anybody else would like to TTC but still BF and not ovulating yet?

[choolie]

DS is 11mo and still has couple of BF at night. We thought we'd be at least trying for DC2 by now, if not already pregnant, but periods not yet returned. I know I may be lucky and just not get them at all and get a BFP but it's like the great unknown, will I won't I, ooh was that a symtom etc. Very hard not to reach for the tests every 2 wks!

Anybody else in a similar posotion?

Hm I would like to ttc #2 and at 38 don't want to be waiting around either. Ds is 9m and bfing a lot, no sign of periods. Have been wondering whether i needed to quit in order to ttc...

then there is that whole, how do you ttc when co-sleeping thing that I've been too to ask about! Not to mention, neither me nor dh being able to scrape together about half a libido between us

Yeah, that's the book. Got the title slightly wrong

Hi girls,

Hope you don't mind me dropping in late. DH and I have just decided to get started on number 2 and I am in pretty much the same boat as you Choolie.

DD is 8 months and although she only has 2 feeds, breakfast and before bed, my periods have yet to make a re-appearance. I haven't given her a night feed for a couple of months now and I really thought my cycle would have returned by now.

On the + side, the old bedroom gymnastics with DH have well and truly resumed!

have just gone back and read this thread properly (I should so be working!) and am sooooo relieved to find we aren't only couple in world to be down to once-in-9m...

I know it's hardly the thing y'all want to be congratulated on but, thanks ladies, you've made me feel HEAPS better

Ttc when co-sleeping is great DH and I have been married a very long time indeed and I've never had so much fun. I think already we've got it together more this year, ttc no.2 than we did in the last 5 years. You've got the master the art of the quickie though We sneak into the spare room bed when dd is asleep, or downstairs at nap-time.

I have to admit that all this texting 'oh god, i think i've got fertile mucus come home quick i need a shag', does take the spontenaiety out of things a bit, but you need a good imagination...

can't do quickies any more I think there is something wrong with my fanjo. It's dry as toast (sorry TMI!) - now that can be fixed with KY - but it's like, it just doesn't get the message that this is what we're doing now, IYSWIM. It couldn't be less interested, even if the rest of me is. Dunno how you fix that

NoRain, that's really common when breastfeeding. I guess the body just reckons that if there's no ovulation going on that it doesn't need to produce anything down there. If that is the reason behind it, then as your fertility returns, your fanjo should get back to normal.

you mean the dryness? I figured that was hormonal. dunno what's gone wrong with the wiring though. maybe just fatigue + not getting enough (any) quality time with dh. and him not being all that interested either, probably for the same reasons...

Hello, I'm another one hoping to conceive while bf and I also have a dry fanjo

I posted on many threads like this 2 years ago when ttc dd2. My periods returned when dd1 was almost a year and I'd cut down to a breastfeed or 2 every second day or so.

Dd2 is now 9 months and I'd like to try for a third (though dh doesn't know this yet) but looks like I'll need to wean first again.

If its of any help to anyone, I got huuuuge amounts of cervical mucus around 2 to 3 weeks before I got af, so it was very obvious my fertility was returning. I conceived after 2 periods when dd1 was 13 months (dh refused to co operate first cycle).

Good luck to everyone! Nice to know there are others in the same boat...

blimey there's loads of us out there being hopeful - although i'm not hopeful yet as got anotter 6 weeks to go before I moreorless stop bfing.

norain - i am the master of staring at the ceiling-sex - we were ttc for nearly 18 months and the joy went out of our sex life after about 4 months oftrying but we still had to go for it whenever the mucus arrived and I so lsot interest. think dh did a bit too. it was horrible but necessary. and then dd was 2 weeks overdue so poor dh (and poor me!) had to climb onto me every evening to try and bring her out! that was fun...

mind you it's the fatigue that's putting me off now - my libido is the best it's been since we started ttc and i think thats becuase there's no pressure to make a baby. i'm dreading going back to it though. esp as it never bloody worked and we had an iui anyway!

every 3 days sounds like hell - but i put it to dh and i think we're going to try that once I stop bfing till periods return when it'll be back to the mucus. i can jusut about reach my cervix so not much use trying to check that and my temps always varied wildly and that was before i was up 3 - 4 times a night.

bit worried that some of you are only bfing a tiny bit and still no periods. i was (probably foolishly) hoping i'd be able to do a mroning and evening feed and still ovulate.

still - at least there's loads of us out there so lots of different ideas floating about!

NoRain, according to that book I keep harping on about, you're not supposed to used ky to lubricate. You're supposed to use real egg white. Raw obviously I've got to admit I was giving it serious thought but recently the problem has solved itself. I'm certain it's down to hormones waking up again. Fatigue is a real killer though. I don't honestly think you need to put yourself through sex every three days, if your mucus isn't wet and heading towards fertile.

Oh and the book says that if you're temps are erratic, try taking it vaginally. I didn't like the idea much, but mine were all over the place, never sleep longer than 3 hrs at one go. Since I've been doing it that way, temps are definitely more stable.

