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Having trouble pinpointing who could be the father of my unborn

38 replies

Dricka86 · 18/01/2022 17:47

I was in a marriage for 8 years until my husband decided to leave to go be with another women. So we went our separate ways and finally I started seeing someone that I enjoyed. I met him in September and my husband and I spilt in Aug. Never did anything with my friend because I was still messing around with my husband. Until I did. I had intercourse with my husband on 12/25 and had intercourse with my friend for the first time 12/30 and 12/31. Did not use protection :( So my cycle started on 12/18 5 days and the length of my cycle is 27 days. It states on my app that I have been using not to get pregnant for 4 years stated that ovulation was on the 12/30. My husband did not pull out or anything like that. Now, my friend did on both days and he made sure of it every time. Can someone help me?

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Lovemylittlebear · 18/01/2022 17:51

Could be either from that info due to how long sperm can live for x

Bakewelltart987 · 18/01/2022 17:52

Your dates are days apart so there is no possible way to know without a dna test.

katieg03 · 18/01/2022 17:53

Either! You should probably get an sti check too.

Bakewelltart987 · 18/01/2022 17:53

Or when you go for your first scan dates might be wrong.

BlueSky8 · 18/01/2022 17:54

Too close together to even try and pin point

blyn · 18/01/2022 17:54

It probably is your husband's baby though you cannot be sure without dna testing. Are you absolutely sure you are pregnant? If not, do a test.

The important issue is whether you actually want a baby.

WeeFae · 18/01/2022 17:54

Have you posted about this a couple of times before? I think the answers are the same.

Porfre · 18/01/2022 17:55

The only way to be sure is a DNA test

Gazelda · 18/01/2022 17:56

When did you do the pregnancy test?

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Dricka86 · 18/01/2022 18:00

First off before me and my friend decided to link up we both got tested. Please go somewhere else with that.

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Dricka86 · 18/01/2022 18:02

Yes, I took 7 test to make sure I was not pregnant. I have a doctors appointment coming up this Friday for them to confirm.

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Gazelda · 18/01/2022 18:18

When did you take the test?

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Dricka86 · 18/01/2022 18:25

I took my test yesterday morning. I was 3 days late for my cycle.

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katieg03 · 18/01/2022 18:27

@Dricka86

First off before me and my friend decided to link up we both got tested. Please go somewhere else with that.
Your husband has also been with someone else as could she have. You continue to have the "go elsewhere" attitude you could run in to complications later down the line.
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Dricka86 · 18/01/2022 18:31

I agree but, I make sure that will never be the case especially knowing what he has going on himself. I did not come here to go back and fourth with anybody.

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TurkeyRoastvBubbleandSqueek · 18/01/2022 18:37

The only information I can give you is that I conceived my last son on day 6 of my cycle.

One bit of advice I can give you, is to not be so sentive or rude, when someone is good enough to take the time to reply to your post with some very good advice ie katieg03.

Tillymintpolo · 18/01/2022 18:41

You took the time to get tested but not to get contraception or the morning after pill ?

lynntheyresexswappers · 18/01/2022 18:42

People have taken the time to help you, so the rudeness is not necessary.
The dates are too close to even fathom a guess. DNA is the only way.

FelicityPike · 18/01/2022 18:43

100% you will need a DNA test once baby is born (if you continue with this pregnancy, which you probably have to if you’re in America).
As you’re married, your husband has “rights” to this baby even if he’s not the biological father in the States. You will need good legal advice and a divorce ASAP.

FelicityPike · 18/01/2022 18:43

Oh….and am STI test, no matter what you say.

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Dricka86 · 18/01/2022 18:44

Rude? Not at all was not rude not one bit. Look please if you are not here to help me with this current situation all the other things not on my mind right now. Please and thank in a advance!

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WorstXmasEver · 18/01/2022 18:46

This has to be a fake thread. That's gross.

whatfreshheck · 18/01/2022 18:55

Isn't this the plot of Bridget Jones's baby? Really hope you get everything sorted out OP. I think probably a DNA test is the way forward. The others are right, make sure you have another STI check just in case. Xx

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Dricka86 · 18/01/2022 19:04

Thank you! For all that's worried about my last STI test it was on 1/7/22. So I can clear the air. I am not like this I'm still having hard time trying to adjust not being with my husband. I make sure that's always taking care of even when we were together.

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TracyMosby · 18/01/2022 19:12

Again, it is too close to call. You wont know until a dna test is done.

Meanwhile you need to make some decisions on who you want to be with, do they want to be with you, will they if the pregnancy turns out not to be a result of them, can you financially and emotionally manage on you own…