What age do YOU personally think is too old for YOU to have a/more babies and why?

[Jaaxe]

Just curious as to what age you’d stop having babies and why? How old would be too old for you and why? I’ve just had a baby and I thought I’d be done after this one but now im not so sure, it all seems pretty final to say im done but maybe I am….maybe it’s the hormones, I certainly don’t want another anytime soon or maybe even at all but then I wonder if I did decide im not done how old is too old :/ perhaps im just feeling like this as this one was meant to be my last one…

For me i think it would have been about 45 but as it was I had my two at 37 and 40 and I wouldn’t have wanted to start again at 45 with a 8 year old and a 5 year old. Had I had my first at… 42… then around 45 would have been the cut off for a second.

I am 48 and the idea of becoming pregnant now would be horrifying

I had my DC reasonable young at age 27 and 30

The intention was always to stop at 2 but if I had a contraception failure up to about 40 I think I could have dealt with it and had the baby

Since being 40 I really wouldn't have wanted to go ahead with a pregnancy and would had seriously considered a termination I think if I'd becoming unexpectedly pregnant but it's all hypothetical so can't say what I would have actually done

I stopped ttc when I turned 42. That was my actual, not hypothetical cut off. I never had the second I wanted but I was done.

I had my third child at 39 and 40 was my cut off for stopping TTC. I think as a lot of previous replies show it’s more to do with feeling you’ve completed your family. If I was childless and met Mr Right at 40 I’m sure I’d have given it a go. My cousin had twins at 48 - seems to have worked out ok for them but she’ll be retirement age when they leave home. As far as anyone else goes crack on!

I had my last at 38. Early 40s would be my cut off.

I'm 33 now and have a 2yo and a 5 week old. If I had a third I wouldn't want to be any older than 36.

I had 3 by the time I was 31, that was enough to cope with. I think I felt fit enough still at 39 but now early 40s I couldn't do it

We wanted 2 with a 3-4 year gap & ended up getting 2 & 3 when my oldest just turned 4. Don’t like the odd number & was on the fence about a 4th husband didn’t want another then when he decided he might i was off the idea as unlike my oldest who was very easy as a baby, slept well, toilet trained in days both babies were “difficult” & both had reflux and issues wih sleep until they were 2 & i thought my boy would never get there with toilet training i wouldn’t have wanted bigger than a 4 year gap again so by the time they started school & i was 35 i knew i was 100% done. I have the odd moment wondering what it would have been like with a 4th but with 3 healthy children i didn’t want to push my luck & i’m grateful for what i have. Although i would 100% have stopped at 2 if it had gone to plan.

it’s a personal thing my friend had a 12 year old & 10 year old & was done for years until a wee “accident” when she was 41 & that gave me the fear (i’m nearly 40)

Over 40, or early 40's is a no no.

35 is my cut off, I am 35 later this year. Purely because the age gap is increasing and already it is big, starting again with a newborn is daunting. 9 years now and no contraception for 3 years. I will probably go back on contraception later this year. I wouldn't terminate if I got pregnant by accident though at 35, would have to be quite a bit older to consider that although it wouldn't have been in the plan.

40, because I has my third at 39 and felt happy and done. Realise how lucky I am and wouldn't change a thing.

I may have had a higher cut off if our third hadn't arrived yet.

I'm 44 now, and feeling a bit older this last year. So I'd say probably 42 oldest.

I was lucky that I met DH in my 20s and knew I wanted children by 30, and to definitely be done by 35. And I was fortunate to conceive easily and had my DC at 27 and 31. So, 35 was the initial cut off point in my head.

I had a wobble about whether to have another baby in my late 30s (didn’t in the end), but turning 40 was a complete cut off for me. It felt like the start of a new chapter and any residual broodiness I had disappeared pretty much instantly.

I’m 45 now and if I got pregnant I would terminate without a backwards glance. No way would I want young children now.

My personal limit is 33-34. Had my first in my mid 20s, like everything it’s had pros and cons, but overall more pros for me.

I had my first at 31 and second at 32. I decided after that my body and mental health can't do it again. I do have two older DSDs too so maybe that's a factor. But I'm exhausted now at 35 and couldn't imagine ever having another baby now I'm finally out of the baby stage. I also work full time and the juggle is intense, I couldn't add another into the mix and continue working full time.

I'm late 20s and think I am done with two... we will see. But My absolute latest would be 35.

I had my second and last at age 29 which was my cut off because I wanted to be done having kids before 30. However I was lucky in that I was in a solid relationship with dh and we had a house together. If I met him ten years later then I would have had my kids in my late thirties instead.

I thought 35 would be my cut off (had kids at 31 and 33 and planned a third at 35) but we’ve dithered a bit and now I think I’d push it to 37. But I’ve got a friend who just had a baby at 43 and I keep thinking how my kids will be 10 and 12 when I’m that age and how there is no way I’d go back to the baby stage at that point! But I recognise I’m really lucky.

Also think that pregnancy and small kids ages you so if I was contemplating a first child at 40+ id prob feel completely different than as the mother of a 10 year old!

Given both my parents died in their 60s and how much it has affected me as an adult, I wouldn't risk a child past 50. I would hate to leave a teenager/ young adult to deal with that grief. If I accidentally got pregnant now, it would have to be a termination.

Really though past 40 wasn't for me. I had my last at just turned 39.

For ME, 35 was my cut off. I had DD at 31 and decided not to have any more for various reasons.

Had my last at 38 and we were done.
Definitely felt the toll of exhaustion. Everything was just so much more of an effort.

I'm 46. I'd have another tomorrow if I won the lottery and could give up working.

Otherwise no. If I got pregnant by accident I don't think I'd terminate. Bit finances and time are the only things stopping me just now.

I honestly don't know. I'm 39 and have been told that is almost certain that I will never conceive naturally but nothing is 100% guaranteed.

I made my peace with not having a child years ago & am still religious about contraception, althought it's more for managing other issues than preventing pregnancy.

I would get the shock of my life it it happened now. I spent my 20s wishing not to get pregnant (didn't realise until I was late 20s there were issues), spend early 30s wishing it would happen, now it seems too late & I'm happy with that.

It would be a massive decision now if I found myself pregnant & would be a very high risk pregancy. I really can't answer this but think it's a great question.

I had my youngest at 24, I'm 34 now and definitely feel too old to have another, even if I wanted one.

I'm 40, I definitely coukdnt cope with all
The wake ups, night feeds, worrying when they're sick and generally not having any time to myself.

35, only because my mum had me, massive gap my sister, massive gap and then another sibling and it's like she's never had a rest and it's put me off. It was hard for her to have a baby when she was nearing 40 and I also don't want a big age gap between my children hence the cut off being 35, will be 5 year gap max