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Secondary Infertility

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Hoping43 · 23/05/2022 18:05

Hi Everyone

Thought I would set up a thread for those of us going through secondary infertility and it would be great if anyone wants to join me.

a bit about me…. We have been TTC our third baby for 14 months now and been through all relevant fertility testing and so far it’s unexplained. We are trying naturally until the autumn before discussing other options such as IVF

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Lalawood · 06/10/2022 14:55

@couldishouldigoforit I'm so sorry, that must be incredibly difficult. I hope you have a solid support network around to get you through these times?

The secondary infertility and IVF puts so much stress on a relationship. I know I have been obsessively focused on it, particularly after the MMC. My husband is more than happy with one, so the desire really is from me. And what with the other pressures of life (job loss/cost of living/debt from IVF), it really is challenging to make things work at times.

Holls81 · 29/06/2023 11:30

@Farfaraway1

I’ve just found this thread and your post, I mean, I could have written it! I’m now slightly older than you but the emotional side; spot on!
hubby was happy with 2 kids but happy to support me and my wish for a 3rd.
first 2 conceived so quickly and now on cycle 20 (or 21, I’ve lost count) and not a single positive. I don’t want to give up on trying but I’m starting to struggle emotionally. I trawl the internet every month looking for people on the same boat that have ended with a positive outcome.
I know this is an old thread but wondered if you’d had any change x

Anonbaby · 29/06/2023 15:57

Hi @Holls81 ive changed my user name but I started this thread. Unfortunately no good news from me. It’s been around 26 months now I think (lost count). Not even a single positive. We found out it’s likely MFI and I’ve started to realise now that it’s not going to happen. I still have my down days but coping a lot better than I was. Trying to get on with my life with my 2 children who I am so lucky to have. It’s still difficult though not to be able to complete my family in the way in wish I had so desperately wanted x

ILookAtTheFloor · 29/06/2023 19:24

Hoping43 · 24/06/2022 18:00

Ah ok I see. Howcome they agreed to clomid? I’m so fed up today. I just want to get an appt and start it on my July cycle but because I can’t get my medical records it’s going to delay it until September. I’ll be 36 at Xmas and September will be our 18th cycle TTC our third. Just feel like I’m wasting time and the situation only gets worse with age x

Hi I just wanted to jump in and say I also had secondary infertility trying for a third, we tried for over 2 years (I had no testing) started when I was 33 in September 2020. I tried all sorts of natural ways like supplements, acupuncture etc but sort of gave up by September 2022, thought it wouldn't happen again- but it did! I fell pregnant in December and I'm almost 32 weeks now. So don't give up and 18 months is still completely acceptable to be trying for! I'm 36 now, fell when I was 35. My older children are 7 and 12 and had no trouble getting pregnant with them.

Anonbaby · 29/06/2023 19:51

@ILookAtTheFloor thanks for your message. It’s so encouraging to hear. It’s been about 26 months for us now! Still don’t see it happening and I’m a bit more nervous about it now. About something going wrong, money etc with everything being so expensive but I also can’t give up at the same time x

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