TTC 35+ Thread 13 (hopefully not unlucky for some!)

[thislittlebird]

I didn't realise the old thread had reached capacity until I hit 1000 so here's a new one. Thread 13 but feels more like 130 for me. New folks welcome, some of us have been hanging out here way too long and would like to alight already!

I've tagged a few of you...

@Tinkerbell098
@Marvellouslymadmum
@KatRee
@Hoping43
@ShirleyValentineManc
@Cally1980

Thanks @Carla2601. Is it transfer day for you?

So I had the scan. It’s slow progress compared to normal, which is Sod’s law, but there’s a left side follicle growing at 12mm. But the issue is, if it doesn’t get to size by Wednesday they may tell me to try again next cycle. I’m sad about that, I’ll be 39 in May and I really wanted to have made more progress by now. It’s getting me down how slow my journey seems to be compared to people who started the same time. I can’t even get to a fucking transfer. I’m very tired of it all and started recently feeling like I can’t do all this for more years. I don’t know how much I’m willing to do if these embryos don’t work. I’m exhausted. Maybe I’ll feel different again after 4 potential failures, who knows.

In better news, she gave me my embryo grades. I don’t know what it all means (other than they’re decent quality for defrosting) but the nurse was pleased. We have the following:

Day 5 4AA
Day 5 3BB
Day 5 3AB
Day 6 5AC

Never seen a 5 something before, no idea what it means. Need to have a Google!

@thislittlebird yep I’m all done. Embryo on board. I’ve got a scan picture but it’s just a tiny white dot so there’s not much to see. Mine was a 5 as well I googled and it meant it’s gone beyond blast and started to hatch so I think it’s a good thing. Yours all sound good. I think we have 5 to freeze but there might be a couple more that are being reviewed tomorrow.

They said they were really happy with the results.

I’m keeping everything crossed for you as I can imagine how frustrating waiting would be. All the luck for Wednesday!

@thislittlebird moving to the sea and opening a cafe sounds lovely! Something I've always thought would be good - and I live fairly near the sea lol
Talking if bodies not complying - I'm cd45 here and still don't think I've ovulated! Thought I had because I had a peak opk but never got a proper temp rise, they're still low now 🤦🏼‍♀️
Hopefully your body will surprise you and suddenly sort itself out!

@carla that's great thank you! I'll have a look at the link 😊 I'll order Wednesday as that's when I get paid. Stupidly broke this month as my other half started working for a different company so hasn't been paid in forever and the electric, gas and fuel has gone up so much!!
That's great news about your eggies fertilising too and congratulations on being pupo!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

On a rubbish note my oh lost his Nan today, and I know I really shouldn't be thinking like this and I feel selfish for it but I'm so upset, his uncle and Dad (coerced by the uncle) had her will changed a couple of years ago after getting power of attorney by not declaring her Alzheimer's so that instead of them inheriting any money and my oh and his sister inheriting their paid off flat as their grandad had stated in his will, they now get the lot and my oh and his sister get nothing! That flat is worth around £80,000 more than for a deposit on a house AND ivf with his share but no, nothing! Like I said I feel really selfish thinking like that when they've lost their Nan but I can't help but feel like we've been cheated of our future 😢

@Marvellouslymadmum I’m sorry to hear that, how is your OH? Also, you’re not being selfish it’s a completely reasonable way to think - it’s not fair. Not sure how your OH relationship is with his dad, could he speak to him? I also think If i was a nan I’d so want the money id saved to pay for some IVF feels like such a good use.

Re hello fresh - have a check but it should be completely free so they just deliver the food no charge at all (I’m bloomin obsessed so they give me these freebies rather than discounts every so often haha). And tell me about it re cost of living it’s crazy!

And sorry about your cycle that sounds so frustrating! We had the call yesterday and we have 8 Frosties plus the one I’ve got with me so I’m so thrilled and relieved with that outcome and couldn’t have asked for more

@Carla2601 yeah I read the same thing, that it means it’s hatching. Is the one you have onboard a 5?

So it’s now Wednesday, I’ve had my scan and can breathe a little bit. I have a decent follicle 🙌. That bad boy is 17mm and my lining is 7.7mm and I had CM this morning so, for now, I’m back on track. But the next obstacle is I need a LH rise and anyone who has shared a thread with me on here will be aware I am not good friends with OPKs . I’m literally going day by day right now, got to see if I can get an LH rise and go from there.

@Marvellouslymadmum I’d probably hate it in practice but I won’t rule it out haha. We plan to move to Cornwall eventually so who knows what the future will bring! How’s it going on day 47? for you? Are you still waiting for the noncompliant body?

Omg why did they change the will? That’s crazy and not what she wanted. I would be very annoyed too. And I don’t see how that’s right if she wasn’t unwell when she made the will? I’d be furious. What did the dad of your OH say?

@carla that’s the work of normal eggs and sperm right there 🤣

@thislittlebird yep they went with the 5 first so let’s see how that goes and hahaha thanks for that it’s the first time I’ve felt normal for a while…which makes normal feel very lucky indeed! Let’s just hope there’s no more curve balls/missing pieces of anatomy etc 😂.

Well played follicle! And come on LH! Keep us updated

@Carla2601 he's not doing very well, just gone completely quiet and fed up with the world at the moment, he won't speak to his dad because he's of the mind that he doesn't care about the inheritance at the moment.
Yes it's totally free just the postage to pay which I can do now as I've actually been paid lol
I'm so confused now don't know what's going on! That is a great result for you though, really hoping it turns out well for you!

