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All I want for Christmas is a BFP- TTC September baby 🍁

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Roxybabe · 27/11/2022 19:34

Hey ladies,

Thought I’d start a new Dec thread for us!! New thread… new cycle… new hope!!

❤️❤️

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Tafaa · 06/12/2022 13:17

So I'm not sure if it means anything but it's cd 18 for me and I have had some light spotting which is extremely unusual for me. Not due AF for at least another two weeks (long cycles) and I have literally never experienced mid cycle bleeding at all.

Have been doing opks which seemed to surge on cd 14 but never peaked and have been completely negative since, so not sure if I ovulated then? I'd assumed because of my longer cycles that I'd ovulate later than that, in which case could this spotting be something to do with ovulation?

Nothing I can do but wait and see I suppose!

Tafaa · 06/12/2022 13:19

Forgot to add, had very mild cramps yesterday which I thought could have been ovulation pain.

lili2308 · 06/12/2022 14:10

@NarnieJoy don't know about conceiving but my cousin was down with covid / in the middle of it when she found out she was pregnant :)

LuckyStar511 · 06/12/2022 14:16

@Laul89 We seem to be cycle buddies too! I'm not using OPKs but my Flo app predicts I'm in my fertile window, that I ovulate today and that AF is due December 21st! So sorry to hear about your chemical - it's awful! I too will not be testing early because of this x

LucyLoopyLu · 06/12/2022 14:56

@BiscuitLover3678 so sorry about AF, hope you're not feeling too bad. I'm on cycle 9 so a bit behind you. Also would love a September baby (although tbf just the sooner the better at the moment now)

So much baby stuff on my social media, also friends with kids talking about their plans etc. all getting me down at the moment

Really hope 2023 is my year and yours too - BFP early Jan and September baby would be an absolute dream

I keep trying to tell myself my time will come to have a baby and it does help sometimes

Mumbrava · 06/12/2022 15:06

Feeling really low and depressed. I’m on cycle 4 after a missed miscarriage at 14weeks. Currently 6 days post ovulation. I didn’t temp but checked twice daily with clear blue ovulation tests.

I don’t think this is my month. I don’t have any symptoms like breast tenderness because I know this is the most common sign of pregnancy. I’m 34 years old and I have a soon to be 6 year old daughter.

I’m sad and angry with myself for not trying for a second earlier. Why did I choose to leave such a big gap? House moving, house renovation…petty life circumstances got in the way. Otherwise I have a very stable happy marriage. And now when I am actively trying I cannot get pregnant.

my husband and I have been off caffeine for 8 months. We take several vitamins. We ttc on the right days. Last month we ttc every day during fertile window. This month we followed the sperm meets egg plan.

for my daughter I conceived in my 3rd cycle. For my second miscarriage I had conceived also in my 3rd cycle. This time it feels different. Is it my age? Is it because I’m more desperate?

I feel like I’m running out of time. I want to have a big family so will also consider a third. But I don’t want to wait till I’m much older. But what chance do I have? I’m 35 next year and feel like I’m running out of time and I haven’t even had my second child.

please, I don’t want to sound ungrateful. But I feel so sad and so hopeless, especially when I have friends with multiple children and who are also pregnant. I feel like I’ve made the wrong life choices and now I cannot turn time back. I always dreamt of a larger family and feel angry with myself for waiting so long.

sorry for the depressing post. I am blessed in so many ways but I felt that I needed to get all this way. I hope you understand.

LucyLoopyLu · 06/12/2022 15:14

@Mumbrava this is the place to vent if you need to. I understand totally, I'm 34 (35 next year) and TTC my first, I want 2 kids but don't know if I will even be able to have one now.

It's hard to look back and see where you could have made different choices but I have stopped myself from doing it. We didn't want to have children before getting married and having our house, and saving up took time. Then just as we got married in 2020 covid meant I lost my job. By the time we were in a position to TTC I was 33. There's nothing I can do about those choices now so I try not to beat myself up about it. You shouldn't beat yourself up either x

Mumbrava · 06/12/2022 16:00

LucyLoopyLu · 06/12/2022 15:14

@Mumbrava this is the place to vent if you need to. I understand totally, I'm 34 (35 next year) and TTC my first, I want 2 kids but don't know if I will even be able to have one now.

