🌈Ttc after miscarriage thread 5 💕✨🤞🌈

[Skl2021]

New thread ladies 🌈🌈🌈

Just checking back in to say hi! @arianasky you can self cert for 28 days now, I was exactly the same as you and the thought of going back to work makes it even worse! My work also mentioned about counselling but I’ve not decided to go ahead with that yet but def would consider it!

Who else is in the TWW? I’m CD26 and I (think) I’m either 8/9 dpo, I only use the CBD so never know whether to count O as the day of peak! But anyway I should be expecting AF Saturday, I’m not going to test at all until at least after AF is due! Although obviously the urge is there I was so upset after the CP last month! X

@aesgriff you're welcome ☺️ yes they are ☹️
Im 6DPO today and temp still going up. I've just told my partner that I'm starting the testing in 2 days as I want to catch it as early as I possibly can and he's supportive. My Medicheck progesterone test is coming today or tomorrow, and will be sent back tomorrow 🤞
Still feeling overwhelmingly anxious. It's weird because I can talk to people I don't know and they can say everything will be fine and relax and that really helps. But when my partner says it I just want to throw him in the dog house 🤦‍♀️ does anyone else find that?

@bunnykins123 I'm doing ok trying not to panic but it's always in the back of your head waiting for something to go wrong. I am getting alot of pains and aches this pregnancy aswell which IV never had before 🤦 and I'm scared everytime I go to the toilet checking for blood 😩 how are you? Xx

@Rebeccao welcome and good luck when you test 🤞✨ xx

@Sparklesurprise29 have u been testing? Your so close now 🤞🤞 Keeping everything crossed for you! Have u got any symptoms? I'm 8 weeks today going from scan xx

@HoneyLemon29 that's sounds absolutely terrifying I'm so sorry you had to go through all that I cant even imagine 😩 it's terrible we have to fight so hard sometimes we have a feeling something isn't right why can't they just trust us. I'm sure your story could have been alot less traumatic if they had just seen your earlier. I would be so scared incase that happened again your a brave woman 💕 absolutely I would demand one until I got one after what you have been through. Xx

@aesgriff don't feel bad pile it all on them don't let them dismiss you keep pushing 🤞 you need to be seen you can't carry on in limbo worrying it's horrible. Yes I'm starting to get to that point were it's affecting me now. Just feel rough and tired all the time. Sick if I eat sick if I don't eat. I'm sleeping most of the time just to get through it but feel bad for my little ones 😩 xx

Thank you @Skl2021 luckily they did say if you fall pregnant call us straight back. So 🤞
My discharge was just as bad. They were running out of beds and the day after surgery said sorry can you be picked up asap and wait in the EPAU waiting room we need your bed. I would've completely understood someone needed my bed. But to stick me back in the waiting room of the EPAU on a really hard uncomfortable chair the day after surgery was just not on.
I just have to think to myself that my desire for having another child is greater than my fear. And if I give up I'll be plagued with "what ifs"
I've had 3 children with no issues so it CAN happen 💜 and my partner has said that if the same was to happen again. He will do everything in his power to start the IVF process 💜

@arianasky I'm so pleased your work are being so understanding, and I think counselling is a great idea. I'm thinking of having some myself, until now I've just been putting it out of my mind, even my oh was surprised by how well I was coping, but then when something triggers it off again I'm back to square one and in a hole. I think it's important to process the emotions and grief.

@bunnykins123 I know it definitely does 😂🙈I've got sore breasts and I have slight EWCM so maybe? Oh I know I always workout when I can DTD etc and it never works out I ovulate around then 🙄

@Prayingformyrainbow93 ah thank you I didn't know that 💕

@Sassy144 same, I manage to push my feelings aside and act like I'm all good but I know I'm not and it's not healthy to do that

@HoneyLemon29 as if your story couldn't get any worse then they treat you like that 😩 absolutely shocking. That's a great way to think! I think I would of regret not trying again and like you say the what ifs. Hopefully we both get there 🤞 your oh sounds amazing 💕 glad you have such amazing support xx

Sending love and support to everyone on what sounds like a rubbish Monday xxx

@aesgriff @Cruz86 I didn’t realise you were both still experiencing spotting 😞💔 Honestly what a rollercoaster.

@aesgriff I hope that you can be seen at EPU today & get reassurance. Are you taking anything else on top of the progesterone? I know that aspirin for example can cause bleeding too. Massive virtual hugs! Xxx

@cruz86 hope you feel better soon, not what you need on top of everything else!

