IVF - some direction/personal experience please.

[BecauseICan22]

Hello,

I am asking for some insight, personal experiences and direction regarding IVF.

Background:
I'm 42 this month, DH turned 47 this summer.

We have been TTC since February. I have had 4 positive conceptions and all 4 have failed.

February - Blighted ovum.

April - Chemical pregnancy.

June - Miscarriage at 6 weeks.

September - Ectopic confirmed yesterday which I'm now undergoing treatment for.

My cycle is very regular and I have no known medical issues.
I have 3 children from my previous marriage.
DH has 2 from his previous marriage.

We are both utterly exhausted with the natural conception cycle and my body feels broken. We have had tentative talks about now going down a managed or IVF route. However, having never been faced with this we have no idea where to start.

We can comfortably afford private treatment and we both realise how fortunate we are, not just with our previous children but with our finances.

We would greatly appreciate any advice or direction from those in the know. Real experiences on impact on you as an individual, a couple and your family structure.

I ovulate every month and can conceive easily, it is carrying which is the issue. I'm assuming from my personal reading this is down to chromosomal abnormalities with the fetus and so the pregnancy doesn't progress.

We have no resolute plan right now, we are simply looking for information. I just feel utterly stuck.

Thank you in advance =)

I also have a huge fear of needles. That part was loads of not fun, especially if it doesn't work out. I found it easier to jab myself though than to be jabbed in the arm or wrist by others.

When i did get pregnant, I found the gestational diabetes daily testing to be loads harder needle wise.

The hormones caused a lot of weight gain from two unsuccessful IUI attempts and one successful IVF attempt. I could not get rid of that weight gain no matter what I did.

And some of this feels like the less you know, the easier it is. I have hereditary risks for breast and ovarian cancer and some studies same some of hormones they use may increase chances for breast cancer. So yeah. Better off in the dark on some of the super nitty gritty.

@BecauseICan22 I'm so sorry you've gone through this awful experience. I'm glad you felt loved by the care you received too. Sending you lots of love for a healthy recovery, emotional as well as physical xxx