It's hard to look back and see where you could have made different choices but I have stopped myself from doing it. We didn't want to have children before getting married and having our house, and saving up took time. Then just as we got married in 2020 covid meant I lost my job. By the time we were in a position to TTC I was 33. There's nothing I can do about those choices now so I try not to beat myself up about it. You shouldn't beat yourself up either x

Thank you for your reply. I’m sorry you are going through the same thing. It’s tough and very draining. I don’t even know why I thought it would be easy to get pregnant…maybe because I have no underlying health conditions…it just seemed that everything would be straightforward. Now I feel like I’ve entered this whole new world of ttcing but not managing to successfully. I keep questioning myself as to whether there really is something wrong with me. Sometimes I just want to go into my cave and only come out when I’m pregnant.

I’m blessed to have a child already and I have this mum guilt for not giving her another sibling - not that she’s complaining as she’s always surrounded by children and her father is a big kid himself. But dreams of having large family of 3 or 4 seems to be slowly fading away.

I’m normally a positive person but my miscarriage really knocked my morale…and there’s also the added anxiety of what if it happens again.

its nice to know I’m not alone but I’m also sorry that others have or are going through the same thing.

Judethepud · 06/12/2022 17:34

Hi ladies, I'm joining after unfortunately suffering a chemical this week. It was month 8 of ttc and I've already suffered a MMC last year so I really thought this was it. Devastated.

Onwards and upwards onto cycle 9 :)

Maxime34 · 06/12/2022 17:38

Hi ladies, ok if I join? I'm CD2 and it's going to be our first month TTC following a 4 month break. Currently going through secondary infertility following three early miscarriages back to back this year. I am feeling much more positive now though and hopefully we will have much better luck in 2023. A December BFP would be amazing. Sorry to see some familiar faces still here but I'm glad we've got each other for support!

I know how you feel @Mumbrava and your feelings are completely valid. Any kind of infertility is so hard and I didn't have any idea how common secondary infertility was until it happened to me, we had absolutely zero issues with our first so it's been really confusing. Sending lots of positive vibes for this month.

Misspotterscat · 06/12/2022 18:15

NarnieJoy · 06/12/2022 12:11

I’m poorly and I’m worried it will effect my ability to get pregnant… anyone conceived when they had a cold??

Also poorly just as it’s coming up to my peak time to conceive. Typical. I hope you feel better soon

BCxx · 06/12/2022 19:15

@Bananatoast123 yeah I came off the pill in august but I think it’s still messing up my cycle so I never know any normal symptoms really. Oh lovely, yeah definitely enjoy a few guilt free days before testing 😂

BCxx · 06/12/2022 19:18

@Maxime34 oh gosh, sorry to hear that, that’s awful. Did you manage to get any answers as to any issues causing the miscarriages? My friend had three within a year and got no ‘reasons’ as such, they were told all three were completely random and completely different things. She went on to have a healthy baby. hopefully you’ve had all your bad luck and will get your BFP this month 🤞🏼

BCxx · 06/12/2022 19:20

@Judethepud 😔 aww nooo, so sorry. So hope you have good news in 2023!

BCxx · 06/12/2022 19:28

@Mumbrava aww sending you love 😔 that must be so hard. Really hope you get a BFP soon. I’m TTC #2 and this is cycle 4 but I’m even struggling with that and that’s without a MMC so that must be tough 😔 It feels like everyone else is just clicking their fingers and getting pregnant. One of my friends said they were going to start trying a while ago and I didn’t say ‘me too’ but thought it’s probably obvious we are. I’m so sure she’s pregnant and just waiting for her announcing it. Another friend was talking about when she was ttc the other day too (again, I don’t openly say we are), and she was saying how it had happened first time for all three of their kids. How does that happen?! I found myself just having to go ‘aw yeah, that’s fast isn’t it’. While inside just thinking wtf is wrong with me 🤷🏼‍♀️

fingers crossed you’ll get a Christmas bfp 🤞🏼

Maxime34 · 06/12/2022 19:44

Thank you @BCxx it has been really hard but I do feel so lucky to have a beautiful healthy little girl which has definitely helped us get through the heartache. My doctor's discovered that I have various autoimmune issues that they think were triggered from my first pregnancy so I've got various drugs to help keep that at bay and hopefully allow for a healthy pregnancy to progress. Fingers crossed!

