TTC chat thread 4

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New thread ladies as were nearly at 1000 and I don't want to lose you guys 😂

So DH just said that he's concerned about trying for another baby because of money. I mean we are moving house and yes it's gonna cost us more to live there which is okay. But he's then concerned about putting on family members for childcare (it's already been offered) and the possibility of paying for part time childminders so as to not put on the family so much. He's worried because everything is going up in price and I'm feeling a bit deflated to be honest. He said he didn't want to say anything because he knows I'll try and make him see reason but he can't kick the niggling feeling he has. I don't really know what to say to him. I never wanted an only child and neither did he really. I've always wanted two kids. I'm hoping he'll calm down with this once we're in the new house and settled, it's all a bit stressful at the moment (i say, standing in the middle of a room full of boxes and 'stuff' everywhere!).
Bit of a rant there, sorry! 🙈

@MamaSJ15 I mean I do see why he is worried and tbh it's worried me too at times. Turn on any tv or radio and it's all how we can't afford to heat our houses. But speaking as a 40 yr old 2 miscarriages down if you ache for a baby that will never leave you. I assume you are a lot younger than me and after conceiving with no issues in my 20s it is sooo much harder the longer you wait. Someone once said to me if you want it, it will work. And my little girl is singing to herself in her bedroom and her brothers adore her. I conceived her after a failed morning after pill only got because I started panicking. Moving is stressful and I don't envy you. Or your DH but it will be worth it xx 😘

@MrsCristianoX oh yeah I totally get it. I completely understand the worry. But like you say it will work itself out if it's meant to be. I'm already worried that it's taking a while to conceive and a couple of losses, but I have always said it will happen when the time is right, which at this point is obviously not the right time! I had our DD when I was 28, I'm 31 now. But we do have early menopause in the family (my sister is 35 and starting already). I also don't want a huge age gap between kids. I'm sure things will settle soon, I know money is an issue for a lot of people right now. Thank you for you lovely message 😊 xx

@MamaSJ15 I'm part of a ttc after miscarriage thread and there are so many successful pregnancies after many losses. You are still so young I would just say leave it to chance this month while you are moving. Don't be LH testing do what feels right and normal. Literally all my children are the result of no OPK testing. At your age I don't know whether those tests are a good or a bad idea. The stress with moving could mess with your cycle anyway x you are CD6? Just get packing and put it right out of your head, and good luck with your new home 😘 (I'm invested in the move though so keep us (me) updated) there is 4 years difference between my second and third child and they are best friends Xx

@MrsCristianoX yeah I'm not gonna do OPK this cycle I don't think. I only started to make sure I was ovulating, it was helpful because I found I was ovulating later than I thought. I can't wait till we start moving things now, the house is in a absolute state and I'm fed up with having things everywhere already! Going to sign the contract and pick up the keys this morning 👍 then off to work and will pick DD up later and take her to the new house and drop off a few bits. No idea how TTC is gonna go with DH's mindset the way it is but we'll see.

@MamaSJ15 I'm also invested in how the move goes, same as @MrsCristianoX 😂all you ladies are lovely which is why I keep hanging on here!
My DH has also been panicking big time about money whilst we were TTC and even more so now, I am too (not sure how it's going to work with maternity leave yet as I only get SMP and am the highest earner) but I keep thinking I'd rather sacrifice to have this baby even if we struggle for a while! If you want it badly enough I think it's always worth it so hold your ground, as @MrsCristianoX says it gets harder as you get older especially if you have early menopause in the family xx

@alwaysseeingstars thank you 😊
Yes definitely agree. We're in the same boat with SMP, I'm the higher earner and would get minimum while being off. I definitely want our DD to have a sibling. I'll scrounge for a bit and see if DH notices we're okay for money 😂 I think he worries so much because he was brought up in a family that had nothing, they were literally on the breadline, counting every penny and he always swore he wouldn't be like that as an adult. I don't see us ever really getting there but I get his worries, especially if we need to pay for any childcare for a new baby. Our DD does playgroup then preschool and we now get the 30 hours free so we've finally got no childcare to pay for. I think I'm gonna start saving a little extra from now and see how we go. Thank you so much for your kindness and understand to you and @MrsCristianoX

@MrsCristianoX thanks lovely! Think I've finally turned a corner on the nausea, have actually been able to eat breakfast and lunch the last 3 days! Still feel pretty awful generally but definitely much less intense and less like I'm going to vomit!
That bruise looks awful!

