Really need some encouragement (Ttc)

[Hopefulfor4]

Hi all, I'm really struggling to find hope. I've been Ttc for about 8 out or 11 months this year so far, it has resulted in a couple of chemical pregnancies (I think!) and a miscarriage at 5 weeks. Im 37 years old and just wondering wether this is impossible for me now? I have never had problems Ttc before. It's such a stressful time I just don't know why it's not happening. My bloods are normal apparently. Any advice on what I can do to improve my chances please? I don't test for ovulation but I do monitor my cm. X

Hello my lovely. I’ve previously tried for around 2.5 years. I have endo and so an operation has helped although I only had a possible BFP this month after using the clear blue ovulation tests (digital) - previously I was tracking my CM and we weren’t doing it at the right times, I used the digi once and we had the BFP 😘 first time!
I say had as I’m still currently BFP but only 2 days in and had a negative this morning followed by two BFP so all a little confusing right now, due af tomorrow but having a little bit of spotting which is a concern (or not as research says it’s normal) anyway, it 100% has helped - I’d buy the one that you can buy more tests with so it’s worthwhile! Best of luck xxx

@Yolo23 thank you so much for replying. I'll be praying your bFp gets stronger. Such a long wait for you! Xx I'm getting so discouraged after this year. We have deciding to only try until Christmas as we already have three and I'm getting in a bit! So I'm almost out of time. It's crazy hard. I thought my cm was a good sign I was ovulation soon but maybe I'm wrong and it is much later or before. I do feel like I get symptoms of pregnancy but then they go, I've even had faint positives that then turn negative. I got a positive in a digital in aug too but ended 6 days later. I need a crystal ball and a magic wand it seems! Xx

Oh bless you, thank you. Unfortunately more disappointment this evening - brown spotting previous has turned into bright red blood. Still not loads but it’s not a great sign 😩 so I’m expecting AF to turn up soon… it’s all so confusing.

sorry to hear you had a positive in aug - it is horrible 🥺

keeping my fingers crossed for this cycle for you - hopefully a nice little Christmas miracle 🥰

thank you for responding xx

I'm so sorry to hear what is happening. It's hard to stay hopeful but until it's full flow I guess there's a little hope left? Xx take care. Xx

@Hopefulfor4 I hope you don't mind me gate crashing your threat but I need some encouragement too 😭😭

I'm in the TWW of my 8th cycle of trying for my first pregnancy and I'm not hopeful at all.

I'm 36 with regular periods, positive opks every month etc but nothing. I think I had a chemical last month but it can't be confirmed so I'm still on a massive downer about not being able to conceive.

Hi everyone, quick update.. had a blob or so in the loo this morning, still not on proper AF but my digital says not pregnant so I guess that’s the end of that! One thing I will never do again is test even the slightest bit early (wasted so much money on tests this month and had 5/6 BFPs) just sharing some advice. Feeling ok but just want the bleeding to start now so it can be over with and we can enjoy our holiday to Dominican on Saturday. If anyone has any advice around how long it takes to start, and how long generally it may last, I’d really appreciate it 😥🥺 xx

@overthinkersanonnymus I'm
So sorry you are struggling too. It's such hard time. No need to apologise at all you are more than welcome. X

@Yolo23 I'm so sorry you are experiencing a chemical. It's so hard! I hate questioning why it's not sticking abs what on earth i can do!? I too tested too early last month and swore I would again but I did! So more heart break. The thing is I feel symptomatic too, that's what makes me hopeful. I got a good positive at 9dpo (unless a bad indent!) this month! Then got harder to see. I'm not buying Frer test now until late as the indents are horrid. X

@Hopefulfor4 thank you 🥰 yeah I totally feel the same - to have 5 odd digital positives (I had to be sure for my smear).. it was such a surprise when everything had changed so quickly. Im just glad that I’m a person that doesn’t take anything for granted so I’m always wary of things going wrong (means I’m a bit more prepared).
Ill never test again but perhaps be reassured that something is happening inside - as up until this point I’ve never come even close so that’s one good thing atleast. Sorry to hear you also experienced similar 😞 horrible! If I’m honest, as I’m still positive I’ll only buy digi now xx

@Yolo23 I think I should do the same but I bet once I'm in that testing period I'll cave and do it! Xx

@Hopefulfor4 haha I know the feeling but for me now it’s been once bitten so twice shy. Definitely holding out in future 😅 xx

Hi everyone I hope you are all keeping well, I'm having a confusing month! I had major bloating on cd11 which I not all get around ovulation but I have only just had lots of ewcm this am which is cd 17!? I'm not sure what's going on. X

Hello @Hopefulfor4 sorry for late reply! I’ve been keeping myself to myself for the past month and been away to Dominican. The signs you’ve shared sound really hopeful! When I had a positive test they were definitely signs I’d never had before. Unfortunately mine was chemical but definitely signs of pregnancy for me. Anything extra happened over the past few days? X

Hello! Totally understand that you took some time away. I had a little bloating cd 18 but then also have a good amount of ewcm in cd 20 (the wed after the Sunday ewcm) why on earth did I have it again?? I'm a little worried as we only dtd cd 16 and 20 and missed the peak probably inbetween!!! Xx

I remember that bloating and lots of CM was a noticeable difference for me. I don’t think we’ve had a positive cycle this month as we’ve been away and I didn’t really track using digital ovulation - which was the main reason I feel, that we had a BFP last month!
I’ve not really had many symptoms only the general pinching sort of sensation/twinges which are no where near as bad as last month when I had the CM… I’m not testing this month though unless I’m late and due on Xmas day so will just let it all pan out and see what’s what! Xx