BCxx · 06/12/2022 19:48

@Maxime34 aw lovely ☺️ Well that’s one positive then, hopefully if that is taken care of you should sail through it 🤞🏼Wishing you lots of luck

Babydust99 · 06/12/2022 21:27

Hi, hope it's OK if I join. I'm ttc #1 cycle #6 currently 14dpo and feeling unwell but there's a lot going around atm

Laul89 · 06/12/2022 21:32

@Saturnsmoon @becomingfall hello
cycle twins! 👋🏼 I will be looking forward to you testing before me and praying you both get your BFPs! 🤞🏼✨

@LuckyStar511 we are dot on cycle twins! I don’t use OPKs either as I’m pretty new to ttc.. gave it a go last month out of curiosity to see if it matched my app but gave up pretty quick as I didn’t want to get obsessed too early on 🙈 whatever we did must have been right cos I did get pregnant but like I say it was a chemical.. which I’d never have known if I hadn’t tested early. Kicked myself cos I promised myself I wouldn’t do that but it just got too exciting 🥺 Nevermind, I won’t be doing it again! Flo also predicts I am ovulating today! 🤣 we have been DTD for a few days now and will continue a few days after just incase. Last month we didn’t DTD on predicted peak day, the day before it or the day after and I still got the early BFP so I’m keeping everything crossed for this month! When do you think you’ll test?

Laul89 · 06/12/2022 21:32

Hello to all of the new posters!
I’m really hoping we see some BFPs for Christmas… fingers crossed for us all! 🤞🏼✨

MrsMotts · 06/12/2022 23:44

Hi everyone. Can I join you?

We decided to “not try, but not prevent” after we got married 3.5 yrs ago. Neither of us were overly stressed if it never happened, and when it didn’t we figured it wasn’t destined for us. In 2020 i was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis (ironic as it’s the field me and DH both work in - he diagnosed me from symptoms before I was properly diagnosed so that was handy 😂) which took a year to get under control due to flares and can massively impact fertility.

Once I’d started infusions, I had a chemical pregnancy in May this year so we thought we’d make more of an effort as things were working 😂

I got a BFP last month with great line progression, so we were cautiously hopeful but I’m a POAS addict and at about 5.5 weeks, lines started to become fainter so I knew what was coming. Bleeding started Monday so we’re going to try again this month once this “period” is finished. Currently on CD3 🤞🏼 Have started myself on low dose aspirin and have been on Coq10 for 6 weeks and usual pre conception vitamins (I’m 38 so anything to improve egg quality 😀) Sending lots of positive vibes to you all for festive BFPs 🥰

BCxx · 07/12/2022 06:15

@MrsMotts aww you’ve not had it easy have you ☹️ Sorry about your losses, really hope this is the month for you.. you are meant to be more fertile after pregnancy so 🤞🏼

MrsMotts · 07/12/2022 06:21

@BCxx fingers crossed 😀🤞🏼

anotherscroller · 07/12/2022 06:22

Hi! AF arrived this morning. That’s the one year ttc mark for us.
I’ve never had a 12 day luteal phase before, does anyone know if this is effected by letrozole and ovitrelle?

Misspotterscat · 07/12/2022 07:45

cd7, cycle 5. Things I’m doing differently this month:
I have started taking evening primrose oil. I have ordered pre seed which will arrive tomorrow. I am taking conceive plus fertility support.
I will continue to track ovulation but attempt to have sex every other day from now until after ovulation rather than focusing on those few days around ovulation. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