@HoneyLemon29 I think my mouth literally dropped open reading your story there, that is so so bad!! I’m so sorry you’ve gone through that but I’m glad you’ve got that ammunition there to make sure that you are not fobbed off again. Truly awful! Xxx

I missed loads of comments whilst at my daughters ballet lesson so I hope everyone else is doing ok today. Is it just me or is it always Mondays!? I swear last Monday there were things going wrong too 🤦🏻‍♀️ Xxx

@Skl2021 fingers crossed to us both it all works out for us and to everyone out there struggling with conception and pregnancy losses that we are all holding babies soon 💜
You're almost there 🤭 just another 7ish months? That will hopefully fly by for you x

@speake I'm glad I got it out 😅 I was so anxious this morning but since I spilled my guts on this thread the anxiety has eased right up 🥰 x

@Bridgey8 how u doing 💕 xx

@speake how are you? Haha this thread is sometimes hard to keep up with 🤦 xx

@HoneyLemon29 fingers crossed 🤞 oh my sounds ages when you put it like that 🤦 hope it goes a bit quicker than it currently is 🙌🤞 xx

@HoneyLemon29 you've really been through it; may you never get fobbed off like that again.

@aesgriff can I ask, are you within the NHS? I am. I have to say I feel like a massive fraud helping ppl with anxiety, because mine is terrible. I know the things to say but not how to implement those things.

@Skl2021 I’m ok thank you, just a nervous wreck! I wonder if there will be any gestation where we actually all ease into pregnancy & feel ok or if this anxiety will continue until birth 😖 I’m so glad you haven’t had any more spotting, keeping everything crossed for you xxx

@Skl2021 I think if I'm worrying something is going wrong next time I'm pregnant (if I am one day... 🤞) I'm definitely planning to exaggerate my symptoms to be scanned as soon as possible @HoneyLemon29 it's awful what you have been through 🥺 you're really brave and I wish you all the best 💞
For my second MC in December, everything started with some light brown/pink spotting, no pain, at 10 weeks. I called the EPU, told them the truth about what was happening, and they said not to worry, it's likely nothing, and they offered a scan one week later, saying to just call back if it started to be red blood and cramps. I already had a MC two months before that started exactly the same, I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat... Fortunately the day after I was travelling to France to visit my family for Christmas, and first thing I did was going to the hospital there because I knew they would scan me immediately, which they did, and told me there was no heartbeat 😞 I miscarried naturally few days after that. I know there is nothing the EPU could have done to stop it, but I'm definitely going to lie next time if that happens again, because I prefer to know rather than staying for days or weeks in this state of worrying. At least I could start to mourn...

@arianasky It's great that they understand you need more time before going back to work, and that they offered counselling. You shouldn't feel bad about taking the time you need: what you have been through is a lot, and you need time to heal physically and mentally 💐

CD15 and still negative OPKs! Why is it that MCs make my cycles go ridiculously long but actually giving birth at full term doesn’t😤

@ArcEnCiel2022 thank you 💕 i feel a bit better knowing work understood

@PamelaDoov I'm the same CD15 and no sniff of ovulation yet 🙄 it's so frustrating isn't it

@arianasky very annoying but to be fair my app doesn’t put my fertile window until tomorrow, so I won’t despair too much just yet.

@PamelaDoov mine put it starting yesterday but I didn't get a peak until CD19 last month so not panicking until around that mark 😂 although I will read into every symptom in the mean time and convince myself it's happening until it happens 😂

@speake Thankyou I hope it does get easier 🤦 we can only hope! 🤞 Xx

@ArcEnCiel2022 it's a Shame we have to do that just to get some reasurance but I would do it too as half the time they just fob u off. Hope you get your bfp soon 🙌💞 xx

@Skl2021 I'm ok. Still as petrified as ever! I had to do some swabs last week as my ehem discharge was yellow... got results today and am positive for group B strep, which means another round of antibiotics and might mean I need more treatment when I go into labour to stop baby getting it (if I get that far! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻) how are you doing? Xx

I ovulated on time this cycle again. Of course I did, I seem to only ovulate late or early when I'm not using opk :) So I'm in the 2WW now, tested positive yesterday, so probably ovulate today. I tried out Purple's method (o-3, o-1, o+1) - so far so good, let's see if I'm in the mood tomorrow. Went skiing yesterday and will go to the gym tonight, probably knocked out tomorrow (instead of knocked up, ha.)

@arianasky there’s still time then for it to be on track! I had 10 days of flashing smiley opks last time and I haven’t even got 1 yet 😫 hoping that I only get a few days of flashing this time, I can’t wait another 10+ days!

Ive just noticed some spotting. It can’t be ovulation or implantation, it’s impossible. So I guess my body is just a broken pile of crap 😣

@PamelaDoov I've never used the flashing cb before only the one that shows a static but I've bought one with a flashing smiley this time and no flashing yet 🙄 oh no, maybe just some irritation?

@arianasky urgh I don’t know, I’ve done nothing to irritate it. But it sure is irritating me!