Preparing to TTC in 2022

[WingingIt09]

Thread number 3 - hopefully lots of BFPs to come! How are we all?

Pregnant
@Four0Clock #3 (32) - Due 14/11/22
@Worryant #2 (38) - Due 18/11/22
@TheOnlyException1 #1 (29) - due 6/12/22

Actively Trying
@OCM19 #2 (31)
@Bear486 #1
@Cavylady #1 (33)
@Nyxxie #1 (34)
@QueenBee22 #2 (31)
@Lj2022 #1 (27)
@Trixie22 #3 (25)
@MrsGrealish
@PinkButtercups #2 (29)
@DanceWithYourBalloon #3 (37)
@BrightonBelle87
@Heathenplayinghouse #2 (36)
@Cheeky peach #2 (29)
@Hevann #1 (35)
@Gizzy93 #1 (29)
@Dasher789
@Babyjellyfish #2
@Alwaysseeingstars #1 (33)
@Carlswhite29x #1 (29)
@Lemonzestsribbles #2 (33)
@Tryingtryinggone #2 (27)
@LucyLoopyLu #1 (33)
@PrettyPolly92
@tropicana1 #2 (31)
@Anibendod #1
@Sarahshorty #1 (34)

Waiting to try in…

May
@WingingIt09 #3 (30)
@Dreamingof3 #3 (34)
@Notjustafurmum #1 (28)
@Vasectomyreversalhopeful #2 (33)
@Summerbreeze111 #1 (31)
@Amber17 #1 (33)
@Springblooms08 #1 (29)
@BellaNutella88 #2
@Superstorefan123 #1
@Duckandsarah #2
@Tonkabean22 #1 (30)
@Keeponsmiling2019 #2 (32)

June
@Blueberrymacaron #1 (30)
@DanisEndo #1 (26)
@Sunshine0987 #1 (30)
@HippeePrincess #3 (34)
@Jennifer89 #1 (32)

July
@Narniejoy #1 (25)
@Tanners22 #1 (35)
@TrillianMurphy_
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August
@Dearhummingbirds #1 (30)_
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September
@NotARegularMum #1 (32)
@Nypie (29) #1

@nypie if you are open to pain relief just know your options. I bought milli hills positive birth book which helped prepare me.

my labour was 3-4hrs so I am hoping to have a homebirth next time as I won’t make it to hospital.

Good luck! Sending you lots of sticky baby dust starting in May (so a few days!lol). I'm curious if everyone had used male vitamins and if they work? And what vitamins (if any) people are taking before conception? Does this make a difference? Xxx

@Alice1608 I upped my vitamin d, vitamin c, and took folic acid before conceiving our DD last year. Husband was on well man conception. No idea if it helped but it can't of hurt!

Aww thank you! Will look into this! Xxz

@anibendod sounds like we are experiencing something similar. Worth just testing after 14dpo to see if period comes and test to be sure..

@PinkButtercups congrats! 😃

With my DS I tore in birth. But I know I pushed when I wasn't having a contraction because I was just so exhausted. I was induced on the Wednesday and had him on the Saturday.

I was pushing for around 5 hours with a break in between because he got distressed. It was only then a male doctor come in because he could see our obs outside and wasn't happy. Came in and checked and DS had turned himself back to back which I felt him do a day before induction. After the doctor turned him back around and I had a rest for an hour out he popped. I do feel like they should've picked up on it sooner the midwives in the room. Thankful for that male doctor.

I had gas and air and pethidine. Pethidjne made me puke on everyone so had anti sickness then I peed myself and I also shat myself whilst giving birth. It happens 🥹. As you can imagine what I look like giving birth, I'm ready to do it again 🤣🤣.

It all sounds horrendous to be honest...isn't it about time the men did it?!

Congratulations @PinkButtercups !

My very strong birth preference would be an elective c section. As I understand, maternal request should grant you a c section as long as you go through the risks with a consultant (funny that you don't have to go through the risks of a vaginal birth too). I'm a planner and for me the predictably of a c section is better than the uncertainty of attempting a natural birth. I actually have a list of notes in my phone for reasons to choose a c section over a vaginal birth, with things I've read over the years in case I have to fight my case if and when the time comes!

@BlueberryMacaron I thought initially would want planned C section too but when reading online seemed like would need to fight for reason to have it.. main thing that makes me nervous about natural labour is that timing is unpredictable and emergency C sections/being induced are common. Emergency C section seems more stressful than planned one.
I am however not so keen on the healing process after C section..

@Dreamingof3 definitely the men's turn

@Alice1608 DH is on wellman. Like @Theawkwardblonde I thought it couldn't hurt and I have to take a cocktail of pills at dinner so he can too 🤣

@PinkButtercups that sounds so intense 😩 the idea of a tear terrifies me. Was it bad?