Aw I hope things do work out this month for you. I'm not really sure where I am
In my cycle as I don't track with Opks just ewcm and bloating. I guess I'm roughly about a week past ov as I had some Sunday and some wed!? But our sat ok dtd might not have been still been swimming by then xx

I see! everyone is different however I am convinced I only had BFP after doing digital ovulation test last month. Ewcm for me is always typical as per research and follows the guidelines in the book shall we say but it never worked out accurately in terms of my correct time of trying (I only realised when I done the clear blue digi test).. first time and had a BFP. Obviously turned chemical but it leaves a lot of the uncertainty and fate out of it in my opinion!

hopefully you get a nice BFP this month… you literally just never know!! Xx

Sure don't! How did your opk line up with your ewcm did you notice last month? X I always thought that was when you ovulate but I think now it's just before. Who knows! This is my very very last month as my husband had the snip last week!! We just decided that my increasing age and the stress of it all was getting to much so we've drawn a very solid line ready to move on if we have to! X

For me, I had creamy discharge 3 days before ovulation officially happened. I didn’t really notice a difference with when I had egg white but normally this follows the day after which I always assumed was around ovulation time. This means we would have DTD like two days before normally but the digital confirmed I was due to ovulate later and gave me the flashing smiley, and then fixed smiley (ovulating). I’m convinced doing it the day before (flashing) and the period of ovulation was the difference to all other cycles.
Im sorry to hear you’ve had to come to that decision but if I can totally understand why you need to put a time frame on it. I’ve already mentally prepared myself that I don’t want to keep trying after the age of 33, which may seem young but mentally that’s all I can comprehend with right now. This is assuming we get a good go at IVF between now and then too - which is a reasonable assumption as I’m 31 in March. We’ll try numerous routes until age 33 (egg donors potentially etc)

If it doesn’t happen, we have spoken about adoption and I’m confident that’ll be the path we go down. I don’t think it’s healthy to be in this space forever so I totally get your reasoning. It’s a difficult decision but we’ll done for making it - keeps you in control of a challenging circumstance xx

I guess there is hope for around the time we stay then. X may I ask how long you have been trying? I honestly don't know how people do it for years and years, peoples strength amazes me! No matter how you become parents it will perfect. And all of this trauma will feel like a distant memory. I so hope and pray you get your sticky bFp soon though. I am already blessed with a beautiful family. This is secondary infertility for me due to age I think as I'm
Now 37. X

Definitely! You literally just never know.

In totality I’ve been trying for over 3 years - I was in my previous relationship for 10 years. We tried for 2 and no joy. I was convinced it was going to happen naturally and that I had endometriosis. Had a lap and it came back confirmed - had to wait for another operation as my ovary was fixed to my womb so that’s all been sorted now. The fact I had a chemical must be a good thing!

Its lovely to hear you already have an amazing family. I know it doesn’t help and still makes it incredibly difficult but it must be a small comfort. If we could just have one, I’d be over the moon. I’ve come to the conclusion prior to last month and before that I’d never be pregnant and it would never happen so gutting that the last ended as it did but atleast it manages expectations further 😊 back to being pragmatic again!

best of luck for this cycle - let me know how you get on 🥰 when are you due to test? Or when is AF due? X

Wow you've really been through it!!! And yea that chemical although so hard is a really amazing step in the right direction. I will be keeping everting crossed for you and will be 🙏🏻.

My cycle changes as some months it's dead in four weeks which would be Friday but i defo ovulated later so thinking maybe due Christmas Day or Boxing Day I'm not really sure as my symptoms have been so confusing this month. I could literally be anything from 13dpo to 7 dpo!? Xx so maybe around 9/10 x x

I had a chemical/early miscarriage at the end of august at only five weeks. I noticed a tiny pink spot of implantation at 9dpo and chad a bFp at 12dpo. I had tingle nipples too! Not had that since xx going to symptom spotting like crazy lady over the next few days I think! X

@Hopefulfor4 how are you getting on? I don’t seem to have anywhere near the same symptoms as what I had last month with my chemical but calmly awaiting AF - due Xmas day. We will see! How’s things with you? 😊

Hi! I've been working myself up today, feeling sad as I don't have any symptoms really. I felt a twinge/ pain yesterday but I do sometimes get those but I thought it could be implantation. But realistically I know it's my imagination run in my away with me. It's so hard not to think about it all day!! It's so hard because I don't truly know where I am
In my cycle. I've tested and all bfn. My boobs ache a tad at times but I get that for pmt too x

Oh bless you! I can totally relate to you today. I have been trying my best to refrain from testing and having a few random symptoms which I know are being fabricated in my mind - twinges, bloating, mood swings, boobs aching…
sorry to hear you had a BFP but it isn’t over just yet - when I tested last month, I had a negative 4 days before AF and then had the positive 2 days before AF… I’m 2 days before AF again tomorrow but we’re supposed to have a drinking games night so I’m uncertain whether to test in the morning and risk everything that happened last month… or to assume it’s going to be negative again… I guess I’ll have to test!!
as you don’t know where you’re at with your cycle, I’d try to keep positive (easier said than done I know).
hope you get a good night rest and feel a little bit better tomorrow my lovely, let me know how you are xx