Do you know anyone who has conceived naturally at 45?

[wibblypig22]

Not looking hopeful I know

I’m aged 44 and trying for 10 months but nothing yet

Yes! A good friend of mine conceived naturally at 44 and gave birth at 45.

Yes! Two that I know of one at 45 and one at 46. Both have very healthy children of 11 and 3 now. Neither were trying and both had teenagers at the time. Not too popular with the teenagers but they got used to it!

The odds of getting pregnant naturally at 45 are around 3% so I find it quite astounding that some posters know 5+ women this has happened to. Mathematically it’s highly unlikely. I do wonder if some women use donor eggs and keep it quiet.

@OldWivesTale may I ask if she used donor eggs. Here all gynecologists are pushing for donor eggs with IVF, saying some women who gave birth earlier can still can but if you waited until mid 40 to get pregnant it will not work... maybe some kind of immune system modification happens at previous pregnancies and it helps with fertility in late 40s...

My cousin had her first child at 49

This is amazing. You say 1st.. did she have any more after that?

I had my first and only at 41 (or 3 months off that) I'm now suffering with awful peri symptoms and wish I could get pregnant again but I know I couldn't manage it physically. You just know when nature tells you your time is up. But as the stories on here show, at 45 there's still a good chance.

Good luck op.

One of the mums in my children's class was 46 and went to the doctors as she thought she was menopausal but she found out she was actually pregnant. She said when she went to collect something from the chemist the pharmacist took her to one side and asked her if she minded her asking if it was unassisted and if she did anything specific as she was trying early 40s. She felt awful admitting it was a complete accident. It does happen. She obviously had a good outcome as her child is now at school.

I do. Me.

I conceived naturally at 44+5, with only one ovary/tube, having been told ten year earlier that I would not be able to have a family of my own.

BIG shock. (But nice 😊)

Ds born healthy at full term

No, I conceived my only dc at 44

Mum had my brother at a couple of month off 45. Auntie had her first and only child at 47.

My best friend’s mum was 47 when she had her ‘surprise’ 😳

Naturally at 44.

I conceived naturally at 44 after having a Fallopian tube removed the previous year. I wasn't far off my 45th birthday when I got pregnant.

Great grandmother at 46. Her 10th child though, I think it was fairly common to keep going until mid 40s in the past. Not fronting, both her old enough girls were married with their own kids by then!

There are so many women in my area having babies over 40 that you'd think people in their mid forties fall pregnant at the drop of a hat. But on getting in to conversation they are in fact overwhelmingly IVF pregnancies. I only know one mother who fell unexpectedly pregnant naturally at 40 (she had IVF the first time round at 35 so it was a big surprise). I think if you know loads of mid-40s pregnant women they've probably had a bit of help.

DP's aunt became pregnant at 48 with twins- she originally thought she was going through the menopause!

Two of my SILs, a friend and some acquaintances use to work in maternity wards hence they had older mothers as patients. In some of the locations they worked in they knew the birth would more likely be a natural conception than IVF, and vice versa in others.

Apart from that myself and the same SILs are related to women who naturally conceived after 45. (Thanks to them I also know who in extended family has had IVF and more details then I'm really interested in e.g. egg retrieval.) Plus when I was in last year of primary school and first year of secondary I had 2 classmates whose mums conceived their sisters after age 45. My classmates were absolutely stressed out by it.

Yes, they had given up trying 2 years prior (and weren't using birth control because they didn't think it was possible) she thought she was going through the menopause when her period's stopped!