Bus 9 - Donkey Cart departing soon, all aboard with ivf, pcos, endo, sub/unexplained fertility jump on

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Oh @thislittlebird I really like the idea of naming embryos, thank you, I think I might do this too.

We got 7 embryos: 1 untested went in on the fresh cycle and of the rest 2 were aneuploid and one ‘unknown’ (that we’re now having re-tested). So for us, 4 goes, hopefully 5 from the EC. Which is now 1 (or 2) left.

Welcome @zizzybdub! I’ve joined recently and you’re in good hands here.

@OrangeBengal yeah I think I will do it. Feels therapeutic.

Seven is a good number, even if there were fewer post testing.

Went for my scan today. I have a 17mm follicle, so just need to do LH tests now while I want of my positive. They're going to progesterone test me on the day of transfer this time.

If you can @thislittlebird try and get a test 2-3 days before, that way you should be able to get the effects of an increase it you need one

@OrangeBengal it’s been hard work getting this one test so I can’t see them agreeing. I hope stuff like this is included in the access package if/when I go private.

That’s tough @thislittlebird. And yes it should be pretty straightforward privately. My clinic checks 3 days before transfer, I wanted them to check just after starting the progesterone, but they say that’s the earliest they can tell if it’s working on not.

Spoke to my husband about naming the embryos and he’s not into it because for him it makes it more real, more emotional. Not sure it’ll be as helpful if I just do it. Will have a think and see though. His reasons are completely understandable, just different approaches I guess.

@OrangeBengal I can see what he means. For me it's more about getting something out of my system. I probably won't even tell DH lol.

Well, I suppose if I do pick a name and it does work out, he won’t be able to say he doesn’t like it @thislittlebird!

Hi All. Got my retested embryo results today and it’s euploid - whoohoo! Means we can delay the decision about another EC awhile longer and I can more easily live in the moment now. It does look like I have a new fibroid growing, a year and a few months after my surgery, but it’s 1cm and not too close to my uterus, so I’m going to choose to not worry about it. How’s everyone else doing @thislittlebird, @Sunbird24, @Misty84, @kerrym87, @Hoping43, @Alexis7890 and anyone else I’ve missed off?

Fab news @OrangeBengal!

Im gearing up for my final embryo, but it now looks like I’ll be moving house right around the same time the transfer’s due to happen. You genuinely couldn’t make it up…

Thanks @Sunbird24, a big relief! Oh no re move, what are you thinking of doing to keep a little calm going?! Anything for new for the transfer? I’m thinking of leaning more to the hippy side, so will be doing some visualisation next time as well as the acupuncture, ERA and scratch.

@OrangeBengal very good news it was euploid!

@Sunbird24 oh that’s massive Sod’s law!

I was scheduled for a double transfer Sunday but one of mine didn’t make it (5AC). I kind of expected that and that’s why I wanted a double, and so we didn’t t have to pay them more. Transferred the 4BB, I’m not convinced it was the right day tbh. I was on antibiotics last week, I reported my LH rise on Tuesday, I then had a migraine on Friday which I’m worried means I ovulated on Thursday. Anyway, it’s done now, I’m booking a consultation with the Lister for mid October and will raise this when I meet with them. If I can’t do medicated transfers I’m hoping they’ll suggest a letrozole and trigger shot protocol for transfers so at least I’ll know the transfers are the right time.

anyway….hopes are low but maybe 4BB can do me a solid.

Congratulations on being pupo @thislittlebird! So sorry one didn’t make it, it must have been gutting. I’ve learnt that gradings mean nothing though, I’ve had AAs not take and now have a BB and BC left, so your BB has every chance. Just be easy on yourself

@thislittlebird everything crossed for you! I’ve never even known what the headings were for any of my embryos

Not headings, gradings!

@OrangeBengal i hope the BB works but I’ve had so much irritation from the antibiotics I’m assuming it’s a hostile environment in there. I was fairly blasé about the 5AC, I just had a feeling it wouldn’t thaw, it was the straggler. That’s our nhs attempts done now, hopefully private can help us but I’m not sure how much of this I’m willing to do really. We’ll pay for two more rounds and if that fails I think we’ll be done. I don’t know how to keep doing this if it doesn’t work for us.

@Sunbird24 I had to ask to find out. I’m glad I knew it was the weakest one that didn’t make it.

If that’s when feels right then I think go with it @thislittlebird. In some ways knowing when to stop is the hardest part.

If this doesn’t work for us (to our stopping point whenever we decide that is) it’s the end of the line, we decided against donors and adoption. So it’d be a child-free life. So I get it, it’s a lot come to terms with.

Hi girls, thanks for checking in on everyone @OrangeBengal, I haven’t been on here for a few weeks so it’s good to see how everyone is doing. Great news on your euploid!

Havent been on because I guess I’ve entered a different stage mentally. Instead of “Why me?” I’m thinking “Why not me?” (got this from Dame Deborah James). Life isn’t fair, that’s just a fact. I’m tired of this, it’s been over 3 years and it’s affected mine and my partners mental health so badly. It’s also now impacting our relationship (he hasn’t been able to ‘perform’ since he found out they couldn’t find any sperm that weren’t grade 0) so we’ve just stopped trying to be intimate altogether until we’re in a better headspace.
So I’m beginning the very slow process of acceptance that being parents is unlikely to happen for us. It’s a relief in a way, to be finished with IVF and it’s just down to nature now.
We are not confident or enthusiastic whatsoever about adoption, so not going down that route currently.
I think it’s going to be just dog mum for me.

@Sunbird24 That is such bad timing! Anything that can be done about it?

@thislittlebird Best of luck with this final NHS transfer. I can understand you having an end point. 2 rounds of private was the same for us.

@Misty84 we got our cat (then kitten) just before starting IVF and she’s provided so much comfort - she seeks us out individually when she knows we need extra care after a failed transfer too. It’s a good place for love to go.

I wish you the best. I’ve always been conscious that nothing is more important than my relationship with my husband, and it hasn’t been easy for us sexually all the time either, ‘trying’ on command is not easy nor sexy, which can be pretty soul and body destroying. You’ll get back what you had in time.

@OrangeBengal were just in the waiting game no mans land and the shitty mood swings and depression after failed cycle. My job on a baby unit is both comforting and torture! I'm sick of feeling negative so going to try thinking positive as the come down of it doesn't work would be the same. Our hedgehog although not overly affectionate gives us something to look after and is so cute definitely makes life easier.
@Misty84 I also have major issues with intimacy now as it's been for baby making so long that the enjoyment has gone and eveb when we feel in the mood there's an empty feeling of what we should have achieved. It gets better over time but I can't stop thinking about the future before we've even finished our journey and I'm torturing myself with thinking too far ahead right now

Thanks for the understanding about intimacy @OrangeBengal @kerrym87. I would love to feel like ‘us’ again, rather than ‘us trying to conceive.’ I’m just going to give him time.
Kerry I don’t know how on earth you work with babies!!! I work with school-age children and that’s hard enough!
So nice to hear about your cat Orange and hedgehog Kerry. We got our dog because of all this and as you can see from the photo he’s our little baby!!! He could not possibly be loved more, he doesn’t know how lucky he is! Best decision we’ve ever made. My partner wants another dog once we move into our house so I’ll just become Crazy dog lady!!

Here’s my fur baby @Misty84

Oh what a cutie @OrangeBengal!

Yours is lovely too @Misty84. She’s in the bath here, she’s a pretty strange cat!

Aw so cute! Our loki is so pampered, actually entered him in cutepet uk competition and he's in final..not a chance of winning but it's nice to get this far with an unusual pet