If you need lubrication, are TTC and don't fancy egg white there's a product out there called "Pre-Seed" ;)

My periods came back at 7 months when I night weaned - had to do it again at 11.5 months as at 9.5months she started waking again at night but my periods have been as regular as clockwork since 7 months(they were very regular pre-DD). I think I am ovulating except one month when she had a D&V bug and fed all the time.

DD now 15 months and I'm still BFing but trying to wean - she just caught a stomach bug at the start of the weaning process so have to start again. Going to start ttcing this month - same month I conceived last year - cross fingers...I'm hoping pregnancy will make DD self wean!

Some women do have to stop BFing entirely to ovulate others can BF 20 times a day and be fertile. First thing is to night wean and then test if you are ovulating.

ahh just my luck Tapster, DS only feeds at night now, except he's had a few bugs lately too, so back on in the day and a few bedtime feeds after starting nursery. No sign of him giving up anytime soon either.
Fingers crossed for you and everybody else

Not sure if anybody who posted on here is still around, but...

as if by magic, 10 days after posting this...first period since may 2006!!!

Just have to work out how to fit a bit of nookie in now, in-between a DS who wakes 4-5 times a night and co-sleeps most of the night

congratulations hope you'll update us when you get a bfp

Just out of curiosity Choolie, did you get lots of "secretions" prior to this period, or did it take you totally by surprise?

I breastfed my daughter for almost 2 years. At about 20mnths, I reduced to one feed per day, got periods back and started TTC a few months later- got pregnant first month of trying and slowly cut the last feed...It took 6 months to conceive my daughter so I was stunned it was so easy this time, esp while breastfeeding. Also, my periods returned but the cycle was a week or two longer than before (I presume because I was breastfeeding) but it made no difference! Bizarre. Am now 31 wks pregnant. All the best x

bobblehead & mrsm, thanks for the good wishes .
No sign of period, bingo it was just there one day - felt like I was 13 again, ringing my mum & sis in great excitement to tell them!

hope the pg is going well mrsm!

Oooh, glad I found this post.

I have a ds, 14mths, who is bf day & night and no sign of my periods yet. DH and I have been thinking about ttc again but I was convinced there was no chance until my periods returned.

I was hoping to carry on bf DS until he self weaned but thought I'd have to wean him to have any chance of conceiving.

Glad to know there is a chance

I have been temping for nearly a month now and my temps seem to go up up, up and then and slowly back down again in a nice regular wave pattern. Are there any temping experts out there who have seen this sort of pattern before?

Am still on two bf's a day and no sign of af! I am going to one of the unlucky ones who has to give up bfing all together to be fertile. The problem I've got is that DD has an allergy to dairy so she can't have formula at all.

Hi Ladies,

Hope you don't mind me dropping in late to this thread.

I have an 8 1/2 month old DS still BF twice a day and expressing 1-3 times. I am 38, 39 in 3 months so need to be getting on with TTC #2.

I was taken by surprise by concieving #1 on literally our first attempt as had vv irregular periods so not sure what will happen when AF finally arrives with my cycles.

I keep getting "period type pains" with cramping, grumpiness and that premenstrual feeling around every 3-4 weeks. My exprssed milk yield drops and DS wants to feed more often but AF never arrives. NEVER thought I would want a period soooo much! My initial pregnancy symptoms were similar so I keep doing pregnancy yests but BFN. Thankfully found cheap dipstick ones so can check relatively inexpensively.

I had a C section so not sure if some of the tummy pain could be due to that.

My brother is 13 months younger than I am and was concieved while I was 3 months old and being breast fed but my mother was 22 at the time so a little different to me!

Any suggestions gratefully recieved

I keep wishing I was pregnant again, but seems with tandem breastfeeding, my periods will never return! After my first baby, periods returned at about 4 months (she started sleeping for about a 4 hour block at night, instead of the previous constant bfing!) and I got pregnant when she was 7 months old. This time round, my little boy will be a year next month, and still no periods! I guess the problem is they both wake in the night several times, so there's hardly any breaks between feeds. My 2yo daughter sleeps in her own room, but climbs into our bed 1-2 times per night for a drink to go back to sleep (as well as 1-2 feeds during the day). My 11mo little boy sleeps in a cot in our room, but as he cares little for solid foods, he gets very hungry, and sometimes has a couple of 1+ hour long feeds during the day, and at the moment would prefer to be attached to me the whole night long, bfing most of the night! lol

So poor me, not sure when I'll get any chance of a 3rd baby! lol My daughter isn't ready for weaning yet (I think it's mainly an emotional thing and she likes to feel connected and its how she relaxes into sleep), and not sure when my son will be ready, since he'll hardly eat any food!

ahh rachel. what a lovely mummy you sound! Bet you have such a close family bond! Am glad my period returned finally, but I still have pangs wishing DS still BF, he's down to just the 1 night feed now - would be happier with a more sociable hour - but i do miss it. Looking forward to BF DC2, esp. with knowing what to expect this time, I'll be more relaxed I'm sure.

Hope it's not too long before you can start TTC. We really thought we'd be trying when DS was 6mo, but i figured my body was saying no way could it cope with developing a new baby on the little amount of sleep I was getting!