POAS: With only the IC in stock...someone help us 🤣

[FfayeN]

You asked for it......😘

@mummatara that’s so funny, my DS does that too 😂 although he does it when he points to the Christmas gnome on the windowsill 😅

@TheBirdintheCave omg that's really cute 🥹 why do they do this to us! ahhhh I wouldn't worry lovely he won't remember that there wasn't a tree and it's still magical for him I think everything that's around like the Christmas atmosphere just builds excitement xxx

@LuckyMoonstone 😂 love that ❤️ well all my gnomes, reindeers and santas that are on my windowsill made it into the tunnel the other day when I tried to put them back I got a big no mummy and he then proceeded to stuff them back into the tunnel where they stayed for 2 days before I could put them back up 🙄

Jesus. The girl who told me that negativity was not welcome on the due date group thread has been reading my posts here. She hasn't even had a miscarriage before so she has no business being here at all other than stalking me to see what I posted next when I said I'd be better off staying in this group instead.

This morning she kept making passive aggressive comments to other posters until I called her out on it and then she accused me of upsetting and insulting people.

I'm quite creeped out.

@TheBirdintheCave what a way to behave in a pregnancy group when people have perfectly valid worries! How do you know she’s been reading your posts here?

@LuckyMoonstone Because she quoted one of my posts as an example about how I've been insulting people. To clarify she reads my wonderment that people can be confident about their pregnancies in the face of miscarriage odds as an insult. She just can't wrap her head around the fact that no where have I ever called people stupid for believing that. She won't accept that I'm just jealous that I can't do that myself (which I've repeatedly stated).

@TheBirdintheCave what a weirdo (she is, not you obviously!)

@LuckyMoonstone I think it's more that she just doesn't get it as she's never had a miscarriage before so she can't understand why I'm so worried. It would never occur to her that she might lose a baby as she's been able to keep hers. She doesn't understand how my autism affects my reasoning either and kept asking why I was mentioning it. I'm all about statistics and odds and data and I obsess over and read everything I can get my hands on when I'm nervous about something. It 100% affects how I react to things and yes it's intense and horrible, and hard for NT people to see happening, but it's never malicious towards anyone but myself.

But yes, the stalking is definitely very, very weird. I haven't gone looking for any of her posts on other threads cos I'm not interested in whatever else she has to say.

I've blocked the thread now.

@TheBirdintheCave pregnancy after a loss is hard. Unless you've experienced it, you absolutely do not understand the sheer fear and anxiety at every stage. I would probably ignore her messages now, it's not going to help x

@TheBirdintheCave well even if she doesn’t feel that way herself, she should have some empathy instead of making you feel bad. Good idea to block the thread, soon you’ll forget about it x

@TheBirdintheCave you're right to be venting about this! I have to say Mumsnet does throw up some strange opinions and behaviours (not yours) as I've found recently. This thread is a safe space to speak freely about worries and concerns xxx

Glad I have all of you guys <3 You make me feel safe.

@TheBirdintheCave ❤️

@FfayeN I agree - I've read a few threads recently where some of the advice has been really off the mark! This thread is very much a safe space for likeminded people 💕

Sorry to hear about your experience on the other thread @TheBirdintheCave

Sun CD 9 (empty circle digital, negative strip) DTD

Mon CD 10 (empty circle digital, negative strip) DTD

Tues CD 11 (flashing smiley am&pm) DTD

Weds CD 12 (flashing smiley am)

Hoping to DTD every day until a static smiley and / or blazing positive strip plus DTD one day after that too.

Hopefully it's tomorrow so we don't have pressure of a schedule over Christmas especially as we'll have to navigate timings around visitors!

This is our 12th cycle and the 6th of tracking ovulation, but the first month (due to work trips etc) we should be able to DTD every day for fertile week and hoping it will make a difference...

Meant to say, alongside the flashing smileys below I had negative strip OKPs.

Tues CD 11 (flashing smiley am&pm) DTD

Weds CD 12 (flashing smiley am)

@monsteramunch Haha yes, that could be awkward, you don't want to have to say 'Do excuse us we're just off upstairs to... move some furniture.' 😂

I hope you get your peak soon!

@TheBirdintheCave wtf! Just read what you posted this morning and am livid

@TheBirdintheCave you are just right. Block it. And please whenever you feel something write it in this thread 💕

@TheBirdintheCave ugh I'm so sorry. People come to these forums for support and as much as we'd love to believe that everything is going to work out okay, we unfortunately have the experience to know it's not the case. You absolutely have a right to the space as much as anyone else in that group.

@TheBirdintheCave there is a Pregnancy After Loss Thread, I can't remember what number they're onto, but they are all lovely too and more akin to how we feel when pregnant. Just an idea if you feel you need another space too. We're all happy to keep you here though 😊 xx

@bunnykins123 I'm nearly scared to ask..are you late? X

@MrsCristianoX are you????? I'm nail biting for you both!!

@TheBirdintheCave wow just caught up that's unbelievable some people 🙄 your def in a safe space here were not going anywhere ❤️

@FfayeN oh no 🙈 did I not update? Terrible migraine yesterday (typical hormone drop) followed by the worst flow yesterday and today. I doubt aspirin I took for the migraine helped but the writing was on the wall then
. Xx