@thislittlebird I've given up 😂 I've stopped tracking this month just waiting really and dtd when we feel like it now!
It's so out of order! Her husband originally out in it in the will with her years and years ago and it's what she wanted too after he died but once she got Alzheimer's the two sons just decided to get it all changed! My oh won't talk to his dad about it he's just leaving them to it all at the moment 🤷🏼‍♀️
Have you tried doing Lh strips twice a day? I know some people say it works better for them in the evening

I am doing LH strips multiple times per day and getting nothing still. My husband has Covid 😭. I don’t think I’ve really processed it yet. If I get that’s all this effort wasted.

Feel like the universe is telling me not to have kids. 😞

I got my LH rise. I’m so upset, want to cry my eyes out. It’s been such a slog to get here and now I have to cancel.

@thislittlebird why do you need to cancel? If you’re testing negative could you go alone? I know that’s really shit but is it less shit than missing it. I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way and all this is happening but it is NOT a sign from the universe.

I’m also feeling like the world is against me. AF due Sunday and have every single one of my usual symptoms so I’m almost certain this has failed. Been awake all night too hot so now I’m tired, puffy, and almost certainly out. You’re not on your own x

@Carla2601 lots of people get those symptoms and a BFP so try not to worry. I DMed you!

It just feels like i have the shittiest luck. Can never make progress like other people can. Just stuck in this fucking hamster wheel.

@Marvellouslymadmum I’ll DM you too!

@thislittlebird normally I’d agree but my symptoms are weird like being really hot at night and having two almost completely sleepless nights….and I’ve never heard anyone say that about pregnancy.

In a way it’s good my hopes are now non existent so at least I won’t be as disappointed.

DM’d you back, and you will get out of that wheel!!!

@Carla2601 Hmmmm still, they're your symptoms so it makes sense you'd get them. I think it's a hormonal thing at that stage and pregnancy symptoms don't kick in until later for most.

Let me out of the wheel!!!!

Very tired of doing everything in the house today lol, cleaning all the touch points and surfaces, washing my hands, cooking, washing my hands, shopping, washing my hands....my hands are over having a covid household and it's only day 3!

@thislittlebird oh it’s the worst, my OH has had it twice. We also did a spring clean today as we’re putting our flat on the market and the v lols nurse I had Monday said something like ‘there is absolutely nothing you could do or not do that would impact whether this works beyond doing the progesterone except cleaning and ironing, it’s very important you don’t clean or iron’ and I kid you not half way through us cleaning our room together he put his duster down and said OMG you’re not meant to clean they told us on Monday. Made me seriously consider whether he should be reproducing at all if I’m honest 😂😂😂 also made me wonder how observant he is as I’ve cleaned every day since Monday! Sometimes I despair!

@Carla2601 omg that’s funny. I’ve not cleaned and should be. I’m currently sitting in the garden with a blanket and convincing myself I’ve got Covid. My tea and coffee don’t taste right, neither did my digestive biscuit and I love those :/

I do not want this thing, go away Ms Vid.

Actually, no, before the cleaning the decorating needs to be finished and we clearly aren’t doing well at that with the infected household. I’m tempted to paint some stuff if I’m feeling better later, I’m just not great at the detailed stuff and don’t want to cock it up. I’m feeling a bit meh right now.

Where are you moving to?

@thislittlebird I cannot decorate but I actually quite like cleaning, not sure what that says about me.

East London hopefully!!

@Carla2601 I’m usually ok with decorating and we did our spare room well. But the dulux satinwood paint we chose for downstairs and the hall/landing has been an absolute bitch. It just does not want to go on smoothly, horrid stuff. So we bought a trade version of the same colour to try and hoping that will be better. I might try it tomorrow on some areas, I did gardening today. Planted some containers of wildflowers and stuff like that.

Oh nice! I’m south east. Are you getting a bigger place?

@thislittlebird I am so impatient and I can’t even cut paper straight so it’s not for me haha.

Yeah hopefully - nothing huge of course just a little terraced is what I’d love.

Happy Easter everyone!

Hope you all had a good Easter!

@thislittlebird sorry my Mumsnet wasn't working! I've dm'd you back now, did you get the rona or manage to stay clear?

@Carla2601 that's definitely a pregnancy sign 🤞🏻 for you! And I don't think men are very observant full stop!

@Marvellouslymadmum sorry for the late response - I’ve been in and out of hospital this week with a fairly severe case of OHSS. Not ideal. I’m the size of a house and very short of breath and uncomfortable but it’s either easing off a bit or I’m getting used to it but either way I’m feeling a touch more human today.

how are you doing? Did your cycle come right in the end?

@Carla2601 oh no that's not good! What happens now with that? Do you just carry on and see what happens?

I have no clue, I've given up temping, using opk and we are just dtd as and when we feel, I think it's an anovulatory month anyway so just waiting for af at some point so we can start again - weird wanting her to show up!!

@Marvellouslymadmum ah sometimes nice to have the freedom to not be planning it but yeah hopefully onto the next cycle soon. Good luck.

Yeah there’s actually not a lot they can do - just when I thought I’d finished jabs I’m now doing blood thinners which are nasty but manageable so hopefully I won’t get a blot clot at least. It’s just trying to make you as comfortable as possible and make sure you can breath. Really hoping it’ll start to disappear this week 🙏🙏🙏

@Carla2601 I wasn't well through part of the cycle, had tonsillitis so temping was out anyway, I'd used so many opk' so just thought I'd give it up as a bad job and start again next - I'd like to say month but I'm going to stick with cycles as this one's been two months long 😂
🤞🏻 it all goes for you, does not sound good!