Well girls here we go again. CD10/11 DTD for the first time last night took an OPK and it's 0.85. No early testing this time I'd rather not know then be sad over something that wasn't going to happen xx

Well well well.... here you menaces all are 😍 I took some time off lurking posts.. what's new?!

@RMS0209 I think its pretty much just me talking to myself atm😂 I'm more active on the ttc after miscarriage threads

Last week for me was best summed up by 'pit' and 'despair' I'm beginning to think my eggs are f**ked but sure giving it another go because why not?! Surprise peak and DH seemed keen😅

Nice to hear from you anyways 😘

@MrsCristianoX hey!! I'm back! What a stressful weekend! But we're in the new house and I've got an extra day off to try get things sorted (although I think I need a week!). No idea where I am in the cycle right now 🙈 not even worth worrying about 😂 how are you?

@MamaSJ15 you're in already?! God u don't mess about! How is it?

Peak day for me..DTD last night and Sunday morning 🤞

Hey people in my phone... I am so confused I am 11dpo and this is what I have. Both from the same wee

@Pika93 personally I think you are pregnant the FRER never picks it up that early for me 😘 much love from one person on your phone 😂

@MrsCristianoX no, we didn't have time to mess about 😂 it's good! Just got loads to do now to sort it all out!
Oh nice, that's came around quick. What CD are you?

@Pika93 yeah I'd say you're pregnant too! Try again in a day or two for a FRER!

@MamaSJ15 CD12 so a normal time for me. Last cycle didn't feel right at all with all the cramping 🤷‍♀️

@MrsCristianoX ah right, think I'm about CD11 ish. Will have to consult the app haha. Not really planning on doing OPK or anything this month, also not gonna try speak to DH about anything. He knows how I feel about having a second child and I know he'd like a sibling for our DD too so i'll just give it a few more days and maybe see what happens! I now know I ovulate later in the cycle anyway so we've still got time to be fair.

@MamaSJ15 I wasn't either but whenever we DTD I couldn't help but check. It's an illness 😂

@MamaSJ15 and I'm addicted now. It's like preg testing once I start I actually can't stop! I will not be testing early this month.

Yea I think moving house is enough of a stress without ttc thrown into the mix. If it happens it happens xx

@MrsCristianoX I know what you mean. If you don't test to start with then it's usually okay but once you start you don't stop!
Oh I know, off to work today too, the house is still an absolute mess 🙈

Hi ladies. Turns out it was either a chemical or quite possibly the worst false negative j have ever seen as af has just shown her face two days early

@Pika93 I am so sorry 😢 I used to use easy@home but the last batch I used were awful for indents. Literally the one step cheapies are better (and much cheaper)

Hello again. My last mumsnet post was in 2016 so it's safe to say this is about ttc the second time around.

Pregnancy 1 was rough. I have endometriosis so it was rough start but managed everything naturally at the last gasp. Dh actually got his seamen results the day after the bfp. I was in and out of hospital the word go. Ending up with severe pre-eclampsia at 31 weeks. The emergency c section was done by an inexperienced junior so it was every bit horrible as it sounds. I ended up with an inverted T and a 3cm diagonal cut through my abs. I ended up with ptsd too. I don't really remember the first 6 months of ds life.

After 5 years plus of being very vocal that I was one and done I'm overwhelmed by the feeling of wanting to ttc 2. I think it's a little bio clock at the ripe age of nearly 38. I still take BP meds and I have had adhesions removed from both ovaries since. One was attached to my bowl, bladder and wrapped to the back of my womb. The other was just stuck. 🙃 I don't want to keep trying for forever and I have set a limit. If it doesn't happen within the limited then that's OK too. I don't feel like my family is missing anything but I have an overwhelming feeling that I want to at least try one last time.

Until very recently dh wanted to try again but after hitting 39 (last month) he's been very vocal about not wanting to deal with a new baby at 40. He's not given any new reasons why but repeated all the reasons I have been giving him for the last 2 years. One reason was due to covid I was terrorised of the thought of all the extra care I would need alone. Others are ptsd and the risks of getting pre-eclampsia again. On top of already having a child.

@birdboo hello 👋 wow that sounds rough. I thought the birth of my DD was rough and traumatic but that sounds horrific.
Have you started TTC or are you just starting the journey now? It obviously makes no difference, were all here for support no longer how long we've all been TTC, I'm just curious 😊