@BlueberryMacaron good on you for having a list. It's your body, I don't think they'll resist your wishes 🤞

Those doing opks, do yours graduate up from faint to darker to peak? Or do they go from nothing to peak? Mine are still really faint (predicted ov day Sunday) and I can't remember what mine were like with DS. DH will be leaving for a business trip on Monday so I'm getting the no peak until next week fear 🙃

I didn't feel it happen tbh! It was a 2nd degree tear. I didn't feel it happen at all. I quickly got stitched up after birth and didn't feel that happening either. Of course I was numbed but just felt like a little tug x

@LemonZestDribbles V limited experience as only 2 cycles so far but mine goes from nothing to peak overnight. Would have missed it had I not started testing twice a day when I saw ewcm. I think some women get a gradual rise and some get a much shorter peak.

@BlueberryMacaron For years I’ve said that if I was having a baby I’d want an elective C. Suddenly changed my mind recently and want a home birth, water pool, gas and air only! I’m very pro medical intervention in most things and a big planner who likes certainty, but I think I’d be more comfortable and relaxed at home than in hospital.

Hi all. Anyone else coming to the end of the TWW? Due AF due Mon. Have all the symptoms from first pregnancy, sore boobs, nauseous and cm creamy then stringy yellow. Trying not to get too ahead of myself but can't help it

@LemonZestDribbles I'm back using opks to get my cycle tracked. Mine start faint about 5 days before ovulation then get dark around my peak. They gradually get darker too.

Interesting to read some of your previous birth stories. Next time around I'll not be as shy to request an epidural. I reacted badly to the drip and had back to back contractions for hours. I waited 12 hours before I requested one as was managing (just!) on gas and air. It was bliss when I got it. Plus 2 hours later had my EMCS so it helped with that too. Pethidine was vile. Made me sick and hallucinate!

@PinkButtercups that's really reassuring! Tears and pooping are my vbac fears 😬

@keeponsmiling2019 oh fingers crossed for you 🤞 are you going to wait until missed period to test?

@LemonZestDribbles my OPKs are practically a non existent line until 3 days before my peak then they gradually progress but not much then I get my peak day. Think I might have peak today but I'm debating wether it's positive or just every so slightly lighter than the control line. So I seem to get a more sudden surge where I know some people get a longer more gradual surge but some get a sudden surge

Haha of course! They should join in the fun! Xx

CD6 and after 2 Clomid pills, the bleeding stopped for about an hour last night before coming back heavier than ever. So I think that theory is a bust.

Back on the Norethisterone again today, I'm praying it'll kick in at some point. It's going to be a long six months, I just feel exhausted right now.

@LemonZestDribbles My opks come out of nowhere. I never got a peak last month but knew it must have been overnight as usually they are so quick!

i take folic acid, and I take it 3 months before conception at least. Apparently the egg you ovulate was getting ready about 70 days prior so this is why they say 3 months.

folic acid helps to stop spina bifida so at the very least take that.

I also take vitamin d as I need it, and omega 3 because I have very little in my diet as I can’t eat many natural sources of it. I kept this up all through my last pregnancy.

DH has never taken any preconception vitamins but is partial to a berocca which I guess is a cheaper version 😅

lj2022 thanks I'm going to try to hold out

Brightonbelle87 wow congratulations. Which test did you use? What are your symptoms?

Hi all, just been catching up after a few days away. Managed to put TTC out of my mind for the week which was nice!

Thanks to those who replied to my last post when AF arrived 10DPO..

@FourOclock @MrsGrealish I was using OPKs so don't believe ovulation happened any earlier than I thought.. if anything it may have been later as I just assume it's the day after the peak but it can take longer can't it? 🤷🏻‍♀️

@LemonZestDribbles yes AF arrived in the afternoon 10dpo. Thanks for sharing your experience that does give me hope ☺️ Was your luteal phase still 8/9 days right up to the cycle before you conceived?

@lj2022 thanks, yes it is so difficult when AF comes, especially when it's so early. I feel like a longer luteal phase would have at least been a small win, even if I didn't get a BFP! Please let me know how you get on with the agnus castus, I will have a look into it too. Have you tried anything else previously? I have been off the pill since the end of December, going into cycle 4 now (not counting the withdrawal bleed from the pill as a cycle). How about you?

@Dreamingof3 when I first joined MN I found a thread about resting heart rate and TTC and have been obsessing over it since! 😂 I do find it goes up at ovulation and during the TWW, and back down just before AF arrives.

So sorry for the essay guys, hope everyone is doing ok and congrats to those with their BFPs 🥳 🥰

Quite a few people soon to be added to the 'actively trying' list.. how is everyone feeling?

@Nyxxie sorry to hear about AF. So far I seem to be ovulating later this cycle. Usually ovulate between CD16-18 and got a positive OPK today so now predicted to ovulate CD20 so not sure if agnus castus is maybe changing my full cycle to be longer? I'm also trying progesterone cream this month I considered waiting until next month and just seeing if agnus castus worked on its own but wanting to give myself the best chance possible. I was also December coming off the pill and have had 5 cycles so soon going into cycle 6 of trying if this month is unsuccessful. Do you get any spotting before AF?

@HeathenPlayingHouse it all sounds so draining, I wish I had some practical advice for you

@FourOclock Thank you

It's more inconvenient than anything else, so I feel like I shouldn't complain. But then I have moments like I did earlier, where I worry that it's caused by something sinister, and I end up getting upset thinking of the possibilities. All because the GP doesn't want to look past the BMI chart.