself at night? Sounds like you're looking for some excitement in your life and have decided an 'accidental' pregnancy is the way forward.

Whoa. Projecting much? Away and polish your tiara and let us mere mortals chat.

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issyb8 · 10/04/2023 11:04

Some people also only use the pull out method as contraception! My concern was based around the fact we risked it not knowing at the time it was peak for ovulation or we wouldn’t have cared!

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MeMyBooksAndMyCats · 10/04/2023 11:06

The pull out method isn't contraception though, and you knew that. Everyone knows that.

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issyb8 · 10/04/2023 11:06

Thankyou! Whatever the outcome we will figure it out and be okay , we defo knew the risks and usually i wouldn’t have been so worried It was just when I realised It was around ovulation that we did it and wasn’t our best move :) just wanted someone to tell me I’m not totally over thinking :)

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Omgreally11 · 10/04/2023 11:08

issyb8 · 10/04/2023 11:04

Some people also only use the pull out method as contraception! My concern was based around the fact we risked it not knowing at the time it was peak for ovulation or we wouldn’t have cared!

Yep! It has been my soul method of contraception for 11 years.

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issyb8 · 10/04/2023 11:10

is Your point just to let me know I made a stupid mistake and I should continue to feel stupid about it? Like I’ve said I knew it was a risk I just didn’t know I was risking it at the worst time of my cycle

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issyb8 · 10/04/2023 11:12

thankyou for those with fair comments , I’ve looked at a few similar posts here today before making one myself and it seems that the moment anyone on here mentions the pull out method there’s a lot of judgement and accusations. I’m grown my partner is grown , we have kids we don’t need to play silly games we just made a mistake

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Singapore4 · 10/04/2023 11:12

Omgreally11 · 10/04/2023 11:04

We used the pull out method for 11 years and never got pregnant. Regularly had sex whilst I was ovulating. Good luck OP. I hope it turns out okay! But just a little reassurance that the pull out method can work for some.

I know people who have done this too. Personally I think some women are a lot more fertile than others there's no way I could do this without falling on.

jenn88 · 10/04/2023 11:14

Also our sole method of contraception here!
However we are fully aware that it is not reliable and wouldn't be unhappy if it resulted in pregnancy!

Omgreally11 · 10/04/2023 11:14

issyb8 · 10/04/2023 11:10

is Your point just to let me know I made a stupid mistake and I should continue to feel stupid about it? Like I’ve said I knew it was a risk I just didn’t know I was risking it at the worst time of my cycle

Me? No not at all!! I'm saying I was absolutely fine. We used the pull out method for 11 years and I never once got pregnant and had sex regularly whilst i was ovulating. I'm saying it can be absolutely fine. I'm not on this forum to judge people. I was trying to reassure you!

Ttcmumma · 10/04/2023 11:14

Hey! It is a risky method but we used pull out for 5 years with no pregnancy then got pregnant within a year of not pulling out so you may be ok. Depends on how fertile his precum is and how well he timed it

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issyb8 · 10/04/2023 11:18

Thankyou , I don’t think I’d be unhappy either but it definitely wasn’t my goal or his . I have 2 children and with them it was actively trying because we had planned ahead for them but I was just caught off guard with the potential of being pregnant and we have had no discussion previous and now have had to start talking about the what ifs . That itself is more stressful because you don’t know if your even in that situation yet your having difficult conversations so I just wanted a bit of peace of mind that really not to stress it til I know

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issyb8 · 10/04/2023 11:19

Oh no I’m so sorry that was definitely not in response to you , I’ve lost track of comments i thought I had replied saying thankyou . It was for the cat lady telling me it’s not contraception and we all know it x

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Omgreally11 · 10/04/2023 11:20

issyb8 · 10/04/2023 11:19

Oh no I’m so sorry that was definitely not in response to you , I’ve lost track of comments i thought I had replied saying thankyou . It was for the cat lady telling me it’s not contraception and we all know it x

Aw no worries! I was just making sure you didn't think I was attacking you! It can be feral on these threads sometimes haha. Good luck!!