Hi - anybody else 'secretly' trying for next baby?

[cluckyagain]

Hi - dh and I recently decided to go for another lo, but due to various circumstances (disapproving family mainly!) we've decided to keep it entirely secret - am I the only one?

Ahh we live in Norfolk so that wouldnt be anything unusual

Wow - loads of us....and interesting to see the 'opinions of family' seem to be one of the main reasons for being secretive (that and it just not being anybody else's business!) My family went loopy when we told of our 3rd child so a 4th just wouldn't be contemplated.....oops!

I have a couple of very close friends in RL who started TTC around the same time we did. We were all convinced we'd fall PG straight away and be on maternity leave together. Ha! Strange how we're all still trying

One of my friends has told absolutely everyone she knows, which I couldn't do personally. They've even sold their lovely car for a sensible family sized estate. But that's the way they are. My other friend has told just her very close circle of friends, as have I. I could never not have told her. We share everything. I'd be very hurt if she'd been trying for years without sharing this with me, but I'd also understand why she'd want to keep it private.

We haven't told either sets of parents. I'd tell the in laws if they asked. They're adorable. But my FIL would wind up DH because he'd often ask all the time. My parents would be a nightmare. My dad would be a sweetie, but Mum would be ridiculous. I just couldn't deal with her.

Just thought i'd pop in here and say hi, as we also have a larg(ish) age gap. (I'm 37 & DH is 51) The age difference doesn't occur to us at all really, and if others are bothered then it's their problem! We are "secretly" trying for my #3 and his #1. It's not happening yet, (cycle 6 currently) but i would give anything for it to happen, and i know that the moment that i see him hold his new born baby will be the most wonderful moment of my life. I let it slip to my mum, and he to his sister. Not telling anyone else though.

Have a good